Does having a degree affect your desirability to men?

[jennifer_bloom]

The guy I like is disabled and I believe he saw my resume online and realized I was almost admitted into graduate school at the best school in the country so I wonder if he will consider himself lucky to be able to date me when he has a disability, he is actually more intelligent than your average math professor but he has a physical problem that affects his ability to survive.

[little_rose]

don't think so
in my opinion degrees etc don't say much about your intelligence and intelligence itself is so complex that formal education alone cannot be an accurate indicator of how intelligent you are

Anyway, I don't think it's a good idea to expect to be seen a certain way especially when it comes to romantic relationships.

Just be you and let the other person be himself. If it works, it works and if it doesn't you'll find better.

If I'm being very honest the fact that you unnecessarily mentioned he's disabled shows that you feel like he's lacking in a certain respect and has to somehow make up for it. I don't think that's a good sign.

Then parading your 'achievement' around is another red flag to me. I wouldn't want to associate myself with someone like that.

[NicoleNatZZ]

Yes!

[MrOracle]

Most men (not all) do NOT care about your education or your career - those are not things we look for or consider to add value to us. Generally, the more successful the man, the less he is going to care about those things, whereas a less successful man might (but that's because he needs your income).

[DianaWest]

not all men prefer dumb gold diggers.

[CookiesAndCream2]

@MrOracle - ROFL. Most men I know, who are intelligent, educated & successful, prefer to have a woman who is likewise educated. It's the poorer less successful working class that don't because well... it's an inferiority thing for them.

[Yyyyu]

Lol why most Doctor are with doctor lol do you know Einstein wife was also a scientists female scientists were so rare back than. Many men care about these things especially high quality educated rich men why would a blue collar worker care if he don't have it?

[MrOracle]

I'm not saying that men are AGAINST it - I'm simply saying that for MOST men, it's a low-priority thing at best. You don't need to go to college to be smart or learn about things - many men, even incredibly successful ones - don't go to college, or drop out, or only get a BA.

Men care who the woman is as a PERSON *far* more than her degree or career.

[CookiesAndCream2]

@MrOracle - we're not living in the 1800s. Most men - real men mind you not little boys trapped in adult bodies who think they're men but never grew up & all in all don't contribute much to either a family or society - understand that in today's economy for one having two people working ensures that if the husband loses his job for whatever reason the family's not fucked over and living on the streets in six months because there's no means to pay the mortgage or rent.

[CookiesAndCream2]

@Yyyyu Speak English

[MrOracle]

@CookiesAndCream2 Most men know how to make money just fine. What they WANT is someone who wants to be a wife and a mother to their kids. Since that's increasingly difficult to find, men have been abandoning the idea of marriage in ever-increasing numbers, with the marriage rate having fallen below 50%. The thing is: men do just fine being single - it's women, especially women post-35, who have a really hard time being single. But by then it's too late - most men are no longer interested, especially men who want children. But, hey, you do you.

[hahahmm]

@Yyyyu You say Einstein's wife was a scientist... Einstein was notorious for banging lots of women on the side. So no, he didn't find that as attractive as you think. More like if someone went into a bar and ordered every drink on tap and there you are focused on on drink and saying it proves he was more into that.

[hahahmm]

@cookiesandcream2 "Most men I know, who are intelligent, educated & successful, prefer to have a woman who is likewise educated." I work in high tech & have been at companies with the smartest people out there. Guys never think: "she's hot because of her education/success level". I do remember a guy who once said he wanted to get with a doctor because she could pay for his lifestyle. That same guy was already married to a very successful lawyer tho.

[Yyyyu]

@hahahmm still ended up marrying a scientist also women don't say that they like educated and rich guys so?

