What is wrong with this statement: Plus-sized women admit they aren't attracted to overweight men?

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MCheetah · Accepted Answer

That's hypocrisy on a grand scale, but I guess people are entitled to be attracted to whoever they want. The only issue I really take with it, is that so many of these women want to force men to "ACCEPT" obese women and call them names if they aren't attracted to them (this is coming from a guy who DOES like thick/plus-sized women). Yet they can't do the same towards men; whether it be overweight men (which I am one), short men, etc.

In other words, "body acceptance" and "no fat shaming" only applies to women, and not men, which is utterly sh*tty, to say the least.

But I suspect many people already knew this. These "landwhales" are incredibly insecure and lazy, and rather than work on themselves, they want everyone else to conform to them. Which is standard MO for left-leaning First World women nowadays; they're narcissists and c*nts. That's why these women tend to share the same traits and ideologies; they're all like like Tess Holliday. Conceited, narcissitic, arrogant, lazy, feminist, and generally horrible people. Them being overweight may be a sign of laziness, but the slimmer ones are just as bad. They're a generation that believes the entire world should accept them, while they remain as intolerant and hypocritical as possible. So it's really no surprise here.

(And again, I LIKE curvy/thick/plus-sized women!)

What is wrong with this statement: Plus-sized women admit they aren't attracted to overweight men?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To me the issue is that society protects women's feelings by calling them "plus-sized" but doesn't feel the need to protect men's feelings and thus just calls them "overweight". It's indicative of a bigger problem men face in society. It's part of what people mean when they say society doesn't care about men.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with it. You can't force overweight girls to date overweight boys. Everyone can have dating preferences. It may be hypocritical but everyone is hypocritical when it comes to dating preferences. Some hypocritical manhoes dont want girls like them. Do you also get mad at them? Some used up non virgin boys prefere virgins. Do you also get mad at them? Everyone can dating preferences even it is hypocritical
Women get shamed on for prefering tall men since tall men are the minority but so are young women but nobody shame on men for wanting much younger women although they are the minority.
In short you can even prefere models as long as you dont shame on people who ain't model for example. What i mean is if you prefere tall men, you should not shame on short men for example. I even dont give a f whether a man or woman prefere people who exactly look like their favourite celebrities. Yes it may be unrealistic but in the end, it is their life and you can't force to date anyone

wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

sad, but true.. i have several overweight gfs and they all want an athletic in shape guy.

most say because "it will inspire them to get in shape", but tbh, most just don't like fat guys.

And sex with a thinner man is a lot easier and better. Fat guys have a lot of issues with ED and sometimes, hygiene.

But it is this way for most women, myself included. I want a guy in good shape and that looks Hot so other girls notice him and are jealous I have him. And sex is better to me with a guy that doesn't have a big belly or fat thighs.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

It seems to be hypocritical and devoid of acceptance, specifically because we have all sorts of media and advertisements that try to persuade us to accept plus-sized women in fashion, modeling, etc. Also, plus-sized women and overweight men are identical in that they are both overweight. Now, I’m not sure other people can attest to this, but whenever you see an overweight man and/or overweight woman out in public with another person that is supposedly their girlfriend or boyfriend, what do you notice about the couple? They’re both overweight. I’ve noticed that overweight women will usually get with overweight men and vice versa. This applies to other areas such as financial status, race, etc. Now, it’s not always the case, since for me, I’ve rarely attracted Asian women being that my ethnicity is Filipino. I guess you would think I would attract more Asians than any other race, but it hasn’t been the case. So, there’s all sorts of ways that things that are seemingly set in stone aren’t as robustly set in stone as we may believe.

Oram52 · Answer

Well what's wrong is fit men aren't attracted to overweight women. So if these overweight women desire non-overweight men, but non-overweight men have no interest in overweight women. Who exactly are these overweight women planning on dating?

More importantly where would this delusion come from - by which I mean it would be abundantly clear fit men by and large are not attracted to overweight men, even overweight men primarily aren't attracted to overweight women (except from select few who do like "BBW"). I mean there is fantasy and then there is reality?

Making sure she wouln't get fat is No.1 on my list, I'm not exaggerating. Not only she has to be slim but she actively makes sure she would remain healthy and slim. I'm never going to date somebody fat. And it is obvious to whoever lives in real world, men by and large don't prefer overweight women - its not a secret what body type attracts more men, men's magazines, advertisements targeted at men, porn etc.

Are they entitles to such fantasy sure, but realistically what are the chances of them ending up with somebody fit?

So what's wrong with above statement: Plus-sized men admit they aren't attracted to overweight women.

