Do guys ever settle down after going through a phase where they sleep with a lot of women and have friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

Do guys ever truly settle down or do they think they want to and eventually cheat or go back to it?

[Nik1hil]

No!..
90% of guys want to settle down when they are younger than 16.. Like before their high school..
In high school girls get boobs and butts and then they reject these guys and 16 age girls show interest in guys 22-30 .
So these guys are hurts and by time they reach 18-20 their will to get married ends..
Because they know once they cross 25 .. Lot of girls age 18-25 will be interested in them.. All they need is money..

Once they understand this at age 23 .. Men realize that marriage is bad deal... By age 25 their interest falls to 0 for marriage!.. Because they know.. That their fun life will start.. They are making decent money and girls age 18-25 are interested in them.

Now at age 25 girl who rejected them in high school of their own age and went to have fun to college boys or boys age 22-30.. These girls start complaining boys age 25 or our age don't want to marry us.. Because after 25 their looks start fading away!..

Women golden years are 18-25..
Men Golden years are 25-50

What is happening here is most girls want to use their age 18-25 to party and get fucked by as many guys they want and then when their golden years are over and younger girls are beating them in attracting men these girls want to settle down.. With men their age.. Hence men age 25..
And 25 age men are just getting fun started.. Why would they want to marry you..
- your looks are fading.
- your have been creamed by a lot of men.
- and marriage means risking 50% of his assets...

And since at 25 age 18 age girls are interested in him.. They will give him sex and won't ask for marriage and even have his baby!.. And he get to enjoy her looks for 7 years.
So naturally she is a better deal..

[Nik1hil]

Their one little trick to overcome this whole Mess..

Pick a guy before he turns 16...
Be there for him and no matter how beautiful you become understand that one day it will fade away!..
Cherish that beauty with him...
And don't run away no matter how much money and luxury this world will offer you..
These kind of girls are called golden girls..

Fie example @UnknownGagsUser I don't know much Golden users here..
But I am sure she is one of those girls!..

[Wade8888]

How about only date sexually pure men, and stop dating whoremongers.

I have fulfilled my vows to God and then some, as I remain a virgin, albeit not as perfect as I'd like to be.

You fail to realize how DECEIVED your entire generation has become. You have all deceived yourselves into seeking something that is a lie from the DEVIL, which is lust/covetousness and will never bring about fulfillment.

Marriage is based on Agape love, not lust. If you do not have Agape, no relationship is ever going to work and will never satisfy you anyway, and more importantly, if you do not have Agape, your soul is in jeopardy of Hell Fire, as the Law of God says, "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself."

The word "Love" that most of you think you know is a LIE. You use the word "Love" as a concealment for the fact that you do nothing but LUST and adulterate everything you all touch.

And no, I'm not a hypocrite for pointing this out. I'm a virgin. It's pretty much impossible for a virgin to be a hypocrite. A hypocrite is someone who makes a law, breaks their own law, and then holds other people accountable to their own law.

I hold myself accountable to God's law, and I hold you accountable to God's law.

[hahahmm]

You're not an expert on what people do because you've basically lived your life as a monk so you don't actually know about the variety in what people do out there. Sure, most relationships founded just on lust are doomed to fail but in the real world relationships can start with a mixture of things, not simply lust. And actually.. out of all of my relatives who were married for 40+ years, I can't even think of one that didn't start off as a lust thing. It's just that in the old days, people got married faster/younger.

[Alyssa11]

You know how they say that a man will change for that one certain, special woman? I think it's true...

Ex-players say that all the time. And then there's a friend I had and he was RUTHLESS. He slept with so many women, had so many friends with benefits, and cheated without remorse in his relationships. Until he got into his most recent relationship. This guy CRIED in front of me when his girlfriend had a fight with him. He loves her with all his heart and is so afraid to do any of his shit again in case he loses her.

So sometimes they do settle down...

[Lifelive96]

How can you trust this man? I don’t think that it is about settling down. Some people loves spontaneous relationships and not taking responsibility for real relationship. Even if he says that he changed, i can not believe it. Because these people get bored easily and when they get into real relationship they can feel bored again and turn back to their previous lifestyle.

[Lliam]

I had my first girlfriend when I was 16. I had several girlfriends and always moved on eventually. I didn't exactly sleep around. I was loyal when I was with them. I just had no intention of getting married or having kids. I was interested in having fun and gaining life experience. I was basically too immature to have made a good husband and father.

Fast forward. By my mid-30s, I started thinking about finding a life partner and settling down.

Fast forward again. I found the right woman when I was 40 and got married when I was 42. We've been happily married for almost 25 years. But for that to happen, I first had to have arrived at the point of knowing that I was ready. And I wouldn't have been good marriage material if not for my life experiences prior to meeting my future wife.

[Gingervitus]

I'll let my friend Charles Darwin answer this one.

All species, humans included, have a compulsion to reproduce.

As a human man, my biology tells me... Hey dumbass, you've only spread your genes to 1 female, get off your ass and start spreading to other females.

Females, in many primate groups aim for fewer, or single partners, securing protection and aid in raising their young.

I'm not saying dudes are free to bone whoever they want, whenever they want. That's why every religion ever tells it's members to shun natural tendencies and such... Or for the non religious, to conform to social norms.

So do guys ever really settle down?

Yes, as soon as they join the X-Men.

Otherwise, the drive to spread the seed is always there. Not acted upon in most cases, but present nonetheless.

