Have you ever been ashamed of talking about your job to a date?

Question

I don't, but I'm not even too eager to bring up some details. What about you?

SaraSmithishere · Accepted Answer

Hmm... no, but I don't like talking about it.

By trade, I'm a fashion designer, and I studied fashion design in school, but the reality is that unless you're the creative director of a brand or unless you have your own fashion line, the day to day activities of a designer basically include a lot of administrative tasks and helping someone else create their vision. I think a lot of dates get the idea that I sit around all day and come up with cool concepts, but my job is, like, 5% creative. It makes it a lot less exciting when I talk about the reality of what I do, and honestly, I'm not in love with my job and I am considering changing careers, so I try to limit the amount of information I disclose about work.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I work in a health care profession but it doesn't pay well. Despite the training we get. The main person in this role earns so much. Its quite shocking actually that I don't earn even as much as a P. A at the highest level... This industry is governed by protective bodies but they are more interested in getting their pay out then sorting out what's actually right despite knowing these professionals never retire with less than millions as a net worth.
I'm not asking for 50k a year but 35 at the least would be sufficient. To live comfortably.

guesswhoseback · Accepted Answer

As long as you work hard and make enough money to be 100% independent I respect you. I don’t care if you clean toilets, work in fast food, retail or whatever. Work is work.

However I would obviously automatically lose respect for people who work in criminal careers.

I also have zero interest into getting into a relationship with a stripper, full time Instagram model or a sex worker. There are some very rare exemptions to this (she legitimately had no other options or was coerced into it) but most of the time it’s due to laziness, vanity or drug addiction.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I have not been ashamed of talking about my job on dates with women in the past, but I knew I was being judged. A lot of the women I went on dates with don't like the idea of their man doing blue collar work. It doesn't scream reliable income or desirable man as opposed to White Collar workers for a lot of women.

Would rather weed out bad women with transparency than down the road with personal values if we were together even though it sucks regardless

Apope16 · Answer

Yes. Majy times. I've worked at McDonald's. Etc. I currently work for uber.

Purple_Rose · Answer

Yeah because I only have an associate's degree and I can't really get a good job unless I have a bachelor's degree. Which sucks because I can't afford to go back to school right now.

I work in a warehouse full time and I do housekeeping for a hospital part time. I honestly believe where I'm at as far as career and education is a major turn off to a lot of men.

When on a date with guys who never been to college, but work jobs like I do, they always say they aren't good enough for me. Then, when on a date with guys who are on my same education level or higher, but work better jobs than me, they act like they're better than me, smarter than me and they accuse me of wanting to use them because I don't have what they have.

I just can't win either way.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I am proud of my job so not really...

My job is basically something I worked hard for and kinda my hobby. Definitely not where I wanna be, but it's a stepping stone!

And I respect every person's hustle. A job is a job at the end of the day. It is all hard work, dedication and responsibility.

talloak · Answer

The last time I dated, I admitted to being recently laid off in my online profile (it happened after I started dating). Most women lost interest but one appreciated my honesty more than my money potential. We eventually married.

Anon621 · Answer

No I have no shame in what I do because a job is a job unless you can't actually tell them due to the job you have. I can understand why some people would be ashamed but I hold no judgment against anybody because of their job

prettyfacegoodtaste · Answer

I hate talking about work on a date.
I’m extremely feminine, so it seems extremely boring and even redundant. Let’s talk about the next new adventure you want to take, your most rewarding life lessons or something..
When a man asks me that, I’m like, “yes, my bills are all paid 🙄”

perfectchaos · Answer

Yes and no. I'm very proud of what I do but I have to keep some of it on the down low because my work is very dirty and nasty and it could scare some potential suitors off. I don't lie like it if they ask I tell them. Just otherwise I skip the part of we burn garbage and sometimes I have to wade through it to work on our equipment.

WagyuMoo · Answer

I'm am ashamed a little bit but I bring it up anyways. I'm very self aware of where I am in life, the hurdles I've gone through and still are. Maybe it's a lot but I would like to put it all on the table to know how receptive or not my date is to the information. So as to not waste my time or hers.

Avicenna · Answer

No, absolutely not, but interestingly, my most prolific dating was when I was in the military or a university student rather than when I've earned the most money.

RingOfFire · Answer

I've never been ashamed, but I almost always try to make it a little unclear, especially if it's someone I don't yet know well enough to trust.

It's obvious from what I do that I make a lot of money and I don't want to be in a situation where I can't tell if it's me or the money she is after. So I kind of fuzzy it up and downplay a little when talk about what I do. When she asks what I do I have the answer down to a science so it isn't untruthful, but also doesn't say too much. ;)

Unit1 · Answer

I don't expect to find a good woman when I tell her on our dates " I'm the CEO of Unit1 fiber optics telecommunications, investor, entrepreneur, producer and operations manager, landlord and network marketer " - (assuming I make it this far). In these cases I'm better off just saying " Software test engineer ". All gold diggers, entitled princesses and baby trappers can bugger off there and then :D

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm not ashamed of my job per se, I'm ashamed because besides my boss I'm the only one with a degree and have the same job as my co workers who only have the local equivalent of a highschool diploma.

Sofia123sofia · Answer

No i am not. I am such an open book, i can talk about anything.

