What would you do if you had an abhorrent admirer?

[Ozanne]

I once had an abhorrent admirer, and he eventually sexually assaulted me. I don't even know how many times I told him prior to that that I wasn't interested, but it was definitely more than about ten times. He came over one night and asked me to let him in my apartment just to talk and to say goodbye. I thought (stupidly) that he was genuine, since that's all I wanted, and he knew it -- the goodbye part.

People are unpredictable and can be dangerous. My advice is to just ignore, ignore, ignore. Block if you need to, and don't give in to anything, even if you're "just trying to be nice" or "you don't want to hurt the person". And those people who are being harassed shouldn't tell someone to leave them alone, only to call *them* the next day - even just to check up on them and see if they're okay. NO. Just IGNORE them. Don't send mixed messages, and there is no need to lose control over it. Just ignore, block, and document it if it persists - because you never know if you have to make it a police issue. Eventually people tire of not being recognized as that's all these types of people want -- attention. If they don't get it from one person, they eventually move on to someone else to get what they need.

[AlienParasite]

This has never happened to me, or at least that I've been aware. I suppose I'd ignore the person if it's possible. If it's not I'm unsure how to proceed, I guess I would adapt my answer according to how inappropriate their behavior is.

What is you admirer doing to be creepy?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'd go right up to her and say "this is happening now, or it's never happening" and I'd take her into a hotel room and yoke her up. I'd have my fingers exploring her Panama canal, I'd have my thumb in her ass, I'd fuck her so good like she wasn't even expecting. I'd make the bitch feel like she were in a movie. We'd get food, we'd be watching the free movies.

And then I'd leave a hundred bucks on the counter and tell her I've had better and I'm pretty sure I'd never have to worry about seeing her again.

[MCheetah]

No woman could be too creepy for me, unless he wasn't a "woman." True story: I once had some random skinny blonde girl, off her meds, get my number somehow, and wanted to stalk me, including sending me nudes and pictures of her genitals. I managed to creep her out into ghosting me in less than two days! :) In fact, I think this question can only apply to women and good looking/unavailable men.

[SphynxUK]

I have had a couple of these actually. Thankfully a few were online so I could block them and their endless new accounts, (repeatedly).


Another had found me online, and it transpired they worked in the same place as me. It was horrendous. I didn’t realise it was stalking until someone pointed it out to me. His behaviour was sickening despite me making it clear I wasn’t interested and never would be. Had to report him to my manager in the end. Even then it didn’t die out.

[InferiorElegy]

I don't believe females could ever be called creepy, I've never heard any guy refer to a girl as such, I also don't think I would do anything, I'd be lucky to even have this kind of admirer.

I've heard girls laughing at how creepy a guy is just because of his looks. I'm sure there are a lot of females if not all at one point in their lives have called a guy creepy just because of his looks and nothing more.

[Cherokeehp]

It’s happened plenty of times. I tell em to fuck off and if they persist anyway then I call my friends so I can have some back up.

[dawsonnata]

Nothing. I wouldn't give a single crap. I don't have time for nonsense

[Angelo75]

Define what you find abhorrent in this admirer of yours.

[Fuentes]

I'd probably smash her then dipp out and block her only if she's baad but if she's ugly and creepy then I'd just let her like me from a distance lol

[loveslongnails]

I'd remake her into a beautiful creature and live with her forever !!

[msc545]

Sorry, can you be a bit clearer about what you mean by this?

[KayAsh]

Uuuuh bud... if that girl looks abhorrent to you, you sure you like girls?

[lightbulb27]

scare them off. that's just frightening.

[Gwenhwyfar]

How abhorrent are we talking?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t really run people off

[Wise4myage]

Id ignore her and give off negative vibes.

[Itsroxxie]

That girl looks pretty...

[Doflamingo1]

Nothing.