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Do you think older men wanting younger women and women liking men their age is a problem in the dating world? (Page 2)
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Don't let it bother you. It's just a fact that there are older men who hit on much younger women. When a 35-year-old guy is hitting on women your age, it's a sign that he is having no success with women closer to his age. They see his immaturity, so he turns his attention to women he hopes will be naive enough to not see it.
False. I have women of all ages attracted to me, and I prefer the younger ones, so that's what I choose out of all my open options.
I also know another guy, who I don't actually like very much, but he is dating an older woman and using her for her money, and at the same time he is schmoozing and hooking up with younger girls on the side. Like I said, I don't like the guy, but another example of how your theory is dead wrong.
If a guy can't be successful with older women, there's no way he's going to be attractive enough to get younger women; older women are much easier to get lined up out the door. Women in their 30s and 40s are super easy to hook up with, which is in fact why a lot of younger guys prefer them because they don't have to play the games that you do with younger women who aren't as up front and don't have the experience.
Well 30+ is not that old.. It's still relatively young, and if the 30 year old man was nice looking then I'm sure many women wouldn't have a problem bad many don't.. And even if those girls want girls that are legal adults, that's what they want.. It's not a problem..
I'm the opposite of you, I prefer older men, age is only a number some younger men are more mature than men in their 50/60 but when it comes to number I think the older the better.
Awesome Well said girl
"I’m 21 and it really bothers me when I see men in their mid 30’s thinking that they have a chance with me and my friends, cause life would be easier if they wanted women their age."
I know what you mean! It's like when fat or ugly girls hit on me or fit guys. It really bothers me they think they have a chance with good looking fit men. They should go approach ugly fat guys.
I agree
Now try to see it from those men's point of view. They wanted to settle down with women their age when they were young but those women didn't want them because the men didn't have enough money. Now that they're in their late 30s and 40s and have accumulated some wealth they can settle down but why should they do that with the women who rejected them in their youth who are now old. They can try their chances with a woman who's still young. I mean if women treat their youth as a commodity, men are going to look at it the same way. They'd rather spend their money on a young woman.
No.
You will see many couples in which there is very big year difference.
And than, there are many women who wouldn't date a much older men as well. They reject them and look for men they are interested in.
That way, everyone get what they want, eventually.
I am 22 and plan to marry at 24 Lord willing. I am pursuing my degree and once God provides me with work I will start a family. I will start about 50 k to 70 k a year and if I get my master's 98 k to 115 k. However, I only purse Christian virgin women. I am getting to know one now.
Yeah, it's a problem. Leaves a lot of people single and looking for quite a while. Why do men pursue younger women despite knowing chances are low? Why do people work to retire or get rich when they know it's nearly impossible? We all dream of happiness and so long as even a sliver of hope remains, we try to pursue it.
Well all women in their 20's look about the same.
Doesn't matter if it's 21 or 29. And there's nothing wrong with men asking them out.
And how do you know the men asking you out are in their 30's?
I've seen men in their 20's look a lot older. I even had a class with someone in college that was already balding.
I’ve never wanted a guy more than a couple years older than me. I don’t think most young women do either. They want older men’s money, not the men themselves.
#micdrop
Yeah men generally like younger women but not all and that is a stereotype with some truth behind it. I guess you’re say it’s a problem but many people just date whoever they want (willing of course) but not really a problem persay
Your assumptions are incorrect.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html
Definitely seems like this phenomenon is rooted in the patriarchy...
I think you're right!
No, I think the problem is that Women are less open than they use to be but that is understandable because there has been a rise I think in domestic violence in recent years so I understand why they are like that but it just makes it harder for Genuine Guys who want to find love.
I mean its not true. Younger women in general vastly prefer older men. Im the second oldest man in my friend group that ranges from 25 to 36, im 34. I get WAYYYYYY more women than any of them and on average WAYYYYY more younger women than any of them. One guy is 25 and he is with a 32 year old. Im 34 and my last girlfriend was 23 and my one now is 18. I also have the most gray hair of all the men and girls seem to love it. Im also the most fit of all the men. I have large muscular arms and shoulders and a six pack. So what im saying is your basic assumptions are completely wrong.
