Girls, Did you ever get a guy’s full attention back when he started showing less interest, if so how?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I know this is not the answer you’re looking for and you may not even reply (which is fine), but I’ve been in your shoes and I have to say: let the cards fall as they may, I can’t stress that enough. I’m sure you’re feeling sad/anxious/etc because you really like him and you can see that he is losing interest, or slipping away. I’ve done the thing where you try to spark the interest again, but this is a desperate attempt to cling on the someone that is literally trying to let go. When you find the right person, there won’t be any losing interest on his end! You won’t have to panic because they’re trying to step away, or go through any of those negative emotions, simply because he won’t put you through that. Things will just work, maybe not perfectly because no situation is perfect, but your effort and energy will be matched, this I promise because I’m living it. So rather than some last-ditch efforts to convince your love interest to stay, or show him that you’re the one because you feel like you are, just let things play out.

[jennifer_bloom]

I find if I stop showing interest and he is still single after months or years, he will come back and give me a chance. I had guys reject me when I first showed interest and later change their mind and try to go out with me years later, but I turned them down for my reasons.

[Moimaris]

Yes a guy seemed interested and shy but now he started to lose interest. Perhaps because Of my insecure behavior. I tried to get his attention back but it makes me emotional. So I distance myself from it which hurts less. If he likes me he will come otherwise I have to deal with the disappointment

[Asker]

Yea that’s what I’m doing. I’m gonna refrain from contacting him as that’s what he’s used to. Be interesting to see if and how long it takes him to reach out!

What was your insecure behaviour? I don’t think I’ve been overly insecure but maybe showed a little too much interest 🙄

[Moimaris]

Well I had no contact with him but he works in front of my house so I kept walking outside a couple is times a day to see if he notices me. This hole week I kept inside and I saw him looking at me from the rooftop. So i pull back a little to see what is going to happen. I notice that my emotions are better when im not chasing him. It kills me

[Gracie28]

Yes he still cared.

[Anonymous]

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