Do Dominant Men Typically Lack Empathy?

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Just by default... Submissive men seem to have it in abundance from my personal experience... But everyone has different experiences so I would like to hear from you... Details are appreciated... I'm a reader... Humor me...
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I will have two follow up questions...

Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

I do consider my self a dominant at many situations specially out side the house/at work by having empathy. I do communicate and try to see the POV from each person and try to approach their angle and give them my perspective that they can accpet and understand on their terms. Like i said before! I do read a lot of psychology and i did lack of empathy at the age of 19 (that how far i can remember how my behavior was) till i was 22 or 23 years old. I talk to many people and try to listen all the time and understand them to walk in their shoes so i can help and be happy with them, or sad at times. But i don't get effected by people being negative nor energetic but i do stay in their atmosphere where am somehow happy because of the thing that happened them or will happen, same thing goes when they are sad, i try to give them a shoulder to lean on but i won't let things effect me just in order to understand other people and have empathy for them. Things are on higher effect if it happens to someone close to me personally of course.

OnlyMyOpinion · Accepted Answer

There's more to navigate with pesky compassion and empathy. I can see why empathetic people struggle more with that. I started off probably submissive. The first girl I slept with took over in uni. She practically pulled my hand to her place and took over, and I was happy at the time like some puppy with starry eyes wanting to sing like:

I will go wherever you go,
I will go wherever yoouuu go,
I will go wherever you go.
Just tell me where to -- follow.

But I started getting the hang of things and I liked leading there. It started getting to a point where I never liked to be undressed by the girl. I undress her. I seduce her. I am in power. And when I got the hang of that I also got promoted at work to a lead position. After that, I changed and never looked back to the submissive/agreeable thing. Just say WTF that you want, you know (ideally sober -- I don't always do this sober). But I had a journey there that some who started empathetically might never take -- maybe even many.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

If anything, I'd think properly dominant men are skilled empaths.

But I might be defining "dominant" differently. To me, a dominant man is someone who can command a room, lead, and be relied upon.

Empathy helps in all those situations. An empathic person has an easier time commanding a room because they can read the room, and figure out their course of action based on that.

The best leaders have empathy enough to understand their teams and motivate them.

Reliable people are usually empathic, in my experience, because they know how the people relying on them feel.

To me, my partner is a dominant man in bed and more submissive outside the bedroom. He's highly empathic - more so than I am, even - and that comes in handy in both situations. He's able to "read" me well, even without having to talk to me.

lanadelrey25 · Accepted Answer

Oh god I hope not, I love dominant men but empathetic is a MUST in a relationship...  Me rethinking my life assumptions about men...

MrOracle · Answer

I'm a dominant guy, but I'm not selfish and completely self-centered, and if you've read enough of my posts, it would be apparent that i can empathize with others, even female others.

Being dominant isn't directly linked to narcissism - plenty of men are dominant leader-types without being selfish and tyrannical. Certainly there are some guys who ARE that way, but it's really not terribly difficult to tell the two apart. Most of the time, I can hang out with a guy for 15 minutes and know if he's a selfish jerk or not, and most of guys can do the same, so if you have guy friends warning you to stay away from a guy, take them seriously and pay attention to what they are telling you.

0112358 · Answer

I don't think there's an actual link between dom/sub and level of empathy.

However I -do- think there are major differences in how these combinations of people present themselves, especially when younger.

I think most guys with dominant impulses and high empathy struggle, a lot, when young with how to blend the two. Ultimately they need to learn to accept those impulses, and learn that some women crave what they do, get comfortable with the idea, and learn how to be comfortable that their kink aligns with a partner, that she's happy with it, and so on. That tends to take time, maturity and experience.

On the other hand guys who are dominant and have low empathy just go around doing shit and seeing if anyone objects. I'd suggest that makes them a crappy dominant, but if you're like a 20 year old woman looking for dominant guys your own age, I suspect this is mainly what you run into, because the guys who are dominant and empathetic and 20 are still feeling guilty about what turns them on.

You get similar shit with subs it's just annoying more than threatening, as they will try to manipulate situations to get off on their kink while not recognizing what they're doing is wrong.

blank_expression · Answer

Certainly per the 2D:4D ratio that indicates mental development in the womb in higher testosterone they do have less empathy, and I know I have much less at least superficially. These submissive men with high 2D:4D ratios might appear more empathetic on the surface with their emotions, but when the shtf that empathy will be worthless as they are fleeing. The dominant male will have the right empathy when it counts to make shit happen in tough times; it might just not be observable with words but rather actions.

jkm1864 · Answer

They actually did studies on men and they found that when they gave a man a testosterone shot they actually gave larger tips when other people were looking compared to the other control group. Now I don't know if in secret will offer different results but leaving tips is considered a form of empathy and leaving a bigger probably means more. Now the study could be bullshit though because We have no idea of whom they gave money too because if it was a beautiful woman then that kind of throws the study results out the window.

