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Why is there a double standard for age gap relationships? (Page 2)
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If it weren't for double standards, there'd be no standards at all.
Love is blind, I think what you like, you pursue. From every life lesson there's a teaching behind it... sometimes it's written in the stars, sometimes it's written in a board marker which easily fades.
Because being female sucks and any way they can control make it harder on us into staying with our already old disgusting partners they will do it. So setting this standard makes it easy on the men to move on when they r done with u and more acceptable to go agter fresh meat so to speak...
I still tend to stick to the half the oldests age + 7 to to see if the partner is at the minimum age. I don't tend to see people with this double standard. It just tends to lean towards calling both situations weird.
No. There is nothing wrong with that. I'm 37 and to be honest I prefer much older women. Younger women cause too much drama
Its actually the opposite. Guys that go after a younger woman are viewed as predators
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@Dchrls78104 U old shit man need to stay away from young bitchs. Shit young bitchs dont want to date giys my age they want man ur age. Why? I don't get it. U bro have explaining to do.
@Dchrls78104 go date a 50 year old bitch that suits u better
@Imsuperhotguy you seem to be mistaken. I have said numerous times that I would rather date a woman my age, than one in her 20s or close to 18. I stay away from them, and they stay away from me. But ultimately compatibility is more important than age.
@Dchrls78104 oh sorry bro
i dont know who thinks that way but i think the total opposite,
i think its fine for a woman to go out with very young man, and totally acceptable,
but its only a predator if a old guy goes for young woman
Because females mature earlier in life. So a older guy and a younger girl can be pretty similar in mental maturity. Where an older woman could more easily manipulate a young passion driven guy who doesn't know better. But this can go both ways.
Usually the older man goes after a legal younger woman, while the older woman usually goes after a kid that shows interest. it's creepy on both sides.
No, I don't think there is much of a double standard in legal relationships. Illegal ones on the other hand...
I always thought it was the opposite way around. Like an older dude going for a young girl is mad creepy but if a woman does it then it's whatever
What do mean cougars are hot, I don’t think any guy would complain.
There are a few reasons not least of which is biological reasoning. A much older woman is a lot less likely to be able to produce children whereas an older man is still quite capable.
There is not-women encourage each other with "You GO girl!" and shit like that. Its "trendy" and women love them some "trends". Its also "trendy" to be able to claim double standards against women. Its a tiresome trope.
No if a guy goes for someone 5-10 years younger than him it’s not a big deal. Even if the woman is 10 years older it’s not a big deal. A guy who’s with someone his daughters age is creepy no matter what someone tells you.
I personally have been in relationships with older and younger women and don’t see either as odd.. I think some people are just judge mental.. but they will be who they are so don’t let it bother you. 🙂
Most relationship has an age gap. How big of an age gap is different story. For the mist part I gave known it to be the larger the age gap and the guy is older then her is more of a perv.
And that’s the social problem that is forever ingrained in people’s brain
There is a double standard for many forms of self expression between men and women it’s sad and isn’t healthy for anyone
There isn't any. Only haters and those who either dont understand or those who just won't understand.
You're right there is a double standard and that shouldn't be the case at all between two adults in a consensual relationship
Females like u r stupid u want grandpas instead of a hot sexy guy like me. I was the quarter back in high school I was popular until now. U bitchs want older guys Why? I am young good looking.
Troll
That's exactly why girls like older guy
@jtodd2103 if you were a woman would you date this foul mouthed guy?
No. I agree imasuperhot is a troll. And he's the exact reason why girls like older guys
it's just natural for younger women to want older men and vice versa. Older women wanting younger men is a bit weird... isn't it? Those relationships are always hedonist, these people don't start families
Bitchs r stupid
I thought you were going to say the exact opposite. Guys get called perverts if the woman is younger but women get the title cougar.
there's no "double standard". men and women generally just like different things. so when a woman or a man go for a thing that women or men don't generally go for, that will rise eyebrows.
I don't know...
I liked older women when I was in my early 20s...
Now I get to age where older women don't look appealing...
