Why do a lot of guys ghost, cheat, and devalue the good girls?

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I see this happening so often and it’s happened to me too. Guys always talk about how girls friend zone nice guys and how they treat them like shit and mostly like the bad guys. but I hardly ever hear why it’s okay for them to be douche bags to sweet girls who don’t deserve it. Why does it seem like it’s the bitches, hoes that they’re after? I’m starting to learn this is why the nice girls take a 180 turn for the worse.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What makes a woman a good girl? Ima nice guy so where’s my date lol. Welcome to the real world honey. A world where being good gets you overlooked. Where being good looking and willing to put out is everything.

Let me run a few ideas past you and you pick the prettiest one.1! The big city and the country aren’t the same. Smaller towns tend to stay within themselves and people care more about how they look to others... they are held to societal standards where as in the city you’ll never see the same person twice. Your friends are your friend because you’re the same so they won’t hold you to standards.

2! Your a 7 on a good day but your picking it guys that are talk, dark, and handsome, rich, and have a big dick... the problem is these men have a woman to replace you if you step out of line so why should they have standards? Then you have the other side. Women prostitution themselves on only fans and in their lives. Putting it in the first date or just using the guy for a free meal. Women dressing like school girls from a man’s favorite porno. That’s gonna make men appreciate women alright!

3! All men are trash except the 1 or 2 you know... I wanted to include this option for you feminists out there.

Ok being real for a minute... I deal with this exact same thing but worse. If your cute you got a new date next week if you want it. Marriage material man but at least they will pretend to care. Men like me don’t even get that. So ya. I pick 2. And because of 1 I can’t even learn what I lack to be accepted. Standards between the city and country are so different. Being a man don’t work...

20 minutes from not you won’t remember that someone else out there suffers the same thing you do. Set a timer and see. It’s so easy to overlook the suffering of others. The equivalent to you flirting for me is paying a hooker $300. Your pussy gives you privilege men don’t have. Many even most men don’t have that person that cares and your post online will get you 50 white knights and sir save-a-hoes.

It’s cruel but it’s life. You asked why and I told you. Pick whatever choice you wanna believe.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

You could literally ask this same question about women.

"I see this happening all the time and it’s happened to me too. Girls always talk about how guys treat women badly and pump-and-dump them and how they only care about sex and don't really want to date or marry anyone. But I hardly ever hear why it’s okay for tall attractive guys to treat them badly, but short, unattractive, or overweight guys aren't even allowed to say Hi to them without it being sexual harassment. Why does it seem like the only guys women want are assholes? I’m starting to learn this is why decent guys are now going MGTOW and taking the Red Pill."

To answer your question though; you keep going after assholes and rejecting the guys less than a 7 who'd treat you right. Men won't give you sympathy when women see 80% of most guys as literally undateable and beneath her and then wonders why the guys 80% of women are going after have the nerve to treat her as disposable.

Why do a lot of guys ghost, cheat, and devalue the good girls?

Xitomyth · Answer

Most "nice girls' actually aren't that nice, at least in my experience. Just because you think you are nice, doesn't mean that you are. That aside though, most girls, even the nice ones, tend to go for the "bad" boys because of the thrill and because of the challenge, you can't change someone, they have to want to change on their own. Basically, most girls today just have horrible taste in men or misread the guy. Everyone has issues and experiences that shape who they are, along with their own beliefs and values. I used to be that nice guy that always got friend zoned, until I stopped caring, that's when people took me seriously. When you realize who is not worth your time and how to tell that they aren't, they either leave you alone or get more aggressive. In this "modern" age, if you can call it that, politics plays a huge roll. Women need to hate men and blame them for their problems, and men need to treat women poorly to make them feel like they don't have options. The simple truth is that both men and women can only take so much pain and hurt before they start dishing it out themselves because they don't know how to process anything nor take responsibility for anything that they've done. It's easier to hate and mistreat others, and blame them, than to aim back at the ones that hurt you in the first place in an mature, not childish manor.

ohshee · Answer

Damn I must be doing something wrong because I can't even find the bad girls have you ever been out camping hearts and burning man or to a swap meet or to the fair maybe in a traffic jam two way street when going forward the other one going the opposite way you stop every 2 seconds access to the guy across from me will all those places right there is the stop-and-go type situation same as here you go in you answer a question and you move on not unless something Sparks and interested did you want to keep it going it takes both people it takes excitement something new the challenge something is going to make you feel good or make that person feel good if you just say hi and nothing else see you tomorrow or maybe not keep the fire going

