Short women aren't interested in me. I really don't understand why a woman shorter than a man says he's too short?

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I'm 5'4 and all the short women I tried my luck with said i'm too short and that I would be more attractive if I was taller. Not only that, but most short women 5'2 and under are with tall guys so these are the women that are mostly shorter than me. The ones that are my height and taller aren't interested in me either. No woman really is. I wish women didn't have to make the judgement on a guys height, but I really don't understand why a woman shorter than a man says he's too short. This also happens to average guys.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

Reality is, there isn't much to do about this. Women want taller guys. Period. You have to understand that the girls who are shorter than you are, not only are they shallow at to their core for wanting an even taller dude, but they do this in order to compete against their female friends/counterparts. So basically, ditch them as soon as you find out they are that type. There ARE girls shorter than you, who do want to be with you. So don't convince yourself that they aren't out there. You just have to look for them. I see you're from the US. I've noticed that in the US, they are much more shallow there. I don't buy into the "I feel protected" nonesense. It's all about showing status. My hot girlfriend is 2 inches shorter than me, yet feels protected whenever we are in public at night (I'm quite muscular and do martial arts for almost a decade).

I myself am under 5''9, yet I have no problems getting dates (even with taller girls) or getting in relationships. I guess it's mainly because people tell me I'm handsome, confident, charismatic and interesting (their words, not mine). I'm also very aesthetic because I work out for more than 5 years, so that helps in attracting women. Yet, I had to weed out many shallow girls both irl as on dating apps.

All I can say is work on yourself, not for the sake of women, but for your own sake. Everything I have accomplished and achieved so far physically, mentally or career wise is for my own sake, NOT for women. Women being attracted to me happens to be an extra that comes with the results of hard work.

I highly recommend you research the red pill on how to deal with women. It helped me tremendously

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Kaazsz · Accepted Answer

Women don’t like short men. You’re asking in here but it’s pointless. You’re an inferior genetic specimen that’s all there is to it.

You have zero choice but to love yourself and be confident in yourself. You’ll never get a girl if you’re full of anxiety and self loathing and self doubt and believing 100% that you can never get any woman. That makes it 100% true.

It’s possible for short guys to get a woman. You see it sometimes. But those guys only got a woman because they chose to focus their mind on becoming comfortable in their own skin and developing self esteem and confidence. That’s your ONLY choice.

Fuck asking questions to these mindless fucks on here. They’ll just tell you a bunch of bullshit. The girls will lie and spin you a tale.

You have ZERO choice. There is only one path. Develop love and confidence in yourself, accept yourself, so that someone else can as well. If you don’t do that you are doomed forever.

It’s like a poor person living in poverty. You have no choice but to get up and do something. Find a way out. There is no other choice. The government isn’t going to help you. Most poor people just give up. It’s too hard for them.

So is it too hard for you to develop confidence and love for yourself? Only if you continue to believe that no matter what you do uou’ll Always be alone. You can live the rest of your life wallowing in self pity regret and whatever other shitty feelings. Or you can make the choice and put the work in to change your mentality and develop yourself.

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

I don't see what's the big deal.
Im 5'2 I've never met any man shorter than me
My man is a little taller than me. When i wear heals im almost equal to him
Honestly
Not too tall just means easier to hug kiss and squeeze. Works great for 69
I've never had an objection to a short man or a tall man.
The tallest I've dated was over a foot taller than me that was pretty cool cuz I like the way he would smother me with his hugs except it was hard to kiss him when I wanted to I had to yank him down
My shortest was 5'5
I don't know I like men based on their personalities more than what their physical traits look like
But seriously who cannot want to reach out and grab a cute cuddly short man it's like you can easily grab their hair and stroke it
Most short guys I've come across are adorable looking just want to hug them all up
I think you just had the bad luck of running into some seriously stuck up people
I don't worry the right one will come along maybe you'll find a super tall sexy lady who loves short ones.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I really don't think I'm telling you anything you don't already know here, but here goes...

1. Women have been conditioned since a young age to want the tall guy. Every movie hero/love interest is always tall, the tall guys in class get the most attention, even in the world in general, tall men get a leg up in life in a lot of sports/careers just by virtue of being tall.

2. I know you're probably going to be like, I'm only talking about a date here, but on a subconscious level, women think about having children and two short people will most likely have a short child and just how you're complaining now, they don't want that for their male children so they reject bc if you're having sex, there is always the slight possibility of getting pregnant for women even if you are super casual.

3. Many have literally never even considered dating a short man, the way you may have never considered dating a really tall woman, or someone of a different race, or whatever---preferences, everyone's got them.

