No. One most know what real love is, and if you do, it's frankly impossible. Real love is developed over a large amount of time of trust, work and development. You don't find that in a swipe, search algorithm.
A dating app is an opportunity to find a possible mate that might turn into love, after they develop real trust, work on being together, work to their life challenges, goals and development over time in all those endeavors. It's actually playing the numbers. It might get there, but it also plays to specific goals, and unrealized needs. You can find a good partner on paper you really want, but in real life miss what you need deep down that you don't understand.
The best relationships are the ones that come about organically, on accident and freak chance. A forced meet up through dating services supercedes that. You might get close and find that real love through forced management of finding a mate directly. Chances are really bad, and future disappointment.
I have lived long enough to learn that your ideal partners were the ones that were always around you, but you never knew. They came through the same life as you, maybe even in the same town, same school and even same neighborhood. That's not perfect either, but those seem to be the best.
I know a woman who lost her husband. She went off market a few years and she met this guy on accident. They got to talking and they saw each other not only growing up as kids, but college, and lived in the same apartments just after she graduate college and was getting her first job. She let friends fix her up. It was a relationship. But when she found the new man, he touched her at levels she never understood. Unrealized. And she is far happier now, but came through a lot where she is today.
The point is, live a life as well as you can and don't force it. Let things happen that seem right and follow gut feelings. Learn about the people. Don't jump and bed to solve short term needs and recreation. Allow it happen once you have it let it come in. Don't hunt for it.
The simple answer is yes, it is possible to find real love on dating apps, I've had a few friends end up happily married so far from it so does work, but the odds are low and not in anyone's favor. It really depends on the app and how you use it. Everyone is different and have their own reason for hopping on. I hear there are a lot of scammers out there, and I've come across a few in my own experience. Some people are just looking for friends, other want some "fun", and others still want something serious. You have to be honest and clear on your profiles to attract the right type of people. Though people do need decent photos, it's mostly the profile that send people away. I constantly come across profiles that say they are "simple" or "caring" or other one or two word descriptions of who they are and what they are like, but what they are looking for tends to be detailed to an extent... It's also a numbers game, more shots fired means you're more likely to hit your target. Though most people either ghost because they get cold feet or get too busy and forget (guilty) to message back. The success rate is low, but it does work for a decent percentage of the population.
I truthfully think it has to do with what app you're using.
Tinder is not known for its meeting life partners quality. It's an app to get sex as far as I've heard. Bumble is supposed to be better. Match is a good app to find friends and relationships. I found eHarmony to be too time consuming to use: more than 100 questions, ALL about life partnerships.
How can you make such a determination without dating someone? Do you want to be deadly serious from the get go? I want to relax into a relationship. Maybe I'll find a friend or friend of another friend!
I think the way the use these apps is to sift through them to find the timbre of the application and to hear what people you know have experienced with the app. Read reviews on google etc.
I like meetups because you're doing something with people of like interests and it isn't sexual or relationship oriented. You have a goal in mind: gardening, sailboating, baseball, volleyball, birdwatching. There's master gardening and master naturalist programs where you'll meet a host of people who care about the environment and community and about how to spread the word through schools, programs, with vets, former prisoners, people who are incarcerated. SO MANY ways to enjoy people and perhaps find someone you like. Apps aren't the sole way.
You need to combine efforts and sift through the results.
Lol I don't know about where you live but the guys on the dating apps in my area are so bland and hardly carry a convo or are just odd. And some just right away are like “date?” “Drinks?” And like I don’t know you... so no... I’ve not been successful even on the dates I have been on. I did date someone for 7 months from tinder and he turned psycho. I’m just so over dating apps and dating in general. I don’t want to be alone but fr the dating scene right now sucks because everyone has their own agenda and doesn’t take any time anymore with anyone. Just rinse and repeat.
Surveys carried out and analyzed by Stanford University show that between 1995 and 2017 the number of heterosexuals who met their partner on the internet rose sharply from 2 percent to 39 percent.
Well internet contain so much more then dating apps. So they might meet via common interests or social media. So don't give dating apps the credit for it.
I don't doubt this. I think that my photo (s) are fine as I had a professional photographer take them. I don't think it is my profile either as I've had dozens of women 'like' my profile but when I tried to message them, nothing. I am not saying that my profile is perfect but I like to think that is far from being garbage. The problem with dating sites as I see it, is that it is a meat market where both men and women are spoiled for choice. The women on these dating apps will get inundated with dozens maybe even hundreds of messages a day which will results in women having ludicrous standards. Also truth be told I find that vast majority of women on these sites are very boring as they put little to no effort in their profiles. If they do write something it is usually something negative or a list of 'requirements' that men must meet to get their attention and this includes height. I believe the main reason that I ma having no luck is the fact that am 155cm tall and therefore invisible to most women. I am not angry or bitter about this but it does seem to be the way it is. I personally don't care too much about a woman's appearance as long as she is relatively healthy and takes pride in her appearance. However I do place a very strong emphasis on character and personality which I feel is severely lacking these days. I currently have a subscription with POF which expires in September. And I don't plan on renewing it.
