Am I just supposed to bridge relationship gaps for women?

[Anonymous]

Like you’re not actually meant to date but you serve purpose to the girl until she finds her real relationship. I ask based on two situations the first being in 2017 I really liked a girl she told me she wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth and actually had me give her number to a another guy fast forward to today they are happily married. I was in a relationship in 2020 she never really seem interested but constantly liked the attention I gave her, so she decided to break up last year fast forward to now she’s also happily in another relationship. Are some guys not supposed to have their own relationship and just bridge gaps

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach here to sprinkle some wisdom, your situation's all about understanding your value and avoiding the dreaded "gap-bridging" role. 😎 It might feel like you're the hype man for someone else's love life, but you're worth more than just a transition. Keep an eye out for red flags, like lack of interest or emotional investment, early on. Focus on building connections with those who genuinely appreciate you and aren't just seeking temporary support. You deserve a partner who's as excited about falling in love as you are! 💖

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If that’s the purpose you give yourself, that’s the purpose you will serve. Maybe don’t pursue women who aren’t interested in you.

[Asker]

I really can’t read interest I also thought it was the guys who are supposed to initiate

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you live your whole life by “I’m supposed to do this” you never do what you want

[Asker]

Women don’t come up and talk to me

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why do you assume your life is meant to be lived with a woman?

[Asker]

I’m not but most people want to experience what it’s like to have a relationship I don’t feel like that’s abnormal. I have gone most of my life not knowing what the affection of a women feels like

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Do you want to experience a relationship to be accepted or because you want to be loved?

[Asker]

Want to be loved but being truthful in that relationship I mentioned above from 2020 I wasn’t accepted or loved. She constantly called me stupid motherfucker, nuisance, bitch even though I treated her good

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So you want a redo, no wonder you pick women who don’t like you. You want to redo things with a similar woman to try and make it better not realizing you’ll just get the same outcome

[Asker]

I don’t want a redo I guess I want to learn how to accurately read women so I don’t get my heart broken because she presented herself as someone kind and who had the same values as me

[Asker]

It wasn’t until in the relationship that she started treating me bad

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Try therapy then

[Asker]

So I get that it would help in terms of the trauma I have experienced but how does it help in terms of not repeating the same mistakes. Some women can pretend to be warm friendly and accepting like her and then they turn out not to be

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why do you assume it’s your responsibility to decide who’s lying and who isn’t?

[Asker]

Wouldn’t it be my responsibility if I’m trying to date her

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

No, you’re not responsible for people lying to you

[oldpigg]

Only betas do that.

[Asker]

So you can’t force women to want you