Is it more acceptable for men or women to be overweight?

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GlitterFairy16 · Accepted Answer

Think it's a lot easier for guys to hide their weight over a woman based on the fact most average men are pretty tall compared to the average women.

Also if a man is over weight and seen eating loads of food he's a legend whilst if a over weight woman over eats she gross and disgusting. That's why there's only a rare amount of woman competitive eaters and the ones who are out there tend to work out too unlike male competitive eaters.

Also women are naturally very insecure about their bodys and were told are beauty standards will help us find a good partner. This is why so much of this body positive movement promotes obese women. Because they know deep down it isn't seen as appealing to men or women as a beauty standard but desperately keep trying to convince us it is. They wouldn't show it so much in the media if we all thought being a over weight women was normal.

Plus most fitness products have healthy fit women promoting them or highly attractive males to appeal more to a female audience more than they do with women. Women are also more likely to suffer from eating disorders in their life than men are. there's so many images of beautiful women with beautiful bodies in the media its seen as the ideal goal for woman to look like and if these beautiful women are seen in the media not looking in shape they are bullied by the same media for it and once she loses the weight is praised for it, even if she went through a unhealthy diet to get there. Im not saying men don't have the same issues as women but it's more common amongst women.

Its pretty normal for girls to hate their body and all stand around in the mirror picking faults with are self. Unlike men, i think men are a lot more focused on other things in life over there body and just want to be happy a lot of the time not saying but men don't get worry about them things at all. It's just so ingrained in womens head but slim is pretty and fat is ugly.

DestinyElizabeth04 · Accepted Answer

Women. Hands down. You even so much as comment on a womans weight and people lose their ever living mind because they love saying that you are body shaming and that you need to let fat girls be happy. But when it comes to men.. nope. Men get fat shamed damn near every single day but no one advocates for them or says that we need to stop fat shaming.

For instance, I haven't lost my baby weight from having my son 4 years ago. I'm overweight. No one says anything to me. My boyfriend, who is maybe 20lbs heavier than he should be gets comments all the time saying "Wow, you've gotten fucking fat." Or "Time to hit the gym, huh?"

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

Ok, you have to pull this one apart...

Let's start with the fact that men can get away with being overweight yet in some ways still attractive to some women

Is it more acceptable for men or women to be overweight?

But it's still not very attractive though... And this is my point here...

This picture is real

Big, thick and curvy are things that men find attractive

But to be fair... This exists

Let's just say it this way. For both genders, overweight is not ok.

But if you are a woman, you can look attractive to a certain point with extra weight as the whisper picture describes. That is a thing.

In fact, I've seen it happen. More often for muscles than for extra weight where for girls, extra weight can and is an attractive feature but only to a certain point.

I guess dad bods are a thing too but only to a certain point... I think only to a certain point is the key phase here.

Baseline, a healthy weight simply looks better and the more you go over a healthy weight with either gender it starts to get on shakey ground

But while dad bods are a thing, I'll tip my hat to women for added weight being more sexy because up to a point it's totally true, which is not so with guys

bluetoblack99 · Accepted Answer

This is one area I feel bad for women on. Since men are so visually stimulated it puts BBW women at a huge disadvantage. There are evolutionary reasons for this. Men subconsciously see very large women as more infertile.

A fat guy who is really funny, smart, has money and a good personality can still pull decent looking women. The late Chris Farley was dating a model a few years before he passed (she broke up with him because of his severe drug addiction). However not so much as true vice versa. The vast majority of fit/attractive guys are much less likely to have feelings for a heavy girl unless he’s got some weird fetish (exists but it’s very rare)

But I notice big girls can go in one of two directions. They can either be real hard working, sweet, smart and caring OR they turn into bitter bullying POS grenades. The former I will always treat respectfully but the latter deserves to be mocked nonstop and have no sympathy for them. Some of the nastiest unprovoked insults I’ve ever gotten in my life were from fat girls.

Don’t throw stones when you live in a glass house.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Acceptable to who? Shallow people that want to judge or shame people for their body? Or overweight men that want to fatshame overweight women? Or overweight women that want to fat shame men? How about everyone just worry about their own weight and the weight of their partner and just leave everyone else to worry about theirs...
But to think it's more acceptable based on gender is just ridiculous... Because being overly overweight can cause more health issues for BOTH men and women...

hellacray · Answer

Definitely men cause for the guys they joke about their weight all the time. You see it all the time on TV especially with comedians and my friends would joke about their weight as well.