Anonymous · Answer

This reminds me of two female friends i "used to have".
When we were in our 2s one time we sat the 3 of us and had a conversation about "what would your guy to be like".
They had a list of requirements kilometers long. Well since I'm a guy I couldn't resist asking: "So you want all these criteria's. But what would you be GIVING back in the relationship?"
They stared at me totally blanked and then one of them tried really hard and said "Well, I'd be giving him lots of attention."

People nowadays (both genders) look to a relationship thinking "I want THIS and THAT". Instead of thinking "I would GIVE this and that".

That being said, coming back to the topic, in theory there is nothing wrong with the statement IF (big if) the woman is plus-sized but taking care of herself.
BUT... if it's a woman (or man) that doesn't take care of him/herself and wants a partner that's a fashion-model, well that would be selfish and shortsighted.

Many times, the fashion-model type will be putting lots of hours in a lifestyle to keep that body. The question is then, would you also join him/her in the lifestyle so that you can spend time together? Or will you just sit at home watching TV while your partner goes to the gym? And then to be shocked when he/she falls in love with someone at the gym?

Needless to say, I cut ties with the 2 female friends. They were toxic.
And until today they're both still single. xD

DarkCarousel · Answer

What’s wrong about the statement is that SOME plus-sized women admit that. Maybe even many of them admit that.
No one can force attraction to someone. You either are or your not attracted to them.
And they should understand that some men, even many, may not be attracted to them either. That’s just life.

Ellie-V · Answer

It’s not wrong to point out your hypocrisy.
But why does this matter? If you go outside and touch some grass anyone can see that overweight women usually end up with overweight men unless the two were already in a relationship and she’s the only one who gained weight. What people say and what actually plays out in reality are not always aligned.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Ok this comes in two parts:-

What's wrong with the statement is it's a generalisation. And generalisations don't fully capture the realities of any given situation. As soon as you say group X do behaviour Y you'll find someone doing Z that disproves your statement.

Now the second part and why it's not right. Attraction is based on finding a person to pair up with, have sexy time and have kids. Now if we all went for the same kind of person we would look alike, there would be no differences because we would be breeding with similar looking people. That brings in genetic weaknesses and the species dies out - look at dog breeds that have been bred for specific characteristics and you'll find lots of damaged lines that simply aren't healthy or sustainable. Instead if people of a particular type find different types of partner attractive we get a mixture of genes and healthier of a species. If people on here understood this there would be less dumb questions on here.

fonduegirl · Answer

Nobody wants to date fat people (not a fat shaming sentence here whatsoever).

This is like asking why ugly people won't date ugly ones... They just won't. We always want something better. That's a part of human nature.

In my opinion, problem arises when people give beauty a shape. If he's got visible biceps - he's good looking. If she's got size zero figure, she's a sexy lady. The ifs irk me. Let me tell you something : you can be healthy and thin — and still ugly. Size won't automatically beautify you.

Fitness is attractive. Size isn't necessarily.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

It isn't so much what is wrong as a matter of double standards. You can have standards and preferences, but don't get pissed if someone has those and views you in a similar light.

Don't get mad at a fat guy if he doesn't want to date you because you are fat.

GrimmGothBabe · Answer

The stereotypes and honestly one persons own body doesn't have anything to do with their sexual attraction.. like I know athletic and super fit people who love dad bods or chubby chubby men. I think people assume that since someone is fat then they should be sexually attracted to the same body type which I think is odd since they don't have anything to do with eachother. Tho I think fat. Thick, chubby, obese, or plus sized people are more accepting and understanding of people in similar situations and weights.

Qdbrown · Answer

In olden times, people matched up better. Now women have a large number of thirsty guys, and many are willing to make a fat and fuggly woman a girlfriend or more like booty call until thinner becomes an option.

That said, no one wants a fat guy, but maybe a gay dude with a fat fetish. They are out there.

The best thing about this delimma is that it shows yet again there is no actual equality between the genders, yet one gender expects to gain parity with the other or better because many actually believe they are behind the curve. It only matters if it effects you. The others can so do, whatever. And that's the hypocrisy. Nobody cares about a fat man. Shame him all you like. Make fun of him. If he self terminates, all the better.

Try shaming some fat chick. That's not allowed. If you're caught, there are huge groups of people ready to cancel you. And again, if you have to self terminate, they laugh and make an example out of you. It's that brutal.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Nothing is wrong with that. Naturally, most people aren't attracted to overweight even if some are (whether that be because of weight or not at all). So it's not weird.

I might be mustaken, but it sounds like this question is implying that oversized people chose to be overweight to attract overweight people.
Usually overweight has more to do with how that person views themselves than it does others.

