I like guys who are respectful and independent and intelligent and those are traits most employed guys have. I also like that most guys are taller than your average woman and that they are stronger and usually more charming than woman since men are the wooers in dating,
Feeling protected. I have yet to meet a man that made me feel protected besides my Dad. Speaking in terms of a romantic relationship I never met one that I felt protected with. That’s one of the things that I look for in a man. Does he make me feel protected? When we’re walking on the street somewhere will he walk on the outer part and allow me to be in the inner just to protect me from the street. Is he not intimidated by the men who may try to hit on me and he’s willing to take charge.
In the car you have no doubt that he’ll do some foolish act such as speeding or road rage because he knows your safety is first. That is so attractive about masculinity and not all men have that authority to make a women feel protected. It does matter about the height, weight, nor shape. That man knows if anyone mess with his woman he will respectfully check that individual.
Im pretty sure masculine attraction is a primal drive and it appears many women dont understand why they have it.
BUT that doesn't mean it doesn't serve a purpose, and men can sense masculinity better than some women even. So its pretty important.
I guess i would just say: because natural selection. If the vast majority of healthy females didn't like it back to the common ancestors we share with chimpanzees and all other primates, or even mammals and birds, they would be here today.
Girls say I have a manly laugh lol. I don't know how that works but ok.
My voice is super deep and I swear I can see girls having shocked reactions when I speak.
Girls love it if I talk about myself as if I believe I am the king of planet earth, even though in reality im super humble and quiet. I just try to do it as a joke because they seem to love it. I hate to say anything positive about myself or boast in any way, but with girls it's like you just have to do it.
Kind of. They like me but I have a lot of social anxiety lol. I should have success honestly but the shyness gets in the way. But I'm working on it slowly lol.
This guy I worked with was helping me out and I said something. He laughed. His voice was kind of deep. But then I heard him laugh and it was so masculine. Even his laugh was deep. I had the same reaction as the girls you stated. It didn't help that he laughed almost in my ear. It was like music to my ears lol
Basically I think it all boils down to one thing. I heard this by psychology professor who stated women are fascinated by the fact that men can be dangerous in the sense that he can hurt her if he wanted to but he chooses not to. At least thats what I took away from it.
This might in a way reinforce the sterotypical bad boy but I beg to differ. I think men can still be masculine without being a bad boy. I think man can be masculine if he has leadership qualities and is able to lead others (she doesn't need a bad boy per say). What I also admire is that men have this sense to not only protect femininity but will go as far as put themselves in uncomfortable situations on behalf of women (will defend a women even if he puts himself at risk or something as simple letting her sleep in the bed while he sleeps in the couch)
I'm attracted to masculinity because I feel i'm incomplete without someone who takes care of my feminine energy. I'm a very feminine creature inside out. The traits I love are protectiveness, and physical strenght. I also love doctors for some reason lol
Physical strength and being active, wanting to get out and explore the world. A deep voice, makes me calm and I want to listen more to him ;p Taking action and initiative.. less talk more action, that is a trait I particularly lack from many men these days.
Masculinity generally speaking? I'd say the strength behind it. The presence. The hard lines and if desired it's ability to mix with some "feminine" elements, wether it's painted nails on an otherwise very masculine man or a suit on a woman for example. It just turns into an entirely new brand of sexy. Not to mention it can complete an outfit, and it also makes for a very fascinating subject.
I’m attracted to masculinity because it makes me feel safe. I think it’s primal left over from caveman days where I’d need a dude to get food and fight off dinosaurs so I could raise the babies 🤔
Cave Men didn't live in nuclear families, they had to work together as a large Unit to survive. Their lives weren't as like ours as you imagine. They had to be much more selfless and work together much closer. What you call natural masculinity didn't come from your ancestral recall, But from the TV box. As women have gotten more and more agency, and have been able to buck their gender role, they have ironically doubled down on mens gender role, and in order to get women's attention, most men have chosen to play more and more into this very American idea that Men are supposed to be aggressive (euphemism: "take charge"), selfish (euphemism: "knows What He wants") and impulsive (euphemism: "bad boy"). So now you have a whole Society of men who are trying to live up to an ideal that is basically a sociopath, and they all convinced themselves that this is the only thing that makes sense, because they don't shit that they weren't told.
Men, with masculine features, attitude, and protectors.
Masculinity not only means looking like a Man, but acting like one... The trait a real man has is to show gratitude to their women, respect them, treat them nice and never rely on them but be the one they should rely on.
I think because I’m super feminine and girly, then a very masculine man is just superrrr attractive and hot to me! Lol. It’s literally everything from his face expression (yes facial hair is hot too even nood face Lol) down to his shoes, the way he carry himself and speak, and the way he treats you and others that shows he is strong (physically/mentally/emotionally), protective, kind, caring, chivalry, and leads... just gets me 😊 basically everything! 😍
Lol my dad left us when we were tiny. I don’t care 🤷🏻♀️ I have been in a relationship for seven years. This is my first and last love. I believe once it happens it is just that once... maybe I’ll stay alone if we break up but if I do find anyone worth being with if we break up then I won’t love them.
There’s just something incredibly sexy about being with someone who can’t take no for an answer, is crazily possessive and jealous, punches things and people all the time and constantly cheats on you with other women.
@psychoticanimaiiover What you wrote reminded me of my military days. Marines can be so toxic yet all these young and beautiful women would fall in love with them. The more asshole a guy is the more the attraction. I never could understand that.
I know supposed to be a joke but guys like that are still perfectly successful with women. A man is better off being an abusive nutcase than being too shy or quiet.
