Would it bother you if your ex felt like you were the worst person they ever dated?

Question

Because of you treating them in a way that hurt them

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

No, it's okay. They have their own perspective and it doesn't bother me. I've actually got an ex, I don't know what she thinks but I got the impression that she has demonized me and I don't know if I'm the "worst person ever dated" but not a cool guy in her book. But part of me being okay with that is I understand that she has a bit of a twisted reality and lots of issues that have nothing to do with me, so I don't take it as an accurate reflection of my personal value or how kind and cool I am.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

Then my ex truly is/are delusional about life and ungrateful for all the good I've done for her. But then again, I doubt I would be labeled as such since I didn't date someone with the intellect of a carrot. But even if she did feel that way, then I would only laugh at her stupidity and proceed to living my life that has improved with her being out of it. Not that I would know because we don't talk for years (thank God).

Jazquee · Accepted Answer

Nope... a reason we are exs. Everyone goes through the faze of breakup that that person was the worst person ever. But then you move on and grow up. Realize everyone comes into life for a reason... however long or short. Good or bad. Take what you can from it... learn from it and move on

bobalife · Accepted Answer

I guess I would feel like I need a lot of growing to do to be a better person and future partner if that’s the case. It wouldn’t bother me cuz if we are over, then we are over and it’s the past to me. But all my exes thinks the opposite and regret losing me instead.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you have done something that hurt him so terribly, why are you still together?

sunnyshe · Answer

Lol I had a guy tell me he was never going to date ever again because of me. He went on to date a ton of people. So now I don’t give a fuck when someone says that to me because it’s just a way to make you feel like shit and bring you down. just my personal experience. It did bother me at first though.

rjroy3 · Answer

I would just assume the ex was mad about something and talking out of emotion rather than them actually feeling that way, because it's ridiculous lol.

All my exes have come back into my life at one time or another. So to me it'd be hard to believe. I'm the worst but you tried to get back with me? Okay lol

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

They're my ex. What the fuck do I care what they think of anything?

In my case, my ex and I were each other's first real relationship as adults. So be default we're the worst.

And I definitely had some bad mistakes and habits when I was dating my ex. I've grown out of the now, for the most part.

But I've grown, and again, my ex doesn't matter to me at all. He's my ex. For a reason.

Titanya · Answer

Yes, because I treat others the say that I want to be treated and I try to be a fair, loving and compassionate person so if they never saw that then that would hurt...
That would mean I wasn't illustrating those qualities or the person is just messed up and toxic🤷‍♀️

molonski2 · Answer

Its subjective , its their opinion that cannot be changed , and of course.. Who knows what they are like? , Only you..
Hence , I couldn't care less , happy to see them depart as they were obviously not happy , I always do whatever I do for a reason , some their interpretation , is their interpretation. So be it ! You can't please everyone. I made the mistake in dating them in the first place.

Adam1978 · Answer

Well first of all, if that was true it would never reached the ex status. It would just been a bad date. If she actually kept dating even if she thought I was the worst its really on her. So I would treat it as she being pissed off, and not as a truth.

ohshee · Answer

I mean when we do things we usually have a reason for them and in that moment whether the reason was good or bad it happened sometimes you go a little bit overboard sometimes we don't go overboard enough but whatever that reason was you did it and you need to just accept it and there's a learning point for each side really

raw_is_war99 · Answer

Listen to the girls saying no you wouldn’t care. What made me change certain things about myself is girls I dated in the past that gave me some critique. It made me think and reflect. If girls assume they are perfect you can’t say “yes my ex for a reason”. Well ladies, unless he cheated, was lazy or abused you that’s different. But if the relationship ended for other silly purposes on both ends, people have to take accountability and responsibility for their actions.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes. It was always and exclusively my fault. I have never talked about my exes and have never revealed private details to friends who know us both, my exes did that any time. That's why I stopped with 23 any attempt to become friends with one of them again. The truth about responsibility why a relationship falls apart lies always on both sides.

natured · Answer

I think an ex should remain in the past, and he can say or think whatever he wants because I won't hear it and I won't even bother.  What is meant to be broken is meant to stay broken, so I won't care

v666_ · Answer

Hell no. I can't control others, what they think/feel/do. I can only control myself and if I acted or spoke in some way that was hurtful, then I would take accountability for that absolutely. After that, it is what it is..

TheBootyChest · Answer

It sounds like it's mostly coming from a place of pain. So it's not as true, if they mutually broke up and then gave their honest opinion of the other person then.

hahahmm · Answer

Nope. I've known a lot of women who liked to use absolutes in their speech. One minute they love pizza & say it's the best dish they've ever had. The next day they say it's the worst dish ever. So I don't get worked up over words.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, because that is why they are an ex.
If you were the best person that they dated you would probably still be together.
And why should it bother you, it is an ex, at that point why would you even care.
Move on.

