How long did you stay in a toxic situationship or relationship until you decided to leave?

[Anonymous]

• They always left me when they were done getting what they wanted out of me.

[Cherokeehp]

A month. I didn’t leave though, he dumped me. At that time I thought he was the perfect gentleman. He was a bit weird, but he pulled out chairs for me, opened doors for me, bought me food, introduced me to his family, told me he loved me and that I was the kind of girl he wanted to marry. We were friends and flirted for a while before the relationship, so it didn’t send off any red flags in my head that things were moving too fast. Then one day he broke up with me out of the blue, and that’s when I discovered all the toxic shit he was doing behind my back. For starters, the whole relationship was based on a dare. He had noticed my friend had a crush on me and so he decided to pressure him into making a move on me by competing him with. He gave my friend a deadline to make a move on me or else he would. My friend didn’t make a move so instead he kissed me and asked me out instead. I’m not even sure if he even ever actually liked me. On top of that he was very jealous and insecure of my best friend who is a guy. He had issues with his ex. And as soon as he dumped me he started telling people that he just wanted to fuck me, and that I was easy, and that I was crazy. I honestly believe that him dumping me was the greatest kindness he ever did for me.

[GlitterFairy16]

I was dating a guy for seven months then i found out he cheated on me when i was already having a shitty day. The night before we went out with his friends and he ignored me the whole night and sat with his friends and then snuck out to go clubbing (he had a fake ID) and trying to find other girls to fuck. I was left standard at 14 in the middle of town at midnight and had to call my mum to pick me up because he'd told me we'd get a taxi together home.

The next day i found out he'd fucked a girl in the school toilets he met up with the night before and he said it was because he was fed up of waiting for me.

For some stupid reason i took him back 5 months later and he'd told me he'd stop drinking and smoking if i got back with him so i did. It was good for a while but one day we went to a party and he drank loads just to impress his friends, i tried taking care of him and all he could do is push me and tell me i was ugly and then he puked inside my handbag.

Think i win on shittest ex boyfriend

[EnmadoRokuro]

My experience is like a drama but it gives me a good lesson. The duration of my relationship was 8 months with 2 breakups. First we enter in a relationship and after 4 months she said that lets again be friends and I said ok , then after 1 week she said I can't live without you , I said okay and we enter once again and then 1 month ago , she said that her family is not approving of our relationship , then she just leave. And one wéek ago I saw her pic with her new boyfriend. It gives me a lesson to trust somebody carefully especially in a relationship cause you don't know when someone gives you a deep scar..

[TruthBringer]

It took me almost 1.5 years to walk away from the lies, racism from her family, being a personal therapist, being no priority while I made her a priority and much more things. The only regret I have was not ending it sooner. But oh well, life goes on. Now, I'm in a much better relationship.

[Anonymous]

The relationship lasted for 3 months before I dumped him. At first it was all nice and rosy but by the second month things turned sour. I still don’t know if he actually cheated on me with his female bestie or not (but she went around spreading rumors and he publicly posted pictures of them kissing saying it was a joke. He was insecure of my male friends when he was the one doing all those nonsense, the toxicity was just too much. I felt like a fool who was being used and it was just horrible. I usually can’t handle such toxicity that’s why I left.

[TruthBringer]

Yeah it's a good thing that you got rid of him. Nobody needs such drama in their lives. Relationships should be an enhancement in our lives, not a burden.

[SuzuBrooke]

I left about two weeks later. When I knew that I was the second choice and I had time to analyze my emotions and everything that went on. I'd rather end a relationship quickly than continue it so that the person who's hurting me won't be as heartbroken with me dumping him.

[CrystalSnowflakes]

1 year.
They were my classmate so I couldn't exactly leave. Recently, I got into another toxic situation and left the moment it began. Don't screw yourself over and put up with that ignorance, give up the "Maybe they'll change" and just confront them, if they refuse then drop them.
Not worth the mental health damage.

[scotcheggs]

I had a toxic friendship with a guy who liked me. It was a constant cycle of arguments that usually he’s start but we kept being friends after them because the times when we weren’t fighting, it was good and I had someone to lean on but I finally ended it because I was so exhausted

[Anonymous]

I left when I realized that I wasn’t myself anymore. I was mentally exhausted, my self esteem was trash and I was depressed, where as I’d never felt necessarily depressed before. It had been about 7 months.

[theblakespencebrand]

We got together in 2017 and it was a good relationship until around Valentine's this year she dumped me because she was talking to the boy bestfriend more than me so we got back together and I did everything possible to try showing how it felt and yeah she dumped me

[Hannah591]

10 months and I never really decided, my mum got involved and helped leave. I probably wouldn't have left without her help and support.

[Secret6620]

Almost nine years on and off... Feels good to get off of that roller coaster... And focus on myself and my needs 🎀

[Anonymous]

Two years.

He started showing signs of an abusive controlling partner, so i ended it. He started stalking me and my friends. He would turn up at my place of work and home , and make threats. The cops were useless.

[DaMack999]

That's what all women when they lose the man they took for granted all this time. What did you have a gold mine? lol. To be honest he had something you wanted. Otherwise you would not have dated him or slept with him.

[here2helpuALL]

2 years. Worst 2 years of my life. Me thinking we can make it work when all she wanted to do was cheat and had the guts to tell me on Christmas morning

[Massageman]

I was never really in one.

But, people leave a toxic relationship when the effort/pain of staying in the relationship finally becomes greater than the effort/pain of making the change.

[GreenGold1992]

I've only had one relationship so far, it wasn't toxic, but she left me when I was perfectly happy being with her. So while I've never left a relationship before, I know what it's like to be broken up with a broken heart.

[JaneDoe377]

7 years too long. No comments needed, I already know...

[G3tAClue]

Me too, they usually leave me once they are done with me. I learned my lesson!

[_SOARER]

No more than 6 weeks.
Some people never want to overcome they just want wallow in despair and chaos

[Thatsamazing]

At least a year, sadly. She truly sucked and I just didn't do anything about it.

[ryancg]

Just a few months, I finally wisened up and got tired of her gaslighting and manipulating me into giving her money.

[dudeinohio]

My situation was she sucked the life out of me. When I was an empty shell, she threw me out. 18 years.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t really leave relationships I try to work it out

[Asker]

So they were always the one to leave you?

[Iron_Man]

After seven seven years Over something silly

[TruthBringer]

It's always good to want to work on something instead of throwing it in the bin and replacing it as soon as things get rough, but what's even better is to recognize when to walk away from a relationship or situation that simply is toxic to your life.

[Iron_Man]

Not in my case many people would have walked away saying just like what you would say Oh it’s toxic but I fought hard and we ended up traveling the world together and been together for 7 1/2 years

[TruthBringer]

It really depends on the situation. After more than 7 years, something significant must have happened in your relationship that caused it to end. Some relationships are funamentally toxic, but often people don't see that because they want it to work out so badly. I was with my ex for 1.5 years. I was fixing things during the relationship that I shouldn't be there, in the first place (like racism from her family). But I wanted it to work out between us so badly, that I was damaging my own peace and development in the process. I ended the relationship with a broken heart.

[Iron_Man]

Not really it ended over something really silly Her alcoholic bipolar stepfather and Not wanting my brother to come over to the house because he’s jealous of his girlfriend and my brother. Has basically banned him from his house when he did nothing wrong ever and I can’t allow that

[TruthBringer]

You deserve someone who invests in you as much as you invest in them. I'm sorry that after all these years it ended because of something like that. It sounds to me that this relationship isn't bringing peace to your life as it should. But that's just my assumption. I wish things will work out for your love life.

[Iron_Man]

Thanks