Girls, Do you find a taken man more attractive?

Question

Whenever I’m in. Relationship I suddenly get unwanted female attention

SnowyOwl · Accepted Answer

NO, i personally dont.
I want the couple to strive, and I would even question the guy (even if they were my friend) if he suggested we hang out, and it would be just us two. Not that I dont trust ourselves, but I know it may be uncomfortable for the girlfriend, and obviously not the best conditions to ensure no misbehaviour... Again, I trust myself, but I also know its wiser to not set yourself for failure.

I know it happens (maybe too much) that girls get attracted to taken men. ANd honestly, you dont wanna date a girl like this. It just seems like they would have their eyes on someone else even if they were in a relationship. And it seems to me that they're the kind of person to want to leave you whenever they "find someone better".
But did they ever really love you if they think there is someone "better"?

Yea, i really dislike girls like that, and guys ilke that for that matter... They just dont have the right standards and values to live by... Yes "right values" is what i mean. If yuo base your values on fundamental principles, then its easy to see we should all have the same basic values because as humans we have all the same basic needs. The need for security is one of them, and from that derives emotional security.
For this reason I value the character traits of integrity, reliability, self-discipline (among other things) and I look for these things in my potential partner. Maybe I look for that in my friends as well, but is most important to me that my partner has those traits because I can't control the way everyone is in this world, and yes there are people with low standards and values that will cross our paths, but at least I can ensure that my partner and I are a solid unit, because I choose my partner. That is very important for the success of a romantic relationship.

So I wish you the best and hopefully you dont stay around these low standard people. Don't hesitate to be direct in communicating to them whatever behaviour bothers you. Or keep it really simple and tell them to keep away. Its not mean to be clear. It takes courage and its very respectable in my opinion.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

"Whenever I’m in. Relationship I suddenly get unwanted female attention"
Really? You should write a mytake about this.
I never have felt this way, I wouldn't know if this is true, or what it's about. I pretty much stay away from guys in relationships, unless it's a business connection I have with them. Or you can be friends and make it clear that's all it is, then you can have a wide variety of people in your life.

But one thing does come to mind - I have seen that the 'best catches' - what I think are the nicest people (I'm not talking about status, or money, or any of that stuff), but kind, wise, ones with their shit together/life more in order, and sometimes even happier people... are often in relationships. That is not to say that shitty people aren't also in relationships. I see lots of them too, and relationships I do not envy or in any way want to be in. So it's possible there's no pattern at all here, and it's just a case of us humans being biologically wired to look for patterns (and often see them, when none actually exist.) I asked a q once here, to what do people attribute the reason for those who are in relationships? I gave multiple choice options. Here's the results, if you're interested Of the people you know who are in 'happy' or 'successful' committed relationships, to what do you credit this?

Maybe girls are more warm to you then, not because they are attracted and are angling to get into a relationship with you because you look desirable having been chosen, but because they feel you are then 'safe', and they can legit be friends, or friendly, with you, without any romantic complications.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If a guy is taken - not only will he be off limits, but he will also be less attractive to me because I lose the potential to claim exclusive romantic ownership of him which is something I need to feel genuine interest in a guy that is anything beyond friendship. I have friends who make me laugh 80 times an hour with their jokes but I have no romantic desire for them whatsoever because they’ve never pursued me or bought me flowers and I don’t believe that they belong to me in an exclusive way.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

No the only "taken" man I'd want is the one "taken" by me... Why would I want someone else's man or husband.. Even if they were down with it, that'd be even more of a turn off, cuz that would show their lack of respect for their partner and relationships altogether...

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I don't think a taken man is more attractive than one who isn't.

There was only ONE time I have EVER felt like a taken man was more attractive, & that was when I was serving this amazingly adorable Russian couple in the upscale restaurant I used to work at.
I had NEVER seen or heard a man so devoted & loving towards his woman before. When I would ask a question, he would always look her dead in the eye & call her his "love", repeat my question to her, & always asked if she was in need of something when I reached the table, I didn't even have to ask if they wanted a refill as he was the one who asked if she wanted another glass of wine. He left for the restroom and I commented on how adorable they were and she nonchalantly told me, "He's been like that since we first met," but the love she held in her eyes for him is something to strive for. She then left for the restroom, he asked about desserts and he told me how much he loved her. When she came back he had the gull to ask me, "Isn't she the most beautiful woman you've ever see?"... I have never been so jealous in my life. Plus he was a very generous tipper 75% of the bill!

Anonymous · Answer

Once I find out someone has a girlfriend or married I lose complete interest. Even online.. there’s this streaming website.. the single guys have a ton a TON of viewers as oppose to the taken ones.
one guy in particular that I think he’s so cute, he said once he put he had a girlfriend, his daily visits to his page dropped drastically!! And he lost money so he now puts his single and so I think he’s lying (about being single) after he said this so even though it says he is single now I don’t really visit his page anymore only like once in a big while I’ll go just to see what’s up in there if I’m really that bored.. because he only says he’s single now cause he saw the drop in women visiting his page and that meant lost money too..

so as I am sure there are a percentage of pathetic women who ARE only interested in taken men are usually girls who can’t keep a boyfriend and just desperate to fee that a taken man prefers then and they get off on that but that percent of women is drastically lower than the percent that prefers and feels more attracted to single men.

maybe one theory I have that you “feel” more attention when you’re taken perhaps lays on the fact that men become a bit more confident when they have a girlfriend and it shows! and women are in general attracted to confidence and thus you end up attracting a bit more women when you’re taken making you think it’s cause you’re taken but that’s not the reason.. it’s just the fact that your confidence has boosted at least a bit.. and girls feel the attraction there and not cause you already have someone.

