I've made so much progress but for some reason I still consider myself a loser? Will I ever be able to get over it and how?

[Anonymous]

In the past 2 years I've made tremendous progress. I went from being a obese guy to slightly fit and currently working on becoming ripped/shredded. I have a strict diet plan, a new life style, no cheat days, my mind in the game 100%.
I've never really had a girlfriend (real girlfriend) until 2020 when with the help of Tinder I had my first serious relationship and it lasted about 6 months and had several dates.
So you must think: why do you still consider yourself a loser, right?
Well, first of all, I'm 27, I'm balding (badly, but not critical yet) and I still live with my parents; I don't have a driver license yet (working on it right now) and financially I'm rather on the poor side, not even average. I have a stable job, a decent salary, but yeah, my parents never really had much so overall I'd say we are on the poor side, not by much, but still.
Also, the girls I dated and even the girl I was with were not exactly the prettiest girls in the world, in fact in most cases I wasn't even attracted to them physically but having such low self esteem (it's a big higher now but not by much), I did not even consider looks to begin with. I would date any girl regardless of her looks if she was slightly interested in me.
Also, my first and last girlfriend had a kid from a previous relationship. I honestly doubt she would have dated me if she was single. Most of the time I had the feeling she's only interested in me because I seemed willing to accept her kid.
I quit Tinder and other dating apps after my first and last relationship and now I'm honestly not even considering it because I find it hard to believe that a decent girl would even pay attention to me. If anything I'm a loser compared to 90% of the other guys. I cannot offer a girl what most guys can.
Sometimes I feel like I should just give up on that thought and try to be happy regardless. I have God, I have my family, I have my friends, that should be enough.
Any advice?

[Selene1600000]

You’re not a loser you’ve actually done hard things health, discipline, job but your mindset hasn’t caught up with your progress. Right now the issue isn’t women, it’s that you undervalue yourself and then accept anything, which leads to poor matches and reinforces the belief so raise your standards while continuing to improve license, independence, finances, social life. You don’t need to offer more than most guys, you need to become stable, confident, and selective then date from self-respect instead of fear of being alone.

[wellDayum]

You're not a loser, you have a different story from everyone else, you came from a different or maybe a difficult place, but judging yourself and comparing yourself to others will not help you in any way