It wasn't the first date in my case and more like third if I recall correctly, but my wife did this thing which really won me over. I think it would have worked just as well on the first date.
But my impression of her up to the third date or so even though we had been friends before and on a couple of dates is that she was this hyper-feminine, hopelessly romantic type. She loved Broadway musicals and opera and classical music and cheesy things like that as well as frequently dressing in a somewhat dated and hyper-feminine way like long skirts. She also loved fine wines and things of this nature: possessing all the stereotypical qualities I associated of an assertive but traditional, cultured, classy, romantic type of lady-like woman.
So anyway, just to make her happy I took her on the third date or so to a park that offered cheesy romantic boat rides for couples. I thought it was so lame but I wanted to show her I can be more than a jackass and summon up a romantic side every once in a blue moon and I thought she'd appreciate it.
I took her to the park and we went to the lake and then instead of wanting to take the romantic ride together, she wanted to take two boats and race me across the lake! So then we raced across the lake like jackasses making a big scene while couples are trying to enjoy a peaceful view and I totally kicked her ass. Then she turned into a sore loser about it (humorously). I had already grown very fond of her but I didn't realize she had that whole other fun side to her the entire time. So that made me like her even more.
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Well of course I've never tried it. But if they still got rides going to the Sun I hear that was pretty good. I hear we're so good you don't even have to get three-quarters of the way there. So whatever you do don't bring any chocolate with you it'll be messy
I don't know I haven't been out such a long time on a date I forget what there is to do in my town LOL I live in a twenty-four-hour-a-day town and everything here to do is either too personal or not personal enough. Or I would have to take away from the date because I would want to add more people to it maybe like have something set up where you go to a place where kids are going to be adopted out grab a handful of them they come to build a bear so everybody can build a bear it had that comfort of their waiting to be adopted out or go by Twenty loaves of bread peanut butter jelly make a bunch of sandwiches an and then out to the homeless people yeah I'm just not a very good first date her type of guy I half be spontaneous if I think about it it's always about somebody else or something and I'm hungry right now so it would be one of those two things at the moment. It could all change in 10 minutes
If they were kind to the servers and acknowledged them when they came by. That's something small I know, but it's pretty uncommon these days, that's what my then date now boyfriend did and we've been together 3 years now! Haha. Also, being polite and listening intently.. those get big hearts too
Something heart melting is him basically tell me how he truly feels about me very creative with his words. That is optional but if you just truly honest with me on the first day that we meet. That will make my heart melt tremendously and I feel like we will have a really good time.
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Being sincerely interested in knowing me and ditching the phone for the lenght of the date.
Is that simple!Probably play footsies under the table! LOL j/k
I would say if they are genuinely interested in getting to know me and it's not all about them them them.Ok, well, some terms, maybe: Some "coffee chats" when we just casually, get together, and nothing like a "real" date, but more like, looking at something, like maybe for ladies, like a really nice pair of shoes, and maybe trying them on, but not really sure you want to buy them.
A few of those, and in the same neighborhood, and just running into each other, totally unexpected, and just being you, and not expecting, and Saturday, and no make-up and hair in a pony tail, but WOW!!! Just chatting, "flirting" maybe, and her touching my arm, and then a hug!! WOW!!
So not surprising, a "First Date" REAL date, and she invites me over to her place for dinner! Trying not to read anything into that!! :)
So I need to bring some good wine, right, but I don't know what she is going to cook!! My ADHD kind of mind makes me get 4 different ones, trying to cover everything I might imagine she would make!!
She remembered my favorite hot dish, and no wine needed! LOL!!
Paying attention, and remembering the little things that the other loves, is such a heart-warming, touching thing!! How she remembered that one thing, from the casual conversations, well, that makes her something beyond AMAZING!! :)If she acted super adorable in some way while still being somewhat "wholesome" and pervy (at the same time), I'm a sucker for that shit in most situations. It's hard to explain an example, But sometimes you just get a vibe that sends the "I really like you and want to be overly dramatic about it, but I'm not dumb or impatient so I'm not gonna be a slut either, but you should love me because you won't regret it" kind of vibe.