Girls will love your grey hair in exchange of your wallet old man
Funny the thing about gold digger inference. One more false assumption. I dated a 19 year old when I'm 31, and she never played me for money. In fact, she had more than me because her family was rich. So we both lived in an apartment paid for by her dad, we shared any food expenses. She was going to a nice university and I lived with her for free. I mean, I understand from your question and your statements that you have certain values and think that every woman on the planet has the exact same values. But it's just not true. There are great women out there who aren't even concerned with money because they have plenty, they just want a loving man to be their partner and also they aren't hung up about age or at 19 they realize that 19 year old guys are still making fart noises with their armpits and doing keg stands. Some girls are at the same maturity level at 19, but others (like my girlfriend) are pursing a degree, growing up and thinking about the future so they want someone with a more developed understanding of life. A lot of women also want a man they can look up to and learn from.
Not all, of course. Some share your values and care about money and treat men like ATMs. It's fine and they are easily avoided. Lots of good girls out there still. :)
@zeitgeist057 statistics do not show overwhelming vast majority of 19 yr olds aren’t dating 31 yr old men. The typical 19 yr old would have absolutely nothing in common with a 31 yr old either way. Unless the 31 yr old is very immature
@nelly83 true, and I'm definitely not interested in dating your typical 19 year olds. Or your typical 35 year olds, for that matter. It's those exceptions to the average and norm that I find most delightful :)
Yeah i dont give my girlfriend or any of them money like that. In fact i get more value out of them than vice versa.
@zeitgeist057 From my experience, 40 yr olds men who only date 18-23 yr olds, never end up being married in the long run. Because physical attraction is the main thing they are looking for, not emotional attraction.
@nelly83 i think its opposite. I feel so much more emotionally safe and close to a younger woman than an older one. Im not even sure its even possible to experience true love with an older woman. I think its close or just different but with someone much younger it feels like my first love, the magic and all that is there. With older girls there is no magic anymore. Its more about the nuts and bolts.
@bamesjond0069 we all know you well enough that you have no intentions of ever getting married or finding love.
@nelly83 the not being married part is a fair cop, at least applying to me. But also speaking for myself, I disagree about the emotional connection part. I won't stay with a partner if there is no emotional connection, and if there is no physical connection then there's no reason to make it a romantic/sexual interaction in the first place. I am seeking the "trifecta" or however you want to put it. I think in a relationship it should be a balance of all aspects, and of course it won't ever be perfect, but it can at least be connected and valuable enough to keep working and maintaining the relationship, and keep growing together. In that regard, I don't think age is uber relevant, since I have met people from all parts of life from beginning to end of adulthood, it's about the individual, not their age ("just a number").
I will say of course years have some relevance, but more important and relevant is what you do with those years.
@zeitgeist057 older men tend to date older women. Its not because older men find older women more physically attractive. It’s because older men connect better with older women. It’s highly unusual to see a 40 yr old dating a 20yr old. It really doesn’t happen nearly as often as the folks on here like to make it seem.
Sure a 40 yr old would have sex with a 20 yr old. But a genuine romantic relationship is highly unlikely
I personally don't have a problem with it. I love it when guys at least twice my age wanna hook up with me
Because some do. I've had girls 14 years younger interested in me. Usually don't have much in common though.
Anyway, 7 billion people so I don't think the species is going extinct anytime soon.
No.
And it's not like it's a choice, so asking why would they keep wanting that is nonsense.
Someone says you can't have food, well why don't you just stop wanting food then?
Even if it's a lower likelihood, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. So there's no reason not to try. You being bothered by it is your problem, not theirs. They're pursuing their happiness and have no reason to not try. Women do the same shit.
I like younger guys only and i always get hit on by older men and sometimes mistaken for a high schooler but i see its really common.
Hasn't been a problem for me. I've dated women 20 or more years younger than me for at least the last 25 years. My ex was 27 years younger.
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