Have you EVER rejected someone or even left someone because of what they did for a living?

[Still-alive]

I'm just wondering just how important this is for people. can the TYPE of job they have be a deal breaker for you?

I did leave someone because of their job

I did reject someone because of their job

No what they did for a leaving was not a factor as to why i rejected or left someone

I only left or rejected someone because of a LACK of a job not what type of job they had

[NathanDavis]

Occupation alone has never been a deal break for me, not a reason to leave or to reject someone.

But it is a factor that I have to consider for the interpersonal compatibility and in my case, it's mostly based on how much time do you have available for a relationship.

For example, I've never been in a relationship with a workaholic, or someone that has 12 hour shifts... nor with someone that has to travel for work and be away 15 days at a time, never tried long distance relationships.

Again, I don't see those things as deal breakers, I just have not preferred them, and I am not entirely closed to a possibility in the future.

Then there's also more obvious things, if you're a sicario then you might not be my type of girl... lol. Or "just" an accountant with five houses, 10 vehicles and can afford to travel four times a year.

[Walt832]

What about self employed?

I do lawn care and few landscaping jobs solo. I got equipments, two riding mowers and a commercial walk behind and got a 2018 ram truck financed. I make at least 27-34k yearly. I started in 2016. Single since 2014. No kids and never been married. Do live with my parents due to my dad recovering from covid under oxygen trying to go back to work. Mom had a shoulder replacement, can't work. My brother single as well, we both split bills to help my parents.

So my question is would you date this guy?

[Walt832]

I guess not 😂. Well at least i keep my money 🤣. Live my life style, go fishing, travel, go to sports bar 🍻, massages, in my spa bubble bath, cut my own lawn, in my backyard with my Kindle reading, go shopping for my own clothes, wash my own clothes, Non a single argument aaaaaaaaaah 😁☮️🍸.

Now i understand why the Buddhist monk told me, "his wallet was happy" 🤣. I wonder if he had problems decided to go as monk 😂. Shiiiit 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

[Walt832]

Still not a single answer. Bet because of my salary. Last time i check, Target team leader aka supervisor makes same salary. Between $15-19 hour. The only difference he has bachelor degree and I highschool diploma and college hours. The difference is I choose my schedule and time. Build my own customers. Plus he makes $15 -19 hour. When i do $35- $120 per yard within 30 min-45 min depending on lawn size residential or commercial. When I finish my lawns in the week i have off days i can be anywhere 🙂. While in target employee is being check if you are late, fix schedule and laid off. Yes i am under the sun 😎 working but hey i enjoy the outdoors compare being cubicle or in a building.

I remember working for target every holiday i was working, rush home to celebrate new years with my family. Now, no rush i can adjust my own time and day.

Watch when I start to hire employees aaaaaaah probably will get answer 😂.

[DaisyAimi]

I used to date this guy. And for me him leaving high school, quitting his job and thinking about going to the same path as his dad (his dad is in prison) is also a part of why we broke up. I didn’t like the idea of him ruining his future with drugs dealing and violence.
Then I rather want a man that is hardworking and thinks about his future. No matter what he does, as long as he is working hard so i can at least see something stable.

[musicloverr8]

Yes, it is a big factor especially for men. I would not date a man with a low-paying job, it may seem superficial, but that is ultimately what determines your quality of life when you are married. They need to have resources to support their children as well.

[Still-alive]

Hmm so lets say you marry a guy with a good job and he got laid off and can’t manage to find another decent one?

[musicloverr8]

I think if he had a solid background / professional experience, he will be able to find something good eventually. But it would really depend on the person - some women are content with having a husband as a stay at home dad!

[Still-alive]

Well what im asking is would you still support him even through a major period where he can't find a decent job fo a long time?

[Account]

Yes. I would. Examples: Police, army, drug dealer, anything that has to do with criminal activities and anything that has to do with sex work.

[jennifer_bloom]

I rejected two guys who did not work for a living.

[Still-alive]

did they have a good explanation for why? like they were full time students or soemthing?

[jennifer_bloom]

Both guys were disabled. One guy was nice and tried his best to be a good person but I turned him down because I did not want my future children to have genetic problems if I marry him. The other guy was a leech and would ask me to buy him things he didn’t need, by ordering $15.00 worth of food at McDonald’s and telling me to pay for it when the dollar menu is under $5.00. He would also like to you to get you to meet him by telling you 4 times he bought you a gift on his vacation and then it turns out it’s a post card costing less than ten cents and after ordering his food, he tells you he did not bring money and you have to pay.

[jspl90]

those are very viable reason may I ask how was the first man disabled?