[hahahmm]

@Yyyyu Of course women don't say, "I like educated & rich guys" because they don't want to be thought of as a "gold digger". It's documented that hen women are shown pictures of men they try and guess his occupation and income. When men are shown pictures of women they don't think about that. If guys did care about that so much then the vast majority of women wouldn't be able to find a man since he'd only want a woman at or above his income level. No guy ever said, "I have a choice between an obese woman with 3 advanced degrees and a fit woman with a hs degree so I'll choose the most educated one." It's just not a thing. Unless the guy is a deadbeat mooch.

[Yyyyu]

@hahahmm why almost all doctors are with other doctor or one who have rich father? and women don't really do it lol and most women won't date a fat guy with 3 phds

[DianaWest]

@MrOracle women don't need men to have children. what do you think sperm banks are for? women nowadays don't have to give a fuck about sucking a man's ass and pleasing his every whim. if i am not married by 31, i will just have 2 children without a man. am rich enough and have enough family members to support me. better to be a single mother than with a toxic "man" child who bitches about everything. if you don't treat women well, you will end up sad and lonely in a nursing home with no kids, no wife, etc. you don't like educated women? you prefer dumb gold digging bimbos who have only air in their head and counting down the days you croak so they can take all your assets? the problem with many men these days is that they don't know how to treat women, and don't know how to keep a good woman when they have one. this is not the stone age anymore. women have careers, take care of children, and cook and clean. i already do most of those things, except i don't yet have children because i have been with too many idiots who cheated because they found a woman with bigger boobs. that's how many men are. it does not matter how fat, poor, or ugly a man is, if presented an opportunity, a considerable amount will cheat on their wives or girlfriends and still expect their wives to suck their ass, sit still and be pretty. i certainly will take care of my future babies, cook, clean, be feminine, be kind, bring in a salary, but i will not allow a man to use me as a doormat. men nowadays expect women to do everything. men are not the only bread winners anymore. men should divide household responsibilities evenly with their female partners and stop bitching.

[hahahmm]

@Yyyyu 1.) In cases where a doctor is with another doctor usually it's because they went to school together. They were in the same social circle. 2.) There's doctors in my family and I know their doctor friends and friends of friends. It's rare for a doctor to marry another doctor from what I've seen.

[Yyyyu]

@hahahmm who they marry? Maybe engineers or investment banker or accountant in big 4 or big lawyer's or other rich educated people?

[EaterPeter]

Yes.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for MHO!

[Matt57]

It doesn’t make me view a woman as less desirable, but if it’s a really good and demanding career path degree, it makes me think she wouldn’t want to be with someone like me.


I finished my Computer-Aided Drafting/Design program and am gonna start the major-related classes for Engineering. Was hoping to transfer to a State Uni for Mechanical Engineering, but I’m just a Student who usually gets Bs and Cs and keeps getting hung up on the Math courses. Because of that, sometimes I think someone in like the Medical program wouldn’t want to be with me. Probably just me putting everyone in that field on a pedestal.

[Finchie40]

Most guys don’t care about a girl’s education or career , don’t get me wrong , he might be proud of her for achieving but that’s not what turned him on in the first place , Guys are attracted to a girl’s beauty and personality and how she carries herself , No offense to anyone but she can be working at McDonald’s and a guy will still go for her , Girl’s on the other hand are attracted to a guys status , his career plays a big part of her attraction towards him or if he is a man in uniform or a boss , or someone that others look up to she will be attracted to that , A guy doesn’t give 2 shits what her status is , as long as she is beautiful and has a heart is what matters to a guy

[Avicenna]

It’s generally a positive, but I’d look much more positively at a STEM degree or one in languages and much less positively at CB one in Sociology, for example. I’m looking for a eomanntp have kids with, do my calculus is different from some other guys‘.

