Have you ever been ashamed of talking about your job to a date?

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I don't, but I'm not even too eager to bring up some details. What about you?

SaraSmithishere · Accepted Answer

Hmm... no, but I don't like talking about it.

By trade, I'm a fashion designer, and I studied fashion design in school, but the reality is that unless you're the creative director of a brand or unless you have your own fashion line, the day to day activities of a designer basically include a lot of administrative tasks and helping someone else create their vision. I think a lot of dates get the idea that I sit around all day and come up with cool concepts, but my job is, like, 5% creative. It makes it a lot less exciting when I talk about the reality of what I do, and honestly, I'm not in love with my job and I am considering changing careers, so I try to limit the amount of information I disclose about work.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I work in a health care profession but it doesn't pay well. Despite the training we get. The main person in this role earns so much. Its quite shocking actually that I don't earn even as much as a P. A at the highest level... This industry is governed by protective bodies but they are more interested in getting their pay out then sorting out what's actually right despite knowing these professionals never retire with less than millions as a net worth.
I'm not asking for 50k a year but 35 at the least would be sufficient. To live comfortably.

guesswhoseback · Accepted Answer

As long as you work hard and make enough money to be 100% independent I respect you. I don’t care if you clean toilets, work in fast food, retail or whatever. Work is work.

However I would obviously automatically lose respect for people who work in criminal careers.

I also have zero interest into getting into a relationship with a stripper, full time Instagram model or a sex worker. There are some very rare exemptions to this (she legitimately had no other options or was coerced into it) but most of the time it’s due to laziness, vanity or drug addiction.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I have not been ashamed of talking about my job on dates with women in the past, but I knew I was being judged. A lot of the women I went on dates with don't like the idea of their man doing blue collar work. It doesn't scream reliable income or desirable man as opposed to White Collar workers for a lot of women.

Would rather weed out bad women with transparency than down the road with personal values if we were together even though it sucks regardless

Apope16 · Answer

Yes. Majy times. I've worked at McDonald's. Etc. I currently work for uber.

Purple_Rose · Answer

Yeah because I only have an associate's degree and I can't really get a good job unless I have a bachelor's degree. Which sucks because I can't afford to go back to school right now.

I work in a warehouse full time and I do housekeeping for a hospital part time. I honestly believe where I'm at as far as career and education is a major turn off to a lot of men.

When on a date with guys who never been to college, but work jobs like I do, they always say they aren't good enough for me. Then, when on a date with guys who are on my same education level or higher, but work better jobs than me, they act like they're better than me, smarter than me and they accuse me of wanting to use them because I don't have what they have.

I just can't win either way.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I am proud of my job so not really...

My job is basically something I worked hard for and kinda my hobby. Definitely not where I wanna be, but it's a stepping stone!

And I respect every person's hustle. A job is a job at the end of the day. It is all hard work, dedication and responsibility.

talloak · Answer

The last time I dated, I admitted to being recently laid off in my online profile (it happened after I started dating). Most women lost interest but one appreciated my honesty more than my money potential. We eventually married.

Anon621 · Answer

No I have no shame in what I do because a job is a job unless you can't actually tell them due to the job you have. I can understand why some people would be ashamed but I hold no judgment against anybody because of their job

perfectchaos · Answer

Yes and no. I'm very proud of what I do but I have to keep some of it on the down low because my work is very dirty and nasty and it could scare some potential suitors off. I don't lie like it if they ask I tell them. Just otherwise I skip the part of we burn garbage and sometimes I have to wade through it to work on our equipment.

WagyuMoo · Answer

I'm am ashamed a little bit but I bring it up anyways. I'm very self aware of where I am in life, the hurdles I've gone through and still are. Maybe it's a lot but I would like to put it all on the table to know how receptive or not my date is to the information. So as to not waste my time or hers.

Avicenna · Answer

No, absolutely not, but interestingly, my most prolific dating was when I was in the military or a university student rather than when I've earned the most money.

prettyfacegoodtaste · Answer

I hate talking about work on a date.
I’m extremely feminine, so it seems extremely boring and even redundant. Let’s talk about the next new adventure you want to take, your most rewarding life lessons or something..
When a man asks me that, I’m like, “yes, my bills are all paid 🙄”

RingOfFire · Answer

I've never been ashamed, but I almost always try to make it a little unclear, especially if it's someone I don't yet know well enough to trust.

It's obvious from what I do that I make a lot of money and I don't want to be in a situation where I can't tell if it's me or the money she is after. So I kind of fuzzy it up and downplay a little when talk about what I do. When she asks what I do I have the answer down to a science so it isn't untruthful, but also doesn't say too much. ;)

Unit1 · Answer

I don't expect to find a good woman when I tell her on our dates " I'm the CEO of Unit1 fiber optics telecommunications, investor, entrepreneur, producer and operations manager, landlord and network marketer " - (assuming I make it this far). In these cases I'm better off just saying " Software test engineer ". All gold diggers, entitled princesses and baby trappers can bugger off there and then :D

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm not ashamed of my job per se, I'm ashamed because besides my boss I'm the only one with a degree and have the same job as my co workers who only have the local equivalent of a highschool diploma.

Sofia123sofia · Answer

No i am not. I am such an open book, i can talk about anything.

Nmalinova · Answer

Nope coz I have an awesome job 😂 depends on the job I guess

burlen · Answer

Why should I? You shouldn't if you value authenticity from your date.

kikino · Answer

Are you a sex worker? Cuz your link is kind of suggesting that. Jw

Anonymous · Answer

I used to have a well respected profession so it was always nice to feel admiration of that. Now I’ve changed careers I have felt a little worried about being judged at times yes.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

No i earn more money than my boyfriend and he's a skilled gardener whilst im packing boxes into boxes. No one should be ashamed of their Job people have gotta do what they've gotta do to pay the bills. As long as its honest work i don't see the issue

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not ashamed but I get annoyed. I’m a firefighter/paramedic and EVEYRONE (especially the girls on dates) start asking me all these medical questions but in particular it REALLY annoys me when they ask me what’s the worst I’ve seen. We’re not on that intimate level yet. Maybe one day I’ll bring it up. I usually feed them some shootings I’ve worked but deep down the ones that give me nightmares I keep to myself.

Anonymous · Answer

If a chick wants you doesn't matter if you clean shit in toilet she will have you. What it is to be ashmed of.

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