Guys, What things do you typically look for in a potential date?

[Aimée__LJ]

I feel like I'm often not ticking any of my dates boxes so what do you guys actually look for in a girl?

[ChrisMaster69]

For me it’s a bit of a tick box exercise, it’s some not all, as I very much doubt all would be available lol.

confidence, I really like girls that have that confidence to say and do what they want,

intelligence, not have they got a degree, more can they hold a conversation, have knowledge various subjects, understand basic things about life etc.

independence, basically they can survive on their own, they can make own decisions, know what best approach is, know when it’s a joint decision or needs both heads.

Not a follower, does her thing with clothes styling, music, happy to try new shit, just because she can.

now the above can be hard to spot for a date but I do actively check for them when chatting , flirting with potential date.

A lot of flirting is learning about them, how they think, sense of humour, confidence often comes out, as does their independence.

flirting with a strong confident girls is a great laugh, it’s a nightmare when meek and quiet as you do all the talking and you are trying to get her out of her shell.

right body stuff, the bits that you get attracted to ( there is an element of coincidence here, but I’ve said this a few times lol).

okay, I look at her eyes and mouth, are they pretty, is there some fun behind the eyes and the smile.

then it’s rest of the body,

boobs, I pretty much always go for small boobs
then it’s things like Tattoos and Piercings (not a follower, does her own thing etc).
Slim to average body (again, it’s not a ‘must have this…, it’s a tick box criteria).

I also prefer girls that are active in regards to sports, running, gym, happy to try new stuff.

A big one for me, as they need to get on with my friends (social group) is they cannot be racist or against LGBT side of things, as those are part of my friend group.

the short version is:

someone relatively normal, has a sense of humour, not timid, small boobs, nice to great personality and is happy to tell me I am being a dickhead and to stand her ground.

Sorry for long shopping list 😂

[Turrorrr]

to have a really good time outside with her and have fun like i would have it with my friend with bonus sexual attraction.
there are normally two possible drawbacks of this mindset. one is that you might fall into friendzone if you act too friendly. the other one is that you should build some sexual tension but at the same time you should try to distance yourself from only thinking about her naked and sex. if you are seriously thinking about realtionship, the immediate sexual attraction might last two weeks, and then it might get boring if you don't get along well

[Honesttguy]

Open minded, interest to some degree in psychology or how human body, minds, behaviours works. Fitness. Basically smart and good looking. If not then just basics, good looks for sex and thats it. So wich boxes do you not click in?

[Aimée__LJ]

Never seem to get past the first date 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Honesttguy]

Well do you really need to? You can have sex so what else you want?

[Aimée__LJ]

I don't want sex...

[Crazybeeguy]

What are your dates like?

[Aimée__LJ]

@Crazybeeguy usually dinner or just meeting at a park to hang out

[Crazybeeguy]

So, are you having fun? Or are you having an idea called fun? The first is a more natural experience.

[Aimée__LJ]

@Crazybeeguy I usually have a good time and they seem to as well then just nothing after lol

[Crazybeeguy]

Maybe their attention is split, without taking you out on a "date" I won't know. Whst kind of giys do you date?

[Aimée__LJ]

@Crazybeeguy don't have a particular type, just go for whoever I find attractive and get along with

[Crazybeeguy]

Certain "attraction" is a type, as a huge math nerd, if you can "quantify" what you find attractive you will find your answers. The bst way to put it, Nextflix uses the same strategy to bring you content. I love scary movies, but sometimes I want a little disney if you know what I mean?

[Honesttguy]

You sound very passive no offence, basically waiting for something to happen but nothing happens, right? Also you mention no sex, so basically 99% guys want sex, so there's your answer right there, they sense no sex vibe from you and they stop investing their time/energy.
Did you say stuff like ''hey was nice would like to meet up again sometime" as a feedback for guy? Cus guys are clueless, we have 0 education on dating and expectations from us are 100% everything and extra mile.

[Crazybeeguy]

basically the vibe is not there, not even from him.

[Aimée__LJ]

It's not that I don't want sex just don't want to only hook up or sleep with someone on the first date. I make that clear when talking to these guys prior to the date. Always say that I had a good time and ask if they want to do something again and then just radio silence

[Crazybeeguy]

Does the person seem actively engaged?
Do they seem like they are enjoying themselves? I am askimg not as an insult but for you to try something new

[Aimée__LJ]

@Crazybeeguy yeah as far as I can tell. I usually have a good time and they're usually laughing and engaged in concert as well.

[Crazybeeguy]

Then at the end ask him if he enjoyed himself, that's a tough thing unless I was there.
If you mention that you "don't want sex in the date" then that would explain the ghosting.
If that is really you then you are cute, so it's not ths looks. If you are having fun and getting dates then I would just have fun with it and ask. Like " on a scale from 0 to 10 how likely would you go on a 2nd date?" 0 being no 10 being yes. Also, do you live in a small town? Everybody knows everyone else? Are you flirting? The wrong vibe could be going out and the friendzone vibe over the flirting vibe, then no dude wants to be in the friend zone.

[Lionman95]

A partner in crime, I care cherish, share life with and hang out. I´m looking for a mixture of real life adventure, romance and some kind of buddy.
Because of biological reasons I´m less in interested in sex so adventure isn´t meant sexually but more about in terms of sports and getting to know the world.
I´d like it if we had the same moral standards and had similar interests in terms of hobbies.
General speaking a woman I can trust.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

Judging from your pics you are very attractive. So I ask what vibes you are giving off. Are they overly sexual. Because you have to make a guy chase you not let him think he has chance of quick sex. But I like a funny, educated, caring woman that knows how to treat me preferable pretty eyes and nice body. But they are not deal breakers.

[dray995]

I can’t speak for every guy because we aren’t all the same but most guys look for a minimum of a great personality (fun loving, confident, kind, good-natured, humble, etc…), loves kids, is good looking/physically attractive, good morals, isn’t mean or a bully, is respectful and has a positive upbeat attitude.

[hahahmm]

Respect.

Respect for my time. Respect for my opinions. Respect for my preferences. Respect for my freedom. Respect for my right not to be impressed by the stuff desperate guys are impressed by.

Respect for herself.

[Still-alive]

Empathetic is bug, sense of humor is huge, sexual compatibility isn't required but is highly desired too. Patience is also a virtue for me.

[Still-alive]

Also genuiness/sincerity is big too. Usually evident in how they present themselves.

And these are all things i value in myself too.

[Goatmeal]

I think fundamentally what people look for in others is someone who charges them up rather than wearing them down.

[dudeinohio]

compatible personality. Should have similar life experiences, sense of humor, attitude.. all that.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I try not to have a checklist, you limit your possibility's and your ability to possibly learn something new.

[FilmGuy93]

Fun personality, uplifting, honest, adventurous, good sense of humor, witty.