SirBearon · Answer

1st of all fuck what all these people are saying. You need to talk to more women. The more you approach you're bound to find one that is into you for you and not your height. It's true that women like a tall man for protection but there are women who love short dudes as well. I would recommend NOT trying to meet women on social media platforms. Most of these chicks are superficial and only go for their DREAM kinda dudes. Why? They have hundreds of thousands of guys messaging them too. It's bullshit and if you don't have physical traits, you need to showcase your personality. Women, especially as they get older and over themselves want to find a man who treats them well and who will provide for them their needs. I have a short friend like you with a beautiful wife and kid. I mean, she is beautiful and taller than him and loves the fuck out of him. Trust me, don't meet women online. I'm 6'3" and have hardly had any luck dating online because I'm not what majority of women find attractive here in Southern California. When they meet me in person the get to see WHO I really am and not who they PERCEIVE me to be.

btbc92 · Answer

You should be with people who accept and love you for you. Height in a sense does matter as far as attraction goes because a makes a women feel secure and protected. Which means as sonebody around my height, you have to work on a lot to gain the attention of women who are best suited for you. In fact, I think what a lot of these women has said to you was extremely rude. And you didn't deserve that at all. But at the same time you are also pursuing women that are not right for you anyway. Don't just try to go out with a stranger, and try to date women that you don't even really know. Avoid that at all costs. If a woman is not really showing much interest in you as a person, then they are not somebody you would want as a partner anyway. Love your height. You just have to keep looking.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

I'm 4'11 and my boyfriend is 5'5". he's honestly a really small guy, weighs 120lb. I'm pretty sure he's smaller than the average female. But being 4'11 and 100lb, he's still got 6 inches on me, so he still feels tall if that makes sense.

I can understand why a girl would want a guy who is more than 2 inches taller. Try going for girls 5'1" or under that weighs less than you. You can lift weights to increase your physical mass to increase your chances. I know it's really dumb, but a lot of women dont want to "weigh more" than their boyfriend. Weighing more makes you feel fat while having sex. I've never encountered it because but, I would never date a guy less than my weight, thats just the honest truth.

modelUN242 · Answer

My dad is shorter than me, and he's 5'3 or '2 maybe and my mom is my height. But they're marriage was sort of arranged, they're Indian. So maybe we should resort to that, i'm joking.

Well, honestly, short guys for most women are seen as weak and inferior and not masculine.
This experiment has honest input by women.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ZbG05ePWRQE

The best you can do is be optimistic and work on getting leaner and fit. If you're bigger, you'll look like a ball. I liked this guy and he was shorter than me but i thought he was cute and intelligent. But maybe he felt that I was too good for him because I was taller and I guess my personality can be more forward. But I wished he made the effort to talk to me.

You never know, just continue talking to women, you only need ONE person.

dandiecandie · Answer

Listen I'll be honest with you a short guy is not an eye catcher to females but if you develop your personality you can attract a woman using your personality and as a result the height won't be an issue but to further enhance your personality you must first love yourself and your current height.

Snickermarstwix · Answer

Women will only want to date the top 5% of men until they réalise that most of them may sleep with them but won't ever date them.
Men will date women who's got around the same "value" as them but will sleep with sort of whatever they can get who's not too much below them. Have you ever saw requirements women can make? Sometimes it's an entire list of shits you and I will never have while a man it will most likely be "Good looking, fun, let me get my personal space when I need it"
So women just need to réalise that. Just know it's not your fault, when it comes to dating they're not that smart and that's why they complain a lot. Just do your thing, they care of you and someday one will come out of her dream and know how good of a person you're may be.

richardsnarky · Answer

As someone who is 6’1”, I’ve never understood short women’s need to date a guy that is 6’+. I imagine the height difference would be a bit awkward.

But, as another responder said, go where you are embraced. I’m sure there is a woman out there that doesn’t care that you’re 5’4”.

Alfleria · Answer

Well.. I’m the kinda girl that I to tall guy. My height is only 5’1 but my exes mostly 5’10-6’0. Because it makes me feel safe, I don’t have to worry when I wanna wear high heels, They can get things high up that I can’t reach. Mostly it’s just my personal preference. Doesn’t mean I never dated short guy though. I got 3 exes that around 5’2-5’5. Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. It’s just maybe my heart prefer tall guys.
But hey, you could find the girl that will accept you no matter what your height is. Don’t worry. Just polish yourself. Love yourself. Then someone will come to love you eventually. For every shoe has their own pair.. have faith! 😉

hahahmm · Answer

Stop worrying what women say. Focus on building your life up for you. Set big goals & make them happen. Women will come to yoi when you stop caring about them & do you.

I knew a guy who was like 4’11 and had a hot 6 foot tall wife. His tude was: I’m the man.