GnatSocks · Answer

Hold up, they actually talk about this often. They call him a "chad," and they hate and are jealous of guys like this. Basically, it's that the best 10% of guys get 80% of girls chasing them, and there's no drawbacks on his part, nor is there any reason for him to commit. The other 90% of guys are chasing 20% of girls. It's, weirdly enough, a talking point of MGTOWs or MRAs, and called a consequence of feminism and sexual liberation as there's no point in holding a relationship down. I'm not really in MGTOW or MRA. I'm more relaxed about the whole situation as I'm just average (normally called an 8/10), but it's weird and untrue to say they aren't talking about this.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

I start to goast girls in the recent time, personal i'm just tired of drama and to much negative emotions and try to calm down the situation when she start to cry or feel sad.
Olso i don't feel anymore interes afther a crule brake up of mine from the past, so i simply don't see anymore the point to tell her what's wrong whit her/me/us.
I simply lost my interes or i never been interested but want to give her a chance to impres me whit something.
I think now that is bether this way and let the person think what ever they want then to face a crule true that will make them more sad.

gellum · Answer

I’m gonna try to make this quick. A lot of Women like bad boys or serious men. Why? Because they have a high perceived value. In which case those guys most likely have as many women on their phone as you have men you could hit up. Nice guys and nice girls are 👎🏽 Especially if they are calling themselves nice guys and nice girls. I would even say those who call themselves “good” probably are not. generally when I meet a girl that would self classify as “good” or “nice” they have an anxious attachment when as a man you’re doing what’s best for yourself, they can take it as a personal offense to them that they were being so “nice” or “good” to you and that you there’s something owed to them. That can quickly get twisted and become dark. Not somebody I would want to be with. Don’t call yourself nice or good, just try to be good person and understand that just because you are right or in the right does not entitle to rewards.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

A lot I believe is down to how they think other guys perceive them.

social media and movies come in to it, Grease..

guys know other guys look at who they dste and a lot want to date a nice girl that looks or comes over as bad (almost sluttish) to how their mates perceive her.

I mention Grease, as it’s a clique for it, her song, his song about this hot girl, her mates saying how proper she is, the gradual change and in the end Bad girl.

sawno · Answer

Which guys? The ones who approach girls at the bar? Quiet guy in the corner? That geeky guy from your class? The guy who is always openly flirty and sporty?

The best guys are often the most easily overlooked because they will be doing their thing and aren't trying to flirt with you over confidently. If you wanna dig those guys up your going to have to play the part, because your gonna have to make yourself be noticed or even approach them based on more than your looks.

BeastDuke · Answer

There can be several reasons but none is accurate, probably they find someone better, or they were not able to handle their girls moods and tantrums which honestly can go overboard sometimes, or maybe they just don't feel free with them. They might have family issues, their ex coming back, or they weren't ready for getting that close too soon. The thing is a lot of factors affect men's behaviour, a good way to prevent this is not giving them too much importance from the beginning and even in long term, you should have mutual thoughts about each other, if the second person is open about his life then you should open up a bit too, if he likes to keep it secret then most probably you should hold up some sensitive things about yourself. Never give yourself up as an open book letting them read up and then get bored.

David92506 · Answer

It seems to me that in today's world the playing field has evened out. There are just as many "jerks" on both sides. If one is attracting a certain type of person I believe they shouldn't attack that person but ask why are they attracting that type of person?

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

The same goes for why women do it to good men.

It’s just a people thing. I’ve seen good guys and girls turn easily because they’re not communicating properly, have internal flaws, complicated/ unprocessed emotions, etc etc. I can go on and on regarding people’s choices in dating like everyone else but the major issue is learning how to take an emotional punch and still move forward without compromising your internal values

President_Banana · Answer

I don't get the concept of "Oh, this girl is a jerk to everybody, I love her." either. If somebody's kind to me, I'm kind to them. Does this kind of shit happen frequently? If so, shame on other guys.
I apologize on the behalf of cheating pricks.