I remember playing a team game as a kid and two of my friends called themselves team chunky.

Guys are very comfortable with their bodies. If they're overweight they will admit it and make fun of it. You don't see women doing that.

If they catch you making a fat joke in tv or real life they will come after you like an angry mob. Instead of accepting or joking about it they tip toe around the problem. Saying things like they're happy, don't fat shame, doctors are lying about their health, and basically accept them they're beautiful.

And funny enough I think just recently a celeb was overweight and then now she has lost some weight. Guess what women are the ones angry about it.

If women didn't make it so uncomfortable to talk about their weight it might be more acceptable. Like every guy will agree the number one thing you don't talk about is a woman's weight. The second would probably be their age.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably men, but the reality is that there's far less overweight and especially obese men than there are women, which could explain why women receive most of the negativity. Because they are simply more commonly seen. Men are not as pressured to lose weight or be in shape because most men want to be in shape and will go to the gym to be such because they know women prefer men with athletic/fit builds, so you often find men of a healthier weight class.

Women, on the other hand, are too lazy or too stubborn to exercise and instead, want to demand the world accepts them for how they are while she maintains her expectations for how men should look. Women will say they see ugly, overweight men dating attractive women all the time but this is hardly my experience. I see quite a lot of fit, attractive looking men dating women who are unappealing and fat. It really goes to show just which gender also has the higher standards and which gender has the lower standards, that being men just in case nobody was getting it.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Men.
First, you need to understand that men weigh more for one. Yet despite this, men in order to look good need to have 10% body fat now if you don't know that is very very hard to achieve and maintain.
Here's what a man looks like at 20% body fat compared to a woman at 20%
https://images.app.goo.gl/mbfLrF2niRDqGm4q8
For a woman to look like a man at 10-12 % body fat a woman only needs to be around 20--25 %.
Now don't forget either men, weigh more when we say body fat % it is a % of your body weight.
If a woman weighs 60kg and a man weighs 100kg
10% body fat of 100kg is 10kg of fat so 90% of muscle and bone etc 10% if fat
BUT on a 60kg woman 10% of body fat = 6KG that's a 4KG difference just to picture that here's what 2KG of fat actually looks like compared to 2KG of muscle.
https://images.app.goo.gl/NuxtidWx68eQ9YSG7
Now multiply that by x5.
So not only do men have to achieve a lower % each percentage has more in it. 10% for a man 10kg 10% for a woman is 6KG.
It is insane just how hard it is to gain that physique I know being around 12% body fat just how hard it can be if you don't do things properly.

Erobos412 · Answer

Dunno to be honest but I can burn through 2 kg of fat in 24 hours naturally so I have no problems gaining and losing wheight and I expect the same put of my girlfriend.

It is not hard at all, all you do is dry fast (no water or eating food. You can even do it for 5 days and burn through the fat reserves like crazy as the body used the hydrogen in the fat to produce the water it needs and provide it self the energy to survive.

Naturally you can not just jump into dry fasting without intermediate fasting regularly and doing a type of LCHF like keto, carnivore diet as a lifestyle first.

With intermediate fasting and LCHF the cells in the body will build the machinery and infrastructure to be able to do a dry fast.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

I'm a guy/man i'm 38 i'm 1'78cm height and 110kg, so to be honest i'm not ashamed of my body, and i don't care about a woman's too, as long as she feels good in her own skin, why not.. I have a saying... The bigger the Curves... The Sweeter the PRIZE... so i like mine meaty, lmao... and i'm not gonna compare too much but a few things... Guys if they can still "see it" past belly then its all fine, plus if a woman is much thinner than them, then its easy to "put on top" or "shuffle around" ...😁😁😁🤫😉

caring__1 · Answer

That's like asking if it is more acceptable for men or women to be murderers. How is it healthy for anyone to be overweight? I get tired of hearing people legitimize fat. Our metabolism changes as we age, which means we no longer need to consume what we used to need to consume. Eating out of entitlement or just for comfort will only increase health concerns and shorten our life. If I continued to eat as I did as a teenager, I wouldn't be able to fit through doorways. Of my 3 dogs, 2 were overweight and 1 was underweight when I rescued them. All, but the newest addition, are now at healthy weights, because I want them to live long, healthy lives. Wouldn't I want the same for myself and those I care about?

