I'd barely consider you chubby.
I like chubby girls so ithink you look great.
Now what he said, that was toxic, he's basiclly pointed out, before your relationship has even begun, that his feelings for you are conditional and he gave you an ultimatum, loose weight or I won't date you.
You said you won't let him make you feel bad about yourself, I'm glad you recognize that's what he's doing. You dont need that negativity in your live.
If your cute little belly never bothered you enough to get rid of it before dont get rid of it now for this asshole, I know you like him but he's being an ass.
I was telling a female friend i use to have once what features i thought were sexiest on woman, her replie was. . .
"This isn't build a bitch" so maybe keep that in mind, he accepts you how you are, and if he can't then no deal.
Frankly senss its impossible for you too ever forget that he said that before you were even dating, I think his shot is already over.
He might be trying what they call a Jedi mind trick on you it's psychological warfare or he is just as clueless as you are (no offense) you are not chubby you have curves there's a difference the only time your chubby is when the doctor takes your blood and your levels are elevated any category the guy is showing his inexperience your hormones are working for you they're giving you a curve enjoy it but don't be Reckless with it
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It can be very difficult for some to get a flat stomach, it has a lot to do with bodytype, and you are still a teen filled with hormones and evolving. It is not the time to work on adjusting something minor and go on a diet. Most guys do not mind or even like a little tummy. It is that boy's problem that he cannot look past it, don't make it yours.
Okay thanks
You know what give me the guy's name I will straighten his fucking ass out real quick he's playing a dangerous game with you tell him he's not even experienced enough to wipe his own nose. By the way you got the nice love handles when you're with the right man you'll find out what that means meanwhile peace out.
Oh honey, if he needs you to “lose weight” to be with him, then you don’t need him. I sense that he will never be satisfied and will keep trying to change you to fit his needs. It’s weight now- what’s next. Yk?
Yeah I get it, but I really like him and honestly this is the first guy that's ever asked me out and honestly I dont wanna lose that but yeah
He may be the first, but he won't be the last.
Don't be so anxious.
Okay fine I'll tell him my answer is no then
Tell him to "take his broke ass self and broke ass looking Payless Shoes" and show him the door don't come back no more and as he is walking out the door you show him all the things he doesn't own. Sorry if I'm too real for you I just found out A friend of mine has cancer so I'm in a foul mood this morning.
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u If that picture is you, I would never call you chubby. Any guy who expects you to achieve perfection before he will consider dating you is an absolute jerk of the highest order. If you want a flat tummy, do it for you, not him. . . and then find someone else who will treat you better.
Don't do it!
If you give in to him and start to change yourself to please a dumbass selfish arrogant little turd that has the unmitigated gall to tell you to change because you're not good enough to be with him as you are...😡... heeellll no! Once you compromise on demand he'll never stop.
***Here's an important life lesson: the one who cares least for the relationship is the one with the power.***
This is not to be used to manipulate others but to protect yourself.
He's making demands that you change. Screw him. Just because you like him doesn't mean he's a good guy. Why would you attach yourself to a guy that doesn't think you're good enough for him? He's manipulating you.
Please don't fall for this sack of offal.
If you want to exercise and change your body, do it for you. Don't go running back to him begging for his approval. You'll only be giving him another opportunity to insult you more.
Just focus on being the best you that you can be, love yourself because you are worthy of it, and have the patience to wait for a partner that will appreciate you for being you.
Screw him!
With that picture you provided, you don't even know what "chubby" means. And I used to date someone who is chubby. Gave it a shot of dating her for her and not her body. It was a mistake on my end. As a person who is in very good shape, I have the right to put up a standard of wanting someone who is in good shape aswel. So I got me someone who is in good shape. Also, here are some more accurate picture to what a chubby girl looks like:
A woman doesn't need to have a 6 pack and flat and all that to be beautiful and attractive.