He got respect for never being a beggar

Anonymous · Answer

I don't really know, I think the tallest guy I've dated was 5'8, if that. I feel weird being around guys who are significantly taller than me, to be honest.

But I can't say I've known too many guys that I'd consider short. The only one offhand I can think of is shorter than me (I'm 5'3) and he just got married to a girl who's taller.

I have heard other girls talk about guys being too short, but I don't really get the appeal of standing next to a relative giant.

iambae · Answer

Women live in a fantasy world and have unrealistic expectations. They want the beast 666 when it comes to dating.

6 a man that is 6 feet and over (only 14% percent of men are this world wide.)

6 a man that makes 6 figures (this is less than 10% of men in the USA)

6 a man with 6 pack abs

=666

Don't entertain their foolishness, simply find a woman that accepts you for you.

chapawapa · Answer

Those women have a preference

Personally though I think its snobbish and you don't want them in your life anyway. I liked a short dude once. But he was only into shorter girls. So yeah lol 😆 I got turned down. I don't know. When you really like someone height doesn't matter and neither does looks.

by the way I'm 5'8... I've only dated 6'2 to 6'5 and the guy I really liked and connected with was 5'4.. So he was very different than that I was use to

slatyb · Answer

Pay no attention to the reason any woman gives for not dating you. Maybe they are being honest, maybe not. It doesn't matter, the only thing that matters is "yes" or "no". In dating, "why" is the almost always the wrong question. The real question for you is "where can I meet women who will be happy with my height?"

Soremain · Answer

It's not how tall you are compared to her, but compared to other guys. If you are smaller than most guys, you are less equipped to protect her from other guys with bad intentions.

Also you make it sound like people intentionally choose who they are attracted to. As if they could just stop judging your height and start being attracted to you, but that's not how it works. No one personally chooses who they find attractive.

ettubrutus · Answer

I'm a short guy too and I was lucky enough to get a girlfriend shorter than me that didn't care that I was short. It's pretty messed up how height standards are especially in America. They act like we had a choice in being short.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Probably because of evolutionary psychological conditioning about the man being considerably taller, but who knows. I’m only 2 inches taller than you are and have dated men who were shorter than you, so not all of us really care about height.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's all about confidence. Everyone has something about them that isn't perfect.

If you can find a way to stop obsessing about your height, you will be much more attractive to women. Women like confidence in a man. Don't focus on your height, focus on the things about you that you like and you think she would like.

There is no reason you can't find a girl unless you are doing something that turns them off. Your height should not stop you from finding someone unless you let it.

Unit1 · Answer

Well. Think of women being attracted to short men the same way men are attracted to women with big tits only.

You make do with what you have.
You need those if you don't have already: Looks, Confidence and Money.

And if you still keep being single, don't mind it. It's not like we are supposed to be in a relationship anyway despite how nature designed us.

thewiggles · Answer

Its a lot of preference. Best thing I can tell you is work on body and mind and personality. It sucks how "love" works these days. Girls will inherently be more attracted to tall men. There are some who aren't as picky but this is just a thing with how the whole ideal partner works. People suck and I dont recommend giving much thought to any city girl. They aren't worth the emotion

EyesOfGod · Answer

It use to be women only married average height or short guys, because in the fields doing hard labor tall people would die 10-20 years sooner. Honestly id try to go for tall girls since they are less inclined by height because they are taller then most men to begin with.

yucel_eden · Answer

Because women want a man who is the alpha of the pack. It works with all animals. Never heard of two males fighting for a female?

If I was to walk up to your 5 foot 0 girl take her and mate with her what can you do to stop me? Nothing. Why I am 6 foot.

Can you be alpha 5 foot 4? Yes you can. But you have to be powerful and rich like El Chapo (who was 5 foot 6). He is short but alpha.

You have to work hard and be alpha, right now, your not. Your not even Beta. Your more like Zeta right now with just physical.

Anonymous · Answer

You can get height booster shoes on Amazon. They will make you up to 3 inches taller.

Yes it’s true that woman say they want tall men. But at a 6ft guy I’ve been beat out by shorter (and chubbier) guys more than once. They are usually smartasses.

I have never in my life teased or bullied a short guy.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Its because the highest demand women are short and the highest demand men are tall. All women will date a tall man just like all men will date a short woman.

So that means every single man walking past little miss 5' 0" is into dating her so she is likely to be with any one of all those men. Whereas miss 6'3" most guys dont want to date her.

Statistically tall men and short women will make a more common pairing than short men and short women.

Thedudeitis · Answer

Not wproblem with you. A problem with those girls. Every girl expects to have a tall boyfriend even if they are short af. Just ignore the ones who say you're not tall enough. The right one wouldn't mind y9ur physical traits.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would a man with smaller boobs than a woman say that her boobs are too small?

