Would you date a feminist?

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Simple question. I'm not talking about radical men-hating feminists (who, let's be honest tend to be lesbian). I'm talking about sane feminists who take different stances on certain issues i. e. the wage gap. Maybe nitpick here and there but are all around good people with good intentions.

If you had asked me this a couple of months ago I would have said no. But I've met quite a few feminists who are not bad at all. They have nothing against men and don't agree with radical feminism.

I ask this because an article came out "why I would not date a feminist." Is that a deal breaker for you, her being a feminist? Do you WANT her to be a feminist? Do you decide on a case by case basis?

ak666 · Accepted Answer

Typically not, and I include even the most moderate type of feminists with very few exceptions.

I see the most moderate-sounding often citing a definition of feminism as simply the "belief in equality between the two sexes" as though this is the one true definition of feminism to rule them all, and in the darkness bind them.

That's a very coercive and manipulative tactic to try to make it sound as though anyone who doesn't identify as a "feminist" must be a sexist, and I don't get along well with coercive and manipulative people.

If such a moderate genuinely believes that feminists are the only ones who believe in equality between the sexes, then they must be incredibly naive. I likewise don't get along so well with incredibly naive people.

I absolutely believe in and promote equal opportunities between the two sexes yet refuse to identify as a feminist. About the only type of feminist I could ever imagine dating if I was single would be one who can truly understand and empathize with my refusal.

AleDeEurope · Accepted Answer

Lol if I wanted date someone who's gonna kill me in my sleep, I could do much better than a feminist xD

There's veeeeery little sane feminists out there, the only one is Christina Hoff Sommers, I've never met a sane feminist, either online or in real life.

xCutesyLolitax · Accepted Answer

Sure, although for some reason, more conservative men have always been of interest to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm liberal and everything, so I wouldn't mind dating one, as long as they weren't radical in their beliefs and as long as our time together wasn't consumed my feminism-related topics.

It's perfectly fine to not consider yourself a feminist and believe in equal rights for men and women. I despise people who attempt to shove the whole "you're a FEMINIST" down your throat, just because you believe in equality of the genders. Feminism does not simply amount to "a belief in equality," it's an entire movement filled with aims and ideas that people who want equality for men and women may simply just not agree with. I find it hilarious when feminists are like "Google what feminism is!!" Yes, because the dictionary definition totally 100% encompasses the feminist movement in practice.

starrynight28 · Accepted Answer

Feminism is literally the belief in equal rights between men and women. If you don't agree with that, then I wouldn't even come near you.

Yes, there are radical feminists. There are many types of feminism: liberal, radical, Marxist, etc.

Yes, there have been different waves of feminism. Being in the third wave, an abundance of feminists come off as radical.

But if you find a girl who advocates for the equality between men and women (liberal) then she shouldn't be one of those radical man-hating ones.

helloitsmethere · Accepted Answer

"I believe in equal rights for men and women. I am not a feminist though." You are contradicting yourself. I think you mean, "I am not a feminazi though."

pierced · Accepted Answer

I advocate for all social injustices, however I do not expect everyone to agree. I am a feminist; you don't have to agree on everything I believe buy you need to respect it otherwise I can walk you to the door. I would prefer someone like me, but I know the world I live in.

coachTanthony · Answer

Here is a great video of my buddy Matt Hussey breaking down a feminist the I CAN DO IT ALL mindset.

ElissaDido · Answer

Considering the fact that feminism means different things to different people, it depends.
Honnestly, I don't go around labeling myself as a feminist. I believe in the importance of powering women through encouraging education, protect them physically but also fianancially etc, equal pay for the same Job etc but a good portion of what is being advocated by modern day feminism isn't my cup of tea.
I simply want a man who respects people, men and women alike.

PlacentaSalad · Answer

If she believes there's a wage gap and a rape culture in America, then no. I can only tolerate so much ignorance.

I also wouldn't date a feminist if she is so passionate about it, in that she always has to mention that she is a feminist or try to make feminism relevant to everything. If I were to ever fall for a feminist, it's because she kept it to herself, she actually believed in equality as well as equal responsibility, and just wasn't sensitive about everything.

Joti_Harrison · Answer

I don't judge people on whether they are feminist or not. I judge based on their personal values. A woman can believe in equal rights just as I do, as long as she uses true facts in going about her pursuit for equality, like the true feminist Christina Hoff sommers does. Women who believe in things like the wage gap and that 1 in 4 women in college will be raped by men are liars and too extreme for me to date.

With that being said, I personally seek for traditional values in women. Women who can cook is a plus, good nurturers, gentle, classy, and elegant are the kind of women I'd like to marry, love and let take care of my kids.