Bc then older was 35- 50, now 50- 65, that is not as appealing in general...
It's just things outside the bell curve or norms...
Biology. You can get bitter and fight it, or just accept that things are the way they are due to reasons out of our control.
"If a man goes after a younger women, he's awesome. But if a woman goes after a younger man she's a predator?"
Literally the opposite of that is what most people think.
Older guy = predator.
Older woman = "You go gurl!"
That's what happened to my mother. She is 10 years older than my step father.
Hmmmmm. . . I don't think that's right. If a guy goes after younger women he's routinely tarred as a predator. Sorry--not buying this one.
Yeah and a older woman is “celebrated” by feminists.
@youknowbetter That and the reason you don't see as many older-woman-younger-man couples is that women in general PREFER older partners. There are PLENTY of guys who would be more than happy to nail a cougar or a MILF, but that's not generally the gal's preference.
@update, holy crap! What kind of ridiculous course assigns such a ridiculous term paper.
I believe the whole "cougar" phenomenon was pushed by feminists to make middle aged women feel better about themselves.
It sometimes happens. I've seen it. My HS best friend was dating a 35 yr old woman when he was 23. One time when I was 30 an attractive 37 yr old woman ditched her date to drag me back to her place (she thought I was 25).
But still overall younger women with older men is something is way more common and has been happening for all of human history. Men subconsciously value fertility and women value stature & maturity. Of course their is much more than goes into that.
Oh I if given the opportunity I would bang Jennifer Anniston in a heartbeat. Just saying.
@youknowbetter Yeah--I agree with all of that. I'm just saying that the primary reason older women don't have sex with younger men is that older women tend to not WANT younger men. Turns out, younger men aren't exactly very discerning when it comes to dishing out sex. Obviously hotter is better than less hot, but there'll be plenty of dudes ready to go if the opportunity presents.
well most younger guys aren't as attracted to older women vs. younger women are attracted to older men, period.
I've benefited from this a few times. I was able to pull some very attractive women in my early 30s that would of been untouchable when I was their age. And no surprise that the people who complain the loudest about that are middle aged women.
@youknowbetter For sure. Same here. Particularly right out of college I was worthless on the dating market. But it was much better in the early 30s.
I see it as a divine balance on things. Some young women completely depended on their looks when they were young to get what they wanted. They never had to work hard or develop a personality. Than Father Time ripped that away from them and they get bitter. No surprise those women are often feminists.
Now that’s a big generalization I admit. But western women are getting it better nowadays than women have in all of human history. I’m sick of their greed. Let’s guys have this double standard. We are at disadvantage with many other things but we deserve this.
@youknowbetter All I'm saying is that some women observe that there aren't that many old-women-young-guy couples compared to the other way around and cry "DOUBLE STANDARD!!!" somehow blaming "society" or "men" for this phenomenon when the truth is the primary force driving it is the preferences of women on average over which men they'd like to date (typically older than themselves).
I agree. But the blowback on this is greed. Mother Nature and western society favors women when it comes to dating. This is a one of the rare exceptions it favors men. Let’s us have it. You and I will take it with no shame.
@youknowbetter Yeah I don't even thing it favors "men." It favors older men over younger men and younger women over older women. That's the other thing that's insane about all these blanket statements about "men" or "women" having this or that better than the other. In most cases it's complete nonsense. Like all the whiny dudes claiming that "women have it easier when it comes to dating." What? How is that even POSSIBLE? Last time I checked, every time a girl is getting dick, there's a dude at the other end of that dick with a big smile on his face. So pretty much by definition one side CAN'T have it better than the other.
It comes down to communication and the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. In my experience I’ve seen one gender that’s more willing to do that than the other. But that’s me.
And I get it we can’t be “whiny dudes”. No one is entitled to sex. It’s more of an issue of respect I think most guys are pissed off about. For example I just had a girl flake/ghost me on meeting up when it was HER idea.
How would you react in that situation? I haven’t said anything to her yet but I actually rearranged my plans expecting to meet up with her. Is the alpha thing to not say anything?
