Why are men so commitment phobic?

[tc210392]

[razelove]

We commit to many things. Getting an education, career, starting a business, I've met some guys who were heavily committed to doing drugs, getting more money for drugs, and playing video games.

With relationships though, the bigger question is what's in it for me? You can love someone without exclusivity or a joint bank account. To put ultimatums or provisions on receiving that love, well that feels more like bait in a trap than love to me.

I've only been in relationships where that pressure doesn't exist. It's the only environment I can grow to love a woman and not, you know, simply start looking for someone else. Seems your part of some women and men who believe there should be some sort of flow chart progression in relationships.

Meet, courtship, dating (maybe the same as courting), monogamy, sex, marriage. Those guys and girls get all kinds of bent out of shape when, you know, reality intrudes on that delightful fantasy.

Your age could be a big factor too. Typically that's about when women are wanting babies, you know, if they do. I don't know if dating is any different in India, but I'd imagine so. That could be a part of it.

What makes you think it's men everywhere, and not just on Tinder, or within the parameters you're searching for?

[ZackBan]

It's a simple concept: "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free"
In a world where both men and women can experience all aspects of a relationship without being in one, being in one becomes pointless.

Which is not necessarly a bad thing if you look at it pragmatically. At least with this approach you have more breakups but less divorces since one can try out many options before settling on the one for him.
Before when you needed marriage to do things like sex you would marry fast just to unlock the ability to have sex only to realize you chose wrong and boom you're filing for divorce only to repeat the process.

[David92506]

It seems to me that there are people of both genders who are afraid of commitment, for different reasons. One reason could be that getting into a committed relationship can be scary. You're opening yourself up to the other person. Things become shared. Sacrifices have to be made. Probably they have had their hearts crushed and don't want to go through that experience again.

[paraXaraq]

Men like most creatures on the planet are not all built for monogamy, as crude as it sounds. You just have to be selective with your choice of men. Scrutinise till you meet the requirements you want at the end of the day if this is something you desire from a relationship. You have to make sure, 🤷🏿‍♂️🤷🏿‍♂️

[Ripper_E]

They aren't. They either don't want to waste their time or have been hurt enough.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Why do women want to commit so badly? Why don't they just be with that guy as long as they are both happy the relationship will be strong.

[Mοssman]

Because commitment isn't what they want.
Many guys agree to commitment only out of necessity or compromise, it is not like they actually want it.

[Chris2343]

I can only speak for myself.
I have been in very long, totally committed relationships that ended badly. It caused me to put up walls and not trust anyone.

[exitseven]

At the specific point in their lives they are not ready to settle down. I was that way and then suddenly I was tired of all the crap and was ready.

[Carterarder]

What type of men do you interact with? This is hilarious.

[Caliguy88]

I mostly am if it’s too early to tell. Sometimes people want to dive in too fast. I need like 6 dates before I want to talk about more than that...

[sixtyeightplusone]

because western feminist culture makes this all downside and no upside. Why don't women run in front of speeding trains?

[jasco]

We aren't, were just immature, but the older we get the wiser we become

[legalboxers]

What are you smoking? Maybe where you are.. Im not afraid of it...

[Steve1071]

We aren’t, we just try to protect our selves from a bad situation.

[SpaceGalaxy]

because they wanna be able to date and fuck other girls

[JohnO45]

I'd get bored with only one girl for the rest of my life

[msc545]

Because of what happens to men in divorces.

[msc545]

#metoo, divorce rape, false accusations, child support, parental alienation to name a few things. You are lucky if we even talk to you people.

[backdoorman]

Why are women so casual-sex-phobic?

[Not_Average]

I didn't know it was like this in India as well

[BarryLiverstone]

We think we can level up

[_no_one_]

Those people prolly get bored easily.

[clampfan101]

I’m basically the opposite.

[In_Trance]

they're not. They commit to the right person

[Mehzmeh]

Not all men.

[Slim57]

Men you date*