Are these red flags? Should I cancel this date?

[Anonymous]

So I have agreed to go out on a date with a guy who I’ve met on online dating. He has been messaging me for a few weeks, sending a mix of voice messages and long messages. Some of the messages he’s sent me have concerned me a bit. For example, he will say ‘I’m always tempted to try some cheeky humour’. The other day I said I was going on holiday to a farm and he said ‘I can imagine you getting down and dirty with the chickens’

I also told him I had a phone interview and he said I should have a video interview because apparently attractive people often get the job and then sent me an article about this.

Are these red flags? Should I cancel this date?

[iseekpinetrees]

Lmao my God do u have no sense of humor or sense of how the world works? Yes saying getting down n dirty woth chickens is a normal comment you get dirty on a farm it's normal. And it's true if someone sees. your face and finds you attractive you are more likely to get a job.

[ProCoffeeAntiSleep]

Do you mind if I ask what your relationship with him is? As in do you like him or is he just a friend?

The different platforms might not be that big a thing, personally I tend to message people on lots of different platforms without thinking about it. If I’m friends on facebook I’ll probably also fallow on insta and I won't really see the point on keeping a convo on one platform, its just whats handy.
It does sound like he probably has a crush tho, wither he likes you or its just a small crush is hard to tell tho. (However its posable he’s just super online, I know one or two people like that)

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I think if your gut is telling you something is off with this guy, you should listen to that feeling.

[Bee-Hatch]

No its not a 'red flag' he's trying to be funny, just not very well.

[Anonymous]

I don't think he's (at least not purposely) objectifying you, but obviously how you feel. I think you might just be two very different people and you've managed to find this out early. I would simply say something like "thank you for talking with me, and I'm sorry, but I don't think we are a match. I wish you luck in your search". If he responds in anger or anything like that, it shows how immature he is and just don't respond to it. But you've done the mature thing by saying that and not simply ghosting him.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say that necessarily, but already you sound like 2 very different people and maybe aren't a match? Besides this do you like him? You can always have 1 date, actually see him in person, then decide if it continues or not. You might feel differently when you actually meet him? Or, will confirm your feelings. But unless you have no interest at all in him, I would at least meet him 1 time before making any judgments.

[Brianbrake]

He is showing you openly that he expect from you more than just a simple date, he surely must be thinking he will get sex from you, so if thats not what you want then cancell the date

[molonski2]

Sorry , he sounds like an utter F wit to me , cancel first up , have a couple of video calls , then reasses.

[VVerônica]

He wants your attention or perhaps he's a little bit of a stalker?

[muscularbumblebee]

Why are you even asking lol. Yes go find a new date

[Anonymous]

Your his drug. He needs to cut you out. But it's his to do.

you can make it clear this isn't working.

hopefully you'll both learn from this experience.

[Poppy_girl]

I think he is interested in u... n want to catch ur attention

[Browneye57]

What's called a 'beta-orbiter'. He's just hoping you'll break down and give him some sex.

[Shah11]

Lol he trying very hard to get your attention.


Such a asshole

[TheFlak38]

yes such big red flags. a guy who literally tries to tell a joke for you. Ungrateful bitch.

[dudeinohio]

You can always have a first date and elect not to have a second dare.

[bushwookie]

Tbh it low key sounds like an ex that you pissed off if you've never met him.

[TheFlak38]

how many times do you plan to post this lass? how many? so fuckin stupid

[jamietav95]

he's making you uncomfortable. That's all that matters.

[C3397]

Yes, cancel the date.

[MotorcycleMan]

Because he's interested.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That is the definition of a 'stalker'

[PinkSands04]

Sounds like he could be interested in you!

[Hagler14]

He's most definitely interested in you.