What is the best way to approach women in the street?

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Was the best way or what to say approaching women on the street? "D not to look creep

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

Try not to listen to the people discouraging you from doing this; they're honestly part of the problem.

The best way is to know what you want from the interaction, be confident, read body language, and keep it short.

Walk up to her and say something like "excuse me, I saw you and couldn't let myself leave without knowing your name, I'm so-and-so". Maintain eye contact and see her reaction. If it looks good and she doesn't brush you off, make brief small talk to build rapport. Then finish it off with something like "I don't want to keep you because I'm sure you've got stuff to do, but would you be interested in getting together sometime?"

Then if she's down, she'll give you her number. After you get her digits, say it was nice to meet her and that you'll give her a call. Then part ways.

It probably won't work all of the time because people are generally fairly hesitant around strangers, but as long as you can remain confident, socially calibrated, and completely okay with whatever negative reaction you might get, then you'll be fine and won't come off as creepy.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

I don't recommend it because it was never my style (with total strangers) but if you want to, better to be very direct and upfront. Yes, you'll get rejected a lot but some women will go for it. Let's say 3% of women would be open to you and getting approached on the street... you need to ask 33 women to have any hope at all. Not to mention that if woman #2 saw you ask out the woman 10 feet ahead of her and get rejected, she's less likely to say yes so you gotta pace yourself too. In some places women are very... animated and direct in how they respond to unwanted advances too. She might yell FU*K OFF at the top of her lungs. Or - and I've seen this happen to guys - she might talk to you for 10 minutes, and then after all of that tell you, "I never go out with guys I meet in public."

This day in age it's more likely she would approach you in a lot of public settings. Think your odds go up on approaching her if you see a single woman in a place mostly visited by men because it's possible she's only there to find a guy.

Ez-Bri-Z · Accepted Answer

Honestly it's just going to depend on the girl and there isn't a great way of knowing that until you approach her lol

Unfortunately we have sort of been conditioned to be on the defensive a lot of times when approached by guys because a lot are really aggressive. Keep a respectable distance, be confident but not cocky, if you are good with humor it helps offset the initial fear, but finally read body language well. If she is pulling back, has her side turned to you, her arms folded across her body or any other sort of defensive language then back down on your approach.

Jemini_Crocket · Accepted Answer

I guess I'm just unattractive or unlucky because most of my experiences with guys were nice. The best one was when he simply waited (I noticed that right away) whether I am busy or not, he walked up to me and nicely introduced himself and asked me out.

It's really simple but I guess it depends on the place where you live.
Too many women are quite aggressive these days and find this intrusive. I find it silly, they should be happy the men even come up to them, in future they'll probably have to do it the opposite way.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Put it this way, from the moment that woman has left her house, pretty much every guy is thinking the same thing.

by the time she walks the 1/2 mile to where you are, chances are you would be the 5-10th person to approach her in the street.

Now imagine it’s you walking through a gay part of town and from when you enter until you leave, 10 different guys try and hit on you.

How you going to feel?

basic rule is don’t approach women in the street, it’s just bad and creepy.

yeah if they are stopped and you make eye contact and actually know how to do things from a distance, then let her make first move, especially true if on her own, again never approach a woman on her own.

for simplicity, do not approach women in the street.

Qdbrown · Answer

For about three years now, I wouldn't. If she feels threatened, feels like you're a creeper, she is very likey to call the cops, say scary things and you will get questioned and maybe hauled in. It's not safe to ask for dates anymore.

A guy got hammered being nice telling a girl last year in New York, if the credit card at her feet was hers. She called the cops on him and he spent 20 minutes getting asked what he was doing as they checked him out. She felt like he was going to attack her.

HiveBee · Answer

There isn't one. THERE isn't A BEST WAY!

You have only a single choice. That choice is this:

Approach women until you develop the social skills with women to be successful at doing approaches.

Sorry, that is the only right answer.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I would recommend not approaching women in the street, and just sticking with environments where you know women are expecting and wanting to be approached

Dude_777 · Answer

It would be a bit ackward, but you could just ask some directions or ask about a place nearby etc. Being genuinely curious about something is going to improve your odds of getting a little bit chance of success.

