Would you date a feminist?

[MAC1983]

Reading all these answers I find it funny that if the question was "Would you date a human rights activist" most would not bat an eye saying yes, how it was a worthy cause.

Before I go any further, her agenda or activism has no inkling of relevance to me, specially compared with character and personality. That is my answer.

Women wanting to have equal rights around the globe - that's what is dangerous? A woman treats some men badly or the relationship goes sour: "she was a feminist". What a PC way of saying she was a c_nt!

Reality check: even great advocates of Human RIGHTS causes in public can be as much of a bastard as everyone else in private. One bad relationship and you're scarred... And maybe scared as well.

That's human. But sayin a women who does not give you the respect he or she deserves is automatically a "so-called feminist" is getting real old, real fast.

It's not about gender, it's not about ethnicity, or background. It's about who that woman is, what she wants, and if se wants me to be by her side or not.

In the end, like Jean-Paul Sartre once wrote:
It doesn't matter what they did to you. What does matter is what YOU do with what they have done to you.

[BeyondCuriosity]

It depends on if she's actually about getting equal, or if she's out to punish men because she's not getting what she wants out of life. I think any person deserves a fair shot and shouldn't be treated as less, but I'm not going to be a verbal punching bag for someone strictly because I'm male for that same reason. I think a lot of men are likely to dislike the idea of the word feminist because, as it is with most any group, the dumb ones are also the loud ones. There are a lot of feminists out there that just want the same opportunities and respect as men, and that's exactly what they should get. That's what feminism should be accomplishing.

Then there are feminists that believe that they need to treat men horribly to make up for what's been done to them. They're looking for revenge or something I guess? Either way, they're just constantly giving attitude, posting negative crap all over social media, trying to insult men and bully them into agreeing with something, and if a man should ever disagree with what they think on the issue, then he is "mansplaining" for even having an opinion or trying to be part of the conversation. In any situation between two different groups of people, shutting down communication is not going to help either side. That's part of what oppressed women in the first place. They had no voice and were made to feel they couldn't be a part of the conversation.

It's really a shame that those few but loud people have made a bad name for the entire movement, because the original vision of that movement was long overdue by the time it started. I would date a feminist depending on her values, but most guys I know would hear that word feminist and assume that the whole relationship would be one big argument and blame session. I really hope it doesn't stay that way.

[Beautyforeverybody]

Feminist as in modern feminism or the reasonable one?
I would not date a man who completely ignores gender roles. They exist for a reason and one day when i marry, i will be practicing most of them.
I also would not date a man who think once we get married , I am like his property. I am still a free woman.

[ThatQuietLass]

Do you mean feminazis or just general feminists?
I'd say I'm a feminist by default for wanting equality (why would a movement need to be named after females is for another question!) but I'm not a bra burner who'd want the male race enslaved as some sick retribution.

[OlderAndWiser]

People use the word "feminist" to mean many different things and a question such as this should include a definition of the term. Otherwise, you can't really get any meaning from the results, especially a poll. "Feminist" can mean a hostile, castrating, bitter lesbian or it can refer to a feminine lady who believes only that both genders should have equal opportunities. BIG difference.

[Arivor]

Since there is no central authority for feminism, it leaves it to the individual to decide what that means to them. I have seen some really extreme (not radical) "feminist" whose ideas and beliefs would totally gross you out. Some are cool and are really just trying to ensure that they, their sisters, mothers and daughters will have a better life than they have now. I also want the best for my female family members and friends. Even though I have never or ever call myself a feminist, there are some things I do support as an advocate for women's rights. I have no problems with a woman who calls herself a feminist, it's their beliefs and actions that I care about.

[pajamasam]

Feminist is a pretty big umbrella term that covers a wide variety of opinions on women's issues.

I have dated a vocal self proclaimed feminist before. Feminists are not all loud angry sjws like they are commonly portrayed. For example the feminist i dated was pretty far left on the political spectrum, but she had a few political points where she was actually kind of moderate or even more conservative.

Just goes to show that the portrayal of feminists as the loud mouthed angry sjw is not accurate.

I'd encourage everyone to date a feminist if they get the chance. Chances are they will challenge you to think about the world differently. And that can be really healthy.

[Jjpayne]

It depends on how feminist she was. I consider myself a feminist but I'm also a beilever in equity. I think for the health of society both genders need to be supported and valued equally. I put it this way, if you had a son would you want you son treated less because he was a boy vs a woman. Now I'm coming from a place that women currently are becoming more high lighted every day. Men are the bad and women are the good. That feels like what the trend is, just watch the new harley quinn movie and that is the theme.

To me it's important that every person regardless of gender is supported. That every person is special and has a special part in this world. No one should feel any less for being born a certain gender.

That's my view anyway.

In a nutshell, I want what's best for women

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Married to one. What is said about them is greatly exaggerated.
She doesn't nag me.
She doesn't keeps getting triggered over nothing.
She doesn't talks about patriarchy all the time. In fact I never heard her say that word.
Do you know what she does? Cook, clean, dress and act feminine as well as pamper me all the time.
Want the cherry on top of the cake? She has a job and she makes more than me and has never once brag about it or throw it to my face.
And yes she is a feminist. What you think you know comes from the insane ones. Don't let them define the rest.