@youknowbetter That sucks dude, but it happens. I think what you do now is you continue to get other girls' numbers and set up dates with them. If this girl is willing to do something with you on your schedule that doesn't put you out of your way, do it, but if you have something better to do, feel free to blow her off.
The thing is I have never in my life intentionally blew a girl off after plans. Ever. Even when I was in my heyday a few years ago I always gave the respect of telling them I couldn’t make it.
But from my observations women are doing this more and more. They go as far as they can until someone checks them.
About a month ago I called up a woman (year older than me) that inadvertently insulted me in front of family 2 years ago. It’s very complicated because we briefly dated a long time ago but now she’s assumes I’m completely 100% okay with the friendzone. I never agreed to that.
I started the conservation pleasant but then I got to the part about what she did. I told her how shitty she made me feel and how she embarrassed me in front of my family (and my family was very hospital to her). I didn’t expect an apology but I wanted to get it off my chest. Of course she got defensive and said she “didn’t need to apologize”. I didn’t expect her too given she is what I thought she was (selfish POS). But I FELT better calling her out on it. Her and I will most likely never meet up again but I don’t want to anyway. She just wanted me as an orbiter to exploit. Now she knows where I stand
For this girl who flaked I’m thinking of doing the same thing. Start a pleasant message and then tell her she inconvenienced me and how rude it was. But best of luck. I’m thinking of sending it two days from now.
The reason I called up this girl (older woman) is because she kept liking my social media posts and it was driving me nuts. I blocked her out but I wanted to tell her why.
My apologies for the word wall. But I’m there only so much disrespect I can take from women. And they do if subtlety. Both scenarios above started out good and then they changed their mind (which is okay) but they handled it in the shittiest way possible. Am I a “whiny” guy for being pissed off about that?
@youknowbetter Nah dude--that all sounds totally reasonable. When I'm talking about "whiny" guys, I mean specifically those who make factually incorrect statements like "girls get way more sex than guys." That CAN'T POSSIBLY be true if we're talking about hetro relationships (and we always ARE) since for every girl who's getting some, there's a smiling dude on the other end of it. Just not the guy complaining about it. That's not what you're describing here.
I’ve grown up a bit. I confess I had an entitled attitude in my early 20s. Was whiny. But I keep that shit to myself now.
But what am I supposed to do in situations like this ghosting bs? Supposed to let it roll off my shoulders right? But when it happens several times? When it happens more than it doesn’t?
I got to have a good attitude. I get that. But would I not be justified calling her out on this tomorrow?
@youknowbetter The problem you have isn't that you got ghosted this time, or any other time for that matter. The problem you have is that you don't have enough OPTIONS. How pissed off would you be if a girl ghosted you when you had another hottie who was more than interested in seeing you the next day or even the same night? My guess is not very bothered. If you still WOULD be bothered, you have a major ego problem and need to get that in check because it isn't helping you.
So that means you need to spend a LOT more time and energy working on developing more options and a lot LESS of your time and energy worrying about whether this girl or that girl is treating you properly.
You are completely right. I moved to my home state 4 years ago to buy real estate and settle down with a career. I used to live on a coastal city earlier and was very free spirited. I was competing in pro mma and I did b level acting. I was very spontaneous and adventurous.
It was blast but there was one very major problem. I was next to dead broke. I was all about fun but no long term planning. But as for options I definitely had tons more back then. I was younger and that helped for sure but I was also “fun”.
But I had to make the choice to grow up. I had a very good relationship go south because I had many deep rooted insecurities at my position in life at the time.
I need to get the hell away from where I’m at right now. But I have no idea how to do it. I’m a landlord, got a good paying job and I’m next to my family. I would think that women would of been attracted to my stability. But instead they are bored by it.
@youknowbetter Dude--that's GREAT! It means you've solved this problem before so you KNOW what works AND you've proven you can do it. Just sit down, think back to when you were successful socially back in the day and write down all the things you used to do that you don't now. Then figure out which were the most impactful (my guess is being "fun" which will get girls attracted, and doing the b-list acting which probably put you in the path of LOTS of hot, datable girls). Then slowly build that part of your life back up but now with money! You'll be totally set before you know it!