Dress sharp, walk with confidence, style perfect, nicely groomed, so that you can give a positive vibe of a person with a high social status, which will definitely help.

Or just walk up to her, introduce yourself a little and say" you seem like an interesting person, can i get your number"? Simple as that.

If she is interested, you will get her number or Snapchat etc.

slatyb · Answer

Approaching strange women in the street is very unlikely to lead to a date. It's just not a good time, women aren't receptive to being approached when they are on their way somewhere. You might throw out a compliment like "Nice hat", but nothing overtly sexual. If you get a "Thanks" you might try to continue the conversation. Still your chance of success is low.

Omario2049 · Answer

DON'T!!! But if u must then something around "Excuse me. Hi. I know this is random and u may find it strange or even corny but ur beauty litterally just grabbed me by the balls and I just had to let you know or I would hate myself for not at least asking you out." It's direct, sincere, kinda funny and authentic all at the same time. Also it's very important that u make eye contact while speaking to her. If she says she has a boyfriend or anything negative, respond with something like " I know this is pretty random and and putting u on the spot and I don't want u to feel like a cheap slut giving it never to some random guy on the street but how else does a guy generate a whole relationship out of thin air with a tiny window of opportunity? Just give it a shot, u won't regret it." All with eye contact. Your welcome.

HairyPoppins · Answer

Understand That She Might Not Appreciate Being Approached At All. ...
Consider Your Surroundings. ...
Open with an Honest Conversation Starter. ...
Use Compliments That Are Relatively Vague — And Never Sexual. ...
Pay Close Attention to Her Body Language. ...
Let Her Initiate Further Correspondence. ...
Be On Your Way... don't hold her up too long.

Heiniken · Answer

Just a numbers game, approach lots and don't take it personally.

Best thing is to have a short conversation with them (a few minutes) then ask for the number over a coffee date. If you can't have half a conversation and just ask for the number then they won't be interested.

cth96190 · Answer

The best way is to not approach women.
In all Western jurisdictions a cold approach can become the basis of a sexual harassment complaint.
In some jurisdictions, such as Britain and Denmark, approaching a female is a hate crime that carries prison time.
In Glasgow, in November, 2019, a pick-up artist who had been making a video about cold approaching females on the street was sentenced to two years in prison.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

If she isn't making herself approachable then its best not to. Women that send you choosing signals are attracted to you naturally so no matter what you really say theyre into you. If ahe doesn't and you end up having to prove yourself to her then she won't respect you the the way she would if she's in high interest

Kaamraj · Answer

The best way is no way. Meaning do not approach a woman on the streets. You may have the best of intentions, however if she feels threatened or exaggerates then you can be in serious legal trouble. Then is it worth the risk of legal fees, court hearings, and no doubt loss of reputation and peace of mind? - I think not.

exitseven · Answer

I don't know if there is any answer to that question. I don;t think many girls would be very receptive to somebody just coming up to them on the street and start hitting on them. Maybe if the guy was really handsome it might work but otherwise forget it.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

There needs to be a context first, if you're jogging on the street and regularly cross paths with a woman doing the same thing, you can greet them by saying "Hi" and take things slowly from there.

Probably, I actually never did that LOL.

peachicus · Answer

The best way is to not.

When people are out in public they don't want to talk to randomers, they just want to get on with their lives.

Going up to woman in public and trying to start conversation or hitting on them is just intimidating and a bit creepy.

Stick to specific dating events or apps :)

MzAsh · Answer

Just don’t.  I get men trying to approach me on the street constantly. Yesterday I was just going to the damn mailbox. There really is no way to not look like a jackass this way.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If she gives you choosing signals i. e. stares at, smiles at you with a interest in you. You wave at her and go introduce yourself to her.