[jennifer_bloom]

@jspl90 he had an intellectual issue and it was obvious because his face was asymmetrical, his mouth had a slight twist to one side, but he could communicate clearly and was very good looking.

[HawkPerception]

Hmm... I don't think jobs matter much to me, but I'd rather not date someone that has a government job like police or military. I doubt I'd have a lot of similarities with cops or people in the military anyways though, so I don't think that scenario will ever arise.

[TsundereMatrix]

Not necessarily what they did for a job but what they spent their money on. I had a guy ask me out before who had a decent job but he constantly complained about having no money for cigarettes. Later I found out he had a cocaine addiction and that’s where his money was going.

[Slartybartfast]

It's common for a wife to leave a man who looses a high paying job or takes a lower paying job.

I got tired of working 100+ hours at two full-time jobs and coming home to cook , clean and mow the lawn to get three hours of sleep before working another 14-20 hours. I kept going because of this fact. When I quit one of my jobs she left.

Men are only valued as disposable resources.

[libsaretards]

I did once. Normally what someone does for work is not a big deal to me. However, I met a woman who worked at a fast food chain. Normally this would not bother me. However, the reason I rejected her was because she had no plans for her life. She wanted to work just enough to get by. She had no idea how to plan for a future and was very irresponsible.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, what they did for a leaving was not a factor as to why I rejected or left someone Why I dropped the relationship cause there is no way I can be with someone who lives in the State of California unless one of us would move there and the high cost of living would be too hard for me and I don't even know about their income for people with disabilities plus health insurance for disabled people I would be moving there like the blind leading the blind?

[just_a_potato]

As long as they aren't a sex worker (I'm too selfish to set that aside) I don't care what they do for a living. Just need them to be able to feed themselves and not die on the job lol.

[Still-alive]

im a sex worker... i work sex into my relationships all the time :P

[just_a_potato]

I want to hit you so bad for that one 😂

[SaoirseS]

I’ve never rejected or left someone because of what he did for a living. I’ve been left or rejected because of what I do though.

[Still-alive]

What do you do?

[SaoirseS]

Funeral home owner/operator.

[SaoirseS]

Like your screen name by the way. Some of my clients obviously can’t make the same claim.

[Still-alive]

Thanks lol

[DarkCarousel]

@SaoirseS your last comment made me laugh out loud!

[SaoirseS]

@DarkCarousel. Saw the screen name and just couldn’t resist 😬

[crazy8000]

There are jobs that I refuse to even have in my life. others there I wouldn't date.
Here's a few.
Prostitution. police. military. spies. assassin's. organized crimes. politicians with certain ideologies. surveillance...

Couldn't care less if someone have a job or not. as long they support themselves and their lifestyle.

[ChrisMaster69]

I've bee dumped for being in the Air Force

for me I don’t really give a toss what people do for a living.

I've said before one of my friends was a dancer at a gentleman’s club, paying her way through Uni.

[pleasestopthis]

I never got to reject anyone because of what they did for a living, but there are definitely some careers that are a deal breaker for me. Illegal activities, like drug dealing or money laundry.

[pleasestopthis]

money laundering"

[Still-alive]

what about legit careers? anything that would cause concern for you? for some i know police might be one due to the stress of wondering if they'll return home after day to day.

[pleasestopthis]

I don't really want to date men whose careers require of them to be away from home for long periods of time. Police men too as they face a lot of risks. Also, porn actors.

[Anonymity123999]

If im being honest, unless he's still a university student would prefer a guy to make near the same as me or higher because I dont want the stress put on me to be the breadwinner and fear I would resent him for it.

[Seinna]

Not because of a specific profession but I often don't give a chance to a guy who's position in life tells me he has zero ambition. I'm a fairly ambitious person, I want someone who matches it at least to some degree.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

A had a boyfriend who lost a job I always thought didn't suit him. Then, he became lazy & unreliable. He was trying to be a sugar baby. However, I kicked him out before he can further take advantage of me.

[loves2learn]

I would never reject or judge someone who was gainfully employed.

[Still-alive]

:) :)

[crazyish]

No. If you make money for a living the how doesn't matter.

[Still-alive]

Perfect ;)

[menina]

I've never rejected anyone because of what they did for a living. I've never had a guy asking me out and I won't have until at least 2025.
However I would reject if they didn't want to work or if they did something illegal or morally wrong.

[DarkCarousel]

I rejected someone who was a bartender. Our schedules were never similar and we could never see each other. We only had one date. Tried to make things work but it wasn’t a bust.

[DarkCarousel]

To clarify, it wasn’t just because of his job though.

