Should I go out with a sex offender?

Question

I just started talking to this guy the other day and we’re planning to meet up tomorrow to go to the movies. He’s 23 and last night I ended up looking up his name on google and found out that he’s a registered sex offender. It said “Lewd or lascivious acts with a child under 14” but doesn’t show any convictions/jail time. It also said something about 2019 so I’m pretty sure that’s when this took place. Should I still go out with this guy and give him a chance or stop talking to him?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Why the hell are you going to be dating a person who is lusting after miners? I don't care if the girl is 16 or 17 years old. He has no business looking in attempting a another young person. That's enough to tell you what his reason intentions are with being with you. He considers it primarily sexual. And if you're going to be with him regardless of what it's being said, then you got to be responsible for being involved with that kind of man. And if God forbid he does serious harm to you, rape you, Etc, do not complain. Because you picked that man. It should not happen to you, and I pray it doesn't happen to you, but you need to use some common sense. Him not serving jail time does not mean that he still isn't registered as a sex offender. You do not always have to do jail time in order for you to prove to the world what is and isn't done. You should not be asking other people should you go out with a sex offender. It's just common sense. You are 22 years old, you want an adult, you figured that out and ask yourself that question. And it's not meant to be rude. But you are an adult. And if you cannot make an adult decision, it's best you stay single. What does the last thing I need to do is get hurt because you refuse to do what's right. If you're going to get hurt, then you have to take responsibility and accountability for the heart. But if you can't handle it, then you can't be crying and whining the blues when it happens. If you're too young for something that's very serious, if you cannot think for yourself, best to be smart then to be unwise.

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

Some girls lie about their age because they actually LOOK a lot older. When I was in school a lot of girls were big in size and had mature faces. My mother thought these girls were aunties her age with 5/6 children! They looked like their bodies were falling apart even before 16. Now even though I am 23 I look like a kid and sometimes boys joke with me thay they’ll need to check my ID if they were ever to get involved. This shows how much girls actually lie or that boys assumed they were older.

Apart from that it could be that the offender was someone of the same name and/or DOB but it wasn’t this guy you’re talking to.

If he wasn’t convicted then it might not have been serious. It would be best to ask him I suppose. In 2019 he would have been 20/21 however if the incident occured years before that he may have been 16/17 with a 13/14 year old. That is a very common occurrence. I have known my boyfriend who is older than me since I was 15 but we started a relationship when I was 17 and a half and he was a few weeks shy of 23.

averageguy4 · Accepted Answer

so he was 21 and they were under 14... It's messed up but depending on circumstances it may not have been as bad as the report makes it out to be. It's possible she looked older than 14 and if he thought she was older at the time, say like 18, it may not have seemed that bad at the time. I knew a guy that was 20 and slept with a 16 year old thinking she was around the same age since she went to a college party. It's not like the next day I thought he was a pedophile, he literally thought she was around the same age and turned out he was wrong. Based on the report you read things may not have been so cut and dry. Since he wasn't given jail time there may have been enough evidence on his side of the story that pointed to him not actually being a pedophile, just unlucky like a friend of mine. When I was 13 there was a guy in my grade that was 6"2, had a beard, and dunked. The guy could pass for 25 at 13. Women are even more ambiguous with age than men are so I would give his side a listen, it may turn out he is a normal guy and was just super unlucky.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Let's play a game of time machine, shall we? Let's say you go out with this guy and you have good chemistry. Eventually you get pregnant (whether by accident or on purpose) . Maybe you two are even feeling good about raising a kid together. Your brain will try to forget/home the sex offender stuff isn't true. But one day, you find this guy doing something shady with your child. That's on you for opening the door to the guy in the first place. It didn't have to be.

Hell, his long term plan could even be to find someone dumb enough to have his baby and then that mom dies by 'accident' and he has the kid all to himself. Pedos ONLY care about themselves. Beware.

coachTanthony · Answer

No of course not. Know your worth. “All the down votes on my comments are a glitch. GAG is looking into the issue. Thank you for your understanding.”

hannahjo022 · Answer

Few years ago I started to see someone and I found out from someone they told me the person I was interested in dating was a registered sex offender. I was shocked and saw the information online. Saw that the guy I was seeing had a sexual relationship with a 14 year old girl when he was 20. I told the guy about that and he said he was stupid and naïve. He told me that the young girl was forcing him to do something he did not want to do and ended up telling her parents they were having a sexual relationship. I ended up not dating him because he was hooking up with other women. So I ended it but you should really talk it out with him and trust your gut.