[ShortCircuit]

In order for a woman who had similar views to my own to self-identify as a feminist, she would have to manipulate the definition of feminism until it ceased to accurately reflect the word's etymology.

So the answer is either "no" or "yes, but she's not *really* a feminist, and just *thinks* she is".

[Anonymous]

No, I would not. I have before and I will never do it again.

Here's the thing. Modern feminism claims to be about equality, but it doesn't take a genius to see it isn't about equality at ball. Modern feminism is a very corrosive and divisive influence in society and any little bits of good it may do here and there are far outweighed by the bad things it does.

Feminism divides men and women, pure and simple. And any woman who is either 1) too dishonest to acknowledge that fact, or 2) aware of the facts about feminism but still OK with identifying as a feminist... any woman like that is not worthy of the time and attention of a good man.

Today virtually everyone supports the ideals of fairness and equal opportunity, and there is no reason to label yourself something in order to support those ideals, especially when there is so much harm done in the name of the same label. Just be a good person and fight for what is right.

[Dchrls78104]

The Bible says that the man is the head of the Christian household (1 Corinthians 11:3), and that the wife should respect the husband (Ephesians 5:33) and be modest (1 Peter 3:1-6). Such teachings are incompatible with the tenets of feminism and in fact the feminists I've heard remind me of the kind of woman the Bible warns about (Proverbs 20:9, 19; 22:14).

[Anonymous]

First of all, let's just establish right up front that feminism is what it is, not what it used to be or what we wish it was. Feminism is as feminism does, and what feminism has been DOING in the western world for the last decade or more is despicable. Anyone who supports feminism TODAY is supporting what feminism is DOING TODAY.

Having said that, why in the world would any self-respecting man date a self-proclaimed feminist?

And more to the point, why in the world would any good woman support feminism today?

[TonyMetal___86]

No way! Even if she was thr last woman on earth!
I'm an anti feminist!
Our minds are never compatible and feminists are aggressive and thinks that she can be a man while personally i have no red lines on beating a woman who acts like that which mean i'll seriously hurt her!

I prefer to stay away from them and they do not dare to step in my territory...

[RawIronhide]

Yeah, I think many girls consider themselves feminists, whitch is fine but a subset of the feminist group are radical and often place the blame of every social injustice on men whitch isn't fair. They see modern men with contempt even though we had nothing to do with inequities of the past. Some of us are progressively trying to improve relations. It's also untrue to say women had zero influence in society prior to 1980 it's just plain wrong.

[MCheetah]

Again? NEVER in a million years! *F*CK NO!* Literally no self-respecting man would. Why would I ever want to date someone who's the worst combination of sexist (against women, but especially men), stupid, bitchy, and hostile? And to add to it, if she can't even respect HERself merely for being a woman, then why should I? Wait; I'm male, so she wouldn't respect me, anyway.

[007kingifrit]

feminist means different things. a blue haired angry bitch that yells "mansplaining" everyday and spends her time on twitter in hate mobs? no no non o no

a girl who just uses the term because her friends do but isn't radical and just wants to close "the pay gap" which doesn't exist anymore? fine

[Quackthulu]

Depends, do you mean an actual femenist, or just a crazy bitch doing crazy shit and pretending nite feminism?

[Anpu23]

No, though there are many women who believe in the "dictionary definition" of feminism the fact that they support a hate movement that hides behind the language of equality and acceptance would be too big of a gap for me. I am an active anti-feminist and it would just cause too many domestic problems.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

I will like to date a feminist because whit all the girl that i have date and they whas feminist all of them didn't have arguments agains my words.
They all keep dating me for some days, i like theyr ideologis of "independent woman" but when they need to face the reality is a little to much for them.
I love them because they are so naive, but olso dave a desire for power.

[LingyRolls]

I'm a girl, married, bi, and no I wouldn't. They tend to be self hating and very hung up on labels and trying to be masculine.

[worldscolide]

Depends on the type. Cassie Jaye type or Christina Hoff Sommers type, Sure.. But the kind that believes all men are abusers, pedophiles, sex offenders. the kind that actively man hate, the kind that refuse to do any basic hygiene, The kind that believe idiotic things like the wage gap, and the 1 in 4 idiocy. Those are literally cancer and not human.. And more importantly not worth my time, effort, energy, or respect.

[David_Kek]

If she was open minded enough to at least listen to the factual issues with her ideology... maybe.
A closed minded zealot that refuses to accept facts that counter the wage gap, rape culture and patriarchy theory? Not a chance.

Only saying that because I have met one recently, that we do seem to get along in a fire meets ice sort of way. Closet misandrist meets closet misogynist... it's the making of a sitcom.

[YHL6965]

No way. Feminism has never been about equality, the name itself is not about equality, it's basically pro-women. Modern feminists are even more extreme in that aspect since modern feminism tends to be more and more into man hating and gaining power. I want a relationship where I feel like my partner and I are on the same level, and I don't think I'll get that with a feminist.