Do you think men getting angry about women rejecting them is justified?

[Anonymous]

Yes

Depends on the situation

No

[oldasIfeel22]

As a mature man I know that attraction isn’t a choice. You didn’t get to decide on whether you do or don’t hace this feeling towards someone else. However you do have a choice on how you MANAGE that feeling.

Anyway I’ve been rejected multiple times in my life and I have had to reject other women. The right thing is to do is to be tactfully direct. Say you are being honest out of respect. Deep down men crave respect the most (even more then sex). If you can do that and the guy still gets angry than you can know you made the right choice.

I only think it’s justified for a man to get angry with a woman when:

- She toys with him because she wants him as an orbiter for her own ends.
- She ghosts him (and he didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong). The obvious answer is not to ever pursue someone who ghosted you. Still though the ghoster is cowardly selfish piece of shit. This is only justified if the man did something explicitly wrong (that other men would agree was very inappropriate)
- She confidently friendzoned him. Just assume he will be okay with it. When you reject a guy do NOT ask him “can we be friends”. That’s not letting him down with gentle hands. Just say “I know this hurts but I hope we can be friendly if we run into each other again”. Friendly is much different then being “friends”.

Also when I say “get angry” I sure as hell don’t mean getting violent. But I think a man is not in the wrong to call the girl out for being disrespectful.

[MTC29]

Speaking only for myself, sometimes it is justified.

I proposed twice to the same woman and was turned down both times. We dated for one year, and then she moved in with me. She finished grad school two years later and that was when I proposed. She said no, stating that if she and married me her life would consist solely of being her father's daughter and my wife. She wanted to establish at least some independence. Okay, that's not unreasonable. I was upset, but not truly angry.

Our relationship continued uninterrupted. During the ensuing five years she found a good job and began her career. She enjoyed the independence she had wanted, or at least she did in my eyes. That was when I proposed again. She refused the second time saying that what she was really looking for was an exiting and spontaneous guy. Well, that's not me. I'm just the jerk who went to work every day giving her a place to live for 7 years of her life.

Now I am angry. I wanted her gone and out of my house, but I was raised to be polite to women, so we had a sit down to establish a time frame for her to leave. In the meantime, I moved her out of the master suite and into the guestroom, where she remained until she moved out.

I still love her.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I definitely think it depends on how they were rejected. Obviously if the girl was unnecessarily rude or cruel about it, I can understand them feeling angry. However, if she was polite and respectful about it and just didn't see him the same way, I don't think it's something to be angry about. People cannot help who they are and aren't attracted to, and I'm sure the vast majority of people take no joy in having to reject someone, but it's much better than leading them on. If anything, I think honesty should be appreciated.

[Account]

No. I don't get mad if someone rejects me as a friend or a partner or tells me we are incompatible. It is understandable.
I don't think I am insensitive, it is just that I have learned to have a good control of my emotions. It is one of the few things I am good at.
In the past I was short tempered about other reasons, but I have learned to control it as well.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No I do not... Would they rather someone pretend to like them or be honest that they aren't into them in that way... Just liking someone or wanting someone does not mean they'll like or want you.. No one is obligated to like someone just because they like them.. I get being disappointed or that it can hurt but to be angry or act like it's women being hateful when EVERYBODY is entitled to their feelings and who they're into and who they're not..

[ChiTown33]

"EVERYBODY is entitled to their feelings" just not guys eh. Because anger my friend is a "feeling"

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@ChiTown33 so if you liked me and I didn't like you, that's something to be angry about? Now what if I liked you but you didn't like me? Does that entitled ME to be angry? Men act like they're the only ones that get rejected or turned down or have a right to say who they'd date or who they wouldn't...
I bet you'd say I was too heavy to date... But if a woman would say she don't want to date a heavy guy, then she's a horrible bitch... The double standards tho 🙄 smh

[ChiTown33]

Ask a question then don't let me answer it. Lol
You really need to stop lumping all guys together 3B. It just makes you sound bitter.
Read my post and you'll better understand my stance. I just don't get why if you reject a guy he can't be angry about it. If I reject a woman understand why she doesn't want to talk to me after that. I ain't even mad.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@ChiTown33 I'm not lumping all men the same... So don't say I am.. thanks... I get being disappointed as I said... But why angry? I wouldn't be angry if someone didn't have those kind of feelings for me... I'd appreciate they were honest and respectful with it, then the guys (SOME not ALL) that won't like a girl but still use her for sex... Again people can't help who they fall for our don't... So why waste being angry or bitter about it🤷 someone lies to you, cheats on you, uses you, hurts you those things I can see being angry about... And yeah you don't have to talk to someone after that, but more from not wanting to be around someone that ain't into you then anger..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh and why would I be bitter? I'm not single because I couldn't get someone... I'm single because my hubby died and they way people are these days with the B's I'd rather live with the 20 years I had with a great man than put up with the BS people be on these days