I'm going to use the girl in the photo as an example, there's nothing physically unattractive from her in my mind. She has a nice overall shape and her legs are good, she has wide hips which isn't an issue.
I wouldn't date a girl that was obese though, that I don't find attractive but I would date a girl that doesn't have a stomach like an ironing board. She just had to be beautiful and a great personality
I guess it would depend on how chubby. If by "chubby" you mean like the girl in the picture, then I don't consider that chubby at all. She looks great, in my opinion.
But yeah, at a certain point it can be too much. So if I didn't find her attractive, I wouldn't date her. But even if I thought she was too chubby, I wouldn't tell her to lose weight in order to be with me. I'd want her to just find someone who is a better match for her. Your crush is just a dick.
Yeah I guess that he is, and no the picture was the only one I could find I meant just a little more chubby than her but not to much Im just a little more chubby then her like when I stand up you can see my small tummy but its not big I look pretty normal actually but still
You're probably fine. Besides, my preferences don't really matter here. You just need to ask yourself if you want to be with someone who is already trying to change you before even committing to you. And if you do want to lose weight, that's fine, but if you're gonna do it, do it for you, not someone else.
I do wanna lose weight cuz honestly I dont like being chubby but if I can't lose it I guess I can only learn to love it or let it destroy me, and I already told him no because honestly im scared of what else he'll ask me to change if we got together, he didn't take the rejection to well he kinda scared me but yeah and I will do it for myself if I do it at all
If that photo you've provided is your example of what "chubby" is... then I do not think you have an accurate understanding of what that word means.
That girl in the photo is fit and isn't even chubby. That girl could gain even a little more weight and be totally fine and hot.
Hmm. Well, he's giving you good advice. You shouldn't trip over the fact that the advice is coming from a guy.
To answer your question: Yes; I would date a chubby girl. But I would invite her to go on runs with me. It would be beneficial for us both.
She's not even chubby my guy what?
Well the picture on the question is not the one I was looking for I put the wrong photo but yeah that would just be representation of what im talking about anyways besides im like the girl in the picture just a little more fat I guess
Usually when I think of "chubby," that's not it...
You're 16. Nobody your age really knows what they want or has much perspective at all. If you're going to do something to change your lifestyle, do it for yourself and not some boy who will have radical changes in dating preferences over the next decade.
I personally find skinny women are not that attractive, if I can see ribs or she looks anorexic, I want none of that.
If he cared about you, he would not say that it would be more of a hey you want to get together and work out, maybe go for a job, the gym or something to work on it together.
He's being a jerk or he's playing the alpha game let me tell you something "don't write checks that your body cannot cash".
https://youtu.be/5oATXLAS9MQ
Even though you have a crush on him, it would be best to not go out with him. If he's already criticizing you this early, just imagine how much worse that could get. People's behavior tends to get worse over time, not better. What you're seeing now is him at his best. From here, things would only go downhill.
It would depend on how chubby one is.
Personally, I consider myself to be quite flexible when it comes to body types I'll accept on a woman, as a partner, so unless one is overly big, overly muscular/lean, I don't think I'd care too much.
Whilst it isn't ideal, I try to distinguish standards from preferences.
Man what a dummy, chubby girls are cute but you're not even chubby. The fact that he even said that is honestly very shallow and I would tell him to get lost. He really doesn't sound worth it if he has an issue with how you look. You don't need to transform yourself to meet his standard of beauty as it's wrong. Be who you are and find someone that accepts you for you don't compromise. If you want to lose weight make sure it's what you want not what someone else tells you to do.
Girl, no way just find a new one! You look fab and shouldn’t change for anyone, if he’s even saying that to you it’s such a red flag. He’ll keep doing it and you won’t be happy. So many other guys would think you’re perfect so please don’t listen to him!
FUCK that guy! No, no, I mean, don't actually, I mean tell him to fuck off.