Troubledyoungman · Answer

No I dont think that always true. At least for a good dominant man in the bedroom. In my experience when a girl submissive to me it's a lot her trusting me so I need to prove I'm worthy of that submission and worthy to take control of her. I need to have a lot of empathy for her feeling, her wants, her needs, fears all of it or else she or going want to be u for my control in a while. Yea I may dominate and I'm. in control but most if the time I'm thinking of the other. How do I get what I want or while not pushing her to far and making it enjoyable for her. What may I want to sacrifice to. make. her happier or to honor her feelings. I dont think dominance always goes with a lack of empathy or not caring about others

RagnarRedbeard · Answer

Not necessarily. In psychological studies done on BDSM participants they actually found that dominant men and women scored higher on empathy than submissives. In order to lead well you have to empathise with those you're leading, and you're also responsible for their well-being.

invalid1 · Answer

Well, I think u am both submissive and dominant in the same time. But the part of me that is dominant I become that to a girl who I feel needs protection and enjoys that and it doesn't remove my empathy towards her. Cuz I would like to be romantic as well and I think that is ok

Kenneth14621 · Answer

Well there are many ways to be a dominant man. I mean you have guys that can't get a girlfriend. But they are a top athlete. Or a wolf of wallstreet. Maybe even a big time drug dealer. I mean. But yes. It does hurt to get rejected by women. And makes you more humble.

93_n_on · Answer

Typically? I don't know. You can be both strong and empathetic though. You know, that balance. I don't get why it's always seen as separate. It's also about being thorough too when needed.
That middle ground is where I try to be. Just depends when and where cause I feel being stuck deep on one side can hinder you sometimes. You know the whole, "too much of anything can be bad for you"

finallylettinggo · Answer

I'm not very empathetic but it has nothing to do with dominance. I'm a switch in that regard but i have lacked empathy my entire life. Generally a high intelligence or mental issues can cause a lack of empathy, so maybe it has nothing to do with dominant or submissive but more about your prefference in partners. If you seek more intelligent people as partners this could be why they are less empathetic or maybe as a dominant they hide their feelings more but do not lack empathy.

ttnnkkrr · Answer

i think of myself as a dominant personality. in fact it is usually me that ends up with control at work or in group activities. while, its easy i might even say lazy to say i lack empathy, it totally ignores why many dominant personalities are the way we are.

indecision, and inaction are the greatest sources of misery. bad things happen. but you just gotta get back on the horse. its not that im insensitive, quite the opposite in fact. i want the pain in the past as quickly as possible. busy hands dont have time to stay hurt.

as sarah McLaughlin sings "weep not for the memory"

TonyT1986 · Answer

I’m empathetic to my subs because I treasure them and want to provide pleasure to them. So will be in tune with their emotions and can be an active listener when she vents and feels frustrated. But also have found methods such as restraining her to the bed and sexual games allows venting in a more physical sense which can be as effective for her.

BeyondCuriosity · Answer

I'm thinking what you might be seeing is that men who make a show of being dominant will tend to either lack empathy or hide/ignore that empathy because they think it will make them look weak. There are dominant men who have plenty of empathy, they just don't tend to be the same guys that go out of their way to try to convince the whole world of how great they are.

2ndTryatThis · Answer

I think the issue with very sexually aggressive/ dominant people in general is that they view the one’s they’re attracted to as objects or “lesser humans.” There is no empathy because they are ultimately living narcissistically and only their desires truly matter to them.

YHL6965 · Answer

I think they have less empathy overall but I think there are other things tied to that more "dominant" mindset. When you have a lot of empathy, it's hard to do some things knowing it might hurt the other person, at least for me so I guess they must have less empathy.

tjbyrd39 · Answer

Of course dominant men have empathy. In the world out of private and in private so i hear. My friend Guy feels for sad stories of innocent people especially if it involves children. And Guy does Stu only for his sub, I'm not sure what that means, but he makes it sound like he considers what they need.

boyfriend1915 · Answer

Yes dominant do have empathy actually I believe they have much empathy that they will care for her girl so much and take good care of her also if they don't have empathy believe they must have gone out of control during sexual activity as you know sex makes people forget their senses. But still they are able to control things and enjoy the things and make sure their girl is enjoying it.