[Anonymous]

Often, yes. My general observation is that guys who hook up a lot in their teens are more likely to get bored of that stage faster, while guys who struggled to date until older are more likely to need that validation for a longer period of time (plus often have some damage from relationships that again makes them slower to settle).

But most want families etc at some point. While they may settle down though, they will be much more selective about what they want in a long term partner, and what they expect, and what kind of treatment they need. If they're not getting it, they are very confident they can get it elsewhere.

[tatianamay]

Lol, don’t try to tame a fuckboy. It never works. Remember that there may have been women like you before who may have thought that they were special and thought that they’d make him settle down. A person must be willing to change by themselves. You cannot change a person

[exitseven]

Are you sure you are only 14?

[tatianamay]

I’m not 14, I’m 16 lmao, the age is wrong on here and I’m not able to change it back

[exitseven]

even so- you are petty smart.

[tatianamay]

Hahah thanks, I’ve met a lot of players though, I’ve even fallen for one and IK for a fact that it never ends well. I just wanna save her time, and her heart. She’s gonna get hurt if she pursues the playboy. Playboys change only when they want to change, not because you changed them. That’s what I’ve learnt from numerous people and well, it was an experience yk?

[ChrisMaster69]

People tend to go through fits and starts,

mess around a lot, meet someone, often in a relationship for years, marry, divorces.

then mess around, meet someone and stay in relationship

the problem is for both sexes, you can run the risk of eat sleep repeat,

I know for me I’ve had some really horrendous times, where I shudder at stuff.

One thing I don’t do is cheat though,

[ronw235]

It all depends on the guy. Many guys just think about getting with anyone and everyone, whereas others are not interested in sleeping around with a bunch of women.
Personally I would rather settle down with someone and stay with them, and I have been like that all my adulthood.

[IDontBelieveIt]

I agree with your whole statement

[exitseven]

I went through the better part of a year dating different women and treating them all like crap. After a while I got sick of all the games and the crap that goes along with it. I met somebody who was really nice and I just knew I was ready to get married and settle down. I have not had a single day in the last 25 years that I regretted this.

[Eva2015]

Ah sweet! How did you meet each other?

[exitseven]

@Eva2015 She walked by my house on the way to the beach. She smiled at me this big, bright smile and looked at me with these big brown eyes. I didn;t have a chance.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd say a lot of us settle down and stick but, obviously, some NEVER learn!!! Two of my ex-guitarists would fuck anything in a skirt that stood still long enough!! One was living with a woman that he wasn't married to but they had at least 7 kids together! The other eventually got married but was still fucking around behind her back and they divorced a few months later!!

[Anonymous]

Is it possible? Yes. Is it likely those men settle down, remain loyal, and stay with the woman they "settle down" with? No. In fact it is very rare. I know a lot of women have a fantasy about "taming the bad boy" but in reality it almost never happens.

[Asker]

I honestly didn't know he was a "bad boy" until he told me he was and had slept with like 15 girls and used tinder. He has told me all of this after saying that he wants to marry me. My heart is very confused. Especially when this chat app we use says that he doesn't talk to me the most and that I saw some chick spam his phone with messages and a picture. I've been very insecure since then. We were once best friends but clearly he takes more time to send another girl pictures. He has a lot of female friends too. I've done nothing but be loyal to him. I just don't understand why he doesn't dump me if he just wants to play with other girls... I have no proof but I'm assuming. I'm just not sure about the future anymore and I'm scared he'll break my heart

[Opinion Owner]

You may have no proof of him in the act but this is not the behavior of a man that will stay with you and stay loyal to you. If he hasn't cheated yet, he will soon.

[BareTruth]

Honestly I do want to settle down but most girls today aren’t worth it. Sometimes it’s better to have the one night stands because you know it’s only for a night, meanwhile you could plan the rest of your life with a girl you’re serious with and she throws it out the window for no logical reason and it fucks you up

[lightbulb27]

no logical reason is the key point. They aren't logical, hormonal and emotional. There is a reason though. not easy is it...

[lightbulb27]

I'd much rather have my girlfriend than a drug fix, which is what a ONT stand is. Reality, is relationships and those partners challenge me, often to be a better version of myself. I just resisted the change, not their fault. Women can have their own issues though and be tough to navigate, depends on the person.

[Apple1996]

Those type of guys never change. I'm sure some settle down but only cause they lose the energy to keep up that lifestyle.

[britishbby]

I expect so, im fed up of trying to get a shag and I've not gone round loads not to say i havnt tried but honestly i miss be in a relationship so so so fucking much i miss the cuddles and flirt and just ughh everything tbh lol so id say yeh

[RawIronhide]

Depends on the guy. For sure some dudes just can't for whatever reason. Some that's all they ever wanted.

[Paolaa988]

Some guys can, some can't. He has to really want it and be mature for those things tho.

[Floppy2112]

Not likely. Guys who do that can and do tend to do it for a long time. Unless they start getting fat and can't pull it off like they used to.

[jamiematt]

Some guys wait for the woman they intend to love and be faithful to all their lives. The sad part is that is that such a man might be broken, if theyve been cheated in the past.

[Devlaw5]

Some guys do.. no one can speak for all guys but ik guys who’ve settled down. In many cases it really is just a phase. Then you grow up, get bored of it and settle down.

[tobipain178]

my friend was kinda like that but he found a girl who completely changed him

[Anonymous]

Yes only if they mature during that time
the guy i'm talking to now told me he has had a few friends with benefits in college, but now he is ready to settle down asap

[Rok4bakAR]

All my relationships since I start getting close to women was always friends that I slept with.


A lot of men don’t relationships but they don’t have the balls to say it from the start.