Never approach a woman randomly especially from behind as she doesn't know you from nowhere and that would scare her.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Can see the Impact of Pandemic.
Well just go and spank their ass. This won't waste anyone's time and also even if u get nothing then too you got something. Just spank them hardest. and ask ur frnd to make video from far fool them about youtubing and then if she seems cool can go ahead.

1truekhaleesi · Answer

"Dont." Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

You should totally order a t-shirt with your name on it & that might be a great start.

Slartybartfast · Answer

First , invent a time machine and go back a few decades to when this was accepted behavior.  Second, make sure you are extremely good looking.  Third, have an attorney on retainer.

MCheetah · Answer

Be tall and really attractive. Words mean almost nothing anymore.

Roxi-2 · Answer

If she looks at you more than once or smiles at you more than once I would say it’s safe to say hello and ask for social media or number

Avicenna · Answer

When they are not in a hurry and you have some time to actually talk to them (of course they could always pretend they have to meet someone somewhere else). Such occasions are very rare.

the_imperfectionist · Answer

That would depend on the person. For me, I don't like being approached on the street at all. It's better to do it in a closed social setting.

FatherJack · Answer

The best way is do NOT approach , you will more than likely piss her off , as she will likely be focused on going from A -B and getting on with her life.

JoeyG_7048 · Answer

Well if they're not making eye contact with you they probably don't want nothing to do with you. so don't approach them think of their feelings not yours

Shihab91 · Answer

There is a high chany that it won't work because women in the streets usually heading somewhere and have no time for this , especially if she walks faster than normal.

blank_expression · Answer

Statistically and without context that is the stupidest thing you can do. You have a better chance of her approaching you.

Anonymous · Answer

People in the street dont have time for this Maybe in the parks, libraries, clubs etc. but not out of nowhere middle in the street when she is busy

Goatmeal · Answer

I think it helps to remember that some women will not be into you - and some will. Hitting on women is not about convincing every woman to like you. It's about finding the ones that do.

RandomLoser · Answer

A gun is better than a knife. And tie her up before you start cause she could run away. Also don't forget protection.

kitkills · Answer

Just don't. You're gonna get assault charges for trying to talk to them like that. It's only going to end bad for you. Do it in a social setting so people know you're not being a weirdo

InferiorElegy · Answer

The best way is you don't, especially these days and if you live in north America.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Just be like him, but continue to keep the bridge up always

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EnglishEuropean · Answer

Throw a ball at her. If she catches it you can approach her. Or have a dog, that way she will approach you.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the girl. I actually like cheesy pick up lines like "Did it hurt when you fell from the sky?" lol

Anonymous · Answer

You don't. You're looking at false rape accusations and sexual harassment accusations at best. Women are best avoided.

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously they’re going to tell you it depends on the girl, but that obviously means that the practical approach is that none like it... so don’t do it at all. Simple.

David_Kek · Answer

Hitting them in the head with a big rock seems to do the trick.

kevyhanma · Answer

Have your wingman wear a mask and pull a gun on her then fight him take a bullet in your ass and then introduce yourself

UncleJessieRabbit · Answer

I'd say begin with saying hello and asking a nice question. Leave the rest of it afterwards,

Anonymous · Answer

Pardon me. I don't mean to be so direct but my name is... I know its crazy but something compelled me to introduce myself. What might your name be?

Tiger288 · Answer

It's not worth to approach women on the street trust me

mustafabey · Answer

don't approach any women in the street unless you fall in love.

Asianguy123 · Answer

Pretend that you were not looking and dump into her

Anonymous · Answer

Don't unless you have a death wish or like the taste of prison food

Anonymous · Answer

From am alley way. I tent to ask how much money they have

fonduegirl · Answer

Don't. It's kinda creepy.

TheFlak38 · Answer

women call that rape today.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Don't. Women bite these days.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Simply. Don't.

Twalli · Answer

When you approach them introduce yourself

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

thats why there is an entire industry out there

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

I don't, I have issues with people I do not know.

msc545 · Answer

Cross to the other side and ignore them.

Anonymous · Answer

Your better off doing online dating

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Don't do it.

Anonymous · Answer

Offer her 100$ for a good time...

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