Is it just me, or are gender relations breaking down?

[Anonymous]

I've actually been losing sleep over this, worrying about this very issue to the point that I'm physically ill at this very moment.

I have a horrible, gut-level feeling that men and women are souring on eachother, turning on each other over stupid shit like politics and it's not good at all for the future of society. We clearly don't love each other anymore. I see it online, I see it in public, I see it at my workplace, my male co-workers would NOT talk to their female counterparts, I've been in bars where men would only hang out with their bros and ignore women.

There is so much misogyny and misandry out there, we keep tearing each other down, we have people like Andrew Tate out there talking about women as if we're all garbage, we have these so-called "feminists" saying stuff like "men are not important", "we can create babies from stem cells", "round up all the men and put them in camps"... literal stuff that nazis would say if they were feminists and hated all men. Meanwhile, our men are in crisis, the rate of death from suicide, drug overdoses, alcohol abuse, is soaring, there are a lot of guys who would rather beat it to porn and stay locked away in their rooms rather than date and build relationships, which is not healthy. Many men are dying alone and there are people, particularly these misandrist femme-nazis calling themselves feminists who laugh about it and think it's a good thing.

I recently had a guy friend take his own life, he left never having had a girlfriend, never been kissed. The last thing he posted on Twitter was "I never heard the words 'I love you' said to me by anybody but my mother."

What are we doing to each other? Really? Why are we doing this to each other?

We were made to love each other, it's literally ingrained in our biology, we were meant to start families and keep the species going, but I guess brainwashing beats biology doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Well let me just put your mind at ease. On a planet of almost 8 billion. It's OK if there's a few less people breeding. In fact it'd be beneficial to the world's limited resources if we weren't. Also being single is not fatal. Believe me I've been single 40+ years. And I'm still kicking. You don't have to be in a relationship. Or f***ing someone even to love someone. The world makes far too much of this. Because of the many lies told by social media among them is "if you're single you're a failure". It's nonsense.

Do I at times wish I had my life to share with someone? Of course. But then I look around at all the people who are with someone, but still alone. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't always mean you're together. I don't WANT to be with anyone unless I'm bringing something to thier life and them mine.

My sister's always call me the best kept secret. They always say if half the women out there knew me they'd be fighting over me. I appreciate the praise though I think they're a tad overboard with it (also they're my sisters.🤣).

But I guess the point I'm making is it's OK. I hold no malice towards the opposite gender. So when I read your post I have kind of disagree. I think both genders would do well to just be single a while. Find who they are. Find thier happiness. Then talk to the other gender without ANY EXPECTATIONS. Because I think that's a lot of the problem. People were not put on this earth to love and serve you. They were put on it to help one another.

My faith is the center of my life. Each day I wake up it's another day God has given me to be better than I was the day before. That is MY FOCUS to do his will. If God feels i serve him better with a partner then he will put them in my life. Until then I don't worry about it.

[usernamelessness]

The world has always been incredibly misogynistic but until recently it wasn’t really talked about. Now it’s being talked about and women are realizing how much men screw them over. And men don’t like it. They really don’t like it. And they feel like now all the attention is on women's problems and no one cares about men.

These are always the same men who don’t really care about the crap women go through. Sure, on the surface he may say and think he’s anti-misogyny but he won’t say anything when other guys say misogynistic things. Sure, on the surface he may say and think he’s anti-harassment but he’ll see it happen and won’t do anything or justify a reason why the guy didn’t do anything wrong. Sure, on the surface he may say and think he’s anti-sexual abuse but he watches porn with men-raping-women scenarios. It’s hard to seriously care and be against something if it doesn’t hurt you and you get off on it. Because of the fear of realizing what you’re complicit in. Because of the cognitive dissonance.

It’d be a lot easier if these guys seriously invested in learning about the problems that women as a whole face and speak up about it. But they don’t. They blame everything on “feminism” and take no personal accountability. If they cared about women and wanted to help fix the ways men as a class screw over women as a class, women would probably care more about mens problems. But if one side is saying “Please stop hurting us” and the other side just gets angry and blames the hurt side on their own pain without listening to anything they’re saying nothing is going to change.

We were made to love each other. But it seems we all disagree on who isn’t being loving.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I can understand your fear but also know that this is all temporary. It seems much bigger now than it should be just because it seems like it’s at the forefront of everything you experience but this misogynist/misandrist attitude is a combination of an extinction burst from the stronger fascist movements and ideologies of 80 years ago along with the isolation we experienced in Covid that forced us indoors with the internet as our main form of connection, consuming content marketed to our demographics. This will pass, just be patient. Also, I’m sorry for your loss.

[KrazyCatKit]

I don't know.

Most guys seem to be lower in testosterone these days - yikes.

[Asker]

They do.

[love_conquers_lust]

We have a wealth inequality problem in the US. The world has a fuck ton of people. And white males in America are pissed off because most of them have been called racist and sexist for years because of the actions of their progenitors. What's worse, it's women and minorities who pushed racist/sexist law in Affirmative Action. Women today are big fucking brats. They've been subsidized by the government for 60 years here in the US. All this bull shit about equality and all I’m hearing is whiny, bitchy feminists complain about men doing the same thing women did for thousands of years.

Modern feminists want the right to be as big of racist and sexist assholes as men before the 1960s, but they want to keep up the double standard of men still have to work. So, you’re god damn right the genders are pissed off at one another. And for every white male born after 1964, YOU fired across the bow first.

[Billlewis]

Gender relations are breaking down for the same reason every other demographic is fighting with each other -- because that's what the Dems want and that's what the greatest enemy (since WWII, anyway) we've ever faced as a nation -- the media.

[ProbablyClueless]

You definitely aren't alone in thinking that way. It feels like men and women don't want anything to do with each other.

[Anonymous]

No, men just prefer to focus on more important things than dating or relating to women, I have more important things to do.

[Anonymous]

It's crazy how any users on GAG are pretending to be the opposite sex.

usernamelessness

[Anonymous]

Just you. Idgaf about any male and im glad there are more people like that.