Besides, men are so thirsty, plus-size might not matter as much for many right now. Lonely men there are plenty. As long as they can keep their standards they will, goes for anyone.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because in life you get what you work for. To say they are into overweight guys would imply that they aren't as good looking as their petite female friends. Women are in high competition for attracting successful men. Other women will say, "be positive about your big boned body, you can get a man". Knowing that she has no chance of keeping a successful man because she's irresponsible with what foods she eats and how much exercise she needs. Body positivity hurts men and women in the dating market because they have unrealistic expectations for who they can attract.

mistixs · Answer

The word plus-sized for women but overweight for men, but plenty of overweight men admit they're not attracted to overweight women, so...

JSmuve · Answer

As the anonymous gent commented below, we call fat women "plus-sized" and fat men "overweight", which I didn't even think of until I read his opinion. I just see all of those terms and lump them into the same group of fat. That's probably why I didn't pick up on the different terms.

But speaking to the contents of the statement, understanding that "plus-sized" and "overweight" are just two words for "fat", I don't bat an eye at the statement. The preferences of fat women have no bearing on me because I have no interest in fat women. So they can prefer whatever their chubby hearts desire.

purplepoppy · Answer

It's not what you're attracted to that's important, it's what's attracted to you.

lakotabebebe · Answer

Nothing is wrong with preferences. I'm overweight and have preferences. Do I like big boys? Hell yeah, a little extra weight isn't enough to turn me off. However, I wouldn't be attracted to certain people because I just have things I like and don't like. Everyone has those.

Wazzaman88 · Answer

Headline is indicative of a wider problem in society. Nobody these days cares about what the men thibk and feel. The women on here unable to see anything wrong with this article allow me to highlight it.
Women are "Plus sized"
Men are "overweight".

Let us swap the terms and I ask you how you ladies feel about this.

"Overweight women find plus sized men unattractive"

Now do you see the issue?
This has nothing to do with dating preferences. The language used against men in this would have you ladies in absolute outrage at calling yourselves "overweight".
Why are us men being called this and not you?

This is happening in all the Western cultures on Earth. We as a society are sick.

Finchie40 · Answer

That’s fine but that doesn’t mean all of them, everyone has their own preference of what they are attracted to, just because someone is overweight doesn’t mean they aren’t going to be attracted to someone that is not overweight , vice versa , Shit I know plenty of fit girls that are attracted to bigger guys , I know fit guys that are attracted to overweight girls , so that statement again doesn’t mean anything, Everyone likes what they like

rcljr · Answer

Typical feminist hypocrisy, a woman can be 200 pounds overweight, on a pacemaker and insulin and we’re all supposed to drool over her lard ass like she’s a goddess, but let a guy have love handles and he’s shamed by these rotund wretches.

Siren777 · Answer

You can have your preference, you're entitled to your opinion. Double standards... I am not for "body positivity movement" - sugar coating being fat. Overweight = unhealthy. Whether that is a bitter pill to swallow for men or women. It's hypocritical shaming any gender due to sensitivity issues. People will always say what they want, develop a thick skin (lol) and nothing will get to you.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Just goes to show water doesn't always reach it's own level, serious though even big girls know with a big belly dude ain't no way he is going to have a junk long enough to stretch past his belly and hers to penetrate her prize might if he's lucky tickle it but to have any affect ain't happening so there you go

TonyV · Answer

I like how every women comment I saw overlooked the double standards in the wording.
We have to be nice to women and call them plus size, almost sounds fun right?
But us men, we just get called overweight, just sounds medically bad, we have an excess but they have a plus

It's a double standard

ZackBan · Answer

Hillarious how literally 49 women had various answers and non of them saw what was wrong with the statement.

*plus-sized women*
*overweight men*

That's what's wrong the fact that women get to be plus sized while men are called overweight. Either call both this or both that. The issue is not with the preference it's with the recognition.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all. Applying that logic, if a woman puts on 30 pounds, does she have to change who she is attracted who? No.
And then of course you could reverse it, Oversized men are allowed to be attracted to regularly sized women.. Same thing.

WhateverMayBeWillBe · Answer

Sounds like fat chicks have too many options so they don't stay in their lane... lol no in all seriousness - if you are unhealthy (obese) and can't attract someone else who is unhealthy (obese) take that as a blessing in surprise to loose weight and improve your health as well as your dating options. Don't compromise for land whales, become the stallion you never knew you could be 🐎

TallAndNerdy · Answer

Some are some aren't, everyone has different tastes

EternallyCorrect · Answer

People's standards don't matter. All that matters is whether or not you can find someone who fits your standards.

A fat girl likes fit guys? If she can find a fit guy to date her there's nothing anybody can do about it. If she can't find one, which is more likely, then she's an idiot.

Celtero · Answer

It's a double standard and entitled attitude. If they're fine not being found attractive then fine, what you say is just a statement of fact. But women who will refuse to lose weight and want a fit partner... that's being hypocritical and setting a double standard.