Petra150 · Answer

As everything I guess we women will use weight nearly just as much as height, as we women are so much on about all shallow reasons to reject a guy, and openly let them know. We women don't own the empati to judge a guy on he's personality or he's inner value. I guess i'm one in a million who never will judge a guy on something as hopless and shallow as there body features. Whis more women were like myself, on the otherhand finding a boyfriend is much easier if you treat them with dignaty and like a human being, as few of my fellow sisters are abel to show that kind of compassion for the other gender, it's been pretty easy to find super guys with great personality, weight is easy to change and height in a guy is about the most insignificant feature in a person

Lochlan · Answer

Proportions to height standing, if you're 5'10" and 300+ lbs., it's likely that your body is close or near to being more fat %-wise than everything else (bones, muscle, organs, etc.). The majority of people will not prefer their partner to let themselves go to that point. That being said, it is healthier and there is more utility for women to have a higher fat %. Men are oriented to have more lean muscle mass. It's apart of the physiological displays from higher expressions of one set of hormones over another in the genders.

Ripper_E · Answer

I don't know if acceptable is the word for it but
From what I've seen, women judge men more harshly than men judge them so while people say "Men are more visual" they aren't wrong because men are primarily visual, but women care more about appearance than men do.
Where are the plus sized men? Not attractive so they are not marketed. You got fat women saying Fat women can be beautiful but nothing about fat men being attractive.
Also apparently it's more acceptable to criticize a man for being fat and unhealthy but not a woman.

Anonymous · Answer

So looking at the scores it seems we dont care about the opposite sex being fat but we would persecute ourselves for being that way.

Unless you are a knuckle dragging dude in which case you think that fat girls are worse because you didn't want to fuck any of the guys anyway but you dont have the stones to be seen in public with a fat chick.

So if 75% of us just stopped being so hard on ourselves and the other 25% just went and killed themselves this problem and probably a few others would just go away...

Seems like a strong move for the benefit of all mankind, so needless to say that will never happen.

FriedPickles1218 · Answer

The average man is 5'9 195 lbs with a 40 inch waist. Lmao.

I think it's generally more accepted for men. But the thing is; a lot of guys can be overweight but not really show it as much due to either...

1. Having above average muscle mass, hence balancing out a higher% of body fat or...

2. Taller guys with a large frame. These guys can be like upwards of 20% body fat while still looking fairly normal due the fat being spread out over their body rather than just looking like a pear, as many average-shorter guys would.

It also might be more acceptable for a guy to be overweight because guys are generally more visual. So a chunky women simply might be more criticized for it than the other way around. Obviously, I don't think it's good for anyone to be overweight as long as it's within their control of course.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Well lets put it this way, are their fat male pornstars and models? No, not really. Are their fat female pornstars and models? Absolutely, they have entire genre's of porn dedicated to fat women, we have fat models (tess holiday for example), and we are told every moment of every day that fat women are beautiful, no fat men of course, they are disgusting pigs that no woman wants, but fat women absolutely. So their is your answer.

triff · Answer

From a health point of view it's not acceptable Froman attraction point of view I would say probably the female can carry weight better than a man But what is acceptable to one person can be completely different It's more to do with the person What they are about A laugh can attract more than Weight Height and other unimportant things

WhiteGlaze · Answer

I say women because men have a penis that can't be fully enjoyed if they're even average weight. Women mostly just gain sexy scrumptious mass in their tits and ass. Now if the guy has a monsterous cock then its all good. Actually helps balance out the amount that goes in and out. Aannd cushioned fat slaps all around.

HowAwkwardToBeAlive · Answer

Definitely men. When it comes to society women are expected to be “tiny and cute” while men are expected to be “tall and rich” which is depressing and disgusting but that’s the box we live in. As long as men have money they’re “attractive” and as long as women have thick bodies with flat stomachs they are “beautiful.”

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

I haven't seen an obese female rapper.

Is that relatable?

At least, in my country, there is no body positive movement. It's like other Asian countries in general.

Fat man = Rich ("Sia" or Sugar daddy's look is usually an overweight, middle-age man.)
Fat woman = Lump of fat. (No spectrum here. If you're just chubbier than the majority of women, you're fat. No positive perspective towards fat chicks.)