Nmalinova · Answer

Nope coz I have an awesome job 😂 depends on the job I guess

burlen · Answer

Why should I? You shouldn't if you value authenticity from your date.

kikino · Answer

Are you a sex worker? Cuz your link is kind of suggesting that. Jw

Anonymous · Answer

I used to have a well respected profession so it was always nice to feel admiration of that. Now I’ve changed careers I have felt a little worried about being judged at times yes.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

No i earn more money than my boyfriend and he's a skilled gardener whilst im packing boxes into boxes. No one should be ashamed of their Job people have gotta do what they've gotta do to pay the bills. As long as its honest work i don't see the issue

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not ashamed but I get annoyed. I’m a firefighter/paramedic and EVEYRONE (especially the girls on dates) start asking me all these medical questions but in particular it REALLY annoys me when they ask me what’s the worst I’ve seen. We’re not on that intimate level yet. Maybe one day I’ll bring it up. I usually feed them some shootings I’ve worked but deep down the ones that give me nightmares I keep to myself.

Anonymous · Answer

If a chick wants you doesn't matter if you clean shit in toilet she will have you. What it is to be ashmed of.

Twalli · Answer

I am pretty open about everything to people. Even to friends. I may not bring up the topic myself, but I don't mind talking about it.

Kabluie · Answer

Nah, around here if I say where I work, eyes light up kind of thing. So it's far from ashamed, more like tell me more, and how many dollar signs do I make. You have to be careful too.

whitehide · Answer

I'm passionate about my job, I need to talk about it and somtimes boast about what a great job I've done, because I get no compliments from other by doing my job. I sometimes hate my job and I sometimes love it, but I've rarely been ashamed of it.

Likes2drive · Answer

Not really but it’s not that impressive to some women

thrombis · Answer

I don't like too. Makes me feel like they are a gold digger at my age.

pervertedjester · Answer

Nope I just show them this vid  Breaks the ice and cloaks my job in mystery.

yucychan · Answer

I don't understand your question. Why should I be ashamed of talking about my job? What kind of job are your referring to?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I'm completely broke, just got out of the mental hospital, and I was given a bunch of pills. Who wouldn't be ashamed? I'm a mess.

JCT666 · Answer

I'm a security officer, while I'm not ashamed of my job, the pay is shit and it has been an issue for dates that I've had in the past. I think because these women that I was dating were training lawyers and nurses.

Peaches956 · Answer

Not necessarily ashamed, but I didn’t want the guy or guys to feel intimidated.

Mr_longLegz · Answer

I'm not ashamed of my job, but I do try not to talk about it right away or much. Sometimes people get the wrong idea or I think I'm able to do things or willing to do things that I can't/won't do.

msc545 · Answer

I usually don't talk about my job to other people because I found that many times it frightens them, or, they want to ask me a million questions about it and quite honestly I don't particularly like talking about it.

S8nBam · Answer

I never tell anyone what I actually do. It came from. a job where I wasn't actually allowed to, then it just stuck. I actually find, making out i don't have a great job works in my benefit

Darcia · Answer

No because I know that’s a way for me to earn money and if they don’t like it then they can leave.

BCA6010 · Answer

Ashamed no, but not a topic I like to talk about because it's pretty boring past the surface.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Lol no. But I don't have a job... plus I live with my boyfriend..

offendedsorbet · Answer

Not ashamed but it's annoying having to explain to people that I don't have a set finish time

Drakkith · Answer

Well, I'm a disabled vet who can't really work, so, yeah...

Angie221994 · Answer

I don’t have a problem with it. I work as a PA in a hospital. However, I have to watch what I say about my job since some people are easily squeamish.

josephinelcajon · Answer

Never I have always been very proud of the companies that I have worked for!

TessCasie · Answer

I try to not talk about it. Especially if I sense he isn’t doing better than me.

bolverk · Answer

No, I'll answer questions if asked, though I doubt that my date would be very interested in heavy engineering!

Anonymous · Answer

I can honestly say that I've never once given a crap about a woman's job. Of course, from your update, I've also never gone on a date with a sex worker. That'd probably be a bridge too far for me.

sheikalana · Answer

Not at all. I have a pretty successful career nothing to be ashamed of.

Gedaria · Answer

No. I tell her and usually she says , oh I would love to see your work shop. Why I don't know , it's dusty and smelly.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

At timds cuz you never know if the girl exspects you to be a lawyer or doctor an thats the only type she dates

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No. No one who isn't freeloading or law-breaking should not be ashamed of of how he/she earns his/her own way through life.

jamesgoldman · Answer

No, well maybe given it is my go-to subject of conversation

The_Outlaw · Answer

No. It's a good paying job but I wouldn't speak much of it. It's kind of a headache momentarily.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Never; and if you have to be, you shouldn't be with that person.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

only a little... cuz my last job... i didn't make much money at... and i won't sugar coat that

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No.  Nevertheless I talk about my job only if I'm asked.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Huh sure that is the question men tend to hate answering a lot. Just like women tend to hate questions regarding their age.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Maybe if my job is a but unorthodox or one that doesn't make a lot of money.

Fuego_exe · Answer

Nah arson is great! Makes for some hot conversations!

pleasestopthis · Answer

No, I never felt ashamed of my job

jimmy2 · Answer

Very true some jobs are bad for example portal potties

Anonymous · Answer

No. But I'm ashamed of how much I was making.

DarkFashionBeauty · Answer

I'm a lunch lady so I doubt it'll woo them.

locutus9999 · Answer

i don't speak about job... neither money...

Have you ever been ashamed of talking about your job to a date?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Have you ever had a job that you were embarrassed by?

Have you ever been ashamed of talking about your job to a date?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Have you ever had a job that you were embarrassed by?

We're glad to see you liked this post.