Girls, do you agree with this? Is this how you really end up putting guys in friend zone?

[Anonymous]

Yes this is how I friend zone guys

No I don’t agree with this

[btbc92]

Listen. If you're looking for sex, tell the freaking truth. There is no such thing as the friendzone. Your either friends or not. Make your intentions CLEAR from the beginning. Nobody owes you a relationship. A relationship is also a friendship. A woman NEEDS a friend in a man as vice versa. The problem with men is that a man is not understanding who the women they are pursuing. While some of what she is saying so far, but it is not how guys so-called in the friend zone. But she made a point about the manipulation.

What gets you rejected is this:

Lusting: "DAMN she's hot!" Next, you say in your mind. "I think I'm gonna talk to her." Already with sex in your mind.
Premature attraction: "I really like her! She is the most prettiest, this and that." Not KNOWING if that girl is receptive and knows what you want. Let alone what she wants.
plotting: "If I do this, that and the third, I'm certain she'll love me!" You cannot tell a woman that she'll love him by manipulating a person. Even women who do this to guys are guilty of this especially when it's intentional.

However, she hit on a lot of points, but's its basic immaturity. It's not a friendzone. What is happening is miscommunicating. But what is key here is that we are in that continuum of what if, buts, etc. The thing is she is only mainly talking about the dysfunctions of what feminism have done. Because if this was the traditional way and medieval times, THIS CONFUSION would not happen.

These women today want excitement but these are women who never really matured and grown-up. Hookup culture is what she is basically saying as well as the negative way of dating. When one of my friends done all of this she had the same problem and had "Friendzoned" men because she didn't physically found them attractive. And if she found it they crushed on her, she cut off the relationship because every time she found a guy she was attracted to the other guy would screw it up and the guy she wants ends up uncomfortable or it didn't last. That is what she did in the past, now she learned to some degree to try friendship. But her physical and sexual attraction is key. But I warned her through many exes, ex maybes, and now even for an ex-husband later, if you want LOVE you cannot be doing all of this. Once you go down the path of physical and sexual attraction, you won't get love because sex and love don't co-exist. You get one or the other. Sex doesn't mean love, but out of love, comes sex. if nothing else makes sense about what God say about waiting for marriage to have sex, that's why you wait also. Because with a loving friendship, to loving relationship leads to a loving marriage.

The problem is both the man and the woman came from a place of lust, and physical besides self-centered desires. A man approaches a girl with this idea is how he ends up with problems with women and girls who grew up with this mentality. A guy cannot just like a girl he doesn't know. It's purely physical. The same with a girl. But it's a mix of physical and hormones. This is proof that men today don't know how to love without doing things to gain, and women have a hard time know what love is. AGAIN. Only immature people behave like that. I care about friendship, innocence, purity, and kindness. Things that people would call you a prude about.

It all boils down to psychology, sociology, history, faith, etc and it would be too much to cover. I've been rejected for friendship simply because those men wanted to date me for sexual reasons. I had rejected men simply because we weren't friends, I didn't know them and I want to make sure we should be dating. I don't have to hurt another guy, yet I've been hurt more than enough. Accused of leading them on, and people want to know why I never bothered dating? I'm traumatized because of this.