If it's okay to be close friends with the opposite sex, why are they secretly sleeping with each other?

[Anonymous]

These people claim that it is okay to be close to the opposite sex, but many of them cheat on their partners with these close friends.

If it's “normal”, why can't they spend time with each other like “normal” friends?

[quaranta]

It is ok, because the reason why a person cheats is because they are cheaters, not because of closeness with their friends. For sure a cheater can use close friends as an excuse to cover it but a person who doesn't cheat can just have close friends regularly. I always had almost only male friends in my life due to a series of compatibilities, some of them are long term, and it appears my current partner has 2 close female friends, long term ones. We are really ok with that and never expressed any concern, we trust each other. We are the "main person" of each other though, currently, but if we had to choose between quitting with our best friends or breaking up, we would both break up and chose our best friends, still, because we both find them more important as they're more long term. And that is fine for both. We know we won't cheat on each other, and that we have priority on each other's friends if we need.
(None of us has/had sex with any of these friends, and don't plan to even if single - neither they do with us).

If you don't trust your partner then maybe he did something that broke your trust or acts suspicious and is not fully open to you so you have your reasons to not believe his words. Or even worse, he cheated on his exes, that would be a confirmation he is ready to cheat on you too when the condition is right, but he doesn't need to have "close friends" to cheat, he can cheat even with a colleague or a prostitute if he wants to...

[AsaKyo]

They're trashy and don't know how to have a normal friendship

[Lycirian]

Because they don't want to?

See being in a relationship is in my eyes a joke. Because people these days are acting like they are married.

When you dating someone else and then have sex with somebody else, this is not cheating! Because you dating which means there is nothing like a relationship or even marriage. This word relationship is in my eyes bullshit. Either you decide being together because you realy want to get marry or you making a fool out of yourself.

[LiamJHayden]

My best friend since I was 4 is a girl. She is like a sister and there is no way either of us would cheat with the other. So yes, it can be okay.

[Anonymous]

Yes I'm close with 3 opposite sex friends.
And we do sex whenever we met they are in relationship they know I'm fuckboy so they njoy that's it.

[mathew1543]

Its okay to be friends, but not okay to cheat.

[Asker]

most close friends cheat on their partners with each other

[mathew1543]

Tbh people these days don't care about their partners that much. That's why they cheat

[Anonymous]

Everyone wants to have sex with who they want.

[In_Trance]

Men and women can't be friends