What does it mean when a guy says that he has a lot going on right now?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’ve been seeing for three weeks told me that he has a lot going on and I need to find someone my own age. He also said that he should probably date someone his own age. He assumed that I would want kids and start a family. Which he doesn’t want. I told him I don’t want kids. Then he said well an ex girlfriend called and doesn’t know what to do. Though I noticed that he still is active on his dating profile. I feel maybe I messed up because I was the one initiating all the messages and asking to see him. So I told him to call me when he decides what he wants. Does he just not know what he wants? Or is this an excuse because he doesn’t want a relationship?

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I feel like he’s telling me what I should do. I don’t want to date someone my age. I have no interest in that. He never asked if I want kids or what I want in the future. He just assumed. Why say he needs time to decide what he wants? Why not just say I’m not interested?

[WesBrewer]

that is an excuse because he doesn't want the relationship.

[Asker]

Doesn’t want any relationship or just doesn’t want a relationship with me?

[WesBrewer]

Probably in general with a bit of he especially doesn't want you, you said he was 18 years older than you right? if that is right then it shouldn't be that big of a deal.

[Anonymous]

He have no time for a woman at the moment right now his life is going good.

[Asker]

Then why is he still searching online for a date if he doesn’t have time.

[Opinion Owner]

He's probably not interested in you.

[Asker]

He could of just said that instead of making excuses.

[Opinion Owner]

He did in a technical way but you just ignored the sign (He also said that he should probably date someone his own age.)

[Asker]

That just sounds like an excuse to me. Especially when he said he doesn’t know what to do. That just gives me false hope that actually is deciding what he wants. Also he shouldn’t agree to call me when he decides. He should just tell me that he’s already made up his mind. That he’s not interested.

[Ilickvulvas]

Are you really this stupid? HE ISN'T INTERESTED

[Asker]

Why make up an excuse? Just say I’m not interested.

[summiter]

He is making excuses

[Asker]

That was my first thought. I don’t know why he can’t just say I’m not interested. What’s the point of making excuses?

[summiter]

I agree... time to move on. He will have to get use to masturbating frequently again!

[Anonymous]

He wants out of the relationship

[Asker]

Why can’t he just say that? Why give me false hope? I figured give him space and not contact him to see what happens.