AgentDearestZ · Answer

Women usually only like men when they’ve been absolutely beaten down and destroyed by society and especially other women.
The nice guys have usually had the niceness iced out of them early on, then after the possible trauma they have of women they evolve into the bad boy misogynist that women love more than when they were nice.
There are treasure troves of studies showing women find the bad boy sexier & far datable than the nice guy. Don’t pretend you don’t know why they do that.

TerminallyChill · Answer

When are we going to learn that besides having a Dick and a vagina, we all do the same shit but are hypocrites by nature so we only notice the behaviors in other people. Male or female, attractive people get to do what they want because people are so shallow.

awebee · Answer

Cause those alpha types u like so much are equally covitted by who else is around
Thus.. his stock goes up.. his demands on u go up... so does his opportunity to be seduced...
You guess are suckered by it all the time.. ignorning red flags I could never get way with..! Alfa types have options even when they don't appear too.. and if you beat one too... she ll pray on you just to kick you of your high horse.. so really..

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I dont think so. I think y'all mix up what a good and nice girl is. I never ever ghost or mistreat good girls. But in my opinion good girls are super rare asf. Ie slept with more than 3 guys? Not a good girl. At the bar every Friday shit faced? Not a good girl. Dont cook or clean? Not a good girl. I mean sure these girls can be nice but they aren't good. Good is a moral qualifier. Do you have morals or not basically. That is 100% what makes me treat a girl one way vs another.

Anonymous · Answer

Why in the world would you think they’re the same people? You answered your own question. There are guys taking about *bad guys*. Those bad guys are the ones your complaining about and presumably you’re overlooking the nes telling you that you like bad guys.

Men don’t go after bitches, say the sentence out loud and realizes how dumb it sounds.

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz their not worthy. Nice just doesn't cut it anymore.
So tell us, what exactly do you bring of high value to a relationship? And no, it's not your golden vagina. Nor that you're empathetic and kind - that is ALL women.

RealMarek · Answer

A lot of guys and girls ghost people now. Employers sometimes ghost job applicants after interviews. People have lost their sense of manners and want to take the path of least resistance now. A good man will not ghost you.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's not that the behavior is okay, it's that men don't usually have to date men and we don't talk to each other about our relationships. It's tough to take a stand about something if you don't really see what's happening.

Leavesbound · Answer

I'm not a lot of guys. I dream of meeting a good girl. Of course I might try to turn her at least slightly bad for fun.

Anonymous · Answer

The guys complaining about being friend-zoned aren’t the same guys ghosting you. In fact those guys are probably invisible to you, and you’re getting ghosted by bad guys, which is precisely what they’re saying.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I'm a good man and I dont do any of those to a good woman. I will however ghost a woman when the only time she wants to see text or call me is when she needs money. I won't tolerate a money grubbing whore. Been there, done that, never again.

Unit1 · Answer

Weird, right? I'm a man and i don't understand it either why some of them pass up the good girls and go after the bad girls and gold diggers. But hey, a fool can't be stopped from landing foolish choices.

0112358 · Answer

Guys pursue hot girls whether they're nice or not.  Girls pursue hot/cool guys whether they're nice or not.

Ripper_E · Answer

They've probably been rejected, hurt, and humiliated so many times that they don't care. Sometimes good guys are turned into douche bags by girls. Same with good girls being turned into bad ones.

livin_hi_808 · Answer

It's the chase. But it could be a lot of things. But it's definitely done mutually. A lot of guys I know loves a toxic bitch

Anonymous · Answer

This is equally balance so it happens to both guys and girls.
I have seen real instances where my friends down to earth and loved the girl that they would do anything only to be left for money or to be with some one having better personality, fame rich asf. So yeah it swings both way. Just because one guy did this you can't blame all guys similarly if one girl does this doesn't mean all girls are the same.

Its harsh reality but its 50-50 equally shared :)

themythos · Answer

Good girls and good guys are boring and dull. They are socially awkward and usually less attractive by most standards which is why they act good instead of bold.. The bad boy/girl makes your life more fun and enjoyable.

shushhhhh · Answer

Those guys are probably seeking a dose of power over these girls

hellacray · Answer

Lol I don't think nice guys are the ones being the douche bag.  Women date bad guys and that's the price you pay.

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