I don’t know how to change my mindset that I’m failing in life and how to feel better?

[Anonymous]

Im really struggling with the fact that I’m now down to being 2 out of My 8 close friend group Not married or engaged or really in a serious relationship with a decent person at 27. I broke down crying today I picked myself up but it still sucks. I live with my parents right now trying to
Buy property and pay off student loans. I just accepted a higher position starting at 75k and I hear a lot of people say I make a lot and im doing well in my career but I feel like I’m behind still. I forgot to take my depression meds so I know that definitely plays a part in why I’ve been more sad. The one guy I really liked told me he didn’t feel comfortable being in a relationship unless we moved in together so I’m just over it all.

[ChiTown33]

If you compare yourself to others you'll NEVER be happy. It's OK to be envious of other people a little bit. But thier journey is not yours. Take it from someone who spent 40 of the first years of his life doing this. I don't regret it, because it drove me to achieve what I have in life. But I was needlessly unhappy for all those years. Don't do this to yourself. You ask me now and every day really is the best day of my life. Life is a journey and it's SHORT! Don't waste it being needlessly unhappy.

[Anonymous]

I hear you! 26-28 was like my crisis era, especially watching all my friends move on and I felt so stagnant and lonely, it sucked. All I can really say is that you are on no one else’s time but your own, and I know it’s easier said than done but stop focusing on other people’s life course rather than yours, because that’s the quickest way to spiral into depression. I've learned over time that you can’t count on the milestone moments like marriage, motherhood, blissful relationships, etc, to make you truly happy. You find little things in life that make you feel good now, and altogether they create a life you can be excited about. You’re not in a relationship because it’s just not your time, and that’s ok! Readjust your focus to find fulfillment on your own, then the rest will fall into place when it’s time.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

First you need to calm down. I learned writing things down and reading them out loud works.

Write your goals very clearly on a piece of paper and repeat them out loud daily for about 2 to 3 weeks.

It helps greatly boosting confidence and helps you to achieve your goals.

It's not going to happen overnight. Everything is a process and takes time. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

If you knew my life story, you would be happy of yourself

[Opinion Owner]

I want to change my mindset too... feeling suicidal every day doesn't even give you time to think about fixing your mindset