[WowwGirl]

🤷🤣🤦

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@WowwGirl Some people just don't get it smh 🤷

[WowwGirl]

I hear ya 🤷

[ChiTown33]

Once again you're one sided 3B. Problem is you don't even see it. You think it's OK for a woman to lead a guy on but not OK for a guy to lead a woman on. SMH 🙄
Being a woman you might be uncapable of understanding a guys feelings (yes we have them) if a woman sends you signals of interest then rejects you in natural to get angry. Don't tell me as a woman this wouldn't anger you if a guy did this to you.
But since you want to muddy this up and elevate it by throwing (sex and using people)
Why would I ever feel bad for a woman who is too dumb or ( too up in her feelings) to see a guy does NOT give a s***about her? No no guy should do this! But no women should lead a guy on either something you clearly condoan! So your opinion is pretty clear to me. Women matter, guys don'!
I don't know if your bitter. But such an opinion clearly comes off that way.
But I forgive you. 🙂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@ChiTown33 where TF did I condone women leading men on? Again please don't put words in my mouth I didn't say... I don't condone anyone leading anyone on, period... But ummm correct me if I'm wrong, was this question not about if someone gets rejected? Not lead on?
"Do you think men getting angry about women rejecting them is justified?"

[ChiTown33]

So now you're suggesting no woman has EVER led a man on? Wow!
It's equally or MORE relevant to the questions than guys who pretend to like women just to sleep with them. And you know it. But it doesn't support your argument. So you disregard it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@ChiTown33 again, why do you keep saying things I didn't say? Show me where I said that? I think I said I wouldn't approve of a woman or man leading anyone on, and saying that wasn't the topic of this post... But obviously you're not reading or comprehending anything I say cuz you too busy putting words in my mouth... So pointless to continue... But, enjoy your weekend😊

[ChiTown33]

No I'm saying you muddy up the argument. I try to hold a mirror up to you to try to show you your bias. I don't think your bad person 3B I just don't think you always see it. You're a solid voice of reason on here. But being a women you can't see your bias. 🙂
You have a good weekend to!

[Rok4bakAR]

especially hot girls think that their beauty will last forever,
B) The more a guy gets rejected the more he becomes a lion.
One of the most successful well spoken men in the world are because of the outcomes of getting rejected from girls/ jobs/ life.
C) I used to live in Canada, and girls wanted nothing to do with me. Was extremely hard to sleep around with attractive young girls. it was so bad I couldnt near a young attractive girl. Or else she'll be freaked out by me. for breathing and walking.
That country's men are so weak (SIM) that it becomes impossible or at least it becomes a full time job getting for getting laid!
So I got fed up and I left.

Weak men, make hard lives, strong men leave hard lives, hard lives creates mislabel women.
In my early 20's when I met hot girls in clubs, or school. They wanted nothing to do with me. They kept bragging out how guys do everything for them.

They are in their mid to late 30's now, all of them are other fat or have lost their nice bodies.
They ages horribly. and they're having a hard getting noticed by men.

While Im in Asia banning 19/20/21 year old university students.
So yaah reject us all you want.

[bamesjond0069]

I mean its understandable when 1. Girls complain about a cerain type of guy say broke guys for example. Then you come along and say well i got a good job. And then they deny you and say... yeah but you work Friday nights and i like to party so sorry not going to give you a chance. Like wtf? I can see why this aggravates guys.

2. They are just rude. As an example the guy says oh thats a nice dress and she says umm thanks but no thanks move along boy. He didn't even hit on her. Just gave a genuine appropriate and polite compliment, no need to be rude.

I mean its best to not be emotionally invested in the situation. Personally i wouldn't consider a girl who did either thing acceptable to date. Girls who do #1 are literally stupid. Not only that they are confident in their stupidity because they won't try something different just keep making the same obvious mistake over and over. Girls who do #2 are just rude people. Im a proud asshole but im not rude to people who are polite to me. Wtf? But i dont mind giving a witty and rude comeback at girls who do that. Im not mad but i mean why smile at someone who is rude to your face? Im an asshole fuck that. I just walk by and say "dodged a bullet i can see the stretch marks sticking out your shorts from here" "didn't give me the chance to say that something fell out of your purse but your big head thinks i was into you hahah" then she looks around on the floor for nothing for a minute. Lol. Or i say if im with a girl or group "thats my girlfriend literally just liked your dress, but its not nice enough for a terrible personality"

Its not anger but if you can have fun being rude at me why shouldn't i have my fun too?