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

No, more like less attractive by now.
This is after an early experience feeling very bad crushing on a guy, who had a girlfriend whom I also liked and cared about. Plus after having many men flirt with me even though they had a girlfriend, which they would not say until way too late. One waited a whole month before saying anything, where some emotions had already developed.
However, in general I feel better being very friendly and get along well with men in relationships since I feel more sure that they do not think of me in a sexual way and might suddenly hit on me.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Yes but I would never be involved with someone who is committed. If they tried to initiate something I would shut them down - especially if they have kids. I would never want to be the reason for someone’s relationship to be destroyed or ruin some children’s lives. I don’t want to be the woman that some other woman curses for ruining her marital bliss and for children to be separated from their father. It’s wrong.

heatherlou · Answer

As soon as I find out a man is taken, he becomes a non sexual entity to me.

In ways, I possibly grow closer to the guy - but I have no interest in developing anything other than a friendship with him. And seen as we both know that that's all that will be in the cards, it becomes so much easier.

1983mommyof4 · Answer

It should never be that way. If a guy is in a relationship, he shouldn't automaticly be attractive to other women. When I was single, I never got involved with a taken man. And if I was lied to and told he was single on a date, I would contact the other woman and let her know. But, now that I'm married, I've found there's a small few who will try to cling to my husband even knowing he's married. So, though there's not a lot, stay away from those females because that shows lack of respect towards you.

lilyanony1 · Answer

A taken man is usually more confident unless he's successful in a lot of areas in his life including his sex life...
Where as others tend to be a little more unsure if even slightly.
That is what makes a man attractive. That safety net. Which in some cases they take advantage of.

TayTay21 · Answer

No, it's just that most of the best men are already taken because they are so desirable. I got with my current boyfriend when he was still with his ex. He hasn't been single since he was like 15 because he's got so much going for him. But I didn't go after him because he was with someone. I went after him because I wanted him. I actually hated that there was any sort of negativity around us getting together.

missy52 · Answer

It makes you wonder why that person was desireable to the other person so ypu build up this image of them in your head. Plus, when someone's in a relationship, at least in the early stages, they start to take care of themselves more which is very appealing.

JEndigoBleue · Answer

I noticed I'm attracted to married men.

It is not that I seek them out or want someone's husband. I'm attracted to their aura (settle, nurturing, etc) unbeknownst to me that they are married until I look to see if they are wearing a ring. If they are, I stop looking at them and erase the thought of them out of my mind.

A married man is off limits.

Royalqueen25 · Answer

No I don't in that way. I find them attractive it doesn't mean i want to be in relationship it means I appreciate and judge an compare the qualities with my future husband. Like whom he would be like and just imagine. Thinking of a taken men is wrong it couldn ruin his relationship an would hurt his partner

taeh_ie2 · Answer

I think some girls do that cuz It’s kinda like a forbidden fruit, guess makes it more exciting. But personally I don’t do that and not trynna fuck up someone’s relationship.

IveGotNoName · Answer

No. However I have a theory on why some women do. It could be because they actually see and hear about how he is in a relationship. Like a sample of what they could "get" from him. But I don't know correct me if you think I'm wrong😂

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I find it to be repelling. The idea that at the end of each day his mouth is on her vagina is enough to make me disinterested. I have had crushes on guys who are in relationships but that’s before I knew they had girlfriends. I would have found them attractive them with or without their relationship status BUT the idea that they are in one always keeps me from entertaining any thoughts of connection. Theyre just eye candy

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

In a way, yes but at the same time no xD Yes because he seems to be boyfriend material (obviously because he's taken) but no because I usually lose interest if I see he's with someone already.

proNutro · Answer

No! Not at all! I stay very far from men in relationships or even if they’re just involved with someone. S

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all, though if i find a guy that gets a lot of female attention i would find him interesting. But not every married man or so. Sometimes i find them even repulsive if they are married and try to flirt with other women

JosyJosy · Answer

No, there's no point in going after him. And if charms can make him drop his girlfriend, that means he can do the same thing to me with the next girl, so no

Anonymous · Answer

No.

Some women would say it means he's passed some sort of an evaluation. But that means nothing. For all I know the woman who he's with could have the poorest ideas towards a reasonable man or fucks anyone with a dick for a month.

fonduegirl · Answer

I don't find them attractive because they're taken. I happen to think they're worth dating because all the traditional dating stuff I'm bored of? I think he's too. So let's just get down to business.

Max1000AD · Answer

The girl can be more beautiful than a guy. We smell better also more clean. Guys do not clean themselves like a girls. We some tim e making are you gorgeous.

blondie1234567 · Answer

Depends. If he's in a relationship with a man then no cos I can't compete 😭

nella965 · Answer

i think many would find them attractive. but not me. i have seen the worst men be married men

Minahh · Answer

It doesn't make him more attractive to me. Ngl lie I've been attracted to men relationships but that's not because they were taken it's because they were my type.

Just_Me89 · Answer

No, I don't find taken men more attractive. I'm either attracted to a person or not, status isn't important.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I mean most of my crushes were gay or taken but I didn't find them more attractive because of that.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

No. Do I find want the cart someone at the super market already has or do I want my own?

TheLastLady · Answer

Most women will lie about this one. The taken man is more attractive somehow, yes

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