It's sort of like a clinginess and nervousness with a hint on panic that she tries to hide, like she's terrified I won't want to be with her and is trying really hard to not fuck it up, so she's fucking it up a little as a result.
Not in an insecurity sort of way, but more like in a don't let him get the wrong idea about me from being too nervous kind of way.
Think of it like a really important job interview, and you go there knowing you are the most qualified and that this is your dream job, but that means you are scared af that you won't get it because of some unexpected stupid reason that you need to eliminate as possible, so you don't entirely act like yourself in an attempt to needlessly increase your own value, and I find that sort of guesture very endearing, because it says I'm actually appreciated by this person enough for them to go through all that mental nonsense.
If thats not love I'm not sure what is.
And yes, I know, first date, but any first date is gonna be with a long time bestie.Light my chest with a blowtorch. Sorry - it's been a long day and it's late - I'm not responsible for my actions at this point. but I digress - - - - --
Probably bring a batch of homemade kolachke - Bohemian/Polish fruit-filled, pastry dessert.Say I think you are cute
Look at me in desire
Kiss me
Or talk about vintage 80s or 90s stuff
😂A first date that would melt the heart would be one where the person showed me their heart, and concern for others. Talk to me, let me see how you think; let me see how you are in your family, and around your friends. I all these things and more, if I see that your heart is true in all; then yes, you are a keeper to me.
After the date (if it went well), when I walk her to her car or to the door of her home, if she turns to face me and looks up searchingly into my eyes for reassurance. Then she takes a chance and gently places her hands on top of my shoulders, lifts herself onto her tip toes, and gives me a warm, tender kiss before saying she had a really nice time.
To show she has listened to at least some of the bollox I have come out with prior to agreeing to first date.
It could be a kiss to Cheek, a smile, a flash of the eyes.
but usually it’s something simple like a soft laugh or giggle
it’s often unlocked for that smacks you in the guts and makes you pause.
Admittedly, I’m the clown that’s usually coming out with the heart melting stuff lol.Not sure to tell the truth. No one's done it yet.
Though I have been told I've done it before. I remember small details and can cite where we were, what we were doing, what she wore, and just about everything about different moments and how it made me feel at that time.Not sure bout my heart.
But first date with my girlfriend was a few days after her B'day, and one of the things that had brought us together was a Unicorn. I turned upto our first date with a small Unicorn toy, just a token b'day present. Seemed to go down very well, got me a kiss.I remember one date such date. She wore this yellow dress. Hair was beautifully curled. Her smile was so (a lost for words). I gave her roses as she blushed. She said, "I didn't know you were... I we should had did this sooner."
At that moment I wanted to devour her!
We went to see WICKED. Her legs were soft and amazing. We kissed all night. PDA is usually the my thing but she was gorgeous.After a really good date and mutual interest and I am truly feeling it. I would like to try a nap date where we could nap for a few hours. Omg that would be divine haha.
Joke around, laugh, and be generally goofy. I know that sounds bizarre, but women that act silly and be playful really get to me. Women always say they like men that can make them laugh. Well women that can make me laugh are priceless. I just love them. So if she does that, my heart will melt like wax before a blast furnace.
Gaze deep into my eyes and run his fingers through my hair
Aside from giving answers or perspective to those who ask; i closely observe, say very little, yet express more then my words ever could.
Someone who returns in equally what has been given.
Ill leave it at that.Tell me he’s been thinking about me for 2 months since the first time he saw me. True story. 💕
Quote Euripedes.
"I'll take care of you.''
"It's rotten work."
"Not to me, not if it's you."Remember a detail I might have made about someone in my family and, if they saw something that my family members might appreciate they might say "hey, wouldn't your Mom really appreciate a picture of that?" for example...
Tough question... I don’t know if there was anything he could have done on our first date to melt my heart.
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