Guys have you ever been asked out by a girl? Girls, have you ever asked out a guy?

[exitseven]

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I never got asked out by a girl until I got married.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes a few times.
They always said yes.
It was great.
I highly recommend it.
The Personal and Societal Benefits of Girls Taking the Initiative With Guys in Relationships

I'll tell you about one of them cause it's the most amusing (though he was a bit of a hot mess and the whole relationship was short-lived, but whatever.)
He worked at a meat market. (lol.) I thought he was good looking. I liked his face and dark features. I used to pop by there quite often on my way home to get some meat for dinner. I like these types of situation, I feel more comfortable with this, when I have a purpose (or they do), and we can interact 'on the level' for a while, checking each other out.
He was shy though. (His triple shirt thing, to bulk himself up, should have been a dead giveaway, for one.) So I bit the bullet. I decided one day, this is it.
"Hi. How are you?" "Hi, what can I get you?" "I'll have two breasts please." [Amanda motions to the chicken.] 😉 And... "Maybe you'd like to join me for dinner at my place?" [as she slides her phone number written on a piece of paper.] Him: "Sure, I'd love to."

[exitseven]

That is a great story. I thought things like that only happened in the movies.

[AmandaYVR]

lol, thanks. That's what I think they would call a quintessential 'meet cute.'

[exitseven]

actually I can see the upside in dating a guy that works in a meat market. You would get all the prime cuts. 😂😂😂

[moviedude714]

Sadly I don't see it ever becoming mainstream or normalized

[AmandaYVR]

@moviedude714

[moviedude714]

My guess is you agree with what I'm saying

[AmandaYVR]

@moviedude714 Correct!
"When pigs fly" occurred to me. But when I looked up pictures depicting that, I thought this one was much better - men engineering ways for pigs to fly. It adds another level of humour (and slight, though
probably unrealistic, hopefulness) vs. the standard hopeless view point, I thought.

[moviedude714]

Yeah it has always felt like an injustice due to how one-sided this dating dynamic is, it's like why can't women go after men too right?

[AmandaYVR]

@moviedude714 Very much so.

[moviedude714]

A lot of people use the whole act of sex as being the reason why men have to do the pursuing or approaching

[AmandaYVR]

@moviedude714 You're preachin' to the choir. I hear ya.
Guys, do you like, or dislike, the idea of a girl asking you out? ↗

[moviedude714]

Ya, the women who are stubborn and adamant and feel it's the guy's role, they always say things like "because men are hunters"

[AmandaYVR]

@moviedude714 I know. I've read them all. Blah blah blah.

[moviedude714]

Another frequent comment I hear, you've probably heard it as well but women always say "men court women", it's been like that traditionally

[AmandaYVR]

@moviedude714 There's an endless supply of them on here. Yet another I just read: " I would never want to come across as desperate or make a guy suspicious. I'd rather give him the green light to approach me and let him feel like he won a prize."

[WowwGirl]

Oh well yes I have

[exitseven]

how did it go?

[WowwGirl]

I have been blessed and ask out by more than one fella. Some ok some not

[WowwGirl]

I've ask 2-4 out and it was fine too

[exitseven]

awesome

[WowwGirl]

I told you about the racoon right?

[WowwGirl]

I named one seven in your honor

[exitseven]

Yes, how is my progeny?

[IHateBeingaMan]

well i've seen some of your latest questions, i thought you said you are against women asking guys out and adamantly insist that its the guys role

[WowwGirl]

@IHateBeingaMan I am but I give up eventually. It's called. Having guts if nothing else

[IHateBeingaMan]

ya before you said you were okay or thought it was good for girls to make the first move or ask guys out, but now you seem to be against that and insist that it be the guys role

[exitseven]

Somebody asked a question about what animal would you like to be. I said a racoon because they are tough as nails, eat garbage and come out at night.

[IDontBelieveIt]

A girl gave me her number, I did phone her but I wasn't in a good place so wouldn't have been fair on her. It was at work I worked on the railway and I used to like hanging around in the platform staff office they were good company the lady senior member and we used to pull each others leg.. ouch after saying something amusing she would say go on bugger off so I sat on her swivel chair and rolled it down the platform with a female guard pushing the chair and I was giving directions like right turn clide later when I drove back into the platform I was handed her number.
When I was 18 I had two girls said they were 16 later turned out they were 13 could hear me talking to a member of staff at the next station they asked who's that they got on train and came and had a nose, one asked me out it lasted a day, then her friend asked me out we went out for a little while then this big man turned up it was her dad, I found out then she was 13 and the dad wasn't nice.. I wasn't thinking of sex it never even entered my head until she said I'm not ready for sex, I just thought what's she talking about.
My sister and her friend was having a girly night in I cheekily asked can I come the friend said yes, the next morning she was snogging me.

