I have a slight attraction towards a friends husband. Do I tell her?

[Anonymous]

We are all streamers, and all support one another. I started playing a new game that coincidentally he plays too and wanted to play with me. So over the course of 3 or so days we chat on discord while playing. During this time period I could not help but to notice an attraction that I feel for him.

I feel conflicted because I really adore his wife. (I met her through streaming) and I consider her to be a friend of mine. But I am now feeling guilty bc of my light attraction to her husband. Should I talk to her about this or just block them?

Updates

+1 y

Here’s my final consensus: just join a dating app and find someone else to fantasize over so it’ll make me lose feelings for him. Lol.

[Flower7]

It would be better to block them to avoid causing problems in their marriage. It would be a bad idea to tell the wife that you're attracted to her husband. That would only start trouble and would not be productive.

[Asker]

I’ll feel so guilty after blocking, especially because they have been so supportive. But I’m willing to do anything to keep my feelings fro progressing.

[Asker]

From

[Flower7]

As an alternative, just stop chatting with the guy.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell him the truth. Better to get it out in the open. Defo don’t block them.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Update: not a bad idea either. But still don’t block them.

[Asker]

I didn’t 😊

[Gwenhwyfar]

Awesome 😊😊😊

If you really wanna be daring you could touch yourself while you’re gaming with him and just not tell him, but that might make your crush worse

[ohshee]

What is a steamer,,, i think what you should do is look at it like this thats your husband and now she the wife is you and she's going to do to you what you want to do to her,, ,,, she's going to try to get right in between you both and cause a big problem in your and his life and the odds are he's going to stay with you the wife and now all the crap everyone had to go through because of the lady that just had to have someone that is taken. ,, I'm not sure but maybe you should re think this. You do know that there are 5 billion single guys in this world ok so what is a steamer are you a hot and heavy steamer you know I'm single if you are lol

[Slime95]

Thats tuff, people that play the same games tend to have lots of stuff in common, if you tell her about it, she might feel threatened about it.. And she should, especially if they are not that great together.. You can never know what a couple is like, sometimes the best looking couples are the ones with the most problems inside the relationship

[CakesNCream]

Don't talk to her about it, I'm not sure what you expect from that.
I think you should limit contact with him, so not talk to him unless his wife is included in the chat. If that's too difficult then just stop speaking to both of them.

[wankiam]

you could mention you think he is handsome but anything more than that would risk the friendship unless she has some threesome fantasy she hasn't mentioned before

[Asker]

Yeaah highly doubt that lmfao.

[wankiam]

so do i so there's your choice... keep quite or just say you think he is good looking and besides you can still just have a masturbation fantasy about him without anyone else needing to know ;)

[Sonorous]

You don't have to block anyone, stop talking, or tell them. Just force yourself not to do anything you'll regret.

[aaliyah_loyen]

Iron_Man,
Well if she is a friend I think you should just talk to her about it.

[FlashMetal]

Have a girls night out together, after a drink or to and some laughs, its story time... talk about a previous 3 some, and see where the conversation goes

[Wise4myage]

No, why on earth would you do such a thing? Keep your thoughts to yourself and if you can't your attraction than stop chatting with her husband.

[Wise4myage]

Wise decision, I wish you the best.

[Iron_Man]

You can tell her if you want but don’t act on your feelings

[Iron_Man]

What is it with blocking people nowadays that’s rude

[Asker]

I don't know it’s just an impulsive act. Nothing personal. I really want to respect her, but I also want to be closer friends with him without violating their marriage.

[Iron_Man]

Leave the guy alone and just be friends with the female

[Asker]

Sounds like the best and safest idea.

[Iron_Man]

Yes 👍

[MannMitAntworten]

Nooooo... Your friend will not remotely be thrilled to hear that you do. Keep it to yourself.

[LEADFOOTboi]

no, u quit, u dont haave to blocc people... just dont continue with attraction

[tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ]

It's a great idea if you want her to start hating you...

[In_Trance]

Why would you do this?

[Asker]

Bc I have free will

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding no dont be a home wrecker

[Asker]

Of course not. That’s why I’m asking should I block them? Or just smile to her face and pretend it doesn’t exists

[Opinion Owner]

No don't block them. Just be nice but don't say anything or it will get awkward as hell

[Asker]

The thought already makes me feel awkward :/

[Opinion Owner]

Truthfully its up to you because if you say something you will either get blocked or be part of some couples sexual fantasy

[Bhavin2184]

Block them..

[Dave31989]

Are you single?

[Asker]

Are you

[Dave31989]

That's not an answer to the question, mike pence

[Asker]

Lol whomp whomp.