RyanK9 · Answer

Oh no. I'm equipped with both. But my dominant character came after my empathy development.
I had to learn to be dominant.

I could agree that people who are dominant in the first place, lacks empathy.

JPrez · Answer

I think most men struggle with it but do have empathy for others. I could see where some dominate men might. Now your beta guys and gay guys will definitely have it.

Anonymous · Answer

I know that I'm not a dominant guy by nature, I've sometimes wondered if it's due to my parental upbringing or the way I was raised, some people think it could be the result of having a submissive dad and dominant mom.

I've also speculated if my testosterone level is below a healthy level, or if it's just in my DNA and genes.

newfreshstart · Answer

i would think dominant men have have empathy the same as submissive men not to be rude but maybe u have not dated the right guy

short story i liked a girl i used work with she told me she was raped i had empathy for her like how could anyone rape such a sweet girl i tried to put myself in her shoes and her state of mind to understand how rape hurt her physically and mentally

simplelikeme · Answer

It actually depends on what kind of dominant man you're talking about. There are two types. Are you talking about the narcissistic dominant type who could care less only butt to get what he wants? Or are you talking about an actual true dominant who on the other hand actually does care about the feelings and wants and needs of his partner? LMAO

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

No. Dominant men lack submissiveness (if that's even a word), not empathy. Being Dominant or submissive doesn't necessarily determine whether or not someone has no empathy towards others.

Jjpayne · Answer

It makes me wonder... I'd say humble men do but then you have to ask are dominant men humble? 🤔

FrePhill · Answer

My theory: humans are descended with two different brains much like how chimpanzees & bonobos look identical but have contrasting behavior and philosophy. Stanley Milgram performed study that found 2/3 of population are apathetic and thoughtlessly obedient to authority to commit atrocities with little conscience.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I can't speak for everyone else I'm very dominant and I definitely don't lack empathy. Psychopaths lack empathy. If you lack empathy I think you have a serious issue cause that means you lack emotion

magiusX26 · Answer

i can't speak for all doms but i know i am a dom with empathy

Nerdvana · Answer

I am very dominant, especially in the bedroom. But I am also very empathetic and sympathetic towards other human beings.

Nigjt · Answer

I'm told that I do well but then that's what I've been told so I don't know about other Men just only I. God Bless

Bang5luts · Answer

No. I would have to say no not all dominant men lack empathy.

JesseCraft · Answer

Personally I'm dominant but I have a lot of empathy, I care about a lot of people 🙂

jirwin7979 · Answer

i dont lack it at all i will ball my eyes out when a random person is doing the same

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Empathy is useless. Unless you want advice solving the problem go talk to a wall

Nanu_ · Answer

Empathy if there are logic and sense in it and say it in a small sentence.

JosyJosy · Answer

No there is a difference. There are domimant men and selfish men. Leaders and tyrants.

6suejsjsj · Answer

I am a very empathetic guy. Sexually I'm into sadism and masochism. I'm not one thing all the time. In day to day life I take no shit.

michael1469 · Answer

So i have heard... but personally, i think thats gets said when a guy is at his limit of her BS.

HATR3D · Answer

I'm not dominant nor submissive and I lack empathy?

Nalix · Answer

I think they have less motivation to have empathy, but there's no reason they necessarily won't have as much empathy.

Anonymous · Answer

Ability to empathy can be a powerful weapon because motivation of someone is determined very often on emotional needs. To know them is very useful.

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

I feel like I'm not that dominant but I'm empathetic and sympathetic more

Benjr134 · Answer

A real dominant man does not. Those that pretend do.

nodnol32 · Answer

No idea. I'm a submissive.

JaeMercury · Answer

Hard to say. I am an empath and a dom

Antoineee · Answer

What y'all mean by dominant

Pighttussy · Answer

Not if they really care about you

db684 · Answer

What if we're neither?

Mehzmeh · Answer

I am dominate and I have empathy.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

No they don't lack it

manthan_7 · Answer

I'm not lack of empathy and sympathy both😉

johny0000 · Answer

Don't agree... It's depends.. individually

EstevanMadrid898 · Answer

Not true and you should follow me haha please

abraham1997 · Answer

You mean bdsm or femedom

ultimega · Answer

Some do and is dependant on the circumstances.

Archerer · Answer

Yes definitely.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

No. They do sympathize but do you understand their way if they do?

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I disagree

andy530 · Answer

No not necessarily

swettannie · Answer

no luck with your current dom?

bassinguy76 · Answer

I think so

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