Siren777 · Answer

No it wouldn't. I've spoken and seen my exes a while back. An ex wants me back not going back there. Exes are exactly where they should be in the past. I'm over it.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Yes it would bother me (if I had an ex). This is a person you've given a part of yourself to in a period of your life, it must be awful to be told that compared to other people you were the worst.

Explorer91 · Answer

People when they are hurt say hurtful things.  Its not necessarily true. They could just be saying that. When in fact you might be the best person they ever dated. there's no way of knowing.

Qdbrown · Answer

No. All Exes say stuff like that, especially if they were the ones getting dumped. That's a pretty normal response. They're just going Wrath of Khan on you.

FadingFaster · Answer

It would bother me because I'm so much better now, but it would likely be true and a reminder that I was a very toxic person with a lot of untreated mental health problems and I took a lot of people down with me. A few guys were pretty awful to me too but they still didn't deserve my shit.

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

Yes it would bother me. And if she really felt like that, i mean really felt like that, then, no matter where my feelings were, id let her go so she can be happy with someone else.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

No, she should continue to seek closure with her therapist if she can't get over me being such a jerk

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

It has been over 8 years since there has been communication or at least attempted communication between me and my ex. With that said unless she trys to claim I did anything illegal while with her I do no't care what she would think of me.

Anonymous · Answer

The only reason why that piece of shit still alive it is because he knows where my kid is otherwise they deserve a pair of hands around their fucking throat

ifDaddyHadaPrincess · Answer

Nah not really, because he was the worst person I ever dated but he’s the one I loved the most… 💀

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

Not in the least. I am an asshole, but not until you do something to me. Then I have no problem going out of my way to ruin your life. I don't keep secrets, I tell everything that my ex and her family did and I tell everyone.

rcljr · Answer

Nope, that’s why they’re called EXES, I don’t give a damn what they think.

Anonymous · Answer

Wouldn't give the slighted f***. Always takes 2 to tango, I guess it means they really worse than i gave them credit for... REALLY good riddens!

genericname85 · Answer

Yeah. But I think of it like this: if I'm her worst experience, she got very lucky with her previous partners XD

AdithyaR · Answer

It wouldn't bother me, cause I know I did something wrong there. I would work to make myself better.

lorenzomichael · Answer

I would just figure they were talking shit. Either way I'm to shallow to give a shit anyways especially about a girl in my past. Besides I get over it.

DWornock · Answer

I'd know that is false but I wouldn't like it that others I might meet or know would believe her lies.

Nick473 · Answer

Only if I did something that was seriously wrong to them but if there just saying that cause of a break up then its just talk

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

I dont associate with my exes. Once we're don't we're done. So I have no clue what they think of me and frankly doesn't matter

ChiTown33 · Answer

Well I don't think it's fair unless she could cite what makes me so bad in her eyes.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

It's their loss or i just doubt to that one. I would just think that every date is like the worst for them

dray995 · Answer

No. We don’t talk anymore so I wouldn’t care what she says about me but if she said anything about me, I probably deserve it.

dudeinohio · Answer

It may be a little, since I never mistreated anyone.

Made4sex · Answer

My ex does about me. It is pretty much the worst feeling.

Joshua0213 · Answer

No they are an ex for a reason, fuck what they think

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

It wouldn't bother me because every single ex I've had has said they wished more guys treated women as well as I do.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I will never know, I do not keep in contact with any of my exes... We know the contract details, just never use them...

pezza221 · Answer

I would personally feel hurt cuz my ex is technically my best friend so it would hurt a lot more

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

She feels the same way about all of her exes. All women do.

jzi94 · Answer

they're exes for a reason. their opinion shouldn't bother you (:

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I don't and wouldn't give a f**k what my exes have to say lol.

Smegskull · Answer

I'm not a mind reader so I wouldn't know how they fealt so it couldn't bother me

stri_dante · Answer

no, they're an ex. of course they might cling on the negatives.

Anonymous · Answer

It would bother me that I hurt them enough to say that.

WHOSAYING · Answer

Wouldn’t bother me but I’d probably try to justify myself still.

MCheetah · Answer

No. They're an Ex for a reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Well... since i worked my ass off to make it to where i am today... i dont give a duck!!!

4eyes2mouths · Answer

I don't think about my exes often.

NathanDavis · Answer

if I hurt people it bothers me greatly, period

Anonymous · Answer

If he was an a**h**e, no.

exitseven · Answer

That probably would bother me.

kamalravi25 · Answer

No it won't bother me if she is my ex.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Nah, worst so far 😉😗

worldscolide · Answer

Nope because the feeling is mutual.

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