I’m only 5’6 so I understand. Unfortunately we all have to play the hand we been dealt. I use bumble for all my clients. Runner up app would be hinge. Pof is terrible and I’m sorry that you spent money on it.
So if you ever try again come see me I’ll help ya out for nothing.
At one point I used a dating app. I told guys that I talked to that I was looking for an actual relationship. Most of the guys either told me they were only looking for a friends with benefits or one night stand. Some of the guys even led me on, telling me they were also looking for a relationship. Then, once I met up with them, they were just trying to get in my pants and after I refused, I left and they ghosted me because I wouldn't put out. I think it's a lot harder to find love on an app because pictures can be deceiving, and anybody can say what they want in their bio. Also, people can be quick to judge, and your bio can make or break you. Also, when you meet up with a person you met on an app, I feel like the meeting is more awkward. In my personal opinion, I've always had more success in dating guys that I met through friends, in school, etc. because it felt more natural and less forced.
Now dating apps used to work, but over the past several years it's turned into fake accounts, and people wanting to hook up. It's so hard to find a real profile, that when I do, it's hard to convince me that they're real.
I personally suggest not using any of the free apps unless you're looking for a hook-up. I haven't tried any of the ones where we have to pay to use. I have a fb page where I tell everyone my experiences using dating apps. It's pretty much a big downer.
It is possible, but uncommon. I have a few acquaintances who met their spouse on Tinder, but simply by accident. Finding someone (good) in real life already feels like winning the lottery - finding real love on dating apps is even harder because most people use them for hooking-up.
There are people who desire either 1 or the other or both on those type of dating apps. I'm sure it's mostly going to be hookups according to what I've heard. As for if you are going to find your soulmate/love of your life? the percentage of that happening for you very commonly is very little to mostly none.
Which is why I don't go on those things anymore. I am still single, but I'm confidently sure dating apps like those aren't going to change that for me in a promising great way within 2 seconds or anytime quick.
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Yes, it takes a lot of sifting through and figuring out the best site for you. I have or know someone who has used almost every dating app out there. Okcupid is usually poor risks on making a match. POF started off decent but has really gone down hill. Bumble had better odds in 2019 but don’t know about now. The last person I knew that used Bumble is married now. He married the lady he met off Bumble. Eharmony is to much effort for the risks. The most important part is know yourself and what you want.
Dating apps may be a good way to meet people. But you can't discover if you truly love someone until you've been around them a lot in person. Infatuation is not love. A person on a dating app or social media isn't even real until you meet them face to face and get to know them. Loving someone you never met is like falling in love with a celebrity heartthrob based on their looks and public persona.
Stay far away from tinder! I've talked to a guy who was in federal prison before. He says guys there fake who they are to get money from u. Use okcupid Or another app bc yes, I've found love on okcupid :) if they don't put in effort to write and answer stuff? They just want sex IMHO
It’s honestly rare, but it’s not impossible. I think tinder is the rarest because most people on there are usually only there for hookups and attention. While with bumble or other similar apps you’re more likely to form and be interested in a genuine connection that’s not just based on an ego-boost or getting sex. I think most people, though, meet the people they click with in real life like with common interests etc.
Yes , I have , we aren’t together anymore but yes believe it or not I have, it was a few years ago but it’s definitely possible, I don't know how possible it would be as of now but yeh I did fall in love and was in love with these two separate people at two separate times.
Real love is not found.. It's made.. By living your life with someone.. Being together like a team unbreakable and wanting to grow old in each other's arms..
True love is not found.. IT'S MADE!.
Just find someone who believes in TRUE LOVE and is attracted to you..
You can find love anywhere. The thing is, it doesn't develop healthy, anywhere, and with anyone. In the right place, with the right person, it can grow healthy, like a plant, in healthy ground. In the wrong place, it will grow with deformities and complications.
I personally think, searching for a relationship online, is not a healthy place to start a relationship.
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Yes it's possible. Even though it's widely considered a hookup app, there are still lots of people on them that are looking for something serious. Unfortunately a lot of people don't take online dating very seriously. Often get ghosted, if talked to at all. But that aside, they're the same people you'd meet on the street.
Yes, you definetly can. I mean you can find love anywhere. Love is determined on specific place. So i don't understand why people feel like dating apps should be excluded when talking about finding a possible soulmate/love interest, etc.
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Yeah. Met my boyfriend on a dating app (not tinder) and we are in love. I couldn’t ask for a better boyfriend, nor could I see myself with anyone other than him.
Online dating is starting to become the norm. Even though these apps are notoriously used for hookups, there certainly are lots of people who manage to get relationships out of them. Like everything in life, patience is key.
Yes & No... Depends what your intentions are. I know success stories and some friends who complain that Tinder is a Fboy/Fgirl app but two friends got married that met on Tinder. So it's best to keep an open mind.
