Have you had a hard time getting attention from guys. Its like they don’t even like girls anymore?

[Hello4242]

I used to get tons of attention.. but they don’t even show interest anymore. I don't know if they just expect every girl to be an instagram model, or what there deal is. Guys and girls, what’s going on? I’m so confused.

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot of reasons. For one, like someone pointed out, you’re older. So you’re hitting that wall as some would say where you don’t get as much attention as you used to. Another reason is men are just opting out cause they feel like women, especially in westerns culture aren’t worth the effort. A lot of women have bad personalities. A number of them think that a man should just fall at her feet simply for being a female. That he should worship her but expect nothing in return as far as what she can bring to a relationship. Another reason is that a lot of women have told men we don’t need you. Men aren’t shit. We can be boss bitches. I can get my own bag. So Ken said ok let’s step back. Men have also been getting trashed online for approaching women. Called creeps simply because he glanced at her in the gym. Then you have false accusations w no repercussions for these false allegations once someone is proven to be innocent. Men’s lives are ruined. Even if you’re found not guilty your name is still thrashed.

[Hello4242]

I think what you’re describing isn’t really just about women being the problem—it’s about a bigger shift happening in how relationships work. For a long time, men were expected to lead, provide, and protect—and in return, women were expected to follow, nurture, and depend. But now? A lot of women have become independent, and that’s thrown the old script out the window.

Some people are bitter about that change. But the truth is, relationships today require more than playing a role—they require real connection. Both people have to show up emotionally, mentally, and with mutual respect. That’s harder, and yeah, not everyone is ready for it—on either side.

And let’s be real: women struggle too. A lot of women are exhausted by how they’re viewed—as if their worth is only tied to youth, looks, or what they can do for a man. They’re told to be independent, but then called difficult when they stop people-pleasing. They’re expected to be nurturing but also sexy, strong but not intimidating. It’s a double bind, and it wears people down.

So sure, there’s toxicity out there. But it’s not just women. It’s humans trying to navigate a system that’s rapidly changing—and blaming one side just makes it easier to avoid the deeper truth: we were never taught how to build partnerships based on mutual growth, not outdated power dynamics.

If men feel like they’re being “opted out” of, maybe it’s time to ask: What kind of men are we being asked to become? And are we open to growing into that—or just angry the old rules stopped working

[genericname85]

well this may sound like some toxic troll bullshit but you're leaving the age zone where you're peak attractive to men. you're 31. it goes down hill now. don't shoot the messenger. it is what it is. like i'm not above it. men experience similar problems dating as they get older. the attention they get from women actually gets a bit better but the women that they get attention from get less attractive. not just in terms of looks but everything.

[Hello4242]

If your worth peaks when you're most visually pleasing, you were never seen to begin with. Real value compounds. A woman at 31 who’s done any depth work is more dangerous—in the best way—than any version of herself before. Men fixated on youthful aesthetics often unconsciously seek control or validation, not connection. What declines with age is the power of illusions. What rises is the signal of substance. And some men aren't tuned to receive that.

[Hello4242]

Also, statements like that come from a deep void—a lack of real love. They’re a mirror, reflecting not just your own wounds, but the culture that shaped them. Think about what you just said. Isn’t it profoundly sad?

We’re not truly taught our cultural history. If we were, we’d know that our worth was once rooted in something far deeper—unconditional love. To love someone’s spirit is one of the most extraordinary human experiences. In that light, basing someone’s value solely on age or appearance wouldn’t just seem shallow—it would feel disturbing. It would terrify us.

The fact that these ideas have become normalized should be a wake-up call to how deeply unwell our culture has become. We’ve lost touch with what love even means. And that loss echoes everywhere—from rising mental illness to the erosion of empathy. I could go on, because this is a symptom of something much bigger.

[genericname85]

I'm just the messenger saying what it is. Notice how you said many words here except that I'm wrong. So yeah. Acceptance is the first step.

[Hello4242]

Uhh ok

[genericname85]

It's just your ego turning in denial, reframing and changing focus. It's a common method to reduce cognitive dissonance. Not saying what you said is nonsense. I don't disagree. But it does not contradict what I said at the end of the day.

[laraWM]

I still get a lot of attention to be honest but it's not very nice most of the time

[Likestorizz]

From my part I check every girl out that I see that has a decent face body and I have a phone loaded with girl pics from Google and instagram. I don't discriminate.

[glennos89]

We still like girls only the type of girls we are attracted to are increasingly harder to find because woman steer away from traditional gender roles

[Iron_Man]

they’re all afraidof rejection that’s why

[Heusus]

Dudes liek most grills but not sum grills

[lyrem04]

… they don’t

[BobbyLee789]

Find better guys.

[darkthe]

It could be