Well my old lifestyle is a ship that sailed. I can’t go back to pro mma and acting at this point. I got responsibilities and to be painfully honest I’m gotten older.
But how can I be more fun now? I dunno. The place I live in has very limited options.
@youknowbetter Dude if you're 34 you're plenty young enough. If the place where you are is too dull then you need to get back to where the hotties are.
I guess it depends on how big the age difference is.
I think most likely because it's not that common to see an older woman with a younger guy , while in most couples the guy is usually older, and women usually like older men more , so old men dating younger women is viewing as more normal.
Stereotypes mostly. Though I dont think people actually give a carp.
When i was 23 i did date 31 y old women
Nobody had problems with that except her 13 y old daughter
Women think that only they should be able to date older men, while they think men should always date younger women
I shouldn't have to explain what I just said.. read between the lines
Just the public not accepting reality that age isn't a thing at all anymore.
I don't think this is really true, I hear a lot of women complaining about older men hitting on them, and besides usually women go for older men most of the time and older men usually go for younger women so nothing wrong with that
Yeah it's stupid, if ts for that reason cause men can't be taken advantage of by an older women, at least not in that way/
Not true. I have had people telling me Its not right to date a younger woman. Its frowned upon either way by a select few people.
unfortunately us men can pretty much do anything in society and get away with it although 1C10:23 but my parents are 20 years apart from each other and I wouldn't exist if they weren't so yeah she is just a number
I don’t think that’s true about younger women going after old men is... but definitely there is some hatred if a older women goes after a younger man
Hatred like getting called a cougar 😒
@angeliquedevereux2 lol I guess
It nobodies business who two people are attracted to..
I couldn't agree more...
Men going after young women get called paedophiles, at least from what I heard.
Well I'm 62 an I'll fuck a Women who is in her 90s it still gets wet let me tell u an they love the Dick way more an do they pay.
God Bless
Its wrong and weird for women to initiate. Its also wrong and weird for older women and younger men to have relationships because it won't last.
No matter who is older & who is younger. The only thing is that the age gap shouldn't be more than 10yrs
My parents are 20 years apart and I wouldn't exist if they followed this rule
You got your facts wrong darling. It's the other way around.
Show proof please. Writing a paper here
He means your predator point. It's the man who is seen as the predator by going after the younger woman. Men in current society are labelled as predators simply for looking in a woman's direction. There are even some cases where they have been charged with sexual harrassment for doing so.
@OfDeath thanks I’ll include that in my term paper.
Thanks @OfDeath. With your help we can save weirdos' confusions lmao
My pleasure lol
i don't like the idea of a man older than me dating a woman younger than me.
I don’t think of older women as predators if they decide to go after somebody younger, unless they are underage. I think you shouldn’t put limits on love like that but that’s just me.
You should’ve said this was for a paper beforehand.
Cause no one wants to F them. So they wanna try bring others down. I’m dating younger.
I don't see a double standard either way. There's praise and criticisms for every circumstance.
There shouldn't be. Sometimes great things spring forth from age gap relationships.
Is that still around?
Haven't heard or noticed anything of that since the 90's
Bro have u been living under a rock? Bitch my age want to date dudes ur age. Clearly I can tell u don't live in the U. S.
Women can't have kids at an old age it's as simple as that.
Tell me, how long did you have to train in order to cut circulation to your brain and learn to think out of your ass?
personally, I don't care about age gap as long as I love them. and I don't care about what that senseless society think.
Because when marriages were arranged it was always a younger woman with a much older man.
That's because your only 25 if you was 30 and they was 4 years younger that wouldn't be a problem
for the same reason that in times of war men have to fight at the front-line. men and women are not the same. but if we were to be absolutely equal then no double standard should exist.
Because men rule the world.
I really don't look at it that way. It's a personal choice. As long as there's no legal issue, it's totally fine. Gender doesn't matter.