Below is an excellent link for true feminists to watch for 5 minutes.

nataliewood · Answer

I am a woman myself, but i do know feminist men. I am a feminist myself and I would probably considered a "sane" feminist. I have nothing against men... at least the ones who respect women. I believe in equal pay, I believe that all girls should be able to play the sport of their choice, and i believe that women should have a choice with their body. I would date a feminist man.

Anonymous · Answer

Feminism is a legalized hate group in my opinion. It's so easy to teach hate. I know their are some real bastards who are men, that good women get involved with. Those guys that can turn good women into monsters. If every femmist reads this article that I am posting please see you are going to far. Men have officially crawled in a corner and are waving the white flags. If there is ever a 4th movement that's is when I'm going to get involved politicaly. The 4th wave will cause general misogyny among the population. Please femmist stop. Because if you take this stuff to far men will have nothing and that saying goes. "don't fuck with someone who has nothing to loose"

www.factsoverfeelings.org/.../i-changed-men-to-black-people-in-an-everyday-feminism-post-and-heres-what-happened

IceCubedude · Answer

No, some girls call themselves that but deep down theyre not even in any movements or anything they just like the title, those are fine, they usually dont even care at all and just doing it to feel better about themselves even thought they aren't really doing anything.

then you have the real ones, the ones who support feminisim and some/all of its causes, these ones are to avoid at all costs they ruined humanity, thet relationshop between men and women and everythign in our society.

feminist men are usually weird, feminine and lack the charisma, attractiveness that women want in men, this is why women go for manly men, sleep with them then bitch about them after these men admit to not wanting anything serious, they will fall for it everytime, women do not want to date other women.

bellaf666 · Answer

I would never date a man who doesn't understand what feminism is. If he calls himself a feminist, great -- if he doesn't but still supports the same ideals than me, then I'm more than fine with that. But someone who not only doesn't understand feminism, but also hates the women who are part of it? I could never even be friends with someone like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Given that I'm a feminist and bisexual, yes I would :)

Actually, I've only ever dated men who agree with feminism. Could never lower myself to date someone who didn't identify as such.

However, I tend to frequent very leftist circles, so accessing those men is easier for me than some women. And those men are certainly not a majority. I kind of feel bad for my friends who are reluctant to identify as feminist because of what men will think, and when they spend enough time with me, they come out and vent about their boyfriends sexist comments and views. Must suck. I've been radical af since high school though, so I guess I just don't care what people think and I'm certainly not looking for non-feminist guys anyway. Hopefully, everyone finds happiness and what they're looking for.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

No never. Even the moderate feminists care only about female rights, they dont actually care about male rights. They advocate for increase of female rights at the cost of male rights. I can't support such a thing nor can i date a person who has these views.

The only thing that comes out of a feminist's mouth is equality and female rights. How a movement can achieve gender equality by only representing the issues of women is beyond me. I wouldn't stick my dick in a hornets nest, why would i fuck a feminist?

Anonymous · Answer

A follower of the ideology feminism with it's ridiculous dogma and harrasment of any lady who dares not call herself a feminist: That type isn't even fit to be a friend.

Someone who calls themself feminist because they believe in equal rights or as a way to repel perverts, but doesn't follow the ideology: If they are otherwise suitable, I consider it.

And to those who say believing in equal rights makes you a feminist, no it doesn't, just as believing in employees rights doesn't make a communist, so stop harrassing people to join your ideology.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't date a feminist. I want a man who doesn't feel bad about being a man. But I have nothing against him wanting equal rights, but I feel like if he identified as a feminist that wouldn't mean something good.

Imafreespirit · Answer

nah, I don't think so. I hate when people label themselves, it automatically closes your mind and I think supporting equal rights doesn't make you a feminist, it just makes you a decent human

Anonymous · Answer

HELLLSSSSS NO!

Feminist do NOT believe in equal rights they believe in female entitlements and male suppression. The idiots who state the definition as "proof" that feminism is for "equality" are like religious people who state proof of gods existence is because the bible says so.

Feminism shows it's true identity in it's actions. NEVER has a feminist group actually worked for equality. It has always been a hate group and always will be a hate group. Even if there are a few who are sheepishly following because they believe in the definition, the main voices of feminism are those of hate.

Feminist are evil and feminism is a cancer.

godfatherfan · Answer

No. Because a feminist is exactly that. men hating feminazi's. You try and be polite and hold a door open like a gentleman and you get a nasty comment about how she can open the door herself. Any woman that would call herself a feminist is comparing herself to those kind of horrible people. You need to come up with a different name or something. Because if she says feminist, forgetaboutit, bye...

cinderelli · Answer

the problem behind this bad rep that feminists have gotten.. is that most people confuse real feminists with the batshit crazy feminazis.. extremism can ruin anything.. real feminists are just sane people who want women to have equal opportunities and position in societies as men..

