Stop focusing on getting a partner, and start focusing on personal growth. Stick with group activities for now. Join an organization that promotes an interest of yours or a cause you believe in. Take on a role of responsibility. You'll find it easier to function if you have a structure. The role will give you that structure. That way, every time you do one thing it will give you confidence to do the next, and your self-esteem will grow. People will see you in action and admire your accomplishments. You can also accomplish this by doing volunteer work or finding an internship in the area you are studying. As you move forward, the rest of your life will fall into place. Focus on being a person, not a receptacle.
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You have to learn to love and validate and define yourself with your own thoughts and opinions and make sure that you are been a good friend to yourself, that you are taking care of you and acting in your own best interests etc.
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I was once the same way. At 19, I was going nowhere, both career-wise and social-wise, and considering suicide. At 21, I ended up getting a better job in another part of the state, and left my old world behind. I started doing things I always wanted to do, like ice skating lessons, and other things. It all expanded my horizons, and gave me a feeling of accomplishment and self-confidence. Talking to people became easier along the way, and I eventually ended up getting married. I’ll always be a nerd, but I don’t care anymore. I can look you in the face and say “Hi!”, and usually the other person gets uncomfortable and looks away.
You just need to focus on yourself right now. Do something that interests you and expands your horizons, like ice skating, dance lessons, artwork, horseback riding, archery, as examples. Along the way, you’ll meet new people, and have things to talk about. It all just kind of falls into place.I’d love to help you out but there’s just way too much on your plate for someone on this website to dissect. I think it’s better to go back to therapy. People can throw out all these suggestions but unless they’ve walked in similar shoes they don’t realize how hard it is to do all the things they’re suggesting. I’m sure even you could tell someone to do what many of these answers have said to do. Saying it is one thing, but doing it is another. You need therapy to help you get to the top of these feelings, where they all stem from, how to cope w them when they are at their highest point, then how to maneuver around them to be productive in the way you want to. I don’t know if that would require taking some medications, which I don’t like but that’s not up to me. It’s more complex then coming online asking strangers for advice. I wish you the best, you’re still very young, I’d hate for you to be like this the rest of your life.
Step 1. Stop caring what people think.
Step 2. Write down everything you enjoy doing.
Step 3. Do those things.
Step 4. Find a guy who likes doing those things too.
Step 5. Pick one of your hobbies to earn an income from.You are in university. You are not a loser. You want even remember this 💩 at 25. Screw what Social etc think. Focus on Nuclear Engineering, Physics, Analytical Mathematics, or whatever. Your feminine nature is your Strength.
Stop caring about what other people think. Love yourself first. If you don't love yourself people will see that. In order to be a good friend to someone you have to be your own friend. Do things that make you happy, not what makes other people happy.
You are 19. You are still very young. How can you be a "loser" when you didn't even get started with anything yet. Relax and take it easy. You are just getting started with being an adult you are not 35 in your parents basement relax.
You have to stop thinking of yourself as a loser. You are not a loser. Play to your strengths and try to improve on things you are interested in.
You need to get away from them and their negativity
what are you talking about society is retard GOD Christ is above the dome
Find a better therapist.
I think you should go back to therapy
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