How would you feel if your partner hung out with their ex?

[Ginger1907]

[SG8596]

I know I’m not comfortable with that. Especially if it’s an ex from a recent break up but I do understand communication is key. I’ve seen instances when exes can be great platonic friends and others where there’s anterior motives in the other end. It depends on your partner as well as your trust levels with one another.

[jshm2]

Why not?

I still do, and most of my partners still did.

You need to be an adult about these things, and not be so possessive about these silly little matters.

Of course you're going to keep both eyes open within reason. But they do not stop being an individual, just because they have become your partner.

That is shitty behaviour.

[anniisa97]

It just isn't dude. There's such things called boundaries, not just for us as individuals but also to be in that relationship. Hanging out with your exes is inappropriate for most people. If you dont care then fair enough but don't put it on other people who do care, to "let their partner be an individual".

[AviatorTom]

I'd be extremely surprised. My SO and her ex did not have a friendly parting of the ways.

In general though, theoretically, I'd have no problem with my partner hanging out as friends with her ex if their breakup was friendly, especially if they had children together.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for the mho

[laurieluvsit]

It depends what level the partnership is at.

If it was a casual partnership, then no big deal.

If it was a committed partnership then I would be looking for a new partner.

[OlderAndWiser]

That partner would become my most recent ex.

[Desconhecida]

So pissed!! Seriously, what the hell he would be thinking? I'd ask him how good he'd feel if I started to "hang out with my ex"!

[Diodoro]

Girls hanging out with guys one on one in general isn't a good idea for a girl who has a boyfriend. That's with very few exceptions.

If you had a life long male best friend who you hungout with every day your entire life since you were a child and he's like your brother. He's on that exceptions list.

[Anonymous]

“Hang out”. That’s an automatic dealbreaker.

There should be no communication at all unless it’s rare situations were they maybe has a death in their family or something.

One girl I dated years ago confided she had her ex messaging her and didn’t know how to handle it. I was initially pissed but I later admitted I knew how he felt. I told her to first politely tell him she was in a relationship. I was at most going to allow her one final phone call with him so he could get any thoughts off his chest about final closure (she admitted she abruptly ended it with him) But that’s as far as my sympathy went. If he did anything else beyond that I would get pissed and probably call him myself.

Lo and behold she abruptly ended it with me as well. Ironically I found myself in the same position as her last ex.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care. If theyre friends, thats great! Im not the type of person that thinks that exes should be ditched completely (depends on what they do though). If they were able to make it work as friends, then I support that. BUT if there is any flirty banter between them, or one is flirting with the other, then I oppose.

[petitedollbabee]

Depends how things ended between them. If it was a mutual breakup due to them deciding they’re not compatible or they lost feelings for each other, then I don’t mind if they remain friends. But if she broke up with him and he still had feelings for her, then I don’t think I’d be okay with that.

[MountAverage]

If they're friends, what's the issue? I am friends with an ex of mine, so what? It's been long ago that we were together and there simply is no mutual attraction between us anymore. And that's how it between a lot of exes.

The reason why you people are so insecure is because you're projecting. It's because YOU can't imagine being friends with an ex, and if you can't, no one can. Doesn't exactly show a lot of emotional intelligence.

[MountAverage]

Wow, it's so "wise" to end a relationship because your partner dares being friends with someone whom they used to date. So so "wise" and mature of you...

[MannyFrs]

That they are more than likely fucking would probably duct tape an old android phone to her purse somehow after i installed the Alfred app on it. then monitor what they do when they are together.

or just dump the dumb bitch

then upload all of her naughty pics to pornhub lol

[oliver4love]

If it's just like good friends and no any type of physical activity than it's okay but honestly when it happens no one tolerate it from heart ♥ and mind but due to not want to hurt our beloved sometime we adjust in this situation..

[SenseiSeptred]

I am friends with my ex-girlfriend because we understood that us as a couple were better as friends than a partners because she was too much like a mother to me than a girlfriend. That is not that attractive in many men's books.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d feel that was a disrespectful move and if they can't respect me then we dont need to be together. They clearly aren't over their ex and also being secretive

[Fayeleo]

I would feel this person has no boundary and no principle.
I personally do not believe an ex can be a friend, so no. I would not tolerate or accept my other half hang out with his ex.

[awkward_author]

If I'm in a serious relationship with someone, I would trust them to hang out with their ex platonically and nothing more. As a result of that, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

[globetrotter22]

You seriously would be okay with that? This is a guy she intimate involved with in the past. She might of moved and he didn’t or worse vice versa.

Nah that’s extremely disrespectful for someone to do that. Only in very rare exceptions i. e. business purposes or maybe the ex had a life catastrophe (loved one died) I might be okay with her talking to him on the phone. But that’s it.

[awkward_author]

@globetrotter22 I don't enter serious relationships if I don't completely trust my parter. I trust them not to cheat on me, so I give them the freedom to hang out with whoever they want. If they're going to cheat, it'll happen, regardless of how many rules I put in place. I don't have to trust the other person. It either takes two to tango or it's some form of s*xual assault.

[globetrotter22]

In a way I feel the same about fully trusting someone. One girl I dated years ago once told me her ex was messing her on social media and didn’t know how to handle it.

