Am I shallow for thinking that I am out of his league? (Page 2)
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You are not shallow.
A relationship is about both the body and the mind. If one doesn't attracts you the relationship will fall apart.
You seem to be worried to not hurt him, so you are not being a bad person either. Just find a way to tell him you are not interested in a relationship.
No? You’re not shallow. You’re not attracted to him and nobody should be telling you what you are or aren’t attracted to. If they do they are assholes. You do you. Just turn him down and don’t worry about telling him straight up that he’s not your type.
It is shallow thinking, but it's hard for you not to be if you place looks in your top priorities when looking for a partner. Tbh if you're on dating apps you probably aren't that far out of his league and you're basing it on limited knowledge of the other person. I think meeting in person will probably give you more of a definitive answer. If you're shallow about, you shouldn't care. Ultimately you like who you like.
I think it's about attraction. If you're not physically attracted to him, then all the personality in the world won't necessarily make it work. But it doesn't mean you're too good for him. That's what out of league means, you think you're too good for someone. Thats a high and lofty opinion of oneself.
My guess:
You’re addicted to attention and you get too much attention online. You’re like a drug addict, swimming in a swimming pool full of cocaine.
Talking to this guy is like snorting coke for you. You’re using him. And the reason you need him is that most guys don’t waste time trying to get to know you & making you feel special. Making you feel like you’re not just a sex object.
Deep down you know that you are just a sex object who hasn’t bothered to develop a good personality/character, interesting hobbies. This guy pumping you up helps you lie to yourself & keep your focus off of the real problems with your life.
Am I warm?
No. But thanks for your opinion
Yes. Until you know someone as an individual you have no idea about who they are as a person. What's in his heart? What's in his character? So much goes into a relationship beyond superficial things like appearance. Everyone gets old and ages. Few age well. Supermodels are young not seniors. Fall in love the with the heart and the person if you want it to last forever.
Would you date a 57 year old fat woman who has an amazing heart?
Yes I would
Would love to see it to believe it.
Find someone who fits that description and is my soulmate and I will show you with idiot grin on my face
Love is all that matters
Well if that’s true then you’re unique. Not many guys are like that.
I've done it the other way. Focused on only looks. Watched a lot of others do it to. Divorce after divorce and they don't figure out the problem. She has a few kids and the guy doesn't like her looks anymore and leaves her or he gains weight gets sick etc and she leaves. Yeah fuck that garbage.
Like Einstein said "The greatest teacher in our lives is our own failures."
Exactly.
Bet a month from now we'll see this same girl on here asking why her new better looking boyfriend cheats on her, or beats her up, or left her, she herself admitted he's an awesome guy yet throws that all away because he isn't eye candy. You're literally one of those girls that just chases guys that don't want them and cry about it. You probably hurt that guy too, the only good that came out of this was that someone who was out of YOUR league got set free. Your looks are a small fraction of who you are lady, and judging by your short paragraph your league isn't as high as you think it is.
Wow you are a really negative person. Good luck.
Yea I'm the negative person, miss lead people on for attention then ghost them cause "you're out of their league" LMAO. Funny for someone so HOT you don't have a profile photo, that's weird. You're stuck up. And I would be willing to gaurentee you're average looking at best. Enjoy dating an abusive guy that doesn't care about you lol
As a guy to whom this often happens (5'7" and average sized penis, average or maybe below average looks, less than fit body, and never failed to make a girl laugh at my jokes) I would say that whatever you do, don't ghost him. It's the worst, because he'll go on thinking that he's got a shot. But over the next week or so of silence from you, the truth will slowly set in and make him feel worthless.
No. You’re free to date whoever you want. Men rarely and almost never date down when it comes to look, so why should you? If he was out of your league and he felt it, he would have fucked you, before ghosting you.
Just tell him you are not interested and that you are sorry if you wasted his time.
Don't forget that good looking guys will lose their looks as they age, but nice personalities won't and are hard to find.
If you’re not attracted to him that’s fine, don’t take it any further and both of you can move on.
but to say you are out of his league is shallow, there are no leagues when it comes to romance. How would you feel if a guy said he was out of your league
First off there are no leagues, that's a made up thing for people who think they are better than others, you connect or you don't, if not be the supior one you think you are and move on, no shame in being honest
#1 if that is a photo of you I don't think you should consider yourself out of anybody's league
#2 I think leagues are fine in sports but don't work so well when it comes to people. Everyone's self-image and self esteem varies over time, in the course of a day, week, month, year, or lifetime. It's always a risk approaching people to whom you're attracted but the only way around fear is through it so you pays your money and you takes your chances. Good luck. Don't worry about leagues
You could be attracted in person because of pheromones, but you may not. You won't be able to tell from a picture or internet. If you met in some public space (after you were comfortable) you could tell how you truly feel. Things could work out, but if not as long as you accepted that you are friends not attracted to each other, that's life.
Know MATTER what. You hsve to be honest with yourself first and then with him and your not out of anyones league ever,,
Hope your ok very bold move but and I think this was a good question and a choice to maybe take the pain today so you font have to live it tomorrow I think you just helpedvalot of people
Bro what kind of simp mega virgin are you, she led a dude on for attention then ghosted him cause she thinks she's to hot for him. Take your 50 year old half dead bald ass to bed grandpa
Chemistry is a tricky thing. You're not physically attracted to him but you are mentally attracted to him. Watch that aspect completely overshadow the lack of desire for him on a physical level.
I'm too young, I don't really know what it feels like but still I think you should tell what you feel for him.
Thank you
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Thanks :) what does Machuda mean?
Nothing special, it's for public😅
Your priorities are important to you and that's fine. You might think a guy is too ugly or whatever, but remember you won't be hot your whole life. Superficial people usually end up with other superficial people. Think about what kind of life that might be...
Just break it clean. What do you want from him? Free dinner and spending money? Just let him go on finding his real love.
Sounds egotistical actually. There is no league. If you aren't attracted to him, it's fine. You cannot force that.