[ToastyOats]

Its a mixed bag. We're on course for fewer than half of gradutes to be able to pay off their debt in their lifetime. Living in a big city or a long commute are common for some degrees. Many men would rather live simpler and strive to be debt free. We dont really need to expand our college educated class right now. Its starting to actually be a liability causing us to have to import manual labour from the third world just to run a lot of manufacturing. Women with degrees marry less, divorce more, and prefer guys who also have degrees. Its leading to a situation where American men are choosing not to do essential jobs that produce the goods and services people with a higher wage demand. As more people graduate, more money goes to non productive office work and wages for manufacturing are stagnant. What we need is not to forgive college debt but to drastically raise the requirements for enrollment. All this to say, nah, definitely not something that would make you more desirable to me.

[Slartybartfast]

No, but men are realistic and know women ONLY DATE UP. If I didn't have a degree , I would never waste my time approaching a women with a degree.

We also don't care about your career success or if you can grow a better mustache than a manNo women gas ever dated me because I keep my house clean and am a good cook.

[K-I-S-S]

People who are busy care less about minor things, bit might consider it as a good sign of character, for finishing or working hard at something, when thinking about longterm.

[Vivian7k]

Of course

[exitseven]

It would to some people. Most college graduates probably would prefer to be with somebody with a similar intellectual capacity.

[spuitkaas]

In my experience it does. I dated men that have felt inferior and even told me that my intelligence was intimidating. To be fair, I'm not sure if it's because of the degree or intelligence. I"m also not afraid to start discussions so I don't know.

[Marhaban-1]

It would depend on if you told them or jot but I would say yes but bear in mind how many men to you tell you have a degree in a flirty chatb

[FilmGuy93]

Having an advanced degree certainly won't hurt, but it's not likely to make you more desirable.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. That is correct. It's a double-edged sword. Because it's a positive asset, but it makes some guys less likely to ask you out.

[IronLady6354]

With some men it can affect desirability, but those aren't the kind of men you want to be with. Consider it a bullet dogged if you having a degree is a major turn off from a man.

[Leavesbound]

I can't speak for other men but my fantasy girl has an IQ of 300, a string of Ph. D.'s and loves teaching me new things.

[RealMarek]

Most men don’t worry too much about a woman’s academic credentials. They often end up with women who have similar education because many couples meet at college or work.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

You shouldn't jump to assumptions, or see insecurities where there may be none. If YOU think your education could be a point of contention, then just don't bring it up unless he presses the subject.

[Kaamraj]

Having a degree or not might be a secondary factor, but men primarily interested in youth, fertility, and fitness of a woman.

[CookiesAndCream2]

@Kaamraj ROFL. Most men I know, who are intelligent, educated & successful, prefer to have a woman who is likewise educated. It's the poorer less successful working class that don't because well... it's an inferiority thing for them.

[Yyyyu]

@CookiesAndCream2 same lol and those who are not with rich women usually are with those who have rich family at least lmao.

[CookiesAndCream2]

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[Gry_Odegaard]

No but it effects vice versa

I'm generally more attracted to men in similar fields to me

[Anonymous]

Only men, that want a dumb, stupid and dumb but beautiful and young gold digger don't care how you are financing your living or how qualified you are. Those are the type of men you'll weed out and it'll work in women's favor anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yes, having a degree can effect it, but his having a disability should not be a factor in how desirable you are, especially if he's smart too.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Self & life education is more important
Than this high school fake studies.

[Twalli]

I hope he won't. It's not a good start to a relationship if one person assumes that they are dating up or down.

[JesseJayNeak]

I don't care about her education. Being intelligent is a good thing but often that intelligence can make a person a pain in the ass. I prefer someone who's not a brainiac

[Anonymous]

Nope.
A lot of women seem to make this mistake though. Seems to just be them projecting things that they themselves find attractive.

[Alexam2300]

It does Not. doesn't Change what Kind of human you are

[LemiaOfChampions]

I dont think it does but I could be wrong.

[JamesRandiDebates]

How does your degree make you look better naked?

[SpiderManFan2002]

I think it does tbh.

[anylolone]

Usually no.

[In_Trance]

Not at all