First of all there's not a thing wrong with you, but more importantly,
while you certainly shouldn't change yourself for him at all, if you do choose to change,
it sure as hell ought not to be in response to a DEMAND from HIM!!!
HELL no.
You would have to be bigger than that for it to be a problem for me. Most women are a bit chubby unless they are skinny or exercise to stay in shape. It would be pretty stupid to not date a woman just because she has a bit of belly fat when most women have belly fat, some more than others. Many if not most of the women I've been attracted to have had a belly. It's not something I really think about until it becomes a huge health issue.
If that's you in the picture then you look like you're a healthy physique. Your tummy disappears when you hold your spine straight.
If a boy tells you he'll only date you if you lose weight then your reply should be to tell him you'll only date him if he's prepared to grow 3" taller. (Or longer).
To be frank no guy has right to ask you to change for them you body is your personal and it’s your wish. Here you are fine and there is nothing to get changed unnecessarily don’t give the guy over lineance and suffer in future. Date a guy who accepts you as you are not who asks you to change to be happy
Well it is his own personal choice. Same as you to keep whatever bodytype you want.
As he is supposed to live with this person his whole life or at least some of his best years. Might as well choose something he really loves, same as you.
I guess you have to decide what you want in life.
If the pic is a true representation of your physique, then I would suggest you drive him to the optometrist - he needs glasses but what would worry me the most is the thought that " he has a problem with my tummy its not flat and he doesn't like it" since that is up to you to have or not, and to him to accept or not
It’s a slippery slope having someone control how you look.
He should be more accepting and nothing wrong with dating chubby girls.
Not everyone is perfect and people should be accepting, up to a limit.
It depends how chubby. That woman in the pictures is not even chubby in my eyes. I would suggest to avoid people who want you to change for them, it's a pretty big red flag. They will always ask you to change or pressure you and it will become a living hell for you.
Don't change your body unless you want to. A girl I know dated this guy that was heavier than she liked. Since he was losing weight because he wanted to she was willing to give it a shot. They are still together and he's near his target weight. If the only reason you try to lose weight is because he wants you to, it'll be nearly impossible
For all the women out there who are perhaps contemplating whether or not you're attractive, with the extra poundage that's packed so solidly onto your figures -- please, please, please don't lose a single ounce of weight... keep every bit of your luscious flesh right where it is... because you are breathtakingly gorgeous exactly the way you are.
It definitely depends on how you are sitting or standing. If you a slouching our hunched over it will appear that you have chubbier stomach than you actually do. Keep your posture in check. That being said, you are not chubby at all and I don’t think you have to lose any weight.
so he's making you change for him, thats pretty fucked
Yeah i guess it kinda is
i know you like this dude but these are the type of guys that can never be enough, you can lose that bit of belly fat and then he would want you to change something else, you gotta find a guy that will accept you for who you are, dont make a dumb mistake by changing for this guy cause thats a whole path you dont wanna go down, no cap
Okay
he sounds like a real catch... honestly if you can't find a guy that wants you as you are of which i would think there are many then just stay single rather than changing yourself... if you do plan to try to lose weight then only do it for you
If that picture is you, then your not chubby. But while physical health is important, I think personality and character are way more important to a long term relationship.
Meh. He's just being a dick and fetishising skeletons.
Best move on kiddo. You'll develop as you get older and he'll just be screwing his fleshlight.
Im chubby too so i know how it feels. It takes a little more time to find the righr guy but don't change for anyone. You can still be healthy and chubby and look pretty
Girl, you have a nice body and you are pretty too.
I personally would never talk to that guy again.
Plus, the way your posture is in the first pic is what everyone's body does when they slouch.
If he is already critisizing your appearance and you are not even dating yet, best believe that he will find other, "flaws" that he likes to point out later on. This is a warning sign that he is a judgmental person. This could slowly negatively effect your self esteem--If you let it that is. So, I would be cautious of this guy.
