What about you?
Have you ever been ashamed of talking about your job to a date?
What about you?
Hmm... no, but I don't like talking about it.
By trade, I'm a fashion designer, and I studied fashion design in school, but the reality is that unless you're the creative director of a brand or unless you have your own fashion line, the day to day activities of a designer basically include a lot of administrative tasks and helping someone else create their vision. I think a lot of dates get the idea that I sit around all day and come up with cool concepts, but my job is, like, 5% creative. It makes it a lot less exciting when I talk about the reality of what I do, and honestly, I'm not in love with my job and I am considering changing careers, so I try to limit the amount of information I disclose about work.
As long as you work hard and make enough money to be 100% independent I respect you. I don’t care if you clean toilets, work in fast food, retail or whatever. Work is work.
However I would obviously automatically lose respect for people who work in criminal careers.
I also have zero interest into getting into a relationship with a stripper, full time Instagram model or a sex worker. There are some very rare exemptions to this (she legitimately had no other options or was coerced into it) but most of the time it’s due to laziness, vanity or drug addiction.
I have not been ashamed of talking about my job on dates with women in the past, but I knew I was being judged. A lot of the women I went on dates with don't like the idea of their man doing blue collar work. It doesn't scream reliable income or desirable man as opposed to White Collar workers for a lot of women.
Would rather weed out bad women with transparency than down the road with personal values if we were together even though it sucks regardless
Yes. Majy times. I've worked at McDonald's. Etc. I currently work for uber.
Yeah because I only have an associate's degree and I can't really get a good job unless I have a bachelor's degree. Which sucks because I can't afford to go back to school right now.
I work in a warehouse full time and I do housekeeping for a hospital part time. I honestly believe where I'm at as far as career and education is a major turn off to a lot of men.
When on a date with guys who never been to college, but work jobs like I do, they always say they aren't good enough for me. Then, when on a date with guys who are on my same education level or higher, but work better jobs than me, they act like they're better than me, smarter than me and they accuse me of wanting to use them because I don't have what they have.
I just can't win either way.
A real guy wouldn't judge based on your job. Maybe one day you'll find a real one. They exist I promise.
I hope so. I've been told I'm very different than most people where I'm from. Around here, most people don't really get higher education past high school. Almost A third of the population in my area dropped out of high school and some eventually got their GED. That being said, it's hard to find people to have good conversations with. A lot of people act like I'm a genius or something when I'm really not. I think I just have average intelligence. On the rare chance I do meet someone who can have a normal conversation with me, they look down on me. Sometimes I wish I could move to another area and get a fresh start.
@HawkPerception I agree with this. I never judge anyone based on their job. However sometimes I can't help myself but to think those who work high end jobs are probably dickheads and bitches thinking too highly of themselves and wonder how many people they fucked over to get where they are at, while thinking the lower class job workers are the normal people just trying to get by while being fucked over by the bigger fish. I can never help but to think that. And I think their attitudes usually sway that thinking.
In my opinion you should date someone after the heart and not about the fucking money.
I am proud of my job so not really...
My job is basically something I worked hard for and kinda my hobby. Definitely not where I wanna be, but it's a stepping stone!
And I respect every person's hustle. A job is a job at the end of the day. It is all hard work, dedication and responsibility.
The last time I dated, I admitted to being recently laid off in my online profile (it happened after I started dating). Most women lost interest but one appreciated my honesty more than my money potential. We eventually married.
No I have no shame in what I do because a job is a job unless you can't actually tell them due to the job you have. I can understand why some people would be ashamed but I hold no judgment against anybody because of their job
Yes and no. I'm very proud of what I do but I have to keep some of it on the down low because my work is very dirty and nasty and it could scare some potential suitors off. I don't lie like it if they ask I tell them. Just otherwise I skip the part of we burn garbage and sometimes I have to wade through it to work on our equipment.
I'm am ashamed a little bit but I bring it up anyways. I'm very self aware of where I am in life, the hurdles I've gone through and still are. Maybe it's a lot but I would like to put it all on the table to know how receptive or not my date is to the information. So as to not waste my time or hers.
No, absolutely not, but interestingly, my most prolific dating was when I was in the military or a university student rather than when I've earned the most money.