Anpu23 · Answer

no, our ideology would be too far apart. I am a very vocal anti feminist and work hard to bring down the movement. I feel that the key belief of feminism is Patriarchy Theory and as I feel that it's a false premise we would fight too much over these issues.

Goandtellyourmama · Answer

As a woman I tell you:

Feminist are like a carcinoma that must be stopped from spreading. Folks we must do everything to stop them: We must burn their houses, take down their imaginary crowns and we must drain them into the deep sea.

cth96190 · Answer

Hell no!
Feminism, no matter what shade of red, is a toxic child of Cultural Marxism.
Such a woman would disqualify herself from consideration as the source of 50 per cent of the DNA in my children.
Feminism is contrary to nature, science and the observable realities of the universe.
I could not be interested in a woman who was that delusional and ignorant, or simply stupid.

CrystalChild · Answer

I would consider myself an activist for women's rights so yeah, I would. I don't think being a feminists should mean you can't care about other people's rights and inequalities too, like black rights, men's rights, children's rights, the environment. All these things are also important to me, I shouldn't be shamed for also caring about the rights of my own gender! I'd hope my partner felt the same way. Well, he does, so I'm a lucky gal :)

Anonymous · Answer

By boyfriend and I both call ourselves feminists.

He has the same view on womens issues as I do and I appreciate his support. I don't think I could date a man who didn't have feminist views on women's issues.

And I definitely think it benefits him as well since I try to be more independent and do things on my own before asking for help. I don't depend on him to do everything, just like he doesn't depend on me to do everything.

Zorax · Answer

True Feminist - Yes (if she is my type of girl).  Femi-Nazi - No way.

Victoria-Anna · Answer

I believe in equal rights, but I wouldn't date a feminist. I find most to be boring, obnoxious and aggressive natured. Traits I dislike in a partner.

You don't need to be a feminist in order to believe in equality and diversity.

Exterminatore · Answer

It is an absolute deal breaker. Men and women are more than equal greatly in favor of the woman.

I also wanted to take the opportunity to tell all you feminists out there radical or not that you truly are all a bunch of filthy shrews, and I truly hope you all die childless and alone with no one to look after you or support you.

Jd750 · Answer

No i don't even want to be around its followers. Somebody close to me died from prostate cancer and i heard of a group of feminists who were protesting against increasing the very low budget for protest cancer research. As they would like to see more men die from cancer. They also hounded a group of mothers of sons, who had died from cancer, and who wanted to raise awareness about that issue.

Oh and "man spreading" "mansplaining" "toxic masculinity" articles in the washington post "why can't we hate men" kill all men # etc etc Women have had equal rights for a long time and it has since basically become a far left hate group. Fuck feminism even my fiancee hates it. I also loathe "mgtow".

Thats just the new male version of feminism. I watched a few of their youtube videos and i just had to stop, and i couldnt watch any more of it. I think their vile and as awful as their 3rd wave feminist sisters.

Superchick123 · Answer

I like conservative guys, and I'm a sane feminist. I'm not a radical feminist and I don't believe in completely eliminating gender roles and all that. Im pretty conservative myself. However, if you believe in equal rights for men and women, you are indeed a feminist. That's all that feminism is.

rjroy3 · Answer

If we're talking about a serious relationship, with a take her home to mama type of girl then that depends on if feminism defines her. If she's just a girl that says she believes in equal rights and because of that she is a feminist, then sure. If she believes in equal rights, that women don't have equal rights to men, the wage gap and rape culture. Then no I'm not on board. at least not for an exclusive relationship that could lead to marriage.

TheWombRaider · Answer

I have noticed most girls that say they are feminists dont even know what the definition really means and most of them are hypocrites as well.. Not all but most... The thing is in 2017 they do have equal rights if not more rights and privileges then men do... This is not 1674 any more.. Women have the same rights as men do... like said if not more in 2017.

Curmudgeon · Answer

There are no such animals. "The wage gap" in the same occupation is a Big Lie.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Feminism has good qualities but there is a flaw with it. Women fighting for equality and equal opportunity. How often does a woman desire to be a janitor and scrub shit out of public restrooms? Or be a construction worker? That sounds more like equality only when the opportunity is beneficial.

Browneye57 · Answer

Then they're not feminists. A lot of women claim to be but don't agree with the radical agenda. It just sounds good so the say they are.

Even some feminists crave strong men. Some will even admit to the desire to be dominated sexually. You can't argue with a bazillion years of biology. :)

Fox_McTag · Answer

just funny how many retards out there associate feminists with those special snow flakes acting real bad and pretending to help a cause they don't even understand...