[elizamichale1]

What job someone does is entirely upto them n it has got nothing to do with relationships

[Still-alive]

yes agreed

[elizamichale1]

😊😊

[Leavesbound]

Nope I never did that. I don't reject people over trivial things though I might if they were a drug dealer, terrorist, mass murderer, or televangelist etc.

[Avicenna]

No, not because of what she did for a living, but because of her overall financial situation ($80K in student loans in forebearance, which she had no chance of ever paying off).

[goaded]

I was rejected by a woman because she didn't think I could cope with her killing animals on a regular basis as a biologist. She was probably right. Does that count?

[Overmind]

I met a gorgeous woman once & seemed to hit it off, learned she was a stripper & that killed it for me. Not what I'd call mother material.

[exitseven]

As long as what they did for a living was not illegal and was not in the sex industry it doesn't make any difference to me.

[electromagnetic]

My first boyfriend didn’t do anything so he had to go.

[EssenceOfLight]

No, I never did that.
I have ex prostitutes in my acquaintance circle but I wouldn't date them or start a relationship with one of them because of their past.

[loveslongnails]

I haven't to this point rejected anyone I dated, or considered dating, because of their job. But I would have, and I would today.

[UnicornU]

I never shame people for their jobs unless she’s a serial criminal then that’s something

[Omario2049]

How about prostitute? Or human trafficker?

[Wiredone]

I have never rejected anyone because of the type of work they did. As long as they are gainfully employed I don't care what their job is.

[michael1469]

Yes - it was because she did NOTHING for a living other then try to stay on welfare... to this day she is on welfare pissing and moaning why she can't get ahead... gee i wonder way?

[Anonymous]

I would never date a capitalist, finance guy, or conformist..

[Espresso-Grande]

Yeah, he worked in an
abattoir.

[Still-alive]

how did he feel about working there?

[Espresso-Grande]

He loved his job 😯

I also rejected a guy because he said when he was a teenager and in a bad mood, he stuck a nail in a headgehog because he stood on it by accident and it hurt his foot. He said he'd never do it now, but I couldn't date any guy who had ever harmed or killed an animal intentionally. No matter how old he was at the time

[Still-alive]

hmm yeah thats bad

if he had hated his job but had to do it out of necessity would that have made a difference to you?

[Espresso-Grande]

No. Even if he needed the job to lift himself out of poverty so he can survive, I still couldn't date him. I'd totally understood why he took the job, but I still wouldn't date him

[Still-alive]

why not?

[Espresso-Grande]

Because it would make me question who he really is inside. I believe you get to see who people really are inside when they either have everything or nothing

[Still-alive]

well if he hates it but has to do it, what does that tell you about him?

[fonduegirl]

I usually am more unreasonable than this.

[Still-alive]

i appreciate the honesty

[NicoleNatZZ]

i did yes i only go for 2 things ill let you quess

[Still-alive]

is money one of them?

[NicoleNatZZ]

yes it was

[Still-alive]

mmhmm got it lol don't need to know the reast

[NicoleNatZZ]

lol you saw my tiktok lol

[collie22]

E. I haven't ever rejected yet

[Still-alive]

nice. how often do you get approached?

[collie22]

not often

[Still-alive]

hard to believe. thats you in your profile right?

[collie22]

thank you Still. maybe when school starts it will be more often but most people around here know i have a girlfriend

[Still-alive]

some people may know that and try anyways lol just be aware of that

[WowwGirl]

@gwenhwyfar I pleed the 5th

[Still-alive]

mmhmmmm lol

[WowwGirl]

Drug dealer lol kidding

[Still-alive]

pixie stix dealer :P

[WowwGirl]

🤫..

[Still-alive]

a true sugar baby :P

[SpiderManFan2002]

I’ve never rejected someone for that.

[Kaneki05]

Nope and probably never will.

[DescendantofLilith]

I wouldn't date a slaughterer for example.

[Anonymous]

Does it count if they were scam artists?

[Still-alive]

sure ill count it. also if they were a criminal and got paid under the table. also sex workers.

[Opinion Owner]

Well they were trying to scam me; so I left them.

[monkeynutts]

Not having an occupation is a deal breaker.

[Shihab91]

No... But i would if what they do is illegal

[Miah02]

No i haven't

[ChrisMaster69]

@miah02 that’s good 👍

[Miah02]

@ChrisMaster69 thanks

[Hastur225]

she was a stripper and call girl on the side

[Slim57]

Nah that was never the reason

[Agape93]

Nope

[Jamie05rhs]

I have not.

[Jmmmfi4]

Nope