MCheetah · Answer

It's equal, to me. Society puts more pressure on women to look pretty, however PLENTY of men also prefer thick/plus-sized women, and only some (mainly, white men) do not like curvy/thick women and think of them as "fat/obese." So more haters of plus-sized women, but more lovers of them, as well. While as no one really comments on men's bodies at all, whether they be in shape or overweight. So I'd call them equal, but in a different way.

Anonymous · Answer

Societally it seems more acceptable for men, though keep in mind the entire "beauty at any size" movement is entirely focused upon women. So maybe I'm wrong.

I however think being even slightly chubby is unacceptable for anyone regardless of gender. Excess fat is as bad if not worse than smoking for your health. And anyone who lets their body get to that point should be ashamed. Especially in societies with public sector Healthcare where everyone else has to pay for your fat induced heart attack, diabetes, or cancer.

Dargil · Answer

Beefy guys are frequently both strong and confident. They (we) may not like the extra blubber and even resent it, but it very frequently does not make them (us) insecure or have self doubt,  even knowing  it limits our appeal to women. A far greater portion of women are disabled by being tubby.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I dont think either. Over weight is unhealthy. I myself am trying to get back in to shape. Being over weight should never be accepted but never put down either. Those people may need help to get back in shape. It surely doesn't help having a food industry using crap in their food that causes the problems either.

aliali8 · Answer

Socially? Fat women are much more discriminated against and bullied.

But in reality, men are more accepting of chubby women than women are accepting of chubby men. Women are also naturally have a higher percentage of body fat.

Bandit74 · Answer

Fat women get more support with the fat positivity movement. Also I would bet money that if you took a random sample of fat men and fat women the fat women would get significantly more matches on any online dating site than the fat men would.

Anonymous · Answer

Men
Let's answer this question by applying common sense. How many couples where the guy is overweight and the girl is tall, skinny and better looking than him? (for example, like the Orange man) Now, do you see a lot of model looking guys, dating overweight women? I don't
Case closed

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is more acceptable for men I’ve seen so many comments online calling women who are perfectly healthy fat I’ve seen people calling Dua Lipa fat and she is far from fat yet those same people will go and praise a girl who looks anorexic and is showing bones and ribs and they will call her hot etc

JimboGB · Answer

Well, there is a segment of the female population who support all things female regardless of what that is. It shows up daily right across society. These people are illogical but have convinced themselves they're virtuous.

There is no such equivalent in the male population.

su_e_0705 · Answer

Look, it's not healthy to be overweight. But if you are talking about a relationship, then I must say that your physical appearance doesn't matter, and if it does, get the heck out of that relationship!!

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's more acceptable for men because I've noticed after a lady has given birth, she has to lose the baby weight. were as its acceptable after having a child, for the dad to put on weight and get a dad bod, even though he's literally not even the one carrying the child or nursing it or doing as much work. I think women are more pressured to look a certain way, than guys.

Lloyd1985 · Answer

Women can be fat and you better love them or you hate women and fat shaming according to twitter. Men on the other hand are considered disgusting and creepy if they're fat.

You notice how women are always called plus size but men are called fat or overweight.

When was the last time you saw a fat male model or pornstar?

pocketman · Answer

Think of lifestyle and what are the daily tasks people have to endure. Men usually do more physical tasks therefore they can be expected to have less fat. However, due to modernism, most men find themselves sitting in front of a computer working, so I don't think the same expectation can be had of men in this modern era.

As for women, its generally the same.

Midjett · Answer

One. Women have almost twice as much natural fats as men.
Two. Fat women can still pull guys. Get boyfriends or husbands. Fat guys... good luck. Fat women are cared for. The whole fat shaming thing is about fat shaming women. No-one cares if you fat shame a guy.

An_Impulse · Answer

depends.. i answered men, without saying that is correct..

see, some people are accepting men to be more overweight. because women usually care for feelings not looks. or money. or humor.

men do care about how women look, yet they do accept overweight girls.

robertKugler · Answer

Woman should be full figured.. n not walking popsicle sticks... n overweight? says who.. n what.. authority... obesity on the other hand thats not good at all for either sex... but over weight you'll probable do better that most in a famon which is a huge possiblity in the near future... I'd say bulk up

Other shit to be worrying about.. no? lol

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about "acceptable" but women probably hear more from others about it and maybe judged a bit more? But guys are as well. You don't hear about it as much, but it happens. And it seems to be becoming more "acceptable" for women, you hear things like BBW etc, which is funny to me because you don't hear BHM (big handsome man), he's just fat.

scooogy · Answer

I think a woman's slim upper body might get compensated by her breasts, thus together with her wider hips (and considering the broader shoulder parts of a man unlikely to gain fat) a woman might be able to "hide" her fat here and there on her body better than a man.

