Neither one. And I actually have two examples of this.
One girl, according to herself, is "funny, loyal, kind, caring, loving, and affectionate." Most of the traits I'd want in a supposed partner. However, she's gay (technically "bisexual"; same exact thing really) and queer people are a legit turn-off. More so if they're male obviously, but I don't want to date a lesbian either. I'm not a cuck or into cuckolding. I'm a heterosexual male, which means only heterosexual women are compatible with me, not gay people of any gender. She's also "polyamorous" while seems like a contradiction to her supposed "nice" personality, as adulterers (no matter how you try to spin it) are trashy people, in my book. If she was straight, she could've been legit wifey material for me (not that I really want to ever get married; just sayin'). But she's not. I do hope she finds a wife someday, though.
The other girl physically is almost a dead-ringer for my late ex partner; just as tall, just as thick, voluptuous, etc. However, her personality is pure putrid sh*t. She's an "open relationship" far-left progressive stoner; possibly as many turn-offs humanly possible in one person, while having many physical turn-ons (aside from ugly tattoos). I would F*CK her in a heartbeat, and then feel disgusting and cheap afterwards, and need an hour long shower with a wooden scrub brush.
So one girl has a great personality, but she's gay. The other girl I'd want to have sex with daily if she wasn't a piece of sh*t human being. So in all honesty, I couldn't choose either one. The "gun to my head, had to choose option" would be the first choice, but as I said, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who isn't compatible to me by sexuality.
I probably would not be able to continue with either of them, PROBABLY, I never entered a relationship before so I do not know how I would react.
Dating someone that you do not find attractive is bad, your sex life is heavily affected by this and you need to control yourself to not cheat on your partner, that's never an option after all, among other problems. People often say that this is shallow but it's not, our brain is hardwired to feel physical attraction for certain characteristics, it's within our DNA and we must accept and embrace that.
Dating someone with a not compatible personality sounds like hell also, that's fuel for conflict in the relationship, fights and boring conversations. Sometimes your partner might enjoy some activities while you don't and that's not very cool.
And dating someone hypocritical, liar and with overall shitty morals must be goddam awful, and sometimes even dangerous, run away from people like that.
Neither. I tried with a nice guy with unattractive looks and it did not work out. So realize i can't force myself to love men who i am not attracted to do it due to looks but he also habe not had perfect personality. I mean i am not that picky. Average face with tall body would be perfect (-6'0 is the average height for young guys in my country and so it is not unrealistic)
If I had to choose I would choose personality. But irl I wouldn’t date anyone I didn’t find attractive in both looks and personality. That being said, I’ve dated a chubby guy and a couple guys who were objectively only average looking. For whatever reason, I found them very attractive even if not everyone else did.
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I would rather date a person who has a good heart. Looks can fade, personality is always changing. The heart will always stay the course, and be true, in spite of looks, and personality.
What most see as a great personality always starts in ones heart; what the see has a very attractive person, always starts in the heart. True outer beauty comes from the heart.
I have found many women whom a lot of men would avoid, attractive. They were attractive because of what was in their heart, and their personality matched!!
Eventually the perfect personality wins out, I can't believe anyone answered looks. Looks don't help you when you are fighting, when you disagree, when you have opposing views on important issues, when you need to make decisions together... It doesn't even really help in sex if you have different needs and desires. Over time a perfect personality will make you physically attracted to them as well. And everything else (the more important stuff) will be so much deeper more meaningful and filled with passion.
First of all if I'm going to date somebody I'm going to date them because of who they are on the inside that's where the beauty comes from that's where that confidence the smarts the laughter the happy person she would have to be attractive there first The Outsiders just a bonus so that's even cooler I wouldn't want the perfect personality because I don't even know what that is if it was perfect I would don't think I'd want it because it wouldn't make me think it would make me feel and in return I would be just like a robot and I could not deal with that so I'm just going to go with a girl as beautiful on the inside that loves to laugh joke and has a personality LOL
I would fuck the attractive ones but never date them if they have a bad personality.
I won't touch the unattractive ones regardless of their personalities. Women used to be less concerned with men's physical appearance but now they are all about the attraction. Why would a guy bother with an ugly women when women (who have nothing to offer men other than beauty and possibly kids) wouldn't do the same.
We have reached a point where there is no longer and reason to treat a women well. This turns most women off
I had a crush on a girl that was about a one out of 10 once. Super fun, made great conversations... kinda cute in a nerd way, but she was like pretty ugly. I’ll never forget that chick. I didn’t make a move but I kinda regret it. But I’m usually dating 8s I’d say. Got a couple 9s.
Look at that, a post about looks where none of the females are lying in saying they'd date an unattractive person.
No female ever wants the ugly person and that's why they always trade up.
An it doesn't matter which selection I would choose because honestly someone as ugly as me has no right to be picky and I should be happy for anything I can get even if that happens to be nothing.
You learn to accept them beyond their looks if you're gonna date them. If you date them for a long time of course they will look different at 50+ years
I'd rather date a really nice girl with average looks or even a little below average looks over a girl who would qualify as a super model but is a mean bitch.
The only possible answer to this question, assuming the person answering it actually answers the question posted, is to date the one with the body you like on the understanding that it is only about sex.
This does not however mean that looks matter more than personality, the reverse is true and if you wanted to know what people thought about that you should have asked the question in a less ridiculous manner.
Great personality actually makes someone attractive, ugly personality makes them less attractive physically.
If the personality matches me perfectly then they are attractive.
I've married beautiful women who were just evil and cruel.
Physical beauty isn't enough.
I'd date the person with the personality, realise I like them best as a friend and since they're perfect they won't be hurt or jealous- BOOM BESTIE
Personality 100% however the personality rarely shows between strangers.
If I can't find them attractive, then how the heck I'm gonna date them?
An ugly hearts ruins a pretty face
My ex was very attractive, but he was the blandest person I've ever met. Looks couldn't save that personality lol.
Your entire job, your duty if you will, in dating, is to make a determination, to discern whether they are a match or not, to judge if they are worthy. Most simply will not be, so you NEXT them.
You're falling down on the job.
Neither. They've got to have charm and self-esteem. Something your dichotomy doesn't take into account.
Neither, I want her to be attractive on both physically and mentally, but mentally is a bit more for me.
There is a third option, you could date both sexy and beautiful personality by dating a fascist!
Date a person who got perfect personality and fits you well but you can't find them attractive?
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