[SamA_nold]

Depends why and how the woman rejected the guy.

If the woman was polite about it and just said she wasn't interested, then both parties should respectfully part ways.
If the woman rejected the man due to some extreme standard or prejudice, or was just rude in her rejection, then the guy has a right to feel angry

(Same if a man rejects a woman)

However... There is a difference between feeling hurt that you were rejected, and moving on, versus using your pain as an excuse to abuse other people and promote an agenda.

[Anonymous]

If they were publicly humiliated (she was disgusted/ made fun of him etc) then yes but otherwise no. You can’t change how another girl feels about you or if they’re even attracted to you. Most women I know don’t get too butthurt about rejection lol they usually move on however guys get angry and throw insults at her or are sensitive about it. I suggest just not taking it personal. Think about it this way, a girl you are not interested in or attracted to asks you out and you reject her. She eventually moves on. This is EXACTLY how it should be don’t feel angry at them. They don’t HAVE to be attracted to you. And don’t beg or badmouth them bc karma comes back around. I know guys are more sensitive than girls but sometimes you shouldn’t take it personally.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

If she's handles the rejection like a lady, then he should handle it like a gentleman. If she's just being a bully and straight up laughing at him, then he's in his rights to tell her where to stick it. That's just... Equality.

That said, I don't think I've ever had such a mean rejection to warrant getting angry over. I've found that if you the guy are respectful in your approach and can take a polite "no thanks" at face value, then most women will be gracious about it. Or at very least they won't wring you out publicly.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

Absolutely not because getting angry about it implies the woman did something wrong and was unjustified/not allowed to react in a way the man didn't deem ideal for him.

No woman, man, or non-binary person owes you their time, a date, sex, or acknowledgment. They are fully within their rights to say no to you at any point and they are not the keepers of your emotions. You are. If you get angry and shitty it's your fault for how you react. It's on you.

This goes for women and everyone else as well.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

Unless she was a dick.

[HiveBee]

Yes and no. But it SHOULD be no.

However, for example, many many women get angry and hateful towards men because men approach.

So the man who gets rejected, and gets angry, is usually the same guy who feels restricted in his beliefs about approaching a girl he likes.

But you should not be mad. You should be approaching hella girls. If you like her, you should go for it. But, the feminists rage about this. Society tells us men we are horrible for wanting to approach. And so we feel trapped, resentful and hateful towards women. Because of the mixed messaging.

At some point you have to discard the feminist brainwashing we all have endured, and chase after what you want.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

To clarify, most feminists are okay with men approaching... they aren't okay with men who are inappropriate or too aggressive, especially if you use "approaching" as a synonym for harassment.

[HiveBee]

Of course. But you have to see that a large majority of men who struggle with approaching have ZERO of these toxic traits.

They're just shy awkward men. And shy awkward men make women uncomfortable.

The only way for these men to cease being shy and awkward, is to approach and interact with women.

These men fear to do so, lest they be judged and labeled as "male harassers."

Us men are not born knowing how to be around girls. It only happens with experience.

We see that women are angry about men, we know we are not assholes like other men. But we fear to make girls uncomfortable. We respect and love women and only wish for you to be comfortable in our presence. I know I'm not the only one lol.

[HiveBee]

And "most feminists" I think is a meaningless term.

You can't know what any individual feminist believes.

I've read plenty of feminist literature. I dont see feminists in the wild adhering to the scientific views brought about by high level feminist in scientific fields such as anthropology, or other fields like sociology.

I see girls, who never read one ounce of literature, cursing men to the high heavens.

You're worried about the assholes. They are assholes. I'm not worried about them. They will do what they will do I can't stop them.

But when it comes to men who are hateful and resentful towards women, I think this is the root of it.

We feel like we must approach you and display confidence to attract you.

At the same time, we feel like vile harassers that women can't stand.

[HiveBee]

And I know you girls keep repeating "it's only the assholes who abuse and harass us we dont like!"

I dont know about that lol.

Girls like me. I'm tall and handsome and my voice is stupid deep.

Girls would approach, flirt with me only to find out I was shy. And treat me like a creep afterwards.

I was never a creep and never harassed or abused any woman in my life. Yet I was treated as though I was a creep by girls who APPROACHED ME!

Now I know most men dont have that privilege as I've had. For them, it's even worse.

Like, being a respectful man who treats women well doesn't mean anything at all. If you're less than a certain level of male/female interpersonal skills, you get treated like a freak or a creep or harasser. Really I've lived that myself.

[Slartybartfast]

As I don't approach women I've never been rejected lol.

