Do guys fall in love quicker with girls or is it the other way around?

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It took me a lot longer to tell my boyfriend that I loved him. Share your experiences here 🥰

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Accepted Answer

This is yet another question that is not determined by gender. It is based upon the person and what they expect. There is no determination showing that more guys fall in love faster than women. I have seen a lot of women fall for a guy and even if the guy doesn't want anything to do with them the girl will pursue them. But, I can say the same thing about guys. I really hate questions trying to be based on gender when it boils down the person because in this case both genders are guilty.

I mean all the questions have been directed towards one gender or the other and have no basis on how the knowledge was obtained.

Why do men cheat more than women?

Why do more women flirt with guys on social media than men?

Why are men more prone to getting a divorce than women?

Why do more women ignore their dates with their phone glued to their faces than men? (This one can be proven by just walking in a restaurant. Both parties are sitting at the table across from each other and phones glued to their faces.)

If you are going to base a question on a gender then have the numbers to back it up because most of the questions on here that try to call out one gender or the other, both parties are very guilty.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

My thoughts are it is dependent on the person; some women fall faster, some guys do. But in general, I think men fall faster and harder than women. Women take a while to warm up, feel safe, open up and be vulnerable. There are guys like that too, but most don't care to waste time, they are confident, open, ready to develop intimacy right away if they are attracted to a woman.

Checking out the poll results I think they more or less agree with me. About 50/50 on the women, and men it's close to 2/3 or even more that feel they fall in love faster.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Wow fascinating male vote there.
I wonder if it's their perception, or actually true.
I don't believe it.
Male attraction tends to be based primarily on the physical at the beginning. Female attraction is more complex and has typically prioritized appearance a bit lower because they're assessing everything about the guy, right from the start. Safety, stability, status, all that is taken into account. Guys only have to worry about attraction and subconsciously fertility at first.

I don't think men can put themselves inside women's/girl's heads very easily. And vice versa maybe.
I can sort of tell when a guy is feeling good at the beginning of a relationship, but can't tell when it tips for them into something more serious. That's very, very difficult to know, unless they express it verbally, directly. (Actions/behaviour is not enough. That doesn't rule out they're still in the physical attraction/sex phase.)
My personal experience is that I have strong feelings about a lot of things, quickly. Be they good or bad.

thimmslicc · Accepted Answer

My boyfriends always fell for me first. I fall after I notice he does care.
Some guys fall because they wanna know more about you and care for you. A girl can fall in love but once you break her heart. Piece by piece it goes.

coachTanthony · Answer

--------The one who cares the most falls quicker.  "You can't blame gravity for falling in love." ~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

MrOracle · Answer

Guys as a rule fall in love more quickly, but tend to remain cautious for a while to make sure there aren't any hidden deal breakers. The feelings will be there, though, even if he isn't trying to show them.

But guys fall in LUST far more often, so lust alone should not be mistaken for love.

TheorionMage · Answer

If by 'fall' you mean become 'infatuated' borne of imagined visual fantasies... Yes, its MOST guys~

Never forget Frank Zappa's eternal lyric: "If she were MY daughter...
What would you DO , Daddy?
If she were MY daughter... I'd cover THAT girl in chocolate syrup
and make her do 'the Nasty' on the White House lawn..." ;) LOL!

canucker90 · Answer

Guys fall in love faster but that's based on attraction first and then feeling "companionship" of I'm with someone because society teaches guys you are complete with a girl in your life. But then society teaches girls, be independent to complete your life. It doesn't make sense to me. I think girls take longer because she has to see what type of guy he is. Is he toying with her feelings? Is he pursuing her just to sleep with her? Many things come into play. Guys who actually think things through will take a cautious approach with girls. That's if a guy doesn't let his dick do the thinking because that's a recipe for disaster then.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

guys these days equally see esp when its a life decison that a girl is attractive has stable mind and not looking for things in outside world to get her in mood all the time, not easily frustble, may be mature guys are lesor those who go in deep but possibility cannot be ruled out.
the guys described by you are less serious in their own life leave alone about the girl
With girls it is obviously attraction and appearence that comes into play but with familiarity to the guy is also an important factor statu i dont think is predominant

littlebitmoody · Answer

As a girl, i catch feelings/am touched easily but falling in love and admitting that to myself takes a long time. I think more than gender, history and environment governs this.

exitseven · Answer

I used to tell my wife I loved her and she would make a face like she was going to spit up. This went on for many weeks until she finally said it back.