Slightly off track: Because of what I witnessed in my childhood from age 9 between my parents it did a lot of emotional damage whenever I think of dating a woman It always goes through my head it will fail, a huge mental block.

[msc545]

I have been physically touched and seduced by women I didn't know at all on three occasions that I can recall:

1. In college, a woman who was a subject in an experiment and a student was in a lab room with me and spontaneously began kissing me and fondling me. She was extremely attractive and funny, and we wound up having a relationship that I wish I had done better with. She was a keeper. I deeply regret messing this one up.

2. I was leaving UCLA to go home and stopped at a traffic light next to a woman who rolled down her window and said "follow me". I did, and we went to an apartment building a few blocks up and parked, and she came to my car and said "come with me" and took my hand and we walked to her apartment, went in, and made love all night, In the morning I left and regrettably did not get her number.

3. I was waiting for a plane to northern California when a very attractive woman walked into the lounge and sat next to me. We talked for a while, and to my surprise, she gently touched my face, leaned over, and began kissing me, and we continued that on the plane ll the way to our destination. We made plans to see each other the following weekend, and I went, but it did not go well and we didn't see each other again sadly.

[AmandaYVR]

WOW! Those are some gutsy women; especially #2. Daaang.
Good for them... and you I guess? Hopefully you enjoyed them.
Puts most other girls (especially on gag) to shame, I'd say.

[muscularbumblebee]

Yes, I've asked out a guy I found cute that I never spoke to on a beach once, he responded with 'i have to go to my mum or something' so I got rejected and moved on even if I had my cutest bikini on. Oh well..

Guys asking out girls is overrated, it's not desperate if a girl does it, I have lots of guys ask me out who I reject and guys I ask that have rejected me too. It's just life

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes a few times, one quite recently lol

its just something that happens.

I remember my mate being asked out at a Club in Swindon by TWO girls.

he gloated that much that we lifted his Wallet and. Mobile, then had to walk back to camp from back end of beyond, twat.

it is just a thing and it’s not for stunning blokes, just john average with his mates and a girl likes him so will mention it to him.

[crazyish]

I once asked a guy why he hasn't asked me for my number yet. Pretty sure he was surprised because his response was 'Huh? What? I don't know. Should I?' 🤣 I think I made him nervous because he fumbled with getting his phone out of his pocket and ended up dropping it.

[exitseven]

I am a pretty shy guy and sometimes even if I knew a girl liked me and everyone told me that I should ask her out, I was sometimes too afraid to make a move.

[crazyish]

I don't blame you. It was a bit nerve wracking to do that. And I think us women should do it more. I think there are too many missed opportunities out of fear on both ends.

[meekey26]

@crazyish did you end up getting his phone number?

[Starrisunset]

I've been asked out a few times. I could probably count the number of times on my fingers tho. Which isn't a whole lot for being 28. I've sorta asked someone out one time. I worked with him and I invited him to my new apartment to hang out. Then we just kinda started dating after that point.

[exitseven]

that is what I'm talking about.

[Starrisunset]

On top of being shy I always dealt with low self esteem so that made me too nervous to ask anyone out. I was always worried about rejection. I really felt like the guy I asked to come hang out liked me so that's why I kinda tried it the one time lol

[exitseven]

It is a scary thing. It was for me as well. I had a friend that asked out any girl he thought looked interesting. He used to tell me the worst that can happen is they say no.

[Starrisunset]

Sometimes I wish I had that type of mindset lol

[exitseven]

you are nice the way you are,

[Starrisunset]

Thank you 😊 you too

[Wiredone]

I've been hit on a lot in the last 10 years. All of them had to be in their 20's. Where were all these women when I was single?

[exitseven]

I know, right?

[A_Bell]

When I was younger and more adventurous, it was something I did, but it was more for a physical encounter. If you go up to a guy and ask if he wants to f, the success rate is close to 100%.

Romance is different. I need to be pursued and chased. Asking the guy out in that case doesn't seem right.

