I belive the only mistake here was that he paid in full then got butthurt and asked for half the check.
Personally I would never go back on paying the check but at I wouldn't jump to pay it too early. I'd ask the question about another date long before we get the check and if it seems like it's not gonna happen most girls (in fact all I've been in this situation with) would offer to pay for their half but assuming they don't I'd still just take the bill and see how much my meal cost which should tell her that it's time to pay for her share.
That being said, I have a specific type in women, that's the strong independant type. Those women would actually fight over who pays the check and while I wouldn't let them pay all of it on a date and eventually agree to have it split or use it as a tactic, where if she pays for food I'll get us some desert and so the date might extend as we go to grab desert on me.
Either way girls with double standards who want to be a princess when convenient and ask for equal rights when convenient as well are notnmy type and I wouldn't even go on a lunch or dinner date with them.
Unfortunately, women do this kind of stuff all the time to get a free meal, but usually, they are smart enough to ghost the guy AFTER the date he has paid for. Ghosting him during the date can lead to a demand for them to pay their fair share, and women know this.
The rest of the guys who butted in are simply white knights, looking to ingratiate themselves with the girl and hoping for a phone number or more. They all take her side and some offer to help her which is not done because they are nice people.
I usually stay away from this question, because I think people make such a big deal out of that when there's more than one simple solution to this problem...
*Go by the who asks, pays
*Agree ahead of time to go Dutch
*Don't have a first date at a restaurant where you dropping $80+ - have first meet that's a cup of coffee or a walk in the park or a picnic-and save the fancy dinner date for if you both feel the connection...
But, a dinner date shouldn't come with expectation that there will be a connection on either part or expectation of sex... When you go on a date with too many expectations, maybe that's what's killing the date, the connection 🤷🏼♀️
While I think it’s a very nice gesture if he pays, I actually prefer to go dutch in the beginning. Because in the early stages you don’t know the person, you don’t know what they’re looking for or their motives or if you’re even compatible. If not, going dutch is best because then the guy doesn’t have to feel obligated to buy me dinner if he has no intention of seeing me again, and I don’t have to feel guilty about not wanting to see him again if I let him pay for my meal. I’m very capable of paying my own way and I’m fine with doing so.
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In regards to dating I take a traditional approach personally if I take someone out whether it's a potential partner, my current partner a friend or a family member whoever I will always pay if I asked you out or am taking you out.
Now if they asked me out or are taking me out, regardless of who it is then I'm fine with us splitting it or them paying, whatever they want to do.
I dont understand why women take offense of it. Just pay and if you feel butt hurt just don't see him again. Why making a fuss
I'd always offer to pay my half
Pretty sure those are different men complaining about "equal rights for dating" (whatever the fuck THAT means) and saying that the dude should pick up the bill.
Also, a hot blonde with tits like that has a lot of dating options. A LOT of options. Not surprisingly, the a guy is going to want to do whatever he can to tip the odds in his favor. Most would agree that picking up the tab isn't a huge sacrifice given what's potentially at stake.
This is exactly why a first date isn't supposed to be expensive! Go out for coffee or smoothies or froyo.
If the idea is to pay for yourselves, then say so ahead of time. Don't ask; make the declaration as a statement of fact.
Personally I don't mind paying for a first date, because it will be something like mentioned above. $10-20 max total for me and her.
i've been on a date where it was made clear that she didn't want a relationship at this time. so we fucked anyways and ended up friends
I don't know i think first dates should be listening to bauhaus or something. But yeah offering to pay is cool.
I like John Kinyonays (sp). this is a good feature
I don't know if I would always have the same reaction to viewing a scene like this. It might depend on which actor was more sympathetic. It would also be important to know if they discussed the bill prior to the date.
well, complaining doesn't mean he took her rights ( men complaining is useless ).
and when the man realizes that complaining won't benefit him he says "fu*k it then she should pay as she wants equal rights".
- better not to complain in the first place XD
Haha! Dude is just trying to get it in.
That's all. He sees the opportunity.
Because they're not equal, that's why. If they actually had "equal rights in dating" then they wouldn't feel obligated to do those things. Choosing to do something different anyway wouldn't unfuck the situation. You conform because it's your best shot at good outcomes in spite of the disadvantage.
Don't generalize, a lot of women are happy to pay the bill or at least going dutch so they don't feel indebted or pressured. I myself prefer to pay for my own meal.
This lady was being a drama queen, if she didn't want to meet him again then the least she can do is paying half, but some women still think "gentlemen should pay". And what do you think of men who always refuse when the lady suggests to pay her half? There are still a lot of guys with this kind of mindset.
i dont get where this happens. Every date I've ever been on, the girl has offered to pay for her stuff.
It matters not. I always pay my own way. Always have.
She has an amazing pair of tits. I would be thinking about what I need to say and do to get my hands and mouth on them.
I think this only happens in America. In the UK people split the cheque as standard.
I would do whatever the girl wants, if she wants me to pay the bill it wouldn't be an issue if, and if she wants me to split the bill it would be no problem?
Personally, I will split the bill every time until we get actually close and I feel like offering her something because of the feelings I have for her. I don't want to be a glorified ticket for free meals/drinks.
While I think the woman's being a little drama queen, I also think it reflects poorly on him somewhat, that is if he asked her out, he should pay right? Then again, my belief system also goes like "if he's too awkward to initiate, I must !"
Well I don't like how he was rude. He could just say "two checks please" he doesn't have to be like "YOU OWE ME" thats lame
i don't. i think splitting the bill sould definitely be a thing. her time is not worth more than mine.
