Why do ghosters try and come back?

[DrAdams]

I’ve been ghosted from quite a few girls then they try and come back.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Because they think they still have a hold on you.

Ghosters tend to be insecure, needy, or users- at least based on my experience with them. They realize that the "grass wasn't greener on the other side" and come back to you because they know you're safe and consistent. Only to disappear again when someone better comes along.

I've been ghosted quite a few times as well, each time they return as if nothing happened, or expect you to still care for them even though they disappeared for x amount of time: NO, it doesn't work that way!
When a ghoster tries to reappear in your life? You treat them the same way they treated you: ignore them and don't waste your time with them! Don't even bring them back into your life because they will probably wind up ghosting you again.

[red324]

Well if you can get another lay out of her, why not?

[guesswhoseback]

I used to think the same thing about getting another lay out of it. But what’s way more satisfying is to have the self respect to tell her to pound sand. If you are man enough to do it then you will find it is seriously way more satisfying than any lay (yes some things in life are better than sex).

I had a so called “gal pal” ghost me two years ago. I didn’t want to date her but I thought she was one of the few women I could trust for deep advice when I was going through a very difficult time in my life.

After one deep conversation she blocked me on all social media and I didn’t hear from her in 2 years. Then during lockdown she tried to message me via LinkedIn (only platform she didn’t block me on).

I was semi amicable at first. I wanted to see what she was going to say. Did she apologize? Nope. Not a hint of remorse. She was being her typical piece of sh*t fake self. It was just pathetic postering just massage her ego.

I sent her a nasty message telling her to piss off and how I was completely disgusted with her. Then I blocked her. Good riddens. I don’t need that shit in my life.

The only way these women will learn (and some men too) is if you hold up a mirror to their face. If you take them back (even for an easy lay) you are just enabling her shitty behavior. Guys are enabling more and more women are doing this crap nowadays because we are so god damn weak when we think with our d*cks.

Men need to grow some balls and handle it like Nicholas Cage does

https://youtu.be/CJKr-W7UJX0

[trustnoone77]

Guys did it too all the time. It’s so annoying and immature. Just my opinion. My friends with benefits always ghost me from time to time and I feel when he does this it’s because he’s either seeing someone else or it didn’t work out and always comes back to me. You can’t be ghosting people and expecting them to wait around. Nope!

[rjroy3]

Context is everything. What your reasoning was prior. How much you liked eachother. Why they left and what changed. Maybe by the time you met her she was single and dating. Then after you met she gets a boyfriend and takes herself off the market.

Then months later breaks up with the boyfriend and hits guys back up because she's single again. Maybe for whatever reason she thought you were boring and you both kinda let things fall off. Then months later you both kinda forgot why you stopped talking and she hits you back up again because there's enough about you she finds interesting.

[TruthBringer]

1. They haven't replaced you.
2. They are bored, need an ego boost and so they are trying to get their narcissistic supply from you as they see you as an easy target. And once they got your attention they ghost you again.

You return the favor by ghosting them back. Don't even bother wasting your time on them.

[HollyK21]

Because the grass isn’t always greener on the other side lol

[48458455463]

I hope thats true, she ghost me but i knew i can treat her better do you think she will one day text me. or do i have to do the first move again?

[HollyK21]

Eh, if she ghosted you then let her come back on her own.

[48458455463]

But i can't she's constantly on my mind i keep craying because i miss (her)

[HollyK21]

Then it sounds like you have some soul searching and healing to do, bud. You want to go back to her, but why? You’re missing her why? What is she bringing to the table that you can’t get on your own? These are the questions you need to ask yourself and figure out so you can begin healing and wanting more for yourself than crawling back to the woman who ghosted you.

[48458455463]

i dont want her to bring anything to the table anymore, if i just can have her for a second i would be happy :D

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I never apologize for ghosting someone.
They all deserved it.

[Apope16]

I never ghost without texting the reason. I come back only for sex. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[TheUniqueOne96]

I guess they didn't get what they wanted elsewhere.

Generally, I find ghosting to be a stupid, cowardly act, but if you want to ghost back in response, I think it's fine, give them a taste of their own medicine.

[Anonymous]

Either their other options fell through, they're bored or lonely, or they're trying to distract themselves from the person they really want to talk to. The reasons for ghosting and the reasons for coming back are irrelevant in my opinion though. Ghosting shows a total lack of consideration for other people and a total lack of maturity. If that's how they choose to go about their life, they have no place in mine.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you completely. Yeah they ghosted you because they thought they had something else set up better then when I didn't work out they said to themselves oh s*** I better run back to son so I've got time. So yeah you weren't there original plan that you weren't that is important to them but you make a good plan B or see

[guesswhoseback]

Watch this clip. Remember this line when she tries to come back. This is more satisfying than any girls tw*t (ghoster or not).

https://www.youtube.com/embed/CJKr-W7UJX0

[AdithyaR]

Cause they consider you the backup option that they settle for when they can't get what they actually want. Don't fall for the trick.
Even if they do regret ghosting you, they already lost their chance by being cowards and ghosting.

[sheikalana]

Because they're bored and assume you're an easy one to play with when they're bored. Once a ghoster always a ghoster. You're time to ignore them now.

[JPrez]

Typically it's to keep you in their orbit and you are a back-up plan if someone else doesn't work out.

[HikerDude]

Bored. They have nothing else going on in their lives, so they look for someone to provide them some validation in the absence of anything else.

[Flower7]

Probably because their other options didn't work out.

[pajamasam]

Because they think you have no options and your just waiting for them.

Don't be a plan B

[ItsTheNephilim]

Because they run out of 'better options' and think that you're easy.

[Shihab-91]

Because they had a different plan which didn't work... So you are plan b 😏

[misanthropistkev]

One girl told me she tried to come back because I was the only guy who was nice to her and would look out for her I thought it was pretty funny ya snooze ya lose

[Y2KxD]

You haven't heard of the sling back/ boomerang before? It's cus she wanted a different guy, but he didn't work out, so she goes back to a guy she knows is a sure thing.

[Dsg1193]

Lol they’re going back to plan B because the first game plan didn’t work out

[msc545]

They realize that they should have kept you around as a side guy.

[Archerer]

Probably many reasons but a majority being boredom and attention