Shoud I end it with my online boyfriend and stick to a guy in real life?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking with this guy I met on instagram for almost a year, and we have been texting nonstop everyday and videocalling. He alwaaaays text me the first thing in the morning and he seems so genuine, kind and respectful and I think I'm in love with him.
He lives in Lebanon and I live in Germany (but we're both from the same culture, but different religions) and he is planning on visiting me this summer and he talks about the future with me.

However, I met a guy here in Germany (same religious background) who is so sweet and kind and basically has everything a girl needs, but I don't really feel anything for him... He's not a phone-guy so he barely texts and he sleeps really early and sometimes seems a bit boring... I don't know what to do.

Should I give him a chance? because obviously, it is a lot easier when he lives in Germany and just end it with the online guy, since it is impossible for us to be together anyways i just like him so much and we're so alike.

[TruthBringer]

Look, I don't want to discourage you, but I believe I would do you a disservice if I didn't give you a dose of reality that would actually benefit you.

As a person who has been in a LDR before, I believe it's best for you to break it off before things get even more serious between you and the Lebanese guy. And I'm not saying this to give that other guy in Germany a shot. But rather because first of all, you've never met in person. Second, LDRs almost always fail and you have NO true long-term plan to actually be with each other. So you're right now in a the stage of getting to know each other, despite a year passing by.

Let me also tell you that you're creating a virtual image of the relationship in your mind. And he is doing the same. So there is a very big chance that you both aren't seeing the relationship on the same level (s). Eventually, one of you is going to grow tired of the distance.

One of the best choices I've made in my life is to leave a LDR and decide never to be in one again. And I don't regret it. Local relationships are way better. That connection you've created with the Lebanese guy can be created with someone who lives in your country. So keep your options open. I believe both of you deserve a chance of actually experiencing a true relationship. Not a simulation of it by being a virtual 'pen pall'.

[TruthBringer]

I wanted to add that what I've written is mostly from a self-preservation point of view. Because what's the point of being in a LDR that has no future plans set? And by future I don't mean 10 years from now. The point of a LDR is wanting to close the distance asap. Doesn't sound like you got that far within your relationship. So all you do is pass time and invest feelings into something that seems bound to go nowhere. An endless LDR... Do you want that? I definitely don't. Wasted time, wasted feelings, wasted energy and possibly wasted money. A mistake myself and many others have made by being in a LDR. It's time to think with your head, dear.

[OlderAndWiser]

You have ever met the guy in Lebanon but you are in love with him? Until you meet in person, this is a pretend relationship and your love is a fantasy. The guy in Germany would be very convenient but you have no feelings for him. Why would you want to glom onto him? Doesn't he deserve to have a girl who actually wants to be with him?

[FictionalCharacter]

I get what you mean. If the videocalling wasn’t included in the situation. But in this case it is. She also claims they’ve been videocalling for a year.

Now during ldr, if a guy is trying to pursue me. Without the intent of videocalling, it is a red flag and not given the chance.

I also don’t think guys are serious for a girl if they’re not interested for videocalling. To see that girl as whole. Instead of simple texting for attention.

[OlderAndWiser]

@FictionalCharacter I agree that video calls step it up to another level but it still doesn't compare to being in person, being able to hug and kiss, sharing meals together, commiserating about the weather, looking into each other's eyes at the end of the night, etc.

[MindYourEyes]

Love isn’t easy. Are you willing to fight for it and be patient? Or you want the easy way n settle for less? I guess that’s how it seems to be put 😅. you really wanna go for someone you don’t really have feelings for?
Or go for the guy you have a strong emotional bond with? At least both feelings are reciprocated. But if you can’t handle the patience and distance then maybe part ways.

[menina]

It depends, are you willing to wait for the guy from Lebanon? If you are then I would say that waiting for him would be worth. He seems genuinely interested in you, he cares about you and you also have feelings for you.
If not, then maybe you could give a chance to the guy from Germany.

[MrHopper]

Only you know what it is you require from a relationship, some people are happy with the distance and freedom it brings. Not every relationship lasts, so in reality either way you go it could be fleeting.

Do what makes you happy, we only here once. People adapt and move on, they will be fine

[just_a_potato]

Meet the online guy first, if you got chemistry when you guys are physically together then there's your answer. The Germany guy should be left out of it thought, if you don't actually like him and he's just convenient to you.

[desidoll]

I’d suggest you to see the Lebanese guy first and see how it goes. The thing is you can hardly tell unless you see each other multiple times. There is always a risk dating someone online.

[modelUN242]

Are you willing to face the consequences? Your online boyfriend is a person too with feelings. If the German guy doesn’t end up working, rebounding back to the Lebanon guy would be a shitty move.

[JosyJosy]

That depends on you... you willing to meet up with the boyfriend? He willing to meet up? one of you able to meet up with the other? It should become clearer once you met up.

[Wise4myage]

I say go for the guy in Germany, Summer is still a few months away so that should be long enough to get an idea if you wish to per sue him or the other guy. In the meantime, you can still remain friends with the guy from Lebanon.

[davadtr3]

no she litteraly has no feelings for him why string him along

[Anonymous]

If you don't feel anything for him then why are you even thinking about ending your relationship with the other guy? Just because he's closer doesn't mean he's the better choice.

[supercutebutt]

The final test is the engorged penis test. See which peen brings you the most pleasure and let that decide things for you.

[Browneye57]

Insta is fake. ALL fake.
Your failure of any kind of passion should tell you that your current options are far from ideal. Find a new guy that really does work for you.

[VenusXO]

Don't lead on the in person guy, and stick with the online guy

[Lone_wolf122]

Well, the online guy... how can you see a future together when you're living in different countries? You said he can only come to visit

[bowenw]

You should not settle for anything less the happiness you will get from true love and your soulmate.

[Shy_Steve]

If there isn't much chance of spending tim e with him in person it's probably a good idea.

[Scobby-Dube]

Well I have always been a fan of real people. The sex is better.

[Anonymous]

no if u have feelings from online boyfriend stick to him please. dont ruin this guy in real life his life...

[catmint]

This happened to me. People should stop thinking this way, they think a robot is texting them behind the screen

[Anonymous]

hmmmm a piece of ass in front of you... or a piece of ass 1000 miles away...

[ItsjussZack]

Why didn't y'all ever link☠️

[90sGrunge]

Don't let the reality pass you by.

[Anonymous]

Stick with online boyfriend

[In_Trance]

Lol yes