[YOLOIFIC]

Asked out by a female? No


My wife did say she wanted to “jump my bones” he first night we met while flirting. History shows her bold strategy was successful since it’s been 15 years since we met and we’ve been married for 11 years and have 3 children together.

[YOLOIFIC]

Actually now that I think about it once in middle school the day before I moved a girl in 9th grade said she wanted to date me.

Didn’t think of it at first since we never actually dated. It was cute thought she got me flowers on Valentine’s Day from “ a secret admirer”.

But that was an unfair example, the town a temporary moved too had like a 3 to 1 female to male ratio so there was very few males their that didn’t have at least one woman romantically interested in them.

Many I almost wished we could of stayed there, it was a teenage boys wet dream. LOL

[FunkyMonkee]

If I ever did, she was the one I was already destined to marry.
There WAS a girl in high school that actually chased me and would run up to me and hug me refusing to let go. She was very short, fat, long scraggly red hair and had a voice that'd peel paint, not very pretty and her name was Janis.

[45Fstraight]

Nope. I've always been too shy to ask, but I am really good at flirting.

[Browneye57]

That's called 'pre-selection'. For many women, that you belong to someone else is verification, or proof, that you must be worthy, worthwhile. And her feeble logic is that she could be that much better for you. Ask any married guy.

Women are extremely competitive, especially when it comes to men and dating.

[tatianamay]

I have not asked out anyone but I did tell a guy that I liked him and that I thought he was cute. I wrote a very long heartfelt message lol. His response was not what I expected but eh I didn’t really feel bad

[Anonymous]

Yeah I was fucking my ex one night hard and in walks her 16 year old sister with her friend, I pulled out and turned to face them out of shock with a boner and ejaculated. I got asked out by both those girls a month after, screwed them both while still doing my ex.

[lovelyleo]

I have never asked a guy out, and I don't foresee it.

Men tend to sit the tone for relationships and if I did that it would set the tone of me always being the aggressor. That could work for some women but it would not work for me.

[IDontBelieveIt]

@lovelyleo Not necessarily

[lovelyleo]

Ok maybe not. It's still not my thing to go around asking guys out. I prefer a man of action.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes I have. And between me and you? It made me feel really uncomfortable (Not that I let it show)
I was with someone at the time, on both occasions it happened.

[PaynefulPleasures]

No I have never asked I prefer to be hunted not the hunter ✌️

[exitseven]

okay- good answer.

[PaynefulPleasures]

Thanks 😉

[Wiredone]

I'm sure those aliens are hunting you down. Lmao 🤣

[PaynefulPleasures]

@Wiredone I prefer Bigfoot put what's a few tentacles 😉

[Wiredone]

Hahaha. I should have known. Lol

[PaynefulPleasures]

@Wiredone
Yeah should have known but I'll let it go this time 😉😂✌️

[Wiredone]

Geee thanks

[PaynefulPleasures]

No prob ✌️ later 😆

[Shihab91]

Nope... some girls showed interest... and the most brave girl i met just said hi XD

[Kayla99]

I asked out someone but he said I was too young lol it was not a big deal.

[exitseven]

ouch. Actually i just saw you are 13. You are too young.

[MotorcycleMan]

Yes, a few times I was directly asked out, but there were many times that I was ask out in such a subtle way that I didn't realize it until later.

[MCheetah]

Literally only once. And that was the woman I was almost going to marry. And we had known each other for a while during that time.

[Slartybartfast]

In my lifetime i've been asked out by four women , I've asked seven out. The only long term relationships I've had is with women who asked me out.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, absolutely. The first time it happened to me as an adult, I thought some co-workers had put her up to doing it as a prank so I turned her down.

[yourbabygirl921]

I've been ask out many times and i rejected countless of guys becuz I only pick the best
And I ask a guy out I genuinely really really like 😻

[ema0515]

nope, I flirt but never asked a guy out. If he is interested he will ask.

[exitseven]

okay, but what if he is really shy and you really like him and you just know he likes you too but cannot make the first move?

[ema0515]

If I know he likes me and I like him - then he knows I like him and he will ask me out. If I really like him then maybe I step up my flirting, maybe add some appropriate touching. But in the end I prefer a man to be strong, confident and assertive so if he does not ask then it was not meant to be.

[exitseven]

okay- thanks for that.

