Why do some people hide their relationship status in front of friends of the opposite sex?

[anon1903]

For example, Ken is dating Marie. He's friends with Maya. Even though there's nothing between Ken and Maya, he doesn't mention Marie as his girlfriend. Why?

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I wouldn’t tell anyone unless it was actually relevant to something. I wouldn’t even bother to tell my parents about a partner unless I was going to a family gathering or something like that.

[JPrez]

They know they might get unwanted opinions from the third party about the other person and they don’t feel like having to justly their relationship.

[ManOnFire]

I do the same thing. In my real life I don't really tell too many people about my relationship because it's my personal life. I told some of my female co-workers about it, and that was only to get them to stop being interested in me - and one of them was really putting it out there to me that she was available, like a desperate teenager or something!

But other than that I do like to keep my love life private. I don't even post pictures of her or us on social media. I don't need to brag to the world.

[ragequeen]

In the beginning, I would understand why some choose to hide it, because the whole relationship is new and unpredictable. But it would definitely be weird and a red flag if we were getting serious and dated for a while and he still hadn't told any friends.

[Bev65cevdj]

I would say i feel like a guy did this to me but he says i just wasn't paying attention. Either way, he went weeks if not months flirting with me heavily before i found out he had a girlfriend.
It hurt me deeply. I didn't show him i was hurt. I went home and then it hit me.
We are still friends but we have a love/hate relationship so to speak
Sometimes we adore, soemtimes we can't stand one another it seems.

Its complicated but i think since its just a girlfriend, there's always the chance he breaks up with her or visa versa and then maybe he would pursue me seriously.

Until such a time might come, i think i might be able to handle a platonic friendship... as rocky as it may get at times. I don't know. We have a connection and i do care for him even just as a friend. I can respect his boundaries. Now whether he would respect his girlfriend... I don't know... He isn't the best at not-flirting with me. He says she knows he's a flirt but that they trust one another. I never met the girl. She lives supposedly about an hour or so away.

[Hazelstar99]

Sometimes people want to be private with their lives. I never tell anyone about my lovelife unless they are close to me. It just gives them access to make judgement. Also, people then start to interrogate about your partner. That doesn't mean I'm cheating or I'm not proud of showing off my significant others. Also, I want to be viewed as I am. Not be labeled if I am having a boyfriend or not.

[kemo56]

My opinion would be he's a player he's not completely sold on his girlfriend possibly and he's wanting to keep her to not be alone but he's still looking for someone he likes better or maybe he just wants to get a extra piece... The best thing to do is to stay away from that kind of person... unless you're just trying to sew some wild oats and have a good time then go for it but just know he never going to be serious about you if he's playing her he'll play you if you're the her then he's probably playing with someone else... run

[Bev65cevdj]

I think if he's not telling the world about a woman.. He probably maybe isn't really with her that seriously. Then again girlfriend is not serious. Wife is.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea thats why i dont like dating someone with friends of the opp sex (unless those friends are taken themselves). I wouldn't trust him or her. And yes part of that paranoia and from never thinking my guy would get with my best friend but they did at age 15 and she got pregnant

[nodnol32]

No idea. My girlfriend and I have made it clear to our friends that we're dating and by now her friends are my friends and vice versa. I can accompany her when she's with her friends and she often accompanies me when im with my friends. Its not awkward and we often do it.

[Jacked_Jones]

Woman do hidding their relationship becuase your just a stepping stone until mr. right comes with a big wallet.. thats what the avg woman thinks at least.. but the dream they have since middle school dont come to reality. woman dont mature, 16 years old spiritual maturity thats its... if she finaly realize her dream of a princess don't come reality middle 30, she lower her standards and take what there for a child but its still hard because man dont want this kind of woman.. woman like this end up with cats usually.

[winterfox10]

It might just not ever come up in conversation, or maybe he just doesn't think Maya has any business knowing that part of his life. I know that I don't tell my friends much of anything. Most of what my friends know, they learned from being around me. I'm not much of talker.

[ObscuredBeyond]

How close is he with Maya? That determines whether or not mentioning Marie is even necessary. Is Maya trying to hit on him? Then it might be a good idea to mention Marie.

If someone's curious, I usually don't hide my status. But when it comes to past lovers, I don't name names unless I trust who I'm talking to; or unless bringing up her name is pertinent to the discussion.

[JFelix]

For me personally I've had my female friends talk a lot of shit about me. Like saying things I done wrong in school but giving no backstory and just making me sound like a horrible person. But if they just let me say the truth with backstory and my situation at the time they would of been more understanding.

[dmgstarfleet]

1) Possible issues between the 2 girls-no one likes sticking their hand into a cat fight 2) he may want to date or is dating a friend of Maya's.

[jirwin7979]

i dont hide it i am in an open relashionship sadly my girlfriend has sex more than me have not had any in 4 years its so sad my sex drive and adhd make it very hard for me and i suffer from cronic ptsd from childhood

[pervertedjester]

I can think of two reasons. First they may be keeping an eye open for a better option. Or they may value the privacy of their relationships. I dated my late fiancee a full year before someone finally caught on to us. (It was a fun year!)

[d1g1t4lg1rl]

Why mention something's that isn't in the conversation or asked about I would have a normal conversation with someone then blurt out I'm dating someone just don't fit

[Silver158]

Some people like to keep these things private. I have friends of the same sex who come out as having been in a relationship with someone for months before even telling their closest friends.

[Finchie40]

Might be they want to keep their options opened and not let their relationship status get in the way of potential chances of hooking up , pretty much pieces of shit

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Because some of them like to get romantic attentions from the opposite sex. It doesn't matter if they are friends, acquaintances or strangers.

[Hangry22]

It's kinda like a back up plan. So that the opposite sex doesn't think of them as a taken territory and wouldn't hesitate to make a move

[Star177]

He is dating Marie but he is not sure if he truly love her that's why he keeps on hiding their relationship from his friends