I hate talking about work on a date.
I’m extremely feminine, so it seems extremely boring and even redundant. Let’s talk about the next new adventure you want to take, your most rewarding life lessons or something..
When a man asks me that, I’m like, “yes, my bills are all paid 🙄”
I've never been ashamed, but I almost always try to make it a little unclear, especially if it's someone I don't yet know well enough to trust.
It's obvious from what I do that I make a lot of money and I don't want to be in a situation where I can't tell if it's me or the money she is after. So I kind of fuzzy it up and downplay a little when talk about what I do. When she asks what I do I have the answer down to a science so it isn't untruthful, but also doesn't say too much. ;)
Oh no! You again? Better to die than be stalked! 😲
How much do you get?
That wasn't what I meant. But anyway, I was right, you are hopelessly crushing on me. Kind of like a bad rash that won't go away.
Hard to be friendly when you are about to die.
My father lived to 98 and my mother is 91 and doing great. Almost everyone in my family lived to their 90s and a few over 100.
But more interesting is that you seem to want to keep the conversation going in spite of your protests. Sorry but I don't date girls who sleep around. ;)
I don’t sleep around. Having a sexual partner is not called sleeping around. Nowadays fwbs, hookup culture is rampant. It’s not uncommon. Unless you live in a tiny Christian town in the Midwest , then yes it’s uncommon.
Your parents living til 90s is not a garuantee that you will also live until 90s. My grandparents died at 96 and 94. But their kids had shorter life spans and more health problems they they did due to differences in environment , amount of physical activity , and food. The world people grew up in 100 years ago was a different environment compared to modern day
Yes, I'm very bitter. I'm so bitter that my dog makes a funny face when he licks my hand.
I was going to respond, but I died.
Yeah but you'd miss the hell out of me. You'd probably cry yourself to sleep for 6 months and become a crack addict to dull the pain.
Do me a favor and stick around. You give me some good chuckles.
You kind of remind me of a foot fungus I had about 30 years ago.
Finally got some kind of normal reaction out of you. I knew that nobody it THAT crazy!
Make love not war. You'll be much happier.
I don't expect to find a good woman when I tell her on our dates "I'm the CEO of Unit1 fiber optics telecommunications, investor, entrepreneur, producer and operations manager, landlord and network marketer" - (assuming I make it this far). In these cases I'm better off just saying "Software test engineer". All gold diggers, entitled princesses and baby trappers can bugger off there and then :D
I'm not ashamed of my job per se, I'm ashamed because besides my boss I'm the only one with a degree and have the same job as my co workers who only have the local equivalent of a highschool diploma.
No i am not. I am such an open book, i can talk about anything.
Nope coz I have an awesome job 😂 depends on the job I guess
Why should I? You shouldn't if you value authenticity from your date.
Are you a sex worker? Cuz your link is kind of suggesting that. Jw
I used to have a well respected profession so it was always nice to feel admiration of that. Now I’ve changed careers I have felt a little worried about being judged at times yes.
No i earn more money than my boyfriend and he's a skilled gardener whilst im packing boxes into boxes. No one should be ashamed of their Job people have gotta do what they've gotta do to pay the bills. As long as its honest work i don't see the issue
I’m not ashamed but I get annoyed. I’m a firefighter/paramedic and EVEYRONE (especially the girls on dates) start asking me all these medical questions but in particular it REALLY annoys me when they ask me what’s the worst I’ve seen. We’re not on that intimate level yet. Maybe one day I’ll bring it up. I usually feed them some shootings I’ve worked but deep down the ones that give me nightmares I keep to myself.
If a chick wants you doesn't matter if you clean shit in toilet she will have you. What it is to be ashmed of.
I've tried countless times to get rid of the woman I have to marry, when they want they are worse than the lice.
"Hell have no fury like a woman scorn"
I work in a health care profession but it doesn't pay well. Despite the training we get. The main person in this role earns so much. Its quite shocking actually that I don't earn even as much as a P. A at the highest level... This industry is governed by protective bodies but they are more interested in getting their pay out then sorting out what's actually right despite knowing these professionals never retire with less than millions as a net worth.
I'm not asking for 50k a year but 35 at the least would be sufficient. To live comfortably.