Godofmyownwurld · Answer

I don't get height requirements. I've never found anyone more attractive just because they're tall. Must be a straight girl thing💁

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Hog wosh. Many women don't care about height and aren't heighteists. This 5'1" man got a 7'3" woman. I am only 5'4" and my woman is 5'6".

SelflessMe · Answer

Love doesn’t play by rules of the anatomy, and preference usually doesn’t yield love.
Just look at how many unhappy women exist now, after becoming the baby mama of
a guy that likely fit their so called strict likings and qualifications.

Anonymous · Answer

The majority of women have a height fetish regardless of their own height, and also an appearance fetish and a money fetish. So you need to be at least 6'2", be as attractive as a male model, and have at *least* a 6 figure income. Good luck.

Women aren't worth the effort in my opinion. Try prostitutes - cheaper, friendlier, and don't give a damn about your height or appearance. They do care that you pay them, but that's it.

nelly83 · Answer

I’ve seen 5’4” guys get gfs. Maybe work on your personality? Society is that shallow. Pretty girls will always get boys chasing her while ugly girls will have none

SphynxUK · Answer

For some women, height is part of their overall preferences when choosing a partner. That doesn’t mean all women have the same idea.

Truthatanycost · Answer

What exactly do you mean when you say you tried your luck? Give an example.

Muskrat42 · Answer

Women have all kinds of rediculously high standards.

Online dating is making them even worse, they all want a billionaire, athlete who cooks and cleans the house and pays their 170k of student loans for an associates in marketing.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I'm thinking it's how you carry yourself. I'm the same height as you and I've gotten noticed by women of all heights (of course I didn't notice this at the time since I've gotten brain dusters from friends in the past).

BloJo · Answer

Tall people make tall children. Short people make short children. That is just genetics. Some people choose partners based on the genetic potential for their children. I am nine inches taller than my wife. Our children could be either.

Heartonmysleeve88 · Answer

I dont know maybe they see something in you that they don't like? Your height is average and not really short. I am 5 foot 2 and I dont have a problem dating someone your height

princessde · Answer

A virgin woman will be interested in you. A non virgin will ignore you because of your height which means small dick which means it won't reach her gspot.

yamajazaki · Answer

I dont get that either like you're smol af why do u need a guy you can't even kiss without a chair

KingJared24 · Answer

I’m 5’9 and I don’t understand why women are interested in guys 6 feet and above. I’ll never understand what height has to do with anything and I’m taller than a lot of girls that I know

elisa_0 · Answer

5’4” is too short. Women don’t find that attractive for the most part. It’s just how it is.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Maybe she's holding out for a basketball player too make her offspring average Joe height.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I'm 5 foot even it's weird for meet to date a shorter man versus a taller one

ElvenMr · Answer

I'm pretty sure short women (in my observation/generally) are more obsessed with tall guys, then taller women.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 4'10 so everyman is taller than me... I don't have any problem with short man... but my boyfriend is 5'10.. yeah he is a lot taller than me...

CT_CD · Answer

Women are heightists. Not just enough to be taller than she is. She wants you to be tall compared to other guys.

redvelvetcx · Answer

I think tall girls commonly have the same problem with men that are taller than them

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Natural selection at work. Women’s comments provided you definitely make this abundantly clear.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

One of my friends is 5'4 and his current girlfriend is 5'11.

OddBeMe · Answer

Is it the crowds you run in? All my friends are short like me. The crowds we run in, some girls say yes, some say no.

Vacaburra · Answer

Basic chicks. Fuck them. Then they will be moaning because they can't find their princes and how unfair its life.

Twalli · Answer

They want really tall guys. I think the optimal height is 5'8" or taller. They seem to go weak at the knees if a guy is 6' tall or taller.

asshole_ · Answer

they like TALL men.. that's just them, that's what they like I know taller girls, who are with shorter men. some girls just like that

MountAverage · Answer

Because most women find short men (as in, generally short) unattractive. Plain and simple.

scooogy · Answer

Seems like they don't want to bow down a single inch when giving a bj 🙄

_DARKNESS_ · Answer

That’s weird, and it’s not like you’re shorter than them...

postaldudePL123 · Answer

It's like an ugly guy not interested in below average looking girls. So, It's a very valid reason not to prefer you.

Wolkmi · Answer

Use shoe lift my dude, try shoes who add 2 or 3 inches

LoveIsAMystery · Answer

I don't mind the height. I only look for the personality and how he is as a person

Akachan · Answer

Below average height guys just aren't for me.

apollo3000 · Answer

I don't know. I'm around 6 foot tall

Short women aren't interested in me. I really don't understand why a woman shorter than a man says he's too short?

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