Brian___1731 · Answer

It isn't acceptable for anyone to be overweight. Unless it's some medical problem one should always try to stay fit and healthy. Instead of making excuses one should get help from a professional or online and become fit

Miley19new · Answer

Neither. If somebody is overweight and they dont have a medical reason not to lose weight then they should do smth about it

TruthBringer · Answer

I'll let this do the talk

Anonymous · Answer

No woman ever wanted anything to do with me because i was fat and ugly.
Women like to say it's his personality so rhey don't have to feel shallow for rejecting an ugly far guy.
Guys don't like far girls eirher but you'll see a whole lot more fat girls with guys. Than you will ugly fat guys wirh any woman.

idkwattoputhere · Answer

Men gave faster metabolism than females which means men can lose weight faster then females. So women are acceptable being overweight

Starrr01 · Answer

I think women are definitely more body shamed. However I also think they’re more accepted with being overweight. I’ve seen bigger women in more relationships then I have seen bigger men

FuqMahLifeHaha3 · Answer

Well... it seems like women because of people like Ashely Graham, but the reason they're popular in the first place is because women are judged more often and more harshly on their bodies, meaning it's typically less acceptable for women to be overweight, and therefore more acceptable for men to be overweight.

Bexsclb · Answer

No one cares if a man is overweight. Obese, maybe, but not overweight. If a woman puts on 10 lbs even if she's still in the "normal" weight range, she'll be asked if she's pregnant or people will ask if she's alright and let's hope she's not dating (online especially) because then she'll have men ditch her 5 minutes after meeting her. Yeah, that happened to me. I am 5'5" and was 145lbs at the time. I was ditched 3x right after the guy met me. They all said I was too fat, no joke.

Kru2020 · Answer

Woman are trying to glorify it now. I don't get it... if gain a little extra weight I know its me and I'm the one who needs to solve it I never blame other people because to me that sounds absolutely idiotic.

EyesOfGod · Answer

None of the above. Fat people should be and are shamed but fat women for some unknown reason have the media on their side. Well it doesn't matter since to the average man a skinny girl is attractive and fat is very much unattractive.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Women since pudgy women are considered attractive by many guys. Men can’t even be a single pound overweight without women going “Haha, look at that beer belly!”

Flower7 · Answer

Neither. Both genders would most likely get made fun of and criticized a lot for being overweight.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I think men get away with it better but society at large (at least Western Civilization) frowns upon not being accepting of zaftig women. But society at large can kiss my ass. It does a lot of ridiculous things.

Anonymous · Answer

Men can get away with it. Women can't as far as I am concerned. But men need to understand too that they can be a turn off lie a woman who is really obese.

MindYourEyes · Answer

honestly women. what i see is people trying to say pluz size women should be accepted n all. but i dont really hear anyone saying women & men.

MemeSupreme · Answer

i think it's implied that it's more acceptable for men and on social media it's expressed more for women

Anonymous · Answer

I think right now it’s more acceptable to be overweight for women, especially with the thick fade. I remember before Covid, I would see big women in the gym that would choose to get bigger than slim down by focusing more on squats than cardio.

Tanyaa123 · Answer

I thinks it's more acceptable for men  Women and girls seem to get criticized more For sum reason

OfDeath · Answer

Men. How many disgustingly overweight, rich men who have trophy wives can you think of? Compare that to how many disgustingly overweight rich women you can think of who have trophy husbands.

Tiffanyloves2swallow · Answer

What do you mean acceptable.. Acceptable to who that question would be based on the individual person and what they deemed acceptable you as 1 person can not answer this question as a whole for society.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

Men. You'll hear many women say that they like a "dad bod", or even enjoys their "chubby hubby" or what have you.

FlashMetal · Answer

Men are dogs, more often than not they will look past a womans weight if she wants sex, but show me a overweight fuck boy that isn't a sugar daddy,. It dont work both ways. Women have standards

RingOfFire · Answer

Men Men are valued by others for their wealth and power, women for their looks. So being overweight detracts less from a man's value than a woman's value.

vivmatt · Answer

Neither. Everyone judges overweight people no matter the gender.

kit_kat338 · Answer

None above all. In my opinion weight doesn’t matter.

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