Guys, would you feel awkward around an ex even if you were the dumper?

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oldasIfeel22 · Accepted Answer

I think most people would feel awkward around their exes no matter what.

In the best cast scenario one person decided to drop the bomb (and the other person saw it coming) and it was done respectfully. Both agree it’s what is best.

But that’s not how it works out. Men might act like “okay whatever” when the girl breaks up but that’s not because they really feel that way. No it’s because they don’t get the leeway to cry, get angry or plead the same way women do when they get dumped. At best they look pathetic but they also risk worse labels (violent, abusive, etc). Most guys know this so we have to put on a poker face.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

I don't know, feels like being the dumper is more awkward in some cases because you have to deal with the looks she's gonna give you: could be spite or hate, or she can try to make you feel guilty or poke around to see if your life is good without her.

But when you're the one who got dumped she has no right to do any of that she can either be indifferent or regretful (provided you didn't cheat or anything she just dumped you because things weren't working out)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think guys do. My ex did. He couldn’t even look at me he would just stare at the ground when he was around me.

Siren777 · Accepted Answer

It's part of the past. I would avoid an ex at all cost. I don't know how people can keep a lingering ex around.

thathonestman · Answer

There is no justifiable reason to put yourself around an ex again unless you share children together or are in the midst of divorce proceedings. Other than that, you're willingly putting yourself in an uncomfortable position and I have no sympathy for the awkwardness you might feel.

TruthBringer · Answer

Even though I've never been dumped, I see no reason why I would be awkward. I would be minding my own business. On top of that, I'm with a much better and more beatiful girl than any of my exes, so that gives me even less reason to be awkward

Anonymous · Answer

I feel awkward. I remember everything with most people, so if I can I try to avoid interaction unless there's no other option. I just don't like all the emotions it awakens temporarily. I let myself experience the emotions, but I don't force myself to pretend I want to interact. And this way I easily forget about having seen them after few time. They are just like an ad prior to a movie this way.

Whitneythegemini · Answer

Exes are to be left in the past LOL , after we breakup , I don’t acknowledge their existence. If I see one of mine in public , I simply don’t acknowledge them.

libsaretards · Answer

Absolutely. When I love someone I love very hard and deep. Anytime I see someone, I remember everything (good and bad) I've ever dealt with while with them.

The_Maphio · Answer

No. If I dumped her, there has been a reason. Whatever interaction after that is of a completely different nature, and an eventual attempt from her to closeness will be met with such notion.

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends on the ex. A few of my ex's yes, others no. I'm still friends with most of my ex's I've had since I was a teenager.

I've never been dumped, but if I was, I would probably be uncomfortable around the girl who dumped me.

red324 · Answer

They always avoid me and act weird if I approach them. My ex moved in 4 doors down and other than driving around in her car I haven't seen her, so she's not exactly going for walks around the neighborhood. Lol

HawkPerception · Answer

No. I've talked to my ex a few times recently. She's in a pretty depressed state and I'm just trying to strengthen her mentally.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, not really. Because I never date someone long enough for it to become awkward. That is, people who I would reject. If I know they're not right for me, I know that VERY early on; and I don't continue pursuing them from that point.

crazy8000 · Answer

Why should I feel that.

People that are insecure within themselves in a certain area usually feel that way.
(it could be he/she believe they didn't handle it that great towards the one he/she did break up with and are aware of it )

molonski2 · Answer

Oh Sht yeah , I hate being the dumper , makes me feel far far worse indeed  Extremely nervous , can handle other way around no problem.

Leavesbound · Answer

I would find it particularly awkward if I was the one doing the dumping.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Yes, but it completely depends on the relationship. Probably more awkward if I was the dumper.

cookroach · Answer

Yes, our break up was an embrassment to me. I acted like a baby😂 Hope I won't see her ever again.

DiegoO · Answer

We never actually met in person. It would be extremely awkward if we ever met and get to know each other better.

princeofromance · Answer

Yes, I had this unfortunate experience once. She had an appointment to see the doctor on the exact same day as me. It was very awkward and silent. I did not know what to do or say.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. Because she made her choice and I'm making mine by moving on and ignoring her.

exitseven · Answer

Yes. I never had contact with any of them. Once they were gone, they stayed that way.

es20490446e · Answer

How awkward I feel depends mostly on how much I like the other as a person.

Better_off_here · Answer

if we were two adults and able to just move on there should be no problem. why make things awkward if they do not have to be.

ponderingmind · Answer

Yeah, it’s always a bit conflicted. I mean, there’s a reason you changed from love to dislike...

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

Yes I would. If I broke up with someone it's a very good reason as to why. I feel awkward around my child's mother and I dumped her.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how was our bonding, how long we were in relationship, the reason of breakup... and also the present situations

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

I was the dumper and I don’t think I’ll need to ever worry about it.

malwins · Answer

I never understood why people r not friend w their exes

damaster · Answer

It depends on which one and how the relationship ended. Other than that yes

Ripper_E · Answer

Maybe years ago, but not anymore.

jahaims · Answer

I would never spend time with an ex

KingGollum · Answer

No, im fine with being normal

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I would not be around an ex.

jerdanro · Answer

I totally would either way

snowboarder720 · Answer

Yes. Super awkward.

jshm2 · Answer

No. Not really

Anonymous · Answer

Not really, she is more then likely my side piece.

Blackcupcake · Answer

It depends

IveGotNoName · Answer

Absolutely

dudeinohio · Answer

Depends on which ex.

Wisenhot · Answer

No. Not at all

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Nope.

Shihab91 · Answer

Nope

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes.

dcbpunk · Answer

Only a little

eagle1951 · Answer

yes !

Anonymous · Answer

yes,.

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