I'd barely consider you chubby.
I like chubby girls so ithink you look great.
Now what he said, that was toxic, he's basiclly pointed out, before your relationship has even begun, that his feelings for you are conditional and he gave you an ultimatum, loose weight or I won't date you.
You said you won't let him make you feel bad about yourself, I'm glad you recognize that's what he's doing. You dont need that negativity in your live.
If your cute little belly never bothered you enough to get rid of it before dont get rid of it now for this asshole, I know you like him but he's being an ass.
I was telling a female friend i use to have once what features i thought were sexiest on woman, her replie was. . .
"This isn't build a bitch" so maybe keep that in mind, he accepts you how you are, and if he can't then no deal.
Frankly senss its impossible for you too ever forget that he said that before you were even dating, I think his shot is already over.
He might be trying what they call a Jedi mind trick on you it's psychological warfare or he is just as clueless as you are (no offense) you are not chubby you have curves there's a difference the only time your chubby is when the doctor takes your blood and your levels are elevated any category the guy is showing his inexperience your hormones are working for you they're giving you a curve enjoy it but don't be Reckless with it
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It can be very difficult for some to get a flat stomach, it has a lot to do with bodytype, and you are still a teen filled with hormones and evolving. It is not the time to work on adjusting something minor and go on a diet. Most guys do not mind or even like a little tummy. It is that boy's problem that he cannot look past it, don't make it yours.
Oh honey, if he needs you to “lose weight” to be with him, then you don’t need him. I sense that he will never be satisfied and will keep trying to change you to fit his needs. It’s weight now- what’s next. Yk?
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u If that picture is you, I would never call you chubby. Any guy who expects you to achieve perfection before he will consider dating you is an absolute jerk of the highest order. If you want a flat tummy, do it for you, not him. . . and then find someone else who will treat you better.
Don't do it!
If you give in to him and start to change yourself to please a dumbass selfish arrogant little turd that has the unmitigated gall to tell you to change because you're not good enough to be with him as you are...😡... heeellll no! Once you compromise on demand he'll never stop.
***Here's an important life lesson: the one who cares least for the relationship is the one with the power.***
This is not to be used to manipulate others but to protect yourself.
He's making demands that you change. Screw him. Just because you like him doesn't mean he's a good guy. Why would you attach yourself to a guy that doesn't think you're good enough for him? He's manipulating you.
Please don't fall for this sack of offal.
If you want to exercise and change your body, do it for you. Don't go running back to him begging for his approval. You'll only be giving him another opportunity to insult you more.
Just focus on being the best you that you can be, love yourself because you are worthy of it, and have the patience to wait for a partner that will appreciate you for being you.
Screw him!
With that picture you provided, you don't even know what "chubby" means. And I used to date someone who is chubby. Gave it a shot of dating her for her and not her body. It was a mistake on my end. As a person who is in very good shape, I have the right to put up a standard of wanting someone who is in good shape aswel. So I got me someone who is in good shape. Also, here are some more accurate picture to what a chubby girl looks like:
A woman doesn't need to have a 6 pack and flat and all that to be beautiful and attractive.
I'm going to use the girl in the photo as an example, there's nothing physically unattractive from her in my mind. She has a nice overall shape and her legs are good, she has wide hips which isn't an issue.
I wouldn't date a girl that was obese though, that I don't find attractive but I would date a girl that doesn't have a stomach like an ironing board. She just had to be beautiful and a great personality
I guess it would depend on how chubby. If by "chubby" you mean like the girl in the picture, then I don't consider that chubby at all. She looks great, in my opinion.
But yeah, at a certain point it can be too much. So if I didn't find her attractive, I wouldn't date her. But even if I thought she was too chubby, I wouldn't tell her to lose weight in order to be with me. I'd want her to just find someone who is a better match for her. Your crush is just a dick.
If that photo you've provided is your example of what "chubby" is... then I do not think you have an accurate understanding of what that word means.
That girl in the photo is fit and isn't even chubby. That girl could gain even a little more weight and be totally fine and hot.
Hmm. Well, he's giving you good advice. You shouldn't trip over the fact that the advice is coming from a guy.
To answer your question: Yes; I would date a chubby girl. But I would invite her to go on runs with me. It would be beneficial for us both.
Usually when I think of "chubby," that's not it...
You're 16. Nobody your age really knows what they want or has much perspective at all. If you're going to do something to change your lifestyle, do it for yourself and not some boy who will have radical changes in dating preferences over the next decade.
I personally find skinny women are not that attractive, if I can see ribs or she looks anorexic, I want none of that.
If he cared about you, he would not say that it would be more of a hey you want to get together and work out, maybe go for a job, the gym or something to work on it together.
Even though you have a crush on him, it would be best to not go out with him. If he's already criticizing you this early, just imagine how much worse that could get. People's behavior tends to get worse over time, not better. What you're seeing now is him at his best. From here, things would only go downhill.
It would depend on how chubby one is.
Personally, I consider myself to be quite flexible when it comes to body types I'll accept on a woman, as a partner, so unless one is overly big, overly muscular/lean, I don't think I'd care too much.
Whilst it isn't ideal, I try to distinguish standards from preferences.
Man what a dummy, chubby girls are cute but you're not even chubby. The fact that he even said that is honestly very shallow and I would tell him to get lost. He really doesn't sound worth it if he has an issue with how you look. You don't need to transform yourself to meet his standard of beauty as it's wrong. Be who you are and find someone that accepts you for you don't compromise. If you want to lose weight make sure it's what you want not what someone else tells you to do.
Girl, no way just find a new one! You look fab and shouldn’t change for anyone, if he’s even saying that to you it’s such a red flag. He’ll keep doing it and you won’t be happy. So many other guys would think you’re perfect so please don’t listen to him!
If that's you in the picture then you look like you're a healthy physique. Your tummy disappears when you hold your spine straight.
If a boy tells you he'll only date you if you lose weight then your reply should be to tell him you'll only date him if he's prepared to grow 3" taller. (Or longer).
FUCK that guy! No, no, I mean, don't actually, I mean tell him to fuck off.
First of all there's not a thing wrong with you, but more importantly,
while you certainly shouldn't change yourself for him at all, if you do choose to change,
it sure as hell ought not to be in response to a DEMAND from HIM!!!
HELL no.
You would have to be bigger than that for it to be a problem for me. Most women are a bit chubby unless they are skinny or exercise to stay in shape. It would be pretty stupid to not date a woman just because she has a bit of belly fat when most women have belly fat, some more than others. Many if not most of the women I've been attracted to have had a belly. It's not something I really think about until it becomes a huge health issue.
To be frank no guy has right to ask you to change for them you body is your personal and it’s your wish. Here you are fine and there is nothing to get changed unnecessarily don’t give the guy over lineance and suffer in future. Date a guy who accepts you as you are not who asks you to change to be happy
Well it is his own personal choice. Same as you to keep whatever bodytype you want.
As he is supposed to live with this person his whole life or at least some of his best years. Might as well choose something he really loves, same as you.
I guess you have to decide what you want in life.
If the pic is a true representation of your physique, then I would suggest you drive him to the optometrist - he needs glasses but what would worry me the most is the thought that " he has a problem with my tummy its not flat and he doesn't like it" since that is up to you to have or not, and to him to accept or not
It’s a slippery slope having someone control how you look.
He should be more accepting and nothing wrong with dating chubby girls.
Not everyone is perfect and people should be accepting, up to a limit.
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