I'm not a guy, but that also applies to guys. I will have no problem dating a chubby guy and i think men are attracted (many) to chubby curvy girls.
I'm okay with it, but I think everyone should work on themselves continuously throughout life.
to be honest you look good and i dont think you are chubby maybe between fit and chubby I mean one can always be more fit but I would have no problem dating you as youn are now... in 2 years
That's a shitty path to go down. Trying to change yourself for someone else's preference. Move on and find less of a douche
YOU ARE NOT CHUBBY! If he wants you to change your body to be with him, then he's not the right one for you.
Try the no contact rule with this boy... no MAN would ever say that to a woman he finds attractive and just in general wouldn’t say it regardless..
Move on he's dumb and will make you always feel insecure about it.
Your a beautiful girl and I actually wouldn't even call you chubby you just look healthy to me.
If he has a perfect body then you can make a reasonable effort to drop the 'baby fat'.
If he has love handles, then he also has a lot of nerve.
Okay honey he is a moron if he is claiming you are too fat for him! The picture shows you with rolls yes but literally everyone has those when they sit like that unless they have NO body fat. Don’t let him treat you like that!
I don't understand why guys rip apart girls bodies. I say only change if you want to not for a guy!
Yeah it’s sad how others rip others apart on looks, sexuality etc
I don’t think you are chubby but I think your too young to be posting these pics here.
No..
Also you are not that chubby..
The girl in pic is cute..
Most guys will date that girl..
Iskra Lawrence is FAR from chubby or fat. Yes, I prefer plus-sized and thicker women.
I prefer not.
But he can't demand changes from you that you're not up for especially considering you're just getting to know each other.
What he sees is what he gets.
You are not fat or chubby.
But if u wanna lose weight, try out HIIT workouts.
I don't mind chubbiness as long as you aren't ridiculously heavy to the point of obesity. This is probably the perfect weight. Curves with only small amounts of fat. Honestly, if this is you OP, I'd say you're pretty hot.
He isn’t ready for a real woman he wants to see ribs. Your gorgeous I would date you if you were two years olders.
That girl is NOT chubby. She's perfectly fit.
You should value yourself more and either tell him to split or desk with how you look.
Were all 16 yr olds this dumb when i was younger?
I don't know which is more comical. The fact rhat you believed him when he said you were fat.
Or the fact that you want his stupid ass.
Sounds like you 2 are perfect for eachother.
"Whoa the language on you you blow your father with that mouth?" The fact that she's asking means she intelligent and the fact she has the guts to come out here and ask let me tell you something a lot of people that age don't have that kind of gumption balls whatever you want to call it.
@yofuknutz lol "stop sucking up Averman.".
The girl in the picture is not fat. Nor is she chubby. That's normal body fat and women naturally have more than men. It's healthy.
The boy sounds a bit stupid to say that after he just asked you out, Unless a Girl asked me out first which is highly unlikely, I would be ok with dating chubby Girl if I found her attractive.
I would prefer her to have a perfect figure and face but I live in the real world and I don’t mind a non flat stomach my girlfriend has a belly so ya I don’t mind
don't change to please some one else. You have an amazing figure and look great. He seem to think he is god gift, that's not your fault its his. Find some one who appreciates you for you.
I wouldn't. I dated a chubby man a few years ago and he used to be obese before we met.
I would*
I had tried - and indeed had a problem.
I don't judge it... it's just not my thing.
Nah, if I liked her, definitely would no matter how she looked
Certain women still look hot chubby.
Not all, but some definitely do.
I would date Kelly Clarkson for example.
Do exercise, guys do it too and we can't complain about your standards, so women shouldn't complain about ours too
This guy is disgusting and hideous and is NOT worth losing weight for. You should only try losing weight if you yourself want to. You're pretty and you can do way better than that jackass
If that's you, or you look like that, you're not chubby; someone should slug your boyfriend.
I actually prefer chubbier girls, but not obese/overweight
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