[IHateBeingaMan]

sadly no, this still normally doesn't happen and will more than likely never become more common, its easy to sometimes resent women due to always expecting guys to ask them out first or make the first move on them

[Blackcupcake]

nope I take the initiative to start conversations and maybe flirt a bit but I’ve never actually asked a guy out

[Hentaibby]

Yea I have , that turned into a 6 year relationship

[hahahmm]

Yes and I rejected them all because they were not worthy.

[moviedude714]

I'm sure this will always be extremely rare sadly, I highly doubt this will ever become mainstream or normalized

[exitseven]

I agree but still it happens. If it can happen to me, it can happen to anybody.

[moviedude714]

Yeah I was being sarcastic because I've always resented how excited this dynamic is but sadly can't do anything about it

[Splatzonelover1]

I wrote letter about likening a guy but he end up rejecting me anyway. I another girl set me up with a guy that liked me and I also liked.

[Anonymous]

My ex told me that she had an interest in me before we started dating, so yeah I guess that counts.

[JuliCadavid]

nope never and never will! asking and pursing is a masculine man behavior, men who likes to be chased are more feminine and I don't like that at all, turn off

[exitseven]

thank you for the opinion. I get it.

[JuliCadavid]

sure, you're welcome. I just asked a question I would appreciate a lot if you answered... thank you too :)

[Andres77]

Yup, she tricked me and caught me totally by surprise.
It was fun while it lasted.

[Grubhub]

Yes but In a strange way. Latin women pulled up in her car and approached me with naked selfies. Nice melons. I’ve been asked out twice so far

[Grubhub]

Yes but In a strange way. Latin women pulled up in her car and approached me with naked selfies. Nice melons. I’ve been asked out twice so far

[OddBeMe]

Last couple of times (15 fcking years ago) it happened naturally. We just start talking, mention food and a drink in natural conversation.

[Paul09]

What 8s this dreamland you speak of? Women asking men out? But that's not their job lol.

[exitseven]

It has happened to me on more than one occasion. All after I got married.

[Paul09]

What is your secret? You a model? À doctor or something m

[exitseven]

I am just a nice , married man. But right after I got married I had two girls ask me out. Then about ten years ago I had another one do it. If I wasn't married I definitely would have taken them up on the offer.

[Paul09]

Now that I believe you. When you have someone, they all want you. When you have no one, not many want you lol. Well my experience anyways.

[exitseven]

Exactly. I have asked that very same question and really got no definitive answer.

[Shamalien]

Yeah, but I didn’t believe it, so I just ignored her XD weeks later I found out she was serious LOL

[Snakeyes7]

I did. Actually about half of the girls I dated asked me out.

[Hanrej]

Nope, never happened. At least not unless we allready know eachother.

[Starwitch23]

Yes and it was a weird date.

[Anonymous]

I did it once and I got friend zoned but he said I was nice at least. W

[hhadeshatesme]

yes and so far no rejections

[elizamichale1]

yea i have a few times

[exitseven]

any takers?

[elizamichale1]

ofcourse they said yes except 2 times

[exitseven]

so you were ( X-2) for X? What was X?

[elizamichale1]

what?

[exitseven]

how many times did it happen and how many times they said yes?

[elizamichale1]

Well only two times i was turned down but all other times they were happy to get aboard hehe n well i think it must have been about 10 or so times

[exitseven]

thanks for that,.

[karaspara]

I have asked a guy before yes

[exitseven]

what he say?

[karaspara]

2 said yes 1 said no

[ChrisMaster69]

@karaspara to be fair, he said know as he was at work at the time.

It’s also bad form the bridesmaid trying to tap off with the Priest, so yeah he was likely right,

[exitseven]

2 out of three ain't bad.

[ChrisMaster69]

Fucking auto correct wankbolloxcuntshitfuck

HE SAID NO

[karaspara]

@ChrisMaster69 😂😂😂😂

[karaspara]

It's not a bad batting average 😂

[ChrisMaster69]

@karaspara yeah but the Cricket Club still want their middle wicket back, they noticed you eyeing it up

[karaspara]

@ChrisMaster69 They can't ask for it back now finders keepers

[TexasRed95]

Nope I have never heard of it happening either.

[exitseven]

It has happened to me 3 times since I got married.

[Twalli]

I am dating my girlfriend because I asked her out

[Joshua0213]

Yeah my current girlfriend

[Coulis]

Yes lots.

[exitseven]

how did it go?

[SupremeWarlord]

Yes.

[Shy_Steve]

Of course not.

[anylolone]

Yes. Plenty.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Yes few times..