Rok4bakAR · Answer

Men fall in love once or get their heart broken once! After that they’ll never be able to go back! Meaning they can never love again.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Very rarely have I ever said the “L word” first. Many times I never even said it only replying to theirs with, “I know”. I cannot speak for other men but I get the impression women say it far more often. Now, whether them saying it actually means they authentically feel that way is open for debate. Frankly, I doubt most do. The few I actually believed where the compelling ones.

ProCoffeeAntiSleep · Answer

I don't think its always gendered, but I think one partner always falls quicker, the other falls harder

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

That depends on the people in the relationship. I'm not one to fall that easily either. I refuse to allow myself to until I am 100% sure.

throwsomecheeseonit · Answer

Depends. Everyone is different i don't think it is up to gender. More up to circumstance. For instance a person who has not had much love in their life might fall in love faster because they are yearning for that connection

Shihab91 · Answer

well since I'm a man ( hunter) when I tell a girl I like her this means I have been watching her for a long time so I have an idea who is she and I already like her while I'm still complete stranger to her

Browneye57 · Answer

Everybody is different honey. It's all based on their own life experiences.  I can fall in love in about twenty minutes. LOL

Itsmeeeee77 · Answer

I fall in love after initial attraction. And I don’t see a woman’s boobs to fall in love rather the type of woman and her face and her eyes and lips. And I express it soon within 3 months.

gotc147 · Answer

Hasn't all the research shown men fall in love much faster than women?

ChiTown33 · Answer

Not in my experience. It's just the opposite. I mean I may find her attractive first but that doesn't mean I love her it's just initial attraction. Love comes with trust and I trust slowly. In my experience much slower than any woman I've ever met.

PBarlow · Answer

Guys def quicker. If some guy has some issues. One night on the party is all it takes

boggboss · Answer

wouldn't say either falls for the other first everyone is differnt with how fast they fall

Floppy2112 · Answer

When a guy falls, like really falls for a woman, it's fast. We can tell a lot of stuff right away and 90% we're right if there is reciprocation.

Vikkrram · Answer

For me it depends on person to person... I am a shy guy... So for me it is hard... to tell my feelings... I would be really afraid to tell my feelings 😅

candleteabrunch · Answer

Yes but it can vary. What if she's i guess my second choice? If i was deciding between two women i equally fancied. Lol. Or if the only woman to like me was plain-looking. I may not feel that love so quickly, or even at all 😅

watrewks · Answer

I don't know. I feel like it depends on the person.

britishbby · Answer

Personally i feel like i fall so god damn quick but my ex said it first so its 50 50 probably

Anonymous · Answer

Very interesting opinions here especially from males. I would know I'm in love with him before he knows it. After he lost me, he realized he loves me. Too late.

Anonymous · Answer

it depends on the individual, but men fall in love more often since they have a much wider attraction to women, women are only attracted to like 5% of men lol.

Bean2thousand · Answer

I fall in love in 5 seconds and then spend 5 years denying it.

OddBeMe · Answer

Gender ain’t the factor. Their parents marriage and upbringing is,

Asianguy123 · Answer

anyone who is not resourceful will fall in love quickly

Slim57 · Answer

Neither it could be either gender but i know as a fact women fall out of love quicker

K-I-S-S · Answer

I fall for women way too fast, better just to stay away.

loveslongnails · Answer

This is laughable. Girls fall SO much faster than guys. LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Girls fall in love until they have sex with the girl. Girls fall in love after they have sex with the guy. It is kind of fucked up, isn;t it

Anonymous · Answer

men because were more caring people with bigger hearts, girls are cold, you can tell jus by their shitty attitude they display around everyone, they only care about theirself

slatyb · Answer

About the same on average.

Massageman · Answer

Guys fall more quickly. Gals fall more deeply.

RingOfFire · Answer

Only girlymen fall in love faster than the woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys def fall quicker

Omario2049 · Answer

Women will never believe this but it's #FACTS.

TimlovesKristine · Answer

I fell in love with my girlfriend first

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Guys do also because they're the lonelier one.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

It's much easier for us

goodvibes4life247 · Answer

I think it all depends on the girl for me

Anonymous · Answer

once men see boobs and butt thats it their in love

Iron_Man · Answer

I’m not really sure

SamFromFL · Answer

Girls fall quicker

Zygum · Answer

Mostly guys

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Definitely girls

JennieF · Answer

I think we do.

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