How to deal with gender differences in a relationship?

[learningmaturity]

I have a boyfriend of four years and me and him are so different. I’m assuming it’s because we are two different genders. I’m a girly girl who loves pink and Lmn movies and he’s a guy who wants to do guy things. I understand of course there’s gonna be differences between men and women simply because we are two different genders. But I feel like my boyfriend and I have nothing in common. It seems like all he cares about is rappers , anime , and video games. Just guy stuff. Don’t get me wrong because I love video games too. I own several Nintendo switches. But still I’m not that Into video games as much as he is to the point where I wanna watch video games on YouTube and spend hours playing them. We kinda live together and have one tv. It seems like he never wants to watch what I wanna watch and I don’t wanna watch what he wants. He would rather smoke and listen to rap music when I’m not that big on rap music and I’m not a smoker. We don’t fight over this because he is kind enough to let me have the tv at some point to watch whatever I want. However I want us to watch something together or do something together that we both are into. Maybe. Binge watch a tv show that we are both crazy about. We kind of just do our own things in the same room. Even in the car he only wants to listen to rap music and I don’t like all that loud stuff. It’s really an awkward space for us when I play the music I like because I can tell he thinks it sucks. How can I get him to like what I like? Or should we just break up?

[serious]

I know difference in compatibility and likes and dislikes can make things difficult in an exclusive relationship and depending on the difference level it may or may not be detrimental to the relationship.

For you if this is too much to handle the break up is the only possible solution.

[learningmaturity]

Exactly he should just paint my nails and do girl stuff with me or I’m breaking up with him

[serious]

@learningmaturity

Your sentence indicates you are quite assertive as a woman. That's good.

[serious]

@learningmaturity

Okay, let me ask you a question.

Instead of him doing girl stuff with you, paint your nails etc will you be happy if he lets you do whatever you want but doesn't do it with you?

I mean to ask he also lets you have it your way at times will you like that?

[serious]

@learningmaturity

Yes I understand you though and nothing wrong if you are tired with this and want to break up with him.

[Adam1978]

Sounds like a extremely common case. I have nothing in common with majority of women. And most of the time it's because women lacks interest and are so boringly mainstream. Guys find that very dull. Instead of trying to change his mind and do something you aren't willing to do. Have you tried everything he likes or have you just rejected it all. Maybe start with finding a genre you both enjoy in movies and games. From that you can probably branch out with something in real life.

[Lynx122]

Well you need to find something outside of watching stuff to do together. Go for walks or find a common hobby or something. If the only things you guys are interested in is watching movies and listening to music it's gonna be hard. There's a ton of activities for couples or sites where you can sign up for activities and meet other people who wanna do the same thing.

[DrunkAss]

Just the way you worded these things is so cute! I recommend Primal. I think both of you would like it. Just talk to him more in other situations and punch him in the arm.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/0KFyVu514DY

[es20490446e]

When this happens it is usually to a partner having a too restrictive set of tastes.

The thing is that you don't need to have all in common, just enough things to enjoy time together. And that should be very very easy.

If it isn't easy someone is perceiving too many things as boring. Which means they don't really have passions or enjoy life.

[es20490446e]

When guys are like this they usually employ time on passive activities like gaming way too much time, smoking, etc.

When girls are like this they employ way too much time on social activities like partying, shopping, and cursing.

But nothing of that advances their lives, neither it is truly enjoyable time.

[FilmGuy93]

Why don't you just make an effort to explore new things together? Try watching a netflix series together or something.

[learningmaturity]

He always falls asleep on the netflix shows or either he’s into it and I’m not smh

[FilmGuy93]

So read through a list of shows together and find something you can agree on.

[JamieLoves]

If I were you. I’d try changing him.. Make him become what you want! All guys should agree and be what their girlfriends want.

[chris_987]

You could break up and trying lesbianism, women have more incommmon than they do with men

[anylolone]

Compromise.