Part of me felt pissed off about it but another part understood how he felt. She later admitted that she ended it abruptly with him. He was having closure issues and I can relate to that.

I told her she could have one final phone call with him. Let him get whatever he wanted to say out of his system. But if they let in person I would been very pissed.

But no I would not trust anyone who physically meets with exes to “hang out”. Hell no.

[globetrotter22]

*messaging her on social media.

[awkward_author]

@globetrotter22 My ex-fiancee hung out with her ex who still had feelings for and wanted to have sex with her. She let her ex know that she's currently taken, and if her relationship with me wasn't respected, their friendship would be over. We had conversations about it, typically initiated by her, and everything was fine.

[globetrotter22]

Alright. But you do realize women sometimes shit test you with these scenarios? They want to see you get upset and jealous to see “how devoted you are” to them.

I wouldn’t get visibly upset but I wouldn’t say it’s okay either. The danger is that if you do something to really piss off your girlfriend, fiancé or wife she now has a “backup dick” to fall on. She will do mental gymnastics bs to justify it too.

If I were in your scenario i wouldn’t of tolerated that. I am far from controlling too. I was willing to let my ex girlfriend have a phone call with her ex boyfriend. Idea was it would let him get whatever out of his system and move on.

She ended up telling him to F off and blocked him. At the time I was pleased but ironically that was a huge red flag.

[awkward_author]

@globetrotter22 I don't date women like that.

[Shy80sgirl]

I would be a bit stressed, but it really would depend on the nature of the relationship. I would certainly be on the lookout for signs of deterioration of my relationship with him and go from there.

[Miristheiss]

I would never date someone who did that. They are free to do it but I wouldn't have dated them.

[Agape93]

Fine by me. She can do what she wants, long as the rules are adhered to.

[globetrotter22]

Are you talking about a girl or guy you are dating? For hetero relationships right and wrong is very hard set. But for lesbian relationships I imagine this is much more complicated.

[Agape93]

I meant what I said. Read the comment dude. Ffs

[HighValue]

I would not be with someone that was still friends with an ex. There should be no contact at all.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Why would she want to hangout with a ex? I'd leave her super fast just for thinking about it.

[FreyaRed]

I would change his status from partner to ex-partner soon as possible.

[Vick2727]

I don't like none of my exes, so if they did that, I'm leaving them.

[Aurora1010]

The disrespect would be real.

I am not that open minded, I would never tolerate that.

[Katrinaismyname56]

That’s a big red flag. my ex did that with his ex he ended up cheating on me by lying to her about his relationship status.

[EmmaMary]

That would immediately spell Divorce...The End.

[Kaneki05]

One of my best friends is my ex. So not like I would be bothered if theirs's was aswell.

[RedStiletto88]

I would be very angry and upset as my boyfriend cut his exes out long ago

[Staximus]

I'd say "you have made your choice, goodbye". I'm not going to get my feelings shit on like that.

[anniisa97]

I should have done that 🙄

[sheikalana]

If they are genuine friends and there's no attraction involved I would be fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Then it looks like he'll be spending more time with his right hand... or his her? Either way, see ya bitch

[dtweed1996]

It wouldn’t bother me it’s their ex for a reason so maybe by chance they’ll make a decent friendship or something

[AnthonyJ01]

My ex cheated on me with one reason her ex boyfriend. She is now married to that sorry ass bitch. That don't bother me non as she turned out to be a lying thief as are her kids and her mother.

[Anonymous]

That doesn't bother me. She spent a week with her ex out in Oregon. He's a cool guy, got to see a bunch of pictures from their adventures, she had fun and that's what counts. I trust her so I know nothing inappropriate happened.

[Anonymous]

Depends. Is the ex a good guy? Is he still a friend or has he popped up like an unexpected debt?

[Compassiondude101]

Sounds like an excuse to sleep together I would dump that bitch

[SmokinAces2000]

I see no reason why anyone would just “hang out” with their ex

[dr_vincentG]

Concerned-jealous? But I'm always open to communication.

[Mediterraneansoul]

I'd feel like i need to hang out qith my ex too lol

[Heartache0405]

I'd dump em. Not gonna bother with the games

[Flower7]

That would be unacceptable.

[thatonearies]

I wouldn't be okay with it

[slatyb]

Not a concern, he's an ass.

[StrawberryShake]

Nope. Relationship over.

[Luopio27]

If the time ever comes, I'll let you know.

[xJayleenx]

Betrayed and I wouldn’t trust him again.

[Jintendo18]

Not going down that road again.

[Wise4myage]

I wouldn't like that at all.

[Nocternalbacon]

sus about them and of course who wouldn't jealous

[TheFirstMan]

Maybe felt a Curiousity

[lowlife_honkey]

Hate it shouldn't do it

[james____]

no reason for it, they're definitely cheating

[Honeyyyi]

Cheated on lol

[Anonymous]

I'd feel like I'm eating a cream pie every night

[Anonymous]

used to it

[Anonymous]

I will be very angry and jealous

[collie22]

another deal breaker

[jahaims]

That's a no go

[Anonymous]

I would feel good.

[007kingifrit]

100% not ok

[Tim-loves-it]

wouldn't bother me

[BestWoman]

İt will be bad thing

[EaterPeter]

Very insecure