Question? Be honest, were you having such feelings about this guy before OR after you were told he fancied you? If you started feeling this way after you were told then it is not actually attraction and want to be with him. It is that you are flattered that someone else likes you. Now, if you had such feelings before being told then you may have a bigger problem. This may hurt, but if you're having these feeling then you truly do not love your husband like you claim. I think you like the idea of still loving him. Regardless, you need to talk to your husband and be completely honest with him about this situation. Relationships need honesty, trust, and for one another to be able to talk to work through things wether bad or good. Also, you need to steer clear away from the husbands friend. And if he was a true friend, he'd back off and find himself a SINGLE woman. Please, just sit down and have a mature, honest talk with your husband. And honestly think, is this worth jeopardizing a relationship that the two of you worked so hard to build? Also, ask yourself this. What if he did this to you? Don't do what you wouldn't want others to do to you.
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Your love for your husband and your respect for him should do the trick. Think about the scenario coming to play where you do act on your feelings. It would possibly humiliate him or make him feel less of a man to think he couldn't satisfy you in every way that you needed. When you marry your spouse, you should FEAR hurting him. Or, what about the scenario of living without your husband? Can you really guarantee that you'd have a romantic life with this other guy? Because all you really know about him is the fantasy you're creating in your head. You don't know what he's like behind closed doors or even what type of guy he'd be to a lady. But you do know your husband, and you have a good thing in front of you already.
If you must, cut off being around him, or make your conversations with him short. Or see about reviving that spark with your husband by setting aside some time together. Go out on dates, treat yourselves to expensive dinners, or a night alone at an expensive hotel. Remind yourself of why you fell in love with him.
Easy, just do nothing. The feeling are probably just attraction, and since you and your husband are having problems it makes him appear more eligible. As long as YOU know that you love your husband and want to be with him, your fine. Your not doing anything wrong. If he tries to make moves on you than be firm and say "I do not like you, and this is inappropriate. I love my husband, so if you could please back off, I would appreciate it"
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If you started liking him after someone told you he liked you, it's not you actually liking him. It's you feeling flattered.
I'd talk to your husband about this and keep contact at a minimal, try and view him objectively. For example, when I start liking someone I'll say they're amazing but when I stop I'll realise they might be arrogant or mean etc.
Yuck, stay away from him and stop thinking about him altogether. Do NOT act on these feelings, especially with your husbands' friend. That is one of the VERY WORST things anyone can possibly do to a man, if not the worst. That road does not lead to anywhere pleasant, I can promise you that.
I suggest you put your focus back on your husband and work on that relationship. Whether that means having an open talk, seeking counseling or just working together to "spice things up" and rekindle your romance, you need to focus on your marriage.
You need to maintain a separation between the two of you (you and your husband's friend). Let your husband know that his crush on you makes you uncomfortable, and while you don't need him to "unfriend" the guy, you'd like him to spend time with his friend away from you as much as possible.
And YOU need to avoid contact with him of any kind to the extent possible.
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Stop seeing the friend and cut him off completely. Try your best not to get exposed to him.
Crushes happen all the time... the key is to not act on them.
in my opinion you saying your husband can be violent at times, is probably why you're falling out of love with him (as you should).
You should leave this marriage if you don't feel physically safe around him.I'd suggest keeping your distance from this guy. He could possibly feel sympathy more than romantically for you if your husband is violent. However, he's not a very good friend to openly be crushing on his friends wife.
your marriage is already over if your thinking about his friend in a romantic way
Tell your husband that you aren't comfortable with him being friends with someone that wants you. Tell him that it really bothers you every time that guy is around and you want him to not let that guy come around anymore.
If he doesn't agree and still brings the guy around, it's not your fault anymore. You should start sleeping with his friend.oh, no stop it. ok what needs to happen is you can't be around this guy. your husbands friend ain't worth it. you need to go talk to pastor of something.
It's all normal. We humans are not monogamous by nature no matter what society and religion tell us.
If you want to forget this guy, just cut all contact and before you know it, you'll be done with him.
If you want something to happen between the two of you, you should know what to do.Is he more physically attractive than your husband? And just keep thinking about all the wonderful times you've had with your husband
I would stay away from him as much as possible. If you want to save your marriage.
Keep a distance. Tell your husband and the friend that him having a crush. makes you uncomfortable and youd rather stay away until it passes.
are you the same chick who talked about swapping partners for christmas?
this marriage is doomed for failure if it is.Let dreams stay dreams. Don't act on it.
Girl. You need to seek therapy.
Stay away
Fuck him right in the pussy!
Ask for a hall pass and see what will happen.
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Jerrywhy should you ask people such a question?
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