DWornock · Answer

Almost all sex offenders are guys that had a relationship with the same age or younger under the age of consent girlfriend. 2119 is not necessarily when it took place since it can take 2 or 3 years for the case to work itself through the court system. From the information given it is not possible to know when or what happened. If sex, he could have taken a plea to a lesser crime. They could have played around, or she could have sent him a nude sexualized photo and he kept it.

The biggest problem with having a relationship with him is not whether or not he is a good person. Instead, it is how society will treat him and the difficulty of getting a good job, and the limitations of where he is allowed to live.

CrypticViper · Answer

No, there's many other men out there. The thought that comes to my mind is the fact that he's listed as a sex offender once, meaning he's been caught once, it could be the tip of the ice-burg. Plus even if the relationship worked out between you two, imagine worrying about him at family functions with younger family members.

ThePolishKnight37 · Answer

This is my take, he was about the same age and the girls parents did not like him and decided to teach him a lesson. I would give him a chance and I bet he tells you about it when he feels comfortable. So do not go into this with ant preconceived ideas is my advice.

slatyb · Answer

How long ago did this happen? Under 14 is pretty young. How old was he when the offense occurred. I wouldn't be too worried about a 16-year-old with a 13-year-old, but a 19-year-old? That's something else.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

How the fuck is "registered child molester" not an immediate deal breaker? Why would yoy consider going out with a man like that? Who cares if he served jail time or not? Most of them never do, it doesn't mean he didn't do it

SphynxUK · Answer

People aren’t on the register for miscommunication or simple mistakes.  They are put on there because they still currently pose a threat to society.

lpoots · Answer

this is a charge which normally would carry a sentance
he would be on the sex offenders register
do you have children
the child was groomed for his gratifacation
remember this
maxwell is charged with grooming women
over the age of 18
Lewd and lascivious conduct is defined as a sexual act that is offensive to community standards of decency. It often involves a child

Agape93 · Answer

Why is this even a question? Don’t go out with pedophiles hon. Have some dignity

Lionman95 · Answer

If he changed why not. Everybody deserves a second chance. If you don´t feel well around him then leave him.

molonski2 · Answer

How long have you been speaking with him? Sounds a bit risky for my liking , but you should confront him prior to meeting first.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I sure as fuck wouldn't touch him with a 20' pole!!! Other than to hit him with it!!

Tstrbrainer · Answer

It's suspicious that he haven't said about this to you before, anyway it isn't something to brag about.

If these lewd acts are of non consensual nature, don't risk yourself. Otherwise, talk him about it and decide.

exitseven · Answer

I think being a registered sex offender is a big red flag. I would steer clear.

Luckylobo_taco5 · Answer

“With a minor under the age of 14” has me feeling extremely nauseous. That alone would have me saying “nope”. Don’t lower your standards, like others have said. Find someone better, there are so many people that are worth it, not this dude.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as you're not under 14, you have nothing to worry about. And he might have other good qualities. You should just give him a chance. Maybe you can make him attracted to women his own age.

anylolone · Answer

If he's registered, it means there's a conviction or plea deal. It could be worst than the plea deal, or nothing. It's up to you.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Seriously, no. Anyone who molests a 14-year-old is beyond redemption. If you're into bad boys I got a ticket for speeding one time.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not, There are plenty more Guys out th ear have never done anything like that and it sounds like you want to go out with him still probably because he is mysterious or something.

CreamySeed · Answer

The short answer is yes the long answer is absolutely!

BUNroaster · Answer

Chance sure just be on the look out. Don't give into anything. But yeah I say a chance is fine

Blaine999 · Answer

Don't do it, it's bad enough that my sister is blindly dating a sex offender. Major red flag luv, best wash your hands of him.

RingOfFire · Answer

Stop talking to him! And RUN!

Goatmeal · Answer

Lol I wonder why "toxic masculinity" endures...

COMMODOREII · Answer

Why would you want to?

In_Trance · Answer

I don't know why you would even consider this

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

You serious? Don't!

lycanthrope3 · Answer

Ask him his side of the story, give him a chance

eatingyou247 · Answer

hell no

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You should not.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess depending on what he actually did

Anonymous · Answer

don't

NightHawk99 · Answer

NO...

jazzfcb · Answer

Don't just don't

TheAfrikan · Answer

Just let him go.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Stay away from him

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