Sualtam · Answer

Regardless of what feminist tell you, feminism isn't JUST equal rights.
It's the notion of equal rights PLUS the notion that women don't have them PLUS that men have it better PLUS that men oppress women.

alice55 · Answer

I wouldn't even being friends with them would be very difficult for me

bente2 · Answer

Damn, if someone is NOT a feminist that would mean they are not for equal rights, which would mean they'd consider me to be lower and them to be superior to me. So yes, I would date a feminist. I solely date them.

DVanx · Answer

no I definitely wouldn't date a feminist... I haven't really met any sane feminists. I know there are a few sane and good women who for some reason call themselves feminists, but the people I meet in real life and the see on internet who say they are feminists usually are just bitter sexist and racist persons who hate men and believe in wacky conspiracy theories about "patriarchy" and "male privilege" and so on...

jgalloway96 · Answer

I don't see much of a point in feminism anymore, men and woman are equal where I come from, the UK. May still be some issues here and there but now anything against woman is frowned upon as it should! Woman do have the same opportunity as men now. Some would argue that it's maybe even beginning to turn the other way, haha. I'd date a feminist but not one based off outdated social values.

AniestA · Answer

As long as she ain't the anti men sexist kind ofcourse i would

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no! Feminists are probably the most stubborn, thick skulled, rude and picky people I have ever met.

TheFlak38 · Answer

hell no!

ΉOMO_乇尺乇CTU丂 · Answer

I'd easily turn feminist for Emma Watson

vonasaurus · Answer

as long as she wasn't the militant "i am infallible and disagreeing with me=hate speech" type, i can't see it being an issue.

Bvroon · Answer

Yes I would date a feminist. However like you said, they have to be sane and well grounded. The thing of it is, equality has to be equal, if you go beyond equal, then it becomes something else, something exclusive and that is not equal.

MagiAlphaOne · Answer

Terrance Popp has the BEST RESPONSE to dating Feminists! To answer your question, NO!

jamestclark · Answer

yes so long as they have well thought out opinions, and do what any good girlfriend or boyfriend does, and doesn't try to force anything on me.

Bandit74 · Answer

I don't know, the constant nitpicking could get annoying really fast :/

Anonymous · Answer

I would date someone who supports equal rights and respect for everyone, male or female, but I would NOT date a feminist because despite what they say, their actions show they do not support those values.

Anonymous · Answer

i wouldn't date someone that calls themselves a feminist

reixun · Answer

Yuh of course, I don't care for the label but there's a semi-clear difference between boys who sincerely *like* women vs ones who see us as beneath them.

medieval · Answer

Nothing wrong with a girl who wants to be treated equally... I don't believe that most people who identify as a feminist truly want equality though, just easier lives for themselves

vampireelf · Answer

I think I couldnt date a girl who is not a feminist. I call myself a feminist, too. there is still much work to do, untill men and women are equal.
so yes, i would date a feminist, even more radical ones ;)

Tinana · Answer

🤔 feminism is all about equal rights for men and women. So if you believe in that you are a feminist. I don’t see the big deal. I’d call myself a feminist I don’t hate men and I’d listen to your opinions. I just believe in being treated equal

Anonymous · Answer

I do believe in equal rights for men and women, so my answer would be yes considering that's what feminist means in this context.

If she was too radical, the type that says that "All men are rapists" and similar things, I'd probably have to say no.

Whether it's religion, a political stance or feminism, being a radical takes you nowhere and is really annoying.

Anonymous · Answer

Any girl who is a feminist is stupid. It just means they've never been made aware of their inherent inferiority. Put them in a war zone and I wonder what would happen? Suddenly, they can't preach feminism as they play on Facebook or some other equally retarded thing.

HauteBrilliance · Answer

a feminist is literally someone who believes in equal rights between the two genders so i don't know wtf y'all mean when y'all say you wouldn't date one

Kuraj · Answer

No I wouldn't and I don't differentiate between "radical" and regular feminism. Both have the same stupid ideas, just the delivery is different.

Hidden_P · Answer

I don't know if I count as one of these? But I don't label myself a feminist at all. In fact, I shy away from the word.

Gravel · Answer

Here's the thing i don't understand about the "wage gap". The equal pay act of 1963 guarantees equal pay for equal work. If they are not making as much as their peers, they are able to complain and have a pay increase to earn as much as them

rushthesand · Answer

As a politically moderate feminist, I will only date a moderate/left leaning or liberal man. -shrug- Conservative guys are generally assholes.

Noxifer626 · Answer

"I'm not talking about radical men-hating feminists (who, let's be honest tend to be lesbian)"
Wow, you must have some amazing powers to know the sexual preferences of an entire group based on nothing but what Rush Limbaugh says about them.

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