@HiveBee Plus, men who are that way, especially those who lash out at others when they get upset, don't have a conscience about it. They see nothing wrong with their behavior. If anything, the person believes the other person deserved it. I thought this just happened in the military but there are those in the civilian sector that do it too.
I was in the military too and dudes would go out to bars and clubs hoping to fight someone lol. But its like that anywhere. I think it's all the working out they make us do. The guys want to show off I guess lol.
I've had lots of run ins with civilians and short guys lmao. They always want to act tough them damn little guys man. Bahahaha.
@HiveBee I knew someone who was 6'3" and one of his favorite past-times was to go to a bar with his friends and chat. He said that a lot of times a short guy would act tough around him and harass him. One short guy said if he wants to go outside he will show him what's what. In any case, he said the harassment got so bad he had to stop going to bars.
Yeah. I'm 6'1" its happened many times to me. I dont get it. Why can't they just be nice lol. Even back in high school it was like that. Short dudes are crazy!
I just handle em and embarrass them. Little jerks lol. They're angry cuz they think girls dont want them that's all. They think I'm the one getting all the girls. I really am not! I'm no good with women anyways.
I don’t care about strength or dominance, I care about honesty and loyalty the most. Though mysterious men who are hard to get, are more appealing to me.
No, no need for thnx... i genuinely believe that it is true so i trully believe on that! Also its something that i find attractive on girls so i can feel it
Have a question for you about a post you made on another topic if you don't mind responding. I couldn't ask it there because the poster had men blocked. But I happened to see your post here, so thought I'd ask.
You responded that you have a fantasy about your boyfriend having a "side" relationship with another girl.
What is it that you find attractive about that? Is it a sexual thing or something else? Or both?
Just curious because your response to that post was different than all of the others.
@RingOfFire It's both. There is a large variety of reasons I find it compelling, only some of them sexual. Part of it is because of a theory that humans are actually semi-polygynous, so it might work better than a monogamous relationship. I'm also, I'm hesitant to admit, very turned on by the thought. Plus, I've always wanted a best friend that I could share everything with
Thanks for your response. What you said sounds almost identical to what someone I met who is a bisexual female told me recently... even the part about wanting a "best friend."
@RingOfFire Interesting. I don't find anything sexually appealing when I strictly think of her, only of her interactions with my boyfriend. I wouldn't quite identify that as bi
The bi women I have known fall into a range, some liking men more, some liking women more. And of course there are more than just directly sexual factors which go into your sexual preferences no matter what they are. So I think the question becomes if you like men 99% and women 1% does that make you bisexual? If it does, then I think you have that going on to at least some small percent.
Most women I know would rather have have pins stuck in their eyeballs than bring another woman into the relationship with their boyfriend or husband. So, based on my own experiences, I think its likely you have bi tendencies. It's hard to know at your age because you are still leaning about who you are, who you want to be and what your sexual preferences are. Eventually you will learn and sort it out in the college of life. Unfortunately the tuition is paid in pain. It's unavoidable for us all.
@RingOfFire I get it. I've certainly experimented with bi stuff (don't ask) and I've determined it's not for me. As for why most women would more likely reject that, that's just biology. Women are obsessed with status, and another female near their male is a problem ONLY IF they feel their status is being challenged. There are many theories that humans are actually semi-polygynous (though the far left has offered that it may be more generally polyamorous, this doesn't have as much backing)
Based on the differences between human male and female physiology and psychological behaviors it seems logical to me that our human ancestors were polygynous.
If I had to guess, I would say that this tendency is tempered by evolutionary changes that took place as women became less dependent on men for the traditional roles men are designed for. But that diminished dependency is a relatively new development in the scope of the history of the human race. So we are in a transitional era where we still have some of the original tendencies with respect to polygynous behavior, but are conflicted by a sense that it is not "civilized" and woke enough to pass muster by today's societal standards.
People have different ways of coping with this conflict. Those on the left typically handle it with denial. They need to think that we are post evolutionary, fully developed, too "civilized" to be affected by nature and everything about men and women is exactly the same (which is of course preposterous). It's the modern day "the earth is flat" crowd.
@RingOfFire Interesting. I'm glad to hear another person who finds meaning in the theory (I myself have found multiple sources confirming the probability of this, much to my previous chagrin). By the way, did you know the study that helped to inspire the old feminist movement even backs this? A survey of married women found that women were unhappy - as they yearned for more female company.
I was around 100 years ago during that "old feminist movement" and all I remember them saying is that ALL sex between a man and a woman is rape. So that isn't inconsistent with what you just said. It's entirely possible they yearned to bring another female into the mix.
I have been watching a series on TLC channel called 90 Day Fiancé. In the current season they have a couple who are working on getting married. The woman is bi and wants another woman to be in the relationship. But when they actually had one, she was so jealous that she threw the other woman out and made him stop having any contact with her. She was furious when she found out he was talking to her. Having the other woman was her idea in the first place. But she came to regret it.
I have known people who have lived one man and two women and even one group who one woman and two men. I have to admit that the idea of having a relationship with two women is intriguing to me. I did it in the short term in my youth and it was interesting. But I find it difficult to understand how it could work out longer term. Outside of the sexual aspects, it's hard for me to understand what you need that you can't get from a relationship with a man. Friends... yes, I can understand that. But you can have friends without it being part of your romantic and home life.
@Cicero79 I do think gender is a social construct. Those new genders were made up because a lot of people didn't like nor fit in the traditional two. And I get it because they're stupid, we can't just box people and dictate how they're supposed to feel and act just because they were born with a penis or a vagina
The author is basically asking what traits you find attractive in a guy. I do agree that using the word masculinity in the title is a bit restricting though.
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