That said , I've seen guys that have been absolutely humiliated by a women that was playing the old "act like I'm interested for a joke" game.

I've felt a little anger on their behalf, but also think they got what they deserve for approaching women in the first place. If there is one thing women have made perfectly clear in the past two decades it's that they don't want men approaching, so keep your distance! If women wanted to date they would go online and shop for a guy like they do for shoes.

[ChiTown33]

Most definitely! Nobody likes rejection. And MOST guys ask women out because of something she said or did. Women are indirect. Few will tell you exactly what they're thinking or feeling. So it's up to the man to decipher it. Naturally there will be a lot of misreading. Especially for the novice guy. Naturally the guy will feel led on. And there is a significant amount of women who flirt with guys for attention then when they're bored just want the guy to go away ( sorry just being honest). But the guy has to deal with the rejection somehow. Society says anger is the only masculine one he can turn to.

Now just cause the guy has every right to be angry DOES NOT mean he has the right to unload it on her. If you're a man. Swallow that anger like a man.

[FatherJack]

If done tactfully as possible , then there is no justification on the mans part , being male you will experience more rejections than acceptances , c'est la vie , learn & move on. Voted B , as I'm a former doorman , and remember some very nasty groups of young women... girls mentally really , that had competitions to be as downright nasty as possible to nay men that approached them , and made a twisted " sport " from this. I have told a few such groups to leave , and made sure the bar did not serve them , as they will be a catalyst for violent trouble breaking out.

[crazy8000]

Depends on the situation and in what way someone get angry, also on what they get angry.

People in general have problems with rejection. even if it doesn't show.

You also have groups in society that thing's they are entitled to double standards ( most common amongst female's ) they even try to justify it and come out to look like shitty person.


Everyone have the right to feel what ever they do.


The same thing goes with friend rejection.
No one are entitled to that. not even female's that reject someone as more than just friends.

[Aimée__LJ]

I don't see the point in getting angry over someone not liking you in that way... Like do you really want to be with someone who isn't attracted to you?

[katyya_lov25]

In the same way its justifiable to get angry in how men reject women. Its okay to reject a person you’re not interested in by being polite and respectful about it. It’s not okay to be cruel, flat out rude and disrespectful rejecting someone, any decent human being wouldn't treat anybody like that, doesn't matter the gender. What a lot of males fail to realize is that women get rejected too, women get ghosted, stood up on dates, get told to their face theyre too ugly/fat, whatever other reason.

[geonator]

The short answer is no. This is easy for me to say and a lot of women would hate me for it, but I would argue that if women have the attitude that "it's the man's job to make the first move" then they should take a challenge on their end of being open minded about who they go on a first date with (not on who they get into a relationship with, but on who they go on a first date with; I don't think they should get into a relationship with a guy they ultimately aren't interested in). But women's opinions about a guy have changed before after getting to know him a bit, and first dates are supposed to be about testing the waters and seeing if this is a potentially good fit. So if women have the attitude that men should take on the challenge of making the first move, then they should be willing to take on the complimentary challenge of providing one open minded chance to guys who make the first move

[boombastik]

You can't make someone like you and just maybe she has a man so what if it was your girl/wife he's getting angry at or putting her on a guilt trip and making a scene by grabbing, harassing, or calling her a racist in a crowded place for not wanting to cheat on their man or not show interest for any other reason. Maybe they should step their game up

[Anonymous]

I can understand them getting upset.

Now, say the girl did it in a rude and offensive way, then I can understand any man getting angry/mad about that. Some women are b*tches and I've seen it happen and I've seen men become understandably angry over it. A lot of the time, though, men getting angry over rejection is just entitlement and childishness.

[Sweetener_]

No, it's ridiculous. A lady has the right to say no. Rejection is an unavoidable part of the dating game. It’s something that everybody deals with and, if you want to go out with someone, you’ll have to face the possibility that they might say no.
Getting rejected is not a personal failure.
But when alone it's okay to feel emotions like anger because it makes it easier to move on in the future 🕊 but it's not justified though.

[AdithyaR]

Absolutely not.
In a normal rejection, you just aren't compatible, nothing personal.
Even in case where the woman tried to humiliate the dude, I'd just feel relieved I didn't end up with that horrible human and feel pity for them for having a poor personality.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I get being frustrated with the process of dating. Situations are unfair, and behavior is uncalled for or unreciprocated.

Now, just because someone doesn't act how you want them to, doesn't mean you are justified to act angrily towards them as people.

Go bitch to your friends, complain to your coworkers, sing a sob story to your local bartender. There's no justification for leaving hate texts/voicemails, asking out their friend, stalking, or otherwise doing threatening things.