BCA6010 · Answer

There's nothing "wrong" about that aside from the universal assumption in the title. The title follows the same format you'd use to write a propaganda piece for the news.

qwert1234 · Answer

Plus-sized is a term to make them feel good, or for them to accept their bodies.
I think it's a term coined by fashion sector (1st I read it is in girls magazine, I don't know the history though).
It's probably to market inclusion and diversity, then secondary to make them accept what they are.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Nothing, they are allowed to like whoever they want, it doesn't matter how their body looks.

What I do find hypocritical is when they bitch about men liking fit women, despite them having the same standards to men. If they accept that men can have the same standards, they aren't doing anything wrong.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

I get people have preferences but it’s a bit of a double standard

Backseatvibing · Answer

Yea 2 over weight people together will not work , who’s gonna do the work during sex lol but I’ve herd fat guys say they don’t like fat chicks too so what’s the problem? Not everyone likes the same things

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, for sexual purposes, fat men should be called unattractive. What makes someone hot is obviously their fitness, hygeine, as well as their genetic health. Fat guys might have good genes, but they aren't fit. Their sperm quality is low, they'll have ED, and the sex will be suboptimal.

Fat women should learn they're unhealthy too and in no world should they expect to attract an attractive guy. Im sorry. Lose weight?

little_rose · Answer

maybe overweight men don't find overweight women attractive too

Adam1978 · Answer

The number of people attracted to fat people of either gender is less then the number of fat people. So they better slim up or they will end up alone.

anniisa97 · Answer

Nothing is wrong with it.  No one needs to find a specific group of people attractive, just like all men dont have to find plus sized women attractive.. and most don't.

doopayo · Answer

Nothing. As long as they aren’t bashing plus sized men I see nothing wrong with it, same goes for plus size men if they aren’t bashing plus size women

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I mean you are attracted to what you are attracted too but not trying to be a dick if you are 400 pounds you can’t expect guys with six packs to be chasing you and also if a plus sized women isn’t attracted to plus size men then maybe they should also lose some weight 🤷🏾‍♂️

bobalife · Answer

Lol nothing. Everyone is allow to have their own preferences and not be shame for it.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I don’t think that’s universally true

Dannyman4114 · Answer

Its not very tactful. and I don't know how someone can make such a generalized statement unless there had been some vote by plus sized women the could at least use the same descriptions plus sized = over weight why not say plus sized women don't prefer plus sized men

tatianamay · Answer

People have their own preferences, but honestly, this is just double standards at this point lmao

kannettava · Answer

The only thing wrong I see is plus-sized women being group together like an individual could speak for the whole group.

have_a_good_day · Answer

I don't like the term "plus-sized" 🤷‍♀️  Having said that, everyone has a type that they vibe with. I like tiny girls. I fit better with them. So that's my preference.

Blackcupcake · Answer

Well everyone has their own preferences, but I definitely think it’s a bit contradictory to absolutely require something that you can’t give back...

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Some are some aren't. I like some meat. I like to slap some ass n watch it jiggle.

Explorer91 · Answer

Nothing. Lots of average men saying they like hot girls.  People are allowed to find something attractive even if they are not that,

LeeannaDD · Answer

Nothing you can be attracted to whoever you want.

White_Widow · Answer

It's a bit hypocritical other than that there's nothing wrong with having a preference.

Robert_ · Answer

The statement is wrong. What is wrong is for the plus size women not to accept that average men are not attracted to plus size women.

pleasestopthis · Answer

That's okay but they shouldn't complain about fit guys not wanting to date them. Everyone is entitled to their own preference.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing is wrong with that statement. Why would women be into overweight, unhealthy men physically speaking. Come on dude use your brain. Because they are overweight they have to like overweight men. Because I am a guy does that mean I have to like guys? No

exitseven · Answer

Why would this not be real. Overweight guys are more attracted to slimmer women, why shouldn't the converse be true.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really anything wrong with it. It just proves being fat isn’t healthy. They aren’t even attracted to people who look most similar to themselves lol. Stay in shape everyone

StunningANDbrave · Answer

They feel like the rules of attraction shouldn't apply to them and throw tantrums when men don't placate to their nonsense. Don't settle for fat whores lads, you can do better.

oddwaffle · Answer

Nothing. Just that they all need to go on a diet.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

That nothing is that black and white. Someone people are attracted to plus size people, some aren't

Noahcepticeye · Answer

"Plus sized men admit they aren't attractive to overweight women" AHHH IM FATPHOBIC!!!

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Honestly not much. The only way I'd see something wrong with this is if these women were also part of the body positivity gibberish.

What is wrong with